Should I?

[Emicat.]

I'm thinking about coming out to a few close mates.

I've come out to 2 close lads and nothing really changed, but I want to tell some of my female mates and I don't know how to start.

I mean, I can't just go "Hey how are you I am bisexual kthnxbi". And how do I handle it if it gets out? AG. Helps?

[Zenzi]

My opinion: No.

If you have doubts, you shouldn't do it. Wait untill you know you want to come out 100%. That's the time. You'll know when, trust. :P

Trust your instincts.. It's what they're there for. xx

[Emicat.]

Well, its strange because I feel comfortable with one of my mates and not with the other because I feel that I would of left her out.

[HUGECOOL]

I feel that you should come out only if you feel the need to. There is no real need to come out other than having a bit more exposure, among other reasons. I really never tell anyone I'm bisexual unless they ask and I've been fine. All my friends know because they asked, so I never really had to do anything other than respond to their query. :]

[Pu$$y]

No dont, you probally wont know them in 10 years so there's no point!!!

[Ostinato]

It's all down to you.

Do you want them to know? What satisfaction will you get out of it? Like you said you have already told 2 people and nothing at all changed, so what difference is it going to make if you tell other people?

On the other hand, if you really want these people to know then you need to decide if it really is worth it and just sit them down and like just start getting talking about maybe boy's they like or something and then say... yeh I sorta like boys aswell as girls, or something along the lines of that...

[Zenzi]

I'm desperate to tell more friends, but i don't trust alot of them. I live in a small town and people there don't have alot to do. Therefore, juicy gossip spreads quickly

If i told someone at school that i was gay, it would eventually get around the whole school, and i would eventually hear somthing like

"Hey, did you know that Joe's gay and he fancies mr. whatshisface and he's had sex with that camp kid in 12TP.."

[Ostinato]

I'm desperate to tell more friends, but i don't trust alot of them. I live in a small town and people there don't have alot to do. Therefore, juicy gossip spreads quickly

If i told someone at school that i was gay, it would eventually get around the whole school, and i would eventually hear somthing like

"Hey, did you know that Joe's gay and he fancies mr. whatshisface and he's had sex with that camp kid in 12TP.."

Well then. You shouldn't tell anyone if you have doubts in your mind. I say wait a bit until your older, as your not actually going to get anything out of people knowing, apart from a whole load of folk talking and gossiping about you and a load of un-necessary grief!

[kreechin]

TBH coming out is hard for anyone, i had my problems, i had the name calling but as soon as all of the 'popular' lads realised that it didnt bother me they stopped and actualy took to the idea.
But thats just me, at the end of the day it can be a hard thing to do, if you dont feel ready to tell them then dont. Don't feel the need to do it just to do it.


No dont, you probally wont know them in 10 years so there's no point!!!


^^ Thats just rubbish. I ma not know my friends in what 10 years, but that was no reason for me to keep it from them :/

[Mentor]

Why do you need to tell them? ive never seen the issue? what difference would your sexualty make to them? if they ask fair enogh, but otherwize why bother?

[-Soph-]

If you feel 100% that you should, then do it, If not don't, the time will come when you feel its right to tell them

[Zenzi]

Why do you need to tell them? ive never seen the issue? what difference would your sexualty make to them? if they ask fair enogh, but otherwize why bother?

Because unless you're gay you'll never know what it feels like to carry that huge weight on your shoulders. The moment that the words "I'm Gay" Or "I'm a Lesbian" flee from your lips, you'll notice how much better you feel.

It *****s you up to keep such a secret inside and not be able to be yourself.

[-Soph-]

Because unless you're gay you'll never know what it feels like to carry that huge weight on your shoulders. The moment that the words "I'm Gay" Or "I'm a Lesbian" flee from your lips, you'll notice how much better you feel.

It *****s you up to keep such a secret inside and not be able to be yourself.


Thats a good way of putting it..