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Damian15
18-03-2006, 01:49 PM
Okay, this is a longish story but I feel I should explain it all so you can give a good opinion. Kinda like the story of how I got with her, but no comments on how we got together, just on what you'd do please.


Okay, so last March I met this girl on Habbo. (Don't assume It was a noobish online relationship, read the whole thing!). We became really close friends over March and April, but then didn't talk at all throughout May, I don't know why we just stopped talking. Then on June 1st she sent a message saying she was leaving Habbo. I told her to come to The Den straight away, we spent from 8am until midnight talking in The Den, only stopping for dinner etc. Pretty much the same the next day (I'd talked her out of leaving.). On June 3rd in the afternoon I randomly asked if she had Messenger as we were getting really close, we added each other talked all day on that and exchnaged pics. Before she went offline we were sitting in The Den and I felt a strange feeling, I'd never believed in online dating before but this was weird, like - I loved this girl. So I told her right before she went offline that I loved her. She said it back, I was pleased. On June 4th we talked all day again and in the afternoon we went into Main Lobby on Habbo and I asked her to go out with me. Even though I was against online dating this felt different. Things between us went well for an online relationship, we grew closer gave each other our phone numbers and talked on the phone alot. In August her best friend in real tried to break us up to fix her up with someone in real but luckily she failed. End of November time she said to me one day in the Skylight Lobby she was getting tired of an online relationship, that it was so hard living so far away from the guy she loved. I admitted I felt the same (Except girl as I'm not gay.). We decided then that we either had to finish what we had or meet up in real, we chose the more dangerous aproach and planned to meet. We planned to meet in January, we eventually decided the date, January the 7th. I was going to get the train down there with a friend of mine, she was going to meet me at the train station with a friend of hers and we'd stay in public places to be safe. On Jan 6th after all train tickets were booked etc my friend cancelled on me, so I had to go alone. I was nervous about meeting someone from on the net alone, but I was determined not to cancel. So I took the 3 and a half hour train ride to where she lives, got off the train and there she stood with her friends. We were both nervous at first both thinking what if he/she doesn't like me. but the day turned out great, after lunch her friend left us alone and we got on so well. It was really hard to say goodbye. After I got home we planned the next meeting for Valentines day (Feb 14th). I missed her so much over those 5 weeks, but finally it came. I went to see her and it went so perfectly, while holding her in my arms I really truly knew I loved this girl. Saying goodbye was harder that time. We me up again on March 3rd, and same story, except I actually cried as my train home was coming in, she hugged me and kissed me and said it wouldn't be long until we saw each other again. She was right, we met again on March 11th. The day went perfectly again, but same thing it was EVEN harder to say goodbye. We're meeting again mid April, and the thing I want to ask for help with is:
It's killing me not being able to see her, I can't move closer to her or like see her every weekend as I'm only 16 and I don't have unlimited cash supply. She's 17 and is in college so she doesn't have a job so she can't really come see me. if it was hurting you not being able to see the person you loved barely once a month, what would you do? I really don't know what to do it seriously does hurt not being able to see her. Do I just carry on like this or what?

Colourful™
18-03-2006, 03:19 PM
Well I read all of your text and I think that you two have done really well. At the end of the day it is entirely up to you two to decide on what to do, but whatever you do you must think about how safe you are and if it is appropiate!

Pulchritudinous
18-03-2006, 03:29 PM
Wow, that's really cute!
I think you should keep at it, if you love eachother the long distance thing shouldn't matter, despite the fact that it must be frustrating, you could plan on having her come down to where you live, you know, take it in turns.
How about staying longer than just one day, how about a weekend, or in the holidays?
I hope it works out for you, I was against habbo girlfriends/boyfriends, but you sound pretty much in love. :)

issaa.
18-03-2006, 03:35 PM
Bless thats really sweet.



Wow, that's really cute!
I think you should keep at it, if you love eachother the long distance thing shouldn't matter, despite the fact that it must be frustrating, you could plan on having her come down to where you live, you know, take it in turns.
How about staying longer than just one day, how about a weekend, or in the holidays?
I hope it works out for you, I was against habbo girlfriends/boyfriends, but you sound pretty much in love. :)

Im with waht Pul (sorry don't know your name) maybe you could spend the weekend there or the week.

Damian15
18-03-2006, 03:39 PM
Week I can't do, she's in college and I have work.
As she;s in college and doesn't have a full time job like me she can't really come see me.
I was against online dating before her too, but it felt different and it's no longer online.
The weekend, we've sort of planned to do that in June, but I wouldn't be able to do it often because it'd be to expensive.
Thanks for all the opinions people, I really apreciate them. =]

DaveTaylor
18-03-2006, 04:05 PM
good for you dude, keep at what you got and dot let it go time will tell whats gonna happen with both of you, u both seem happy with what you have so stay with it eventually as a said something with happen she gets a job maybe you do, you know just wait and see

splatttt
18-03-2006, 04:30 PM
Its really nice that you 2 met online and actually met up and like eatchother. I wouldnt meet up with someone i would be too nervous especially with guys. *no offence* well doen i hope things go ok for you 2

Damian15
18-03-2006, 04:39 PM
I was extremely nervous, and I understand it was dangerous but I felt it was something I had to do.
@ Dave, I already have a job, juggling between taking psychology and IT courses tis hard lol. I am planning to move closer to her eventually. Might just be a while though.

Charlie
18-03-2006, 05:01 PM
Like the other's said, Just keep doing what your doing now. Visiting each other ever so often. And maybe you could save up to stay for the weekend or something. And then maybe when your older you could move closer. Just think yourself lucky, I can't go meet the person i love. And i've known them for jsut under a year now.

Damian15
18-03-2006, 05:17 PM
Thanks for the opinions =).
Wow, how come you can't meet her?

DaveTaylor
18-03-2006, 05:19 PM
well go for the move thing dude, get a flat or something you can rent out and congrats and good luck in the future my friend :)

MsTanya
18-03-2006, 05:26 PM
Im gunna disagree and say end it. Im with a lad whos 4 yrs older and in the summer he'l be moving away to go to uni and about six months ago we decided that then we'l spit up. You still have you whole life ahead of you, go live a little. I know it will hurt cause like when he does move away, we'l of been together twenty two months which is a long time for someone who's only fourteen, but its the best thing to do.

Cute story btw [:

Damian15
18-03-2006, 06:46 PM
Dave, I will once I've saved up enough money. But atm I'm only 16 so it'd be a bit hard.
MsTanya, ending it might seem like the best thing to do to you, but just think. You could turn round in a few years time and think you made the biggest mistake of your life. You let true love get away from you?

SHEEPY
18-03-2006, 06:52 PM
I can’t help but always find these things depressing yet funny.
"Ooh we met on the internet and we’ve hardly known each other for very long but she’s my everything"

I err
okay

I’m probably going to get berated for this post because you’re all so open to this wonderful sort of idea etc you wish them the best etc
It’s still...woeful.

Damian15
18-03-2006, 06:58 PM
Hardly known each other? I've known her almost a year?

SHEEPY
18-03-2006, 07:00 PM
Whatever, good luck to you.

That's just my stance on these kind of situations.

Damian15
18-03-2006, 07:12 PM
Okay, thanks for the opinion. And thanks for being honest. =)

MsTanya
18-03-2006, 09:38 PM
Dave, I will once I've saved up enough money. But atm I'm only 16 so it'd be a bit hard.
MsTanya, ending it might seem like the best thing to do to you, but just think. You could turn round in a few years time and think you made the biggest mistake of your life. You let true love get away from you?
True love .. is erm overrated... Il find someone else and so will you

Jordan3
18-03-2006, 11:53 PM
Move in with her.

H
19-03-2006, 12:48 AM
I'm in that situation.

Except, I met up with Jonny 2 months in our relationship he lives 2 hours and half away on a train.

But.. it's nearly been a year now and we still meet up all the time even though it's harder everytime you say good bye, it gets easier though.

Like I go to school still he is 17 so he doesn't, I see him in holidays and stay at his for 4-5 days at his house. It's harder to say bye after that long peirod of time being with him, but then when you go to see him on the weekends it's not AS BAD as then. So you think it's getting better and keep your hopes high.

If you REALLY love each other, the distance may get to you, but don't get to you enough and you won't break up over it.

Things will be better when you're 17-18 when you can get a car to travel up there more often than a train.

But really.. when you asked for opinions on the situation, what did you mean? Do you mean if you would break up with that person? If so, why are you letting other people comment on your relationship. It's not about distance it's about how much you love that person. If you love them alot, you'll get through the distance so when that day comes, the distance will be no more.

H
19-03-2006, 12:52 AM
I can’t help but always find these things depressing yet funny.
"Ooh we met on the internet and we’ve hardly known each other for very long but she’s my everything"

I err
okay

I’m probably going to get berated for this post because you’re all so open to this wonderful sort of idea etc you wish them the best etc
It’s still...woeful.

If you've never been in the situation, don't comment. If you have, you clearly haven't been in it properly.

You will probably get to know someone MORE on the net than in real life. As you have much more time to talk to them over the net. As in real life you are more affectionate than talkactive.

People in real life relationships say "oh I've hardly known them but she's my everything" aswell? So people who say it in real life are not the same as people on the net who say it?

PLUS he isn't net dating it's what you call a "long distance" relationship JUST BECAUSE they met through the net doesn't make it net dating.

If you are going to comment on any matter, at least explain more about your opinion and not make it look so judgemental.

Jordan3
19-03-2006, 08:13 AM
My brother met someone on the internet, but she only lives half an hour away, after only meeting up about 10 times, they're moving in together. [They're both 16]

Damian15
19-03-2006, 04:47 PM
MsTanya, finding someone else. yes that wouldn't exactly be hard true. But finding someone who actually loves you? Would do anything for you? Who you can honestly say you'd do anything for and you care about more than anything? That's not easy to find.
Slob, I was just asking what people would do, not necesarily break up etc.

H
19-03-2006, 05:40 PM
MsTanya, finding someone else. yes that wouldn't exactly be hard true. But finding someone who actually loves you? Would do anything for you? Who you can honestly say you'd do anything for and you care about more than anything? That's not easy to find.
Slob, I was just asking what people would do, not necesarily break up etc.

ok!!!!!!

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