Guides- Please read :)

[JT-Fan]

Hi there,
Im sure you have realised what this forum is for, and to help and support other members I have this idea of "guides."
Basically it would be really good if some people could make guides on teenage life problems and helpful advice etc.
If anyone is interested in making guides then post the guide in this forum and then PM me.
Thanks a lot,
Rupsie

[FullyInsane]

I'd be happy to make teenage life guides..
but what kind are you wanting ?
bullying , relationships , friends , health ?
Can you PM me what type of guide you want and i'd get right on it and make them , I life to help.. I'm good along those lines ;)

[JT-Fan]

Just any types of guides usefull to teenagers :)

[FullyInsane]

I will attempt to Help you through the problems you can hit while going through a teenage life ; your social life .

Through your social life , many problems you will hit and here they are
::
Peer pressure -
Peer pressure , is where in your social groups with your friends , you may face some problems . They could start a bad habit thinking it's 'cool' or just managed to start . Some items of peer pressure may be ::
Smoking
Drinking
Vandalism
Bullying

And many more .
If your faced by any peer pressure , try to avoid accepting these bad tendancies , they ALL lead to bad endings . You should just say "Sorry , but i'd rather just stay myself"
If you face any problems please just deny them the fact that it is cool and try to find more friends if you face these problems constantly or if it affects seriously , remember if your there and they're committing a criminal act then YOU WILL get charged most probably too .

Friend Problems ::
You can face many problems .
You can normally find that , if you have a certain friend your attached too and they find more or other friends , it will affect you . Sometimes they may shun you to go with their new aqquaintance .
I suggest that , in the result of you being 'neglected' by your friend , if they're un-aware of their ignorance or just accidental leaving out then speak with them , tell them how you feel . It may upset you so express how you feel . If you dislike their new friend(s) I suggest you attempt to make more friends or even just move on with your other friends you may have . Obviously if you'd still like to stay friends with your old friend then tell them that , that you'll still keep in touch .

Never allow yourself to be left out , try to find new friends if possible.

Group Bullying ::
Sometimes in a group of friends , they're may be a weak(er) than another member(s) .
This can result in you or the weak(er) member being a victim of bullying .
If your the bully STOP IT NOW !!! No one likes to be bullied and no one likes a bully . Think how the person you bully feels , unwanted , hurt , sad , depressed . Just imagine if you were being bullied.. YOU WOULDN'T LIKE IT ?

If it's another member being bullied and your aware STOP IT NOW !!!
Try to defend the victim , protect them if possible . Speak with the victim , make sure he/she is okay and tell them that you'll attempt to sort it out . If possible ignore the bully , discuss his disgusting behaviour with him , tell him/her to either stop the bullying or they will be excluded from the group . Ask them to stop right away !

If your the Victim DO NOT STAND FOR IT !!! Please stop it right away ,
if other group members aren't aware make them away , discuss how you feel with them . Ask if the bully could be excluded from the group if possible or if it doesn't stop . DISCUSS WITH THE BULLY if your able to , what he/she's doing , sometimes the bully can be un-aware of what they're doing . If he/she doesn't stop and it's affecting you severely leave the group IMMEDIATELY!!! Do not stand for it .

Lack of friends ::
If you lack friends , try not to worry . Occasionally in teenage life you change or you don't have the right social skills to create friends . It can happen to ANYONE .
I'd suggest that you think through your personality and mannerisms
Is there any problems you come accross that are anti-social ? well attempt to change these problems , if possible .
I'd also suggest that , if you have no friends or lack of friends you attempt to come out your 'shell' if your a shy person . Occasionally some people think , because your shy your being ignorant so they dislike you . TRY TO BE MORE OUT-GOING , TRY TO CREATE ANOTHER HOBBY MAYBE ?
Most of all , be yourself if possible and be more out-going and less anti-social if that's the problem .

Thank you for spending your time reading through my guide .
I hope it was to assistance to you , if not I apologise .
ALl I can say is "Live , and let live" try your best to be yourself and defend yourself whenever you need to , or even others .

[FullyInsane]

I will attempt to assist you , with my guides .
Guide :: Relationships .

Relationships just doesn't mean a partner , such as a girlfriend/boyfriend . It means any contact and situation with any person in your life .

Parent(s)/Guardian(s) ::
Parents are one relationship that is most important through your teenage life . They are there to love and care for you , equip you with all of life's skills and to ensure your healthy .

Because parents are always around you.. situations can become quite tense , arguements are NORMAL Always make sure you do NOT take your parents for granted .

If you have an arguement with your parents , try not to lose control ,DO NOT DO ANYTHING STUPID AS DESTROYING ITEMS !!! . Please control yourself and think of the situation . Think why your in the position (why your argueing) .

Always attempt to control the situation and try to make up for your mistakes such as being out late , drinking , truency etc .

If you can make up with your parents apologise . NORMALLY ARGUEMENTS ARE BLOWN OUT OF CONTROL FROM A TRIVIAL LITTLE THING .

Summerize ::
Parents are important , most important through your coming to the earth right up to a teenager . Always try to make a mense for any accidents and arguements .

Siblings ::
Trouble trouble t-r-o-u-b-l-e !
If there is ever constant tensity it's with siblings (brothers/sisters)
They are there to support you , normally they'll defend you if they're older . Never allow your siblings (older) to pick on you , etc as it is bad for the family , tell your parents .

Smaller siblings ; you should always care and love them , just think when you were their age and how you felt if you had no one or if you were picked on by your older siblings .

Arguements are BADDDDDD when it's with siblings , fighting dirty etc . DO NOT SEEP TO THEIR LEVEL !!!
Just keep control and if it comes to it , tell your parents . No one would like to lose privilages such as going out , pocket money , luxuries access (internet/tv/computer etc) .

Summerize ::
Never allow siblings to pick on you . Report any severe problems to your mum and or dad / guardians . Always protect and care for your siblings , you will need help some day too .

Partner Relations (girl/boy friend) ::
One of the most troublesome relations .
Never get too attached , while your a teenager your hormones and your mind runs high and your thoughts and reactions can become warped to an extent .

IT IS AGAINST THE LAW TO HAVE ANY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH ANYONE UNTIL YOU AND YOUR PARTNER ARE OVER 16 YEARS OF AGE .
CONCENTUAL SEX ONLY OR YOU WILL FACE CHARGES IF REPORTED .

Attempt not to have any intimate relationships , I know your hormones run high and it's seriously frustrating , but please try not to have any relationships down that line .

Please try not to intentially hurt your partner , even if they've hurted you . Think "I shouldn't seep to their level , it could of been un-intentially" Do not allow yourself to be as bad and hurt them in return as you didn't like it yourself ?

NEVER ALLOW PARTNER RELATIONSHIPS TO GET IN THE WAY OF FRIENDS , SCHOOL WORK OR FAMILY .

ALWAYS REMEMBER , YOUR FRIENDS , FAMILY AND SCHOOL WORK WILL ALWAYS BE THERE , YOUR PARTNER MOST PROBIBLY WILL NOT.

Friends ::
Yet again , one of the most important groups through your teenage life . Your friends can support you through your good and bad times and make those special memorable times better .

Friends can be very provokative . Never allow them to dictate on your life . YOUR LIFE IF YOURS , NOT THEIRS .

If you ever think that your friends aren't right for you , explain this if neccessary and attempt to find new friends .

Friends aren't always good .
If they peer pressurise you , please immediately disagree and discuss the problem , if neccessary remove yourself from the group.

Summerize ::
Friends can be good , when they're bad they aren't FRIENDS .



I hope my relationships guide was to of any use to yourself .
If not I apologise .

[Dash]

I'd probably beable to help alot with bullying. Ever since year 2 ive been bullyed so..Yeah I have alot of experiance in dealing with it.

Bullying
Ok well first off heres a few Dos and Donts about bullying..

Dont:
Fight back
React (To verbal bullying)
Pick a fight with others to makeyourself feel big
TELL them your going to tell on them (They will just react even more)
Dwell on what happend. One of the biggest satasfactions for bullys is knowing that they have broken you.

Do:
Tell someone
Seek support from servaces such as Childline (http://www.childline.org.uk/)
Ask the person you were telling not to mention your name (Could lead to more trouble)

I'll write some more tomorrow.

[JackHb]

I don't see how you can write guides for someone to live their real life :S
I know if i had a problem with lets say....Vandalism or smoking, i doubt i would read a guide on a forum to stop the problem.

[FullyInsane]

Well..
If you read the guides i've done..
straight at the top it says "I will attempt to help you with the problems you face" I never said.. read this and you'll be A Okay !

I just wanted to help..

[JackHb]

Well..
If you read the guides i've done..
straight at the top it says "I will attempt to help you with the problems you face" I never said.. read this and you'll be A Okay !

I just wanted to help..


Don't take it to heart :P Im just saying i wouldnt read a guide.
But your guides are good :)

[FullyInsane]

Don't take it to heart :P Im just saying i wouldnt read a guide.
But your guides are good :)

I try my best for others .
My guides.. are Iunno.. good knowledge .
If with the co-operation of Rupsie [forum mod] I hope to release a Health guide , teenage health and approachs of any health problems .
And jack , I know what you mean , Guide's aren't there with you while for instance your being bullied or having some problems , they aren't on the spot like you are etc .:rolleyes: