Should I have sex with my girlfriend even though Im gay?

[Mitchell]

1. Im gay so im not physicaly attracted to her.
2. Ive just recently had sex with someone while I was still dating her.
3. Im really confuzzed about my SEXUALITY now and I cant decide what I actualy like.
4. Im worried that if I dont have sex with her she will stop the relationship.

I dont know what to do :cry:

[James!]

If you're not attracted to her, why would you care if she stops the relationship?

[cocaine]

You've got to make a decision - Do you want to make a commitment to her?

[StripedTiger]

hmmmm..... well if i was that girl i wouldnt be bothered, but im gay so i dont help LOL

if you are confused, try it out?
your a teen, go experiment ^^

[Mitchell]

If you're not attracted to her, why would you care if she stops the relationship?

Because I only just started likeing guys. I used to like girls but for some reason I dont anymore.

I want to liek girls again :'(

[WHANGFACE]

I can't see how you confused about your GENDER, as its usually obivous when you look down there..

But, don't do it if you don't want to. Obviously you don't want to, it would sort of be using her. Its better to break up sooner rather than later.

[paradox]

Did you know you were gay before you started the relationship? if you did it was pretty stupid getting involved, and if you got involved with her because you was intrested in her you could be bi but what you've said it doesn't seem that way.

[Mitchell]

1. Im gay so im not physicaly attracted to her.
2. Ive just recently had sex with someone while I was still dating her.
3. Im really confuzzed about my gender now and I cant decide what genger I actualy like.
4. Im worried that if I dont have sex with her she will stop the relationship.

I dont know what to do :cry:

Oh I meant Im confuzed about my sexuality.

[StripedTiger]

I can't see how you confused about your GENDER, as its usually obivous when you look down there..

i think he means sexuality babes :P

[paradox]

Oh I meant Im confuzed about my sexuality.
But if you think your gay and your not attracted to woman it isn't that confusing.

[StripedTiger]

technically it is :P cos half the time i dont know what i feel xD

i was with a guy i thought i loved and i dont have any feelings for him in that way? it took me a month to work it out and sort it.

[WHANGFACE]

i think he means sexuality babes :P
Yeah ;DD just playing around :]

But yeah seriosuly, I don't suggest having sex with her if you're not attracted to her. If you break it off with her, or she breaks it off with you. Over time she will get over it, and if you're not attracted to her anymore and suspect you're gay I'm sure it won't be that bad.

But you never know, you could be bi. You just gotta work it out for yourself.

[paradox]

and lets face it, would she rather you tell her the truth and dump her or have sex with her and then find out it wasn't real and you wernt really that intrested.

[IGlooscap]

This may seem like a wierd question, but was the person you recently had sex with a guy/girl?

[Charlie]

This may seem like a wierd question, but was the person you recently had sex with a guy/girl?

It was a guy, thats why he thinks he is gay.

[dirrty]

But arnt you 13? Thats a bit young to be deciding should i sleep with her or what ever.

I think you should slow down a bit and wait until your a bit older mate.

[GommeInc]

Errrr, I would say don't have sex. If she dumps you for not having sex with her, then she is obviously not good for you. She is just some cheap **** in my opinion, if all she wants in a relationship is sex "/

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[paradox]

But arnt you 13? Thats a bit young to be deciding should i sleep with her or what ever.

I think you should slow down a bit and wait until your a bit older mate.
hes thirteen? :o

[dirrty]

hes thirteen? :o

Thats what it says on his profile and somewhere on his other post. Now thats young.

[cocaine]

WTH? Thats illegal if he's 13!

[paradox]

tbh I think it's bull because he made a thread in teen life section saying he hates his sister, but it was the same thread posted by someone else so he is attention seeking, and I think this is too.

[cocaine]

Would you seriously think about having sex if you're just 13!?

[Mitchell]

The other thing I just put because no one was talking on the board and I did it to start conversation cuz i was bored. But this isnt to get attention.

[cocaine]

But you're 13?

[Mitchell]

Is that to young to have sex?

[paradox]

Would you seriously think about having sex if you're just 13!?
I'm 13, and I think about it in the future. Definately not now ;/

and your planning to have sex yet you don't even know the age, :s
You have to be 16 to have legal sex, unless the laws in the USA differ?

[WHANGFACE]

Would you seriously think about having sex if you're just 13!?
Ahem, no people have had sex at 13 before.. -cough- :rolleyes:

[Mitchell]

I have. so your saying im not a person? :'(
And why last year in school we learned about sex. They obviously want us to have it if they teach how to do it.

[paradox]

I have. so your saying im not a person? :'(
You had sex but you don't even know how old you have to be to have sex?
wth..

[Mitchell]

Ya im confuzzed, thats why im posting on this forum.

[paradox]

Ya im confuzzed, thats why im posting on this forum.
did you use a condom :rolleyes:

[Mitchell]

no u dont need comdoms between 2 boys and i didnt really plan it.

[infatuation]

no u dont need comdoms between 2 boys and i didnt really plan it.

For the backside you do.:s

[dirrty]

Mitchell, i think you need to talk to your parents or find a website about sex and what you need to know etc.

Just a bit of advice <x3

[Mitchell]

Well I cant go on google because each thing I type in there is recorded and I cant ever get rid of it. If my parents went on google they would see what websites i went to. Or is there a way to delete that stuff?

[dirrty]

Well if you cant go on google, talk to your parents. Dont give no hints that you are sexually active, just say your curious about whatever and ask questions.

If not, talk to the person at school who told you about sex. If not, go to your school or local library and read some books.

[Uwe]

www.teenhelp.org

[paradox]

Well I cant go on google because each thing I type in there is recorded and I cant ever get rid of it. If my parents went on google they would see what websites i went to. Or is there a way to delete that stuff?
If you mean it's recorded in your history just clear it, same thing happens to me

[Mitchell]

how do i clear it. I do
1. tools
2. internet options
3.delete cookies
4.delete files
5.clear history

but after I do that if u go to google and type like the letter a in. And if I typed in a word or sentence begining with a it would say it. it wont go away

[cocaine]

No, press down and when the word is highlighted,press delete

[Mitchell]

Thnx!! If you go to some websites does it make some bad popups pop up all the time?

[Typpi]

Thnx!! If you go to some websites does it make some bad popups pop up all the time?

bad sites = bad pop ups :rolleyes:

[dirrty]

All depends. I dont know, certain website do, certain websites dont.

[cocaine]

For the backside you do.:s

Er, do you?

[WHANGFACE]

Er, do you?
:rolleyes:Yes

[cocaine]

:rolleyes:Yes

Why the :rolleyes: ? Was that question seriously dumb?

[Uwe]

you dont NEED to wear one.
only if you wanna avoid gettng aids.

[WHANGFACE]

Yeah, you don't have to. But it cuold hurt if you don't aswell.

[Uwe]

Hmmm okay ;)lol.
and no it wouldn't hurt - it would still hurt with one unless you use lube..

[cocaine]

Lol, our science teacher wouldn't touch that deep in the sex ed

[dirrty]

Lol, our science teacher wouldn't touch that deep in the sex ed

But in sex ed the teacher would.

Mine did, in great detail. She was saying like there is no point having sex young then saying wham! bam! thankyou mam! Everyone was like :O. Shes deputy head and she is so laid back.

[Moose]

Do you think thats a legit idea to ask this question on a forum where, it has been proven that 12year olds and younger come here? Do you think its the right idea to ask us? No, go on a different forum.

[paradox]

Do you think thats a legit idea to ask this question on a forum where, it has been proven that 12year olds and younger come here? Do you think its the right idea to ask us? No, go on a different forum.
Hes only just turned 13 himself... :rolleyes:

[Moose]

Hes only just turned 13 himself... :rolleyes:

Wow... what a --

[Typpi]

u can have sex at the age of 14 in iceland.... land of ****** realy

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[nixons-a-noob]

ur 13 yrs old stop making this stuff up plz

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[j0o]

Aaahhahahaha.

Attention seeking. For sure ^-^

[Mitchell]

Im not seeking attention or making this up. Whys that so hard to believe? Just because your a loser and nothing like this is happening in your life doesnt mean this stuff cant be happening in mine.

If your not gonna help me with this problem then go away. I post on this forum to get help and u guys r being a bunch of ******

And im leaving the forum and going to teen help since they arent ****.

PS: that girl in the picture above this post looks like a mental patient.

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[Princess$]

1. Im gay so im not physicaly attracted to her.
2. Ive just recently had sex with someone while I was still dating her.
3. Im really confuzzed about my SEXUALITY now and I cant decide what I actualy like.
4. Im worried that if I dont have sex with her she will stop the relationship.

I dont know what to do :cry:

If you are gay why date the girl?

stop hiding the fact your gay from your gf and tell her the truth.
Sooner or later she will find out and it might not come from you.

www.teenhelp.org (http://www.teenhelp.org) there is a topic on about confusion on your sexuality.

if you only just turned gay or think you are, it could be a sign of a change.

Lots of teens go through changes ou know in this area:)

[alexxxxx]

If your confused, and your gay and you have a girlfriend, you are bisexual. Right? If you want to have sex, how are not physically attracted. If you are so bothered about that relationship, your not gay.

[y2kt]

Dude.. Don't have sex with her if you think you are gay. I don't think she would be too happy if she found out after having sex with you.

[FlyingJesus]

and lets face it, would she rather you tell her the truth and dump her or have sex with her and then find out it wasn't real and you wernt really that intrested.

If she's 13 too and is pressuring him for it I'd guess that she'd actually rather have it with a gay person than not have it at all. Mitchell, we have words for people like that here in England, but we also have a filter for those words.

[JackHb]

WTH? Thats illegal if he's 13!

Lol, i don't think many people care about the legal age limit anymore.

If your gay then why are you with her....if you don't like her then finish with her instead of stringing her a'long.

[@K]

[QUOTE=Typpi]u can have sex at the age of 14 in iceland.... land of ****** realy

Same as here in Spain :D

[iluvben]

[QUOTE=Typpi]u can have sex at the age of 14 in iceland.... land of ****** realy

Same as here in Spain :D
Oh really ;] I'm going to Spain soon heh.

[Ostinato]

Don't have sex with her, it will be a huge mistake.

When you grow up, you hormones are crazy in your body, which causes a lot of teenagers to confuse their sexuality, from perhaps liking girls to boys or vise versa. Don't worry, this is most likely just a stage and the majority of teenagers go through it.

However, the fact you were already in a relationship with a girl, is a bit unfair and I think you should have ended the relationship and soon as you started having feelings for boys, but it's obviously too late for that.

Now that you have already strung her along making her think you still like her when you really have feelings for boys at the moment is bad enough, but the fact you have went and had intercourse with another person makes it even worse.

If you now have sex with her, your heart will definetly not be in it and it will most likely be a shambles as your not sexually attracted to girls at the moment. Also, I presume you will both be each others 'first' in sex? Well, I know that if I had my first time sex with someone whos heart wasn't in it and I found out they wern't actualyl even that attracted to me, I would be raging as it's not only immoral but it's unfair.

You should simply talk to her and tell her you think the relationship is perhaps rushing a bit too fast, or your just not looking for a relationship at the moment, and then sort your head out and decide what you really do like.

[Nemo]

I have. so your saying im not a person? :'(
And why last year in school we learned about sex. They obviously want us to have it if they teach how to do it.wen i was in year 5 ( i was ermmm 9 :s ) they tought us bout it, we watched videos :P but it dont mean they want us 2 have sex

[Zenzi]

No. You're miss-leading her. End the relationship so that she can get with someone that actually wants to be with her... Physically and mentally. :(

[foxyfox00]

Just put it off for a bit and think about it.
Yio have to decide or you will hurt her more by going along with being straight and not saying anything.
Good Luck

[Zenzi]

Lol, i don't think many people care about the legal age limit anymore.

If your gay then why are you with her....if you don't like her then finish with her instead of stringing her a'long.

Never the less, he's still underage and shouldn't be doing it. The girl could say anything.

[Day.]

As some people have said NO!
You will be totally leading her on thinking that you are really interested in her and you will make her so upset in the long run. Just don't do it!

[Insanity]

Never the less, he's still underage and shouldn't be doing it. The girl could say anything.


+Rep .. Anyone that thinks there good by having underage sex needs a life -.- Serious consiqunces can arise from having sex at ayoung age, i should no.... Then they wonder why them when it happens and blame other people -.-

[bubble79]

If your girlfriend breaks up with you because you don't have sex with her then she's not the sort of person you want to be with anyway is it? You should both agree to have sex, so if you don't want it then don't do it. If you think you are definetely gay then it would be kindestto break up now, but if you'renot sure or think youre bi or something then just don't lead her on, and just be kind to her whatveer

[dirrty]

Sex isnt everything you know? At that age, all sex is, is wham bam thank you mam. Love isnt involved really. When your at a legal age and decide to have sex, think, do i really what to have sex and for what reason?

[Vibe]

Okay i have not read other comments.

Are you bisexual or just gay?

I will give more advice when answered.

Even if she does dump you because of not having sex its because, shes either not a good girlfriend. And if your gay dont that help things? :D

[:dallsgreen]

If you just did it with some other girl while you two were still dating I don't think you should, especially if this means more to her than you.

[@K]

[QUOTE=@K]
Oh really ;] I'm going to Spain soon heh.
Lmao time to get laid :)

[Rauhl]

dalls get ya facts rite he done it with a boy

[Jord]

WTH? Thats illegal if he's 13!


They don't have to have babies, they can use condoms.

[Þýðing]

the topic starter likes to copy and paste ropics from other forums and make it look like its his problem. I think he's copying this from another forum. He got cauht doin it 1ce

[sock]

I think your not gay, I think you like girls, and no you don't like her do you, you've had sex with another girl whilst you were dating her..

[:dallsgreen]

dalls get ya facts rite he done it with a boy

He didn't specify it was with a guy.

[Stab]

i actually think you should have sex with a guy then

[Pompous-User]

You will hurt her backside if you have sex with her when you are gay.

That Crotch-Pony-Tail of yours shouldn't slide up the wrong thing Mr.

[edible]

1. Im gay so im not physicaly attracted to her. So why are you with her exactly?
2. Ive just recently had sex with someone while I was still dating her. Why are you cheating on her ?
3. Im really confuzzed about my SEXUALITY now and I cant decide what I actualy like. Think about it for a bit, it'll help
4. Im worried that if I dont have sex with her she will stop the relationship. Is she just after sex ? If she is she isnt worth it.

I dont know what to do :cry:
Just remember, if YOU dont want to have sexual intercourse with her then dont.

Only do it if you want to and if you feel comfortable.

[Steven]

If you're gay why do you have a girlfriend? o_O


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[Flumples]

1. Im gay so im not physicaly attracted to her.
2. Ive just recently had sex with someone while I was still dating her.
3. Im really confuzzed about my SEXUALITY now and I cant decide what I actualy like.
4. Im worried that if I dont have sex with her she will stop the relationship.

I dont know what to do :cry:
Wth do you have a gf if you're gay? O.o

[Pyroka]

I say if you have sex with her even though youre gay, youre probably bisexual. Thatd be one of the reasons you probably ended up in this mess really, if youre attracted to girls in someway then you must be bi, or else she isnt really a girlfriend is she? Shes more of this girl you know who like, wants to have sex with you. That works. + Who was the person who you had sex with WHILE going out with this so called girlfriend?

Anyway, either you tell her or you dont, but it seems to me that youre unsure of your sexuality and in fact youre probably bisexual. :)

[Ry]

I had a very similar situation, i decided it wasn't fair on the girl, as it isn't and that i had to tell her the truth, anyway, she was really distressed and gutted, and promised to keep it secret, so anyway, i think for any situation like this, it isn't fair on the girl, all you will be doing is filling her with false hope, and god knows what else!

It isn't fair on her, you can break it off without telling her, but whatever you decide, thats my view, and there's no reason why you can't be best of friends.

[MusicPalace]

dude if ur gay NO and 2nd if she just wants sex she is not for you. In fact shes not for u in the 1st place, ur gay!

[BEYONCE 4]

um. if 1) you're not attracted to her then whats the point of the relationship? 2) if you're gay then uhm why you with a girl? 3) don't go sleeping behind peoples backs?!

uh its messed.

[hit-by-a-car]

do it, it will be great experince