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[Hopeless]

Well i haven't told anyone at my school that im gay. And i really want to say something to somone but i don't know if i can trust them with this secret. Also if i tell him he might feel unconfortable with me.
Also somone else at my school came out that he was gay and everyone ignored him and he got beaten up 4 Time.
Also my Dad i Homophobic and if i tell people at school and he finds out i will probably end up homeless.


What should i do???

[xMicHeLlEx]

Keep it to your self

[nixons-a-noob]

/wrists
EternalMasque (Forum Moderator) Please dont be rude.

[Leuven]

Right, Do you have any really close friends that you can trust with your deepest secrets?
If so you could probably tell him/her.

[StripedTiger]

harsh ;o

okay i would try and make sure that if you do say anything you have a place to go.

tell your closest friends, if they are true friends they wouldnt act differently.

ive told 4 friends and my sister and they are okay with it ^^
they just dont know i fancy one of their sisters :D

[Campina]

your in the exact same position as me. im going to keep it to myself until the time is right at the moment im in year 9 ill probably tell them wen im in like year 11 the last day of skl they'll be more mature about it and will understand

[Uwe]

your in the exact same position as me. im going to keep it to myself until the time is right at the moment im in year 9 ill probably tell them wen im in like year 11 the last day of skl they'll be more mature about it and will understand
I told my friends in year 9 xD

[Campina]

yeh but atm i think of my friends as a little immature and i asked them what they think of gay people they were like errrrgh thats digusting "a boy kissing another boy makes me cringe" so i dont no if i shud tell them :(

[j0o]

In reply to one of the posts - I came out in year 7 ;)

And I'd keep it to yourself mate. Or at least tell someone close, and i mean REALLY close. Someone who wont tell, that is prepared to talk about it. Believe it or not, a member of family is a good thing, as they have to accept it eventually and will probably act more mature about it.

[Wootzeh]

In reply to one of the posts - I came out in year 7 ;)

And I'd keep it to yourself mate. Or at least tell someone close, and i mean REALLY close. Someone who wont tell, that is prepared to talk about it. Believe it or not, a member of family is a good thing, as they have to accept it eventually and will probably act more mature about it.
I'm sure it was year 8 ¬.¬

[MattUH]

i told the whole school and my family STILL dont know, told everyone around 7-8 motnhs ago ^_^

[Condas]

I told my friends in year 9 xD

i told my friends at the start off year 7 and the hole school knows INCLUDING TEACHERS ^_^

[y2kt]

I'm kind of the same, hardly none of my friends know that I am bi, and I've finished school now. I want to tell them, but I don't want to lose all my friends, so I dunno. The only people I have told are people that I feel I can trust and wont go around telling everyone.

[DMB-Hosting]

I dont think your dad would kick you out he would come to terms with it eventually, just give it time. Also tell people when it suits you best and feel most confident and comfortable. Also be proud of who you are!

[paradise]

Wow, no offense to anyone but there is alot of gays on this forum compared to the others i've visited. I've got nothing against you.

You choose what you want to be and i've got nothing wrong with that.

I suggest telling your closest and ONLY your closest friend. Maybe your mother or father, but only if you'd have a place to go if they don't want you with them. They'll have to come to terms with it some time though, be proud of what you are.


- Spider.

[Zenzi]

Maybe you should tell a girl? Girls are alot more understanding of this type of thing. I know from personal experience and a lot of will and grace.

Make sure you trust them though and have some rope and cyanide handy if she doesn't take it too well.

We don't want anybody finding out do we? :o:p

[foxyfox00]

Like This...

[Ostinato]

Well i haven't told anyone at my school that im gay. And i really want to say something to somone but i don't know if i can trust them with this secret. Also if i tell him he might feel unconfortable with me.
Also somone else at my school came out that he was gay and everyone ignored him and he got beaten up 4 Time.
Also my Dad i Homophobic and if i tell people at school and he finds out i will probably end up homeless.


What should i do???

Okay well, your still young so it may just be a bit too early to fully come out and totally broadcast that your gay, because you never know what might happen in the future and you may feel differently.

Well, take heed form this other boys experience that by announcing he was gay wasn't a pretty experience, and as harsh as it may seem that's reality and some people just have difficulty coming to terms with the situation. You need to have a think, and decide whether or not everyone in your school actually needs to know that your gay... Imeen what are you going to get out of it apart from a load of abuse? But if you decide that you definetly want them all to know, then just start telling people but you need to prepare yourself for any consequences.

Now... about telling your dad.

Your Dad is your father, the man who contributed to bringing you into this earth, and no matter what his personal beliefs or opinions are, it's his job as a father to support you through whatever your going through, and be by you 100% whether he likes it or not. It's his responsibility to do so. You should sit him down and explain the situation to him, and if he has a bad reaction just explain to him you can't help what you are and you can't change it, so he's just going to need to accept it and you would like him to be there for you like a good dad should.

Most likely he will probably act badly to begin with, but if you give him time then it should sink in and be fine with him.

Good luck.

[Stab]

Thats one groovy watercoloru

[Nixt]

This might just be me, but I don't care what people think of me! That's what makes me who I am... I never told anyone they just all kinda worked it out, and they didn't seem to care :D.

But if you are having even the slightest doubts about coming out, then just don't do it! Only do it when you know the time is right and you feel comfortable with doing so.

[VistaUltimate]

Keep it to your self

He just posted it on a forum, thats not keeping it to himself much is it

[Black-Skull88]

Call the kids helpline, and chat it over with them, atleast your getting provesional advice, that will most likely help you.