*sigh* Self Harm

[Revis]

I've been very angry at myself alot recently and usually I vent this anger at myself with my trusty penknife. Recently i've been doing it because i've been making a girl I really care about feel bad because of my shyness and lack of confidence (long story).

Whilst playing football earlier, not only did I get hat hair but a friend of mine found out and told this girl and now she's threatening to cut herself every time I do it, which has made me feel even worse. I do really care about her and don't want her to do that but I have no other way to vent my anger without serious destruction to my arm, knuckles or my possesions in my bedroom.

So yeah, any ideas?

[Decapitated!]

I've been very angry at myself alot recently and usually I vent this anger at myself with my trusty penknife. Recently i've been doing it because i've been making a girl I really care about feel bad because of my shyness and lack of confidence (long story).

Whilst playing football earlier, not only did I get hat hair but a friend of mine found out and told this girl and now she's threatening to cut herself every time I do it, which has made me feel even worse. I do really care about her and don't want her to do that but I have no other way to vent my anger without serious destruction to my arm, knuckles or my possesions in my bedroom.

So yeah, any ideas?

Youre In The Same Position Im In..

Im Trying To Stop And Its Hard Take Away All Sharp Objects From Youre Room EVERYTHING Knifes,Penicils,Zips ANYTHING That Coud Cut You.. Throw Them Away...

Try Like Putting Ice Over Youre Cuts Or Putting Red Pen There (Sad But It Kinda Helps) Theres Info On Sites Just Search It Up..


Hope This Helps

[Mentor]

Just find a more useful vent for your fustraition, strenus exsorse or somthing "/

[Jordan3]

I did the same thing cos I thought I'd upset my girlfriend, all my mates saw it when I was getting changed and called me "emo." My girlfriend just talked to me about it, and now I haven't self harmed for the past 2 weeks, and I'm feeling fine.

[Revis]

I went the best part of 3 months but she has said she'll do it if I do any self harm, like cutting, punching stuff and even smoking >.<

Usually I vent my frustration by skating but i've been terrible at that recently and it's making me worse. Same Happens with talking, I just have to think and think about the problem more and it becomes bigger which really isnt good.

I don't know what to do any more

[FlyingJesus]

The best thing to do is to learn how to not let things frustrate you that much. That's not easy though, so as Mentor said, exercise. It really works well. Sitting alone listening to depressive songs may fit the mood at the time, but it just makes things worse, and that's not a good thing.

[Uwe]

Hey. I also self harm, or used to. but recently some of my teachers found out, thenmy parents.
and I've been seeing a docter. If it happens again, I could get sectioned..

I suggest you get help -.-

[Revis]

My school knows and my mum found out that I used to, but I used to be a bulimic, smoking, self harming mess and she thinks i've cheered up, although she is starting to realise i'm not right again.

[Jordan3]

My school knows and my mum found out that I used to, but I used to be a bulimic, smoking, self harming mess and she thinks i've cheered up, although she is starting to realise i'm not right again.

A little like me, apart from I never smoked.

[Emicat.]

Get more help!!!!!

Wow you have had alot of probs :(

[Craig]

Perhaps join a gym? Just for the punchbag x]

[Playgirl]

My school knows and my mum found out that I used to, but I used to be a bulimic, smoking, self harming mess and she thinks i've cheered up, although she is starting to realise i'm not right again.

OMG! All of those things are me!

[Always]

Get ice blocks and cut that-I saw it on an advice website and heard it helps

[mizz-tier]

The best way to vent anger is to exercise or take up boxing and punch away at a punch bag and as u seem to have a few probs maybe best to see a councillor good luck :)

[gothic103]

Self harm has been the worlds most negative influence on my life I can remember
I have scars on my arm
My last three girlfriends have all self harmed (one almost died)
My best friend self harmed
And I at one point or another told all there parents

Imagine if you will a pretty girl, long blonde hair, pretty eyes,nice chest e.t.c e.t.c
Now imagine this persons arm, imagine the wrist covered in scar tissue
Imagine this scar tissue extending all the way up there arm so that it disapears under there shirt

Now you have my ex in your head
Seek help or stop now

[Mentor]

Dont exsatly need a gym, just simply doing press ups on the floor will do the job, just vent your anger in to that "/

[Emicat.]

Sing along to The Used.

A lot of screaming. It helps me :).

[Axel]

Get a punch bag, and punch that? It works..

[-:Undertaker:-]

Hold Ice in the palm of your hand.

[Jordan3]

Sing along to The Used.

A lot of screaming. It helps me :).

Ohh yes, that is some great anger venting. <33

[Craig]

Or try slipknot,man it works =]

[Jordan3]

What actually is bulimic?

[Emicat.]

Ohh yes, that is some great anger venting. <33
Tis indeed. <3

Bulimic I think is where you forse (spelling?) yourself to barf.

[gothic103]

Bullemia is an eating disorder where people (usually with self image problems) eat a meal then vomit later (usually by putting there fingers down there throats) in an effort to lose whieght

[Emicat.]

Oooh I got it right. Go me!

[Revis]

Just in my case, I would just throw up after eating because I didn't feel hungry because of stuff surrounding me.


Or try slipknot,man it works =]
I prefer the good ol' Nirvana

[gothic103]

Nirvana, See your not completely insane :)

[foxyfox00]

Cutting Is A Huge Issue. Personally I Worked Through It [May Not Work For Everyone]. Ive Stopped I Dont Know Why Or How But Something Just Changed. I Have The Fear Of Relapse On My Mind Constently. Ive Managed To get Involved In May Things They Stop Me Self Harming. Like Soccer, Singing, Sketching, Getting A Job Being In Productions.

When Ever Now I Think Of It I Make Sure I Write/Draw My Feelings. Or I Run Or Cry. I Chucked Out Everything Sharp In My Room All The Bottles And Pills. just Clear Everything Out And Start New. Look Foward To Something Each Day And Get Something Out Of It. Tomorrow Smile And Say Good Morning To A Stranger It Sounds Lame But It Makes You Feel Happy. Be Glad That you Have Someone That Loves You That Much.

[Jordan3]

Sounds like a good weight loss method to me.

[Pulchritudinous]

I'm sure you want to one day move on from being depressed and be a happy person, and seriously..how can you do that with a constant reminder of those rough times from the annoying scars on your arms.
Not being able to wear a neat t-shirt, because the sleeves arn't long enough to cover the embarresment of your scars, little issues are big issues for sensitive people.
Just be strong, you don't need to express your sadness physically just to heal from sadness, or get attention, they're are alot more positive ways to get over depression.
How did you feel when you overcame bulimia, did you feel relieved and proud?
The things that don't kill you only make you stronger, so cliche, but it's so true aswell, so don't let it kill you and just stop. It will be so easy if you put your mind to it, don't allow yourself to become sad, you're gonna get hurt again, but it doesn't mean you're gonna have to cut again.


Sounds like a good weight loss method to me.

Not really, it wrecks you're teeth from forcing acid up from your stomach, hair can fall out from lack of nutrients and many more frightening risks.

[Bielby2ooo]

STOP BEEN EMO??

[Revis]

STOP BEEN EMO??
WOW! NEVER THOUGHT OF THAT

No, usually I'm a happy person and only recently I've gone down hill again. I don't really have a problem with my friends seeing my old scars because they helped me beat it last time, it's just them seeing new cuts which is bad.

[JT-Fan]

Self harming is very common and it can be helped. Its important for you to find another way to take out your frustration, a simple way of just stabbing pencils in play-doh is a easy method. When you feel angry throw pillows, hit pillows just do not harm your body. I understand that is easier said than done. It's just important to think before you do anything. Just take out anger elsewhere, attacking things such as pillows,clothes even clay is really helpful.
Also call helplines such as childline they will really help.
I hope this has helped you. And good luck, take it from someone who knows this is not an easy thing to get over. When people start questioning the scars on your arm/wrist I am sure that you will start following what I am saying.
Good luck and stay safe.

[Kyle.tk]

ok lee, what you need to do is one of a few things

1. take that blade and stab it through a wall, preferrably one with a picture of your worst enemy.
2. get or spend more time with a girlfriend. Even though girls smell, im sure a good laugh with girl could help

[Revis]

ok lee, what you need to do is one of a few things

1. take that blade and stab it through a wall, preferrably one with a picture of your worst enemy.
2. get or spend more time with a girlfriend. Even though girls smell, im sure a good laugh with girl could help
Women cause more problems :'(
No, I put the blade somewhere and I can't remember where.
It's like, i've really wanted to cut all week but I haven't and i'm becoming a moody, irritable douchbag...

[Billabong]

Whoever said "stop being an emo" you cannot solve depression by saying one day oh I dont want to be an emo any more I want to be a happy chav and put on a burberry cap, what the heck will that solve.

I agree with other guys saying punch bag or clay maybe.

Also you really need to try and get some friends, they dont have to be like best buddies even, but just go out with them sometime. Im sure you would have a laugh and enjoy yourself, bowling maybe something like that.

One day your self harm could kill you, if you nicked an artiery and no-one knew you could die. It might go down as suicide. Imagine how your friends, and especially family would feel. THEY WOULD BE DEVESTATED. Its not just an effect on you but other people.
Think about what could happen and also try the friends idea of mine.
Its worth a try isn't it ;)

[FrozenWhisper]

Self harm isn't the answer. I got really obbessive over someone I could never have and try self harm. Belive me it doesn't help anything. Next time you feel like self harming get a block of ice and put it on your arm. It numbs you but DOESN'T do damage.

[Chaz]

Erm, try not to get hat hair?

[FrozenWhisper]

Erm, try not to get hat hair?
I hate hat hair :(

[Chaz]

I hate hat hair :(
Well, i read the thread thing, and he put 'i had hat hair, then one of my mates told a girl, so i harmed myself'

All because of hat hair?

[FrozenWhisper]

Well, i read the thread thing, and he put 'i had hat hair, then one of my mates told a girl, so i harmed myself'

All because of hat hair?
*blinks* alright then. Then again, I used to self harm cause I got obbessed with a singer (Lauri Ylonen) and knew I could NEVER be with him.

[Assid_Rane]

well, ive never self-harmed. but i know a lad who used to. now whenever he feels like that. he goes to the gym + takes it out on a punchbag...

anyway, hope this helps.

[Revis]

Well, i read the thread thing, and he put 'i had hat hair, then one of my mates told a girl, so i harmed myself'

All because of hat hair?
Ha, no that was a little homage to the fact I can't take anything seriously.

[Grimmauld]

I've been very angry at myself alot recently and usually I vent this anger at myself with my trusty penknife. Recently i've been doing it because i've been making a girl I really care about feel bad because of my shyness and lack of confidence (long story).

Whilst playing football earlier, not only did I get hat hair but a friend of mine found out and told this girl and now she's threatening to cut herself every time I do it, which has made me feel even worse. I do really care about her and don't want her to do that but I have no other way to vent my anger without serious destruction to my arm, knuckles or my possesions in my bedroom.

So yeah, any ideas?
Same problem as me, I broke my new optical mouse over frustration, but you got to remember to enjoy life while you can, you may only get 1 shot at living a life .. Don't risk it. I wish you the best.

[Darren_x]

Well i have dun it lotsa times . . . try putting ice cubes in ur hand then squeezing hard . . it hurts bt less than wen u r cutting :D hope i helped_x

[Jordan3]

Well i have dun it lotsa times . . . try putting ice cubes in ur hand then squeezing hard . . it hurts bt less than wen u r cutting :D hope i helped_x

Yeah quite a good idea_xx

[baby-wabbit123]

Take up drums... trust me it may sound silly but it sure worked for me...wenever your stressed you can jus go bang about on the drum kit... its great and you get goals aswell so it takes your mind of the bad things in life.

ive been playin for a year now and even tho im a girl im actually quite good!!! lol


xxxxxxxxx

[Infrontation]

Frustration Frustration. I like too play basketball, slam dunks etc. I find it a good way too take agression and hate out on the basketball, probably just me. Also I have a punchbag, frustration and agression healer <3

[boxx0r]

I've been very angry at myself alot recently and usually I vent this anger at myself with my trusty penknife. Recently i've been doing it because i've been making a girl I really care about feel bad because of my shyness and lack of confidence (long story).

Whilst playing football earlier, not only did I get hat hair but a friend of mine found out and told this girl and now she's threatening to cut herself every time I do it, which has made me feel even worse. I do really care about her and don't want her to do that but I have no other way to vent my anger without serious destruction to my arm, knuckles or my possesions in my bedroom.

So yeah, any ideas?

if you really care about this girl, you won't cut yourself. end of story.

[bubble79]

I've been very angry at myself alot recently and usually I vent this anger at myself with my trusty penknife. Recently i've been doing it because i've been making a girl I really care about feel bad because of my shyness and lack of confidence (long story).

Whilst playing football earlier, not only did I get hat hair but a friend of mine found out and told this girl and now she's threatening to cut herself every time I do it, which has made me feel even worse. I do really care about her and don't want her to do that but I have no other way to vent my anger without serious destruction to my arm, knuckles or my possesions in my bedroom.

So yeah, any ideas?

I was really depressed recently and nearly started self harming, but then I realized that it wouldn't help my problems get any better at school, and I tried to find some healthier ways to vent my frustration. I found playing my flute quite effective relief, especially the loud horrible high notes. I've also found out that drums a very good way of making you feel better about things. You could try something like that, and if you don't play an instrument see if anyone in the house has a guitar or something, because any instrument, even if you can't play it, can help, and if you try something like that teahcing yourself someting new then you're also going to be thinking about something else. If you don't fancy music, why not take up a new sport. Trampolining is aother good way of letting out anger. Thye do lessons of that at most leisure centres. If you try and do something new and take your mind off slef harming you're less likely to do it

Also,m whoever said 'I'm good at drums even though i'M A GIRL' so? Whio says that female druimmers can't be as good as male ones? Some of the best ddrummers I know are female.

[Royksopp]

do what i do buy a baseball bat and break stuff including the bad i ruined 5 already but it vents my anger i normally go hitting trees and fences