Parents - Seperated

[Mined]

My parents are separated and have been for about 7 years. So that means i was fairly young when they split up, i didn't think much of it and i just carried on with my life. But then i started to get upset about it and i wanted to see my Dad more often. He lives 80 Minutes away so i can only see him every fortnight for 3 Days. I get sad sometimes wishing that they might of worked out what problems they had. I still feel sad now but now all i think about is the fact they wouldn't want me to cry because they have split up. And my parents are happy as they have new partners.
So if your parents are split up and you sometimes feel sad about it, just think would your parents want you to be sad about this.
And the answer is No, they would want you to carry on and get on with your life.
Just because they don't love each other anymore doesn't mean that they don't love you anymore.
You parents will always love you whether they:
1. Together
2. Divorced
3. Over 500 Miles away
You will always have them in your heart you just need to know that they don't want you to be sad. So go on Be happy! :D

[Ryan]

i think my parents are close to splittin up but the good thing is since i aint classed as a child anymore since am 17 i get to choose where i go and when i go gnna b bad when/if they do tho :(

[Ciaran]

Man you are very very lucky compared to some... for eg:
My dad left when i was only 4 and i didnt speak to him for ages and he moves to america 3500miles away i only see my dad twice a year so consider yourself lucky, im not a crying person i just ****ed it up and held strong for my mom. they both have partners now too
I think its a hard thing to go through but you haveto remember things could be worse you just haveto not cry it will onlky make you think more about it... try to do something else when your sad like a sport... :)

[GommeInc]

It's amazing how many people on Habbo and Habbox have Seperated Parents. It's upsetting but you're not allowed to show it as people will get upset who have seperated parents.

Luckily, my parents are happily married but I can't imagine what it must be like having them seperated but as DJ-Cameron says, they will always love you and you will always love them even if you or them don't show it, no matter what distance.

[Concentric]

It's upsetting but you're not allowed to show it as people will get upset who have seperated parents.
i don't think that's right, the point of these topics is to discuss things that affect you with other people, so i'm glad someone brought this up and that people are being open about it.

[PumpkinPeta]

My parents are seperated and my dad lives about 1.hr and half away so its hard to see him normally dad will come over on his way to work but thats about it my dad and mum split up about 2 years ago when i was 12 i didnt really think much of it and i still dont im not sure why people say im selfish becasue if it but i cant help it i still see my dad and i dont get sad easliy right now i think more about my sport then anything so i dont have time to be sad hmmmm

[GommeInc]

Yeah, it is best to focus on something to take your mind off things.

[AngJum]

Look, well maybe some people want to talk about their family - talk
about what it's like. They have a choice whether they want to share
their feelings, that's what this part of the forum is for.. and we are
choosing to use this chance :)

Well, my mum and dad were together for 17 years and they had
their fights now and then - as most married couples do. They
started having more and more arguements, and something
happened - which I'm not going to say as it upsets me to. But,
they tried to keep things together - tried to keep their family
happy and make them grow up with a mum and a dad.. but,
sadly it never worked out :'( It's very confusing for me, I'm
getting older, but it's a shame on my brother, he gets upset
alot because we only see my mum about 3 times a year. It's
not much, but what makes it worse is my mum and sister have
fallen out and don't talk to each other now - my mum hates her.
Anyway, I first lived with my dad where I live now because my
mum practically abandoned me, my sister and my brother. She
couldn't afford to look after us - my dad had a good paying
job, so he looked after us. But, my mum came up from where
she lives and just TOOK us away, seriously. My dad came back,
found a note and he said he broke down in tears. He went upstairs
and just sat in our bedrooms crying his heart out. Then my mum
couldn't take it, she couldn't have us - too much bother for her. I
think it was just selfishness though. So, back we went to my dads
and from then on, we stayed her. I joined the school again - got
bullied from being moved back and forth.. But, I still see my mum..
not much - but it can't really be helped. My mum thinks my dad is
a psycho, a bad father. But he is the best person in the world -
some people need to realise how lucky they are. If they live with
their mum and dad - it may not be a palace where you live, you
may not have much money.. but family is what counts. If, sadly
you have no family left :( Then, think about memories, cry now
and then to let it all out - don't hold it all in.. *EDIT* Also, my
mum is engaded, so I'll just hope her marriage goes succesful
and her husband will be happy - and not get the same as what
my dad got

[GommeInc]

Fights come with Marriage! It isn't uncommon

[AngJum]

I know, I said that :s Anyway, that's not even the point in that post.
The point in it was, for people who have been in the same situation as
me. I want them to know they're not alone - and other people know
what it feels like.

[ddred]

Yeah my parents split up too. All I remember is waking up one morning when I was about 5 and my mom was gone..
I live with my dad and my step mom now, their the best people in the world. There starting to fight, its nothing knew though, everyone fights. If they broke up I don't know what I'd do, I'd probably go crazy and start getting in lots of trouble,
I still love my real mom alot, and I have a step dad now too he's real cool.
I see my real mom about 10 times a year on account my sister had a baby.

[AngJum]

Aww guys, it's a terrible feeling when this happens. My dad said to me,
my sister and brother "Iam never going to tell you why me and your mum
split up" I found this very unfair, he said never. But, one time I got angry
at my mum and called her a word, which I didn't know the meaning of,
and she burst into tears. She told my sister that was what she was - the
word I had called her. I nearly died, not literally, I was in so much shock.
To think, it was my dads best friend. I don't know anyone who could do
such a thing. Nothing is impossible though, and the truth has to come out
- when it does, it hurts like hell. Well, it does for me. Growing up without a
mum has been REALLY hard for me, as me and my dad don't get time to talk
about girly stuff. All of my friends understand things, but I don't - they all
have someone to talk to. I get really upset about this, but my dad says I
can talk to him about anything. I just hope you guys are all ok, and if you
ever want to talk, I know you don't know me.. but I like to share feelings,
show how I feel. Then just chat to me, I'd understand :) Some people think
I'm wierd, but I'm not. I'm just a confused teenager in a big world who needs
to think for herself and try as hard as she can

[AngJum]

:o Aww :( I have been moved to god knows how many schools. It's not
fair, I was born in Germany because my dad was in the RAF. I get bullied
for that - it's not my fault, I'm not nazi. I've lived in about 18 houses, I
never get to settle down anywhere, then it's "C'mon we're moving again"
But now, since my mum and dad are divorced (they waited like 3 years
for the divorce to come through) Iam actually starting to get confident,
thinking - this is where I will stay until Iam older - get a job, and move
somewhere where I can relax, chillout but also go to college/uni. I don't
want to be like my mum and dad. Never! They both left school young,
well, my dad had to because of his family. That's another thing my mum
ruined, she's a pyscho. Stopping my dad, me, sister and brother from ever
seeing his family. He is a doormat, he lets people walk all over him. I think
it is better me knowning what my mum did - why they split up, because if
I didn't know now, they would never tell me. I would go throughout my life
wondering and wondering. One day I would just explode and I wouldn't
be able to take it no more. My mum and dad still treat me like a baby, they
try to be all nicey nicey, I'm not thick I know they are 'rubbing' up to me.
I hate it! It's nearly my birthday and they call me baby names.
I'm mature in real life, they don't see it. They aren't interested in me no one is. My dad
doesn't even know my voice - he has to do everything though, me and my
sister help out - but he shouts at us. Then later moans that he has to do
everything. He confuses me, I confuse myself.. the whole world confuses me!
What's the point in the world ever being created? If there were no world,
what would there be? Nothing..? Emptyness? Maybe you only get one life
no one knows until it's their turn to go.. unless we never find out what
happens - why it happened.. who we all are. I just blab on and on, that's
just the sort of person Iam. I can't stop when I get started then I seem
like a complete fool. Do you know that feeling? Sorry, I've ran tottaly off of
topic.. where was I..

Oh yeah, about my mum and dad calling me baby names. Well it really
annoys me I tell them to stop it but they don't. They are so immature!
I hope things just start looking better for me - I figure out the words to
say, I tell people how I feel. Work out my life, and try my best to help
others along the way.. I love helping, I love talking to people about
their problems, I feel shy at first - telling people my feelings. But not
with you guys, I feel safe around you all. Even though I have no idea
who you are - you could be a murderer, god!? How am I meant to know?
I'm not. Life is full of mysterys. That's where I have to try and figure
them out, or by pass them if they cannot be solved..

[AngJum]

Hmm, yes that's true - I should show them how much it irritates me.
Yes, I know maybe that was a bit selfish of me to say that but it's
not fair that I made friends, then had to leave them and move
somwhere else. I also wish forums were like this aswell, maybe we
should bring it up somewhere - a place to talk about family life and
problems. Unless there is already a forum for that on here? -Not sure-

I'm actually a little bit scared aswell, but on the other hand I just
want to move out and live on my own for sometime, and go to
Uni or college, I want to do well in life - I try hard and I know I can
achive what I want :)

[AngJum]

Exactly my point - but, if you think something is impossible,
you should never give up. I've learned from that, and yes
I agree if my mum and dad were together, I'd be a completely
different person, I wouldn't live where I do now. I wouldn't
know any of you guys..

[AngJum]

;o I'm sure you'd be greatly missed, but you and your dad are
more important. Wherever you chose to live, I hope it's the
right choice and hope you get on well, I sort of had a choice
where to stay - and that was with my dad. It's hard, but we
can try our best to make as much as our family as possible :)
And actually start to talk to my dads side of the family, and
also with my mums family aswell. One more thing about side of
familys', my mum said if I ever got married, I wasn't allowed to
invite my dads' family and if she did - she wouldn't come. I think
that is really low, she's meant to be my mum, she's meant to love
me and if she doesn't come to my wedding just because of them
she obviously isn't mature enough to appologise to them. Or even
try and make me feel loved by her..

[Janumz]

Well, My parents are getting divorced, Ive had an awful life :(
Well, When I was born, my mum abadoned me on my grandmas doorstep when I was 6 months old, I then got adopted, But that didnt work, And I stayed in a care home for about 7 years, I then got adopted, but I think that they are going to get a divorce :(
They're always fighting - and my dads starting "beating up" my sister :( I dont know what to do?

[AngJum]

Aww Pringle :( Sometimes I think I've had a bad life. Maybe I'm
selfish, alot more people are worse off than me. Sometimes my
dad hits us if we have been "bad" but others he does it for fun.
I don't know what I'd do if I were you - about the father sister
thing, I'd just sit in my room and cry and feel sorry for myself.
Even though that isn't the right way to go about it :(

[Jacko2kn3]

I have read through the posts, and have things to add:

1) Ang why is your text like that? Only half the page wide.

2) My parents are still together. So I have not experienced the divorcing of parents, and hopefully, from what I've read now, I won't have to.

Right, my essay...

Some of you guys have had a rough time. Honestly, they sound like something from films. I wasn't aware things like that actually happened. I mean, I know families split up, but some people said they were dumped on doorsteps (did you have a lightning scar? ;)), literally kidnapped from their current parent to live with another, among other things. I can't believe it. You've opened my eyes.

I'll be back with more comments later.

[AngJum]

My text is like this because I've just always done it like that. But I wont from now on if it bothers you.

And yes Jacko, things like this happen.
literally kidnapped from their current parent to live with another It happened to me, it can happen to anyone

[G-flow]

My mum and dad split up bout 4 years ago, oh well , :s

[jovv]

Well, My mum and dad are still together, but one of my best friends who I used to see lots was always being moved backwards and forwards, and I always used to be annoyed when she couldnt come round my house or be at my birthday parties (etc.) (i was about 9-ish at this time) but now I know she must have disliked it more then me as she was the one being moved around! She liked seeing her dad (whos house she was driving away too) but I just dont think she liked the travelling. I dont know exactly how it feels, but just being friends with her made me think more about what people can be like when they are older and married.

[Jacko2kn3]

I know Scripted. I understand what your saying.

Ang, it doesn't bother me, just curious that's all.

My mate lived back and forth from his parents. It was annoying, because one lived right near me, one lived no where near me, so he could only come out on certain days. I think he was used to it, from what I know it had been like that for at least a couple of years.

[Ciaran]

to be honest id rather of never known my dad because it was so hard losing something i needed so bad but if he never was around i wouldnt know what i was missing. :(

[lauralol]

Well I hate both my mum and dad, but I live with my mum, she can be okay sometimes thought she is always moody and horrible. I cant think of other words to describe her but I wont say them on here, I can't wait till I'm 16 so I can move out. I want to move to America when Im older, get away from everything and start afresh!

[jovv]

My mate lived back and forth from his parents. It was annoying, because one lived right near me, one lived no where near me, so he could only come out on certain days. I think he was used to it, from what I know it had been like that for at least a couple of years.

This is what happened to me and my friend. Though I know she was used to it, but I wasnt. And yeah one parent lived like, next door! The other lived miles away.

[JackHb]

my parents split wen i was umm.....12/13

i am so glad they r split up :P
as i have a better life now they r split up than wen they were 2gether :D

[AngJum]

Yeah, Jacko and Jo that's what happened to me. Yeah Scritped, I never knew this was going to happen. I thought they loved each other then they just split.. one time, when I lived in Newcastle they fell out and me my bro and sis moved away from my dad.. (This time, my dad knew what my mum had did and they were trying to sort things out) But, they didn't then. They eventually got back together, but things were never the same. They stayed together for me my bro and sister.. even they never loved each other. Jack, I'm not glad that mine split up, well I suppose I have to get used to it they don't love each other anymore. My mum is getting married.. I just have to be happy for them both

[Ziabotsu]

My parents cant split up. My dad isnt here. He was blown up in a plane crash :(

[AngJum]

:o:o:o Rt :( I'm so sorry

[la-ur-en]

My parents spilt up when i was 4 years old, my dad found someone else and made a fresh start, same with my mum...
I used to get so upset about it, i would cry all the time, 'cause when i was about 4 or something, i'd have to stay with one at diffrent times, and i didn't know what was happening, so i was confused, but now that i look back on it, it all worked out for the best, 'cause i would be even more depressed if they didn't, cause there would be arguements and fall outs, and that would be the worst type of atmosphere to live in...
The only experienced advice i could give is, Be strong, look ahead, don't let what HAS happned come in the way of what COULD happen (aka. Dont look back at your misfortunes, look forward to your dreams)

[AngJum]

:o Aww la-ur-en, sorry to hear that. But you are absoultly right - think of the future and don't let the pass make you down :) Thanks for making me feel better hun! I will keep that in mind

[Arcanum]

I think my dad's girlfriend is pregnant, bobba, I dont want them to start their own family. My dad is an old man! They are too old to have bloody kids.
If they have a kid, im leaving home and finding a new life somewhere else... like the bush or something. or maybe I should steal my dad's boat and sail somewhere for a while. I dont want to have step brothers or sisters, thats all just one big sham. It shows how much they dont care, but i was on the boat with my dad this weekend, and one of my dads friends was there as well, he goes "You might have a step brother soon sam", my dad looked at him shocked like it was some sort of secret that he had revealed. Maybe that's why my dads girlfriend is in england, whilst my dad is in New Zealand. Then my dad tried to make it into a joke, and said all this stuff.... yeah.
anyway, I need suggestions on where I should go. I dont want to live here anymore, I want to fly somewhere... I thought of stealing my dads boat, but that would be too dangerous. I want to start a new life, Like he did dammit.
I really suggest talking to him and knowing all the facts before doing something as drastic as what you speak.

[GommeInc]

I have a friend, who's blood dad was the 3rd or so father his mum had.

His mum has had about 5 husbands and my friend has had 9 or so grandparents! I really feel like he is missing having a real proper father, but you cannot say anything as he might find you nosey (which he will)

[Mined]

Its great that you are expressing yourselves please carry on :D

[GommeInc]

It upsets me seeing my friend have so many parents but it is funny that he see the funny side!

MORE PRESENTS AT CHRISTMAS and Birthdays

[AngJum]

Presents?! I don't care about presents, presents can bring you happyness, maybe just for a couple of weeks then you get bored of the presents. If my mum and dad were together my happyness would last a life time :l It's never ever the same

[Butcher11]

My Dad left when I was 12, and since it was my mom, me and my sister. Howver, sadly my mom passed and now I don't live with either, but it's ok I guess, life goes on, and I still ahve my sister, and I have a dad in again just not my bilogical one. And I can trust him and confide in him

[Mined]

I think that there is nothing we can do about it,
but i do think that when they sign the marriage certificate, then that should be it, you have signed and agreed to all.
But its not like that anymore.

[Butcher11]

No, and when they divorce, I sometimes wonder if they even think of their kids :rolleyes:

[Azela]

Ever married couple have overs riffs, look at matt & mizki :)

My parents are arguing quite alot recently but they will never split up they love each other too much :D If they did I would be upset really upset but to be honest i quite like the idea of going to your dad's or going to your mum's for the weekend. But where I would live the majority of the time I don't know. My dad is sooo cool when my mum isn't around, he take me everywhere and does everything with me but when my mum is on her own with me she is soooo kind. I love them both to bits.

[ramjet]

i thought it was worth sdding that i nearly cried during sum of these. i dont cry often but im not afraid to show my feelings i think pringle's story upset me most.

my parents are together and seem happy.

my cousin's parents split up then his mom got married agen and had another baby (a gurl), his mom divorced agen. his dad got married 2 yrs ago to a woman who had a then 5 yr old daughter. they have now had another baby girl. thats 3 step-daugthers who have 3 different dads. i feel really sorry for him as travel is 4 hours on train.

2 of my mates dads walked away from there families too.

a very sad,

ramJet