Sort of misunderstood?

[Noble]

Hey, I'm Vince<3

Right, straight to the point as I dont wanna take too long. Anyway, over the past few month's I've been attracted to older men, and It scares me alot, although I swing more to the boys side than girls, I've never been out with a boy nor a girl - quite the shy type.

I've only told 2 of my friends, because I'm scared if I came out with it, I'd get bullied, because all of the boys in my year, are quite.. chavvish, think they're hard and everything. I know they'd make fun of me for coming out with it, as they already call me gay because I hang around with girls. I just wanna be freee, but I dont want to come out with it. ;l

Can I get any advice please? Oh yeah, & I'm fourteen.

<3

[joe:-,]

The same as me :)
I once wanted a oldder man
and i got one im 14 i was with a 19 year old man :(
Trust me all there want is you know what

[Noble]

I live in quite a rough area, so people mightn't understand where I'm coming from, it all sound's so easy but It's not. I can't even tell my parents, my brother's a homophobic - stupid eh?

[joe:-,]

Maybe PM with your messenger addy?
So we can talk in private as its rather pupil here

[Undesirable]

Your 14.. which sounds to me that it could maybe me lust? Or maybe that your more looking up to the older man? If not.. i wouldn't act upon such.. as your still only a child in the eyes of the law.. Maybe wait a few years and see how you feel. Acting up such feelings at a young age are seriously risky. However, you may want to talk to an Adult (such as your parents) In confidence, away from your brother.

[Noble]

Okay, if anybody need's advice go to the person above - he's just helped me quite alot. Also, do you think hanging around with girls, all of my life could have influenced it? I've alway's been a bit girly, so erm - help more please?

Thanks.

[Undesirable]

I'm female hon.

Anyway! No i don't think hanging about with girls will have influenced it. As these feelings come from inside. Wether your gay/bi/lesbian or straight, it's just your feelings, only you can decide what you are, people can't decide for you. Hanging about with alot of girls may bring out your feminine side - as you may feel more comfortable, and it probably happens without you realising it. It's not bad, and it's probably really normal, as alot of gay men can develope a more feminine side.

In any case, you are who you are and you should be proud of such. You are still young, so remember your feelings may change when you get older. You may realise it was only lust.. or that you may infact just look up to older men and enspire to be like them - but instead you confuse those feelings.

It's quiet a delicate subject for someone as young as yourself. However, i wish you all the best in whatever happens :) and no matter what ANYONE SAYS, you should be proud of yourself :)

[Noble]

Thanks lots, thats helped. =]

[Shampoo]

I'm female hon.

Anyway! No i don't think hanging about with girls will have influenced it. As these feelings come from inside. Wether your gay/bi/lesbian or straight, it's just your feelings, only you can decide what you are, people can't decide for you. Hanging about with alot of girls may bring out your feminine side - as you may feel more comfortable, and it probably happens without you realising it. It's not bad, and it's probably really normal, as alot of gay men can develope a more feminine side.

In any case, you are who you are and you should be proud of such. You are still young, so remember your feelings may change when you get older. You may realise it was only lust.. or that you may infact just look up to older men and enspire to be like them - but instead you confuse those feelings.

It's quiet a delicate subject for someone as young as yourself. However, i wish you all the best in whatever happens :) and no matter what ANYONE SAYS, you should be proud of yourself :)
yeah, im straight and i like pink!

[Opey..x]

im 14 too and if you like older men then when your 16 you can have them all x
but live for you and not for everyone else its your life theres not a certain way to be and if those 'chavs' start say something back, dont just be silenced, just do you, and dont change for fear of anything.

[The Professor]

Okay, if anybody need's advice go to the person above - he's just helped me quite alot. Also, do you think hanging around with girls, all of my life could have influenced it? I've alway's been a bit girly, so erm - help more please?

Thanks.

Nope, not at all. I hang around with girls most of the time and im 100% straight (im going out with one atm). I just find them more fun to be with because all the boys in my year and school are "OMGZ! IM LYK SO ARD I CAN NOK U OUT WIV MY LITTLE TOE" and i wish theyd get knocked out for a couple of years. Anyway, back to the point if you are bent on being gay (no pun intended) dont go for anyone much older than yourself because tis illegal, and if you get caught youll get into trouble with a lot of people in suits. Go for people your age, have fun.

[Col]

I had the same feelings, I find older men quite attractive also. It's totally normal, more experienced you could say, LOL!