Divorce?

[Bef]

Okai, i live with my auntie and uncle, who are the closest thing to a mum and dad ive ever had, its all quite confusing but me and my ma don't get on and i aint seen my dad in time.

Anyway, they went out for a "romantic meal" tonight, i went for a couple of drinks in the pub, but by the time i returned world war 3 had been let loose.
I hate other people arguing so i just locked myself in my room and blasted music. Next thing, my aunties in the room asking my permission for them to seperate!

I just said i didn't want to get involved.
It ****es me off, just as everything goes good for me, somethings got to go wrong.

Theyve stopped arguing now and are sitting in seperate rooms, there both wrecked.
I don't want them to seperate but i don't want to be selfish, i know if there not happy then its for the best.

Problem is, im crap at talking about stuff like this irl. Guarantee tomorrow theyl both take me aside and try and get me to talk. I don't want to take sides, but i don't want it to seem like i don't care and i don't love them both cos i do.
Ive never had a proper family before them and theyve been so great to me over the past few years, theyve helped me through so many hard times. I always looked at them and thought thats how i would want my relationship to be one day and now look.

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

Just say that you appreciate them both, but their problems are between them, you still respect them both equally, and will support them both, no matter what their choice ;)

[Bef]

That sounds sensible... what if they start crying? I hate people crying, it makes me want to hit them.

[Ostinato]

Okai, i live with my auntie and uncle, who are the closest thing to a mum and dad ive ever had, its all quite confusing but me and my ma don't get on and i aint seen my dad in time.

Anyway, they went out for a "romantic meal" tonight, i went for a couple of drinks in the pub, but by the time i returned world war 3 had been let loose.
I hate other people arguing so i just locked myself in my room and blasted music. Next thing, my aunties in the room asking my permission for them to seperate!

I just said i didn't want to get involved.
It ****es me off, just as everything goes good for me, somethings got to go wrong.

Theyve stopped arguing now and are sitting in seperate rooms, there both wrecked.
I don't want them to seperate but i don't want to be selfish, i know if there not happy then its for the best.

Problem is, im crap at talking about stuff like this irl. Guarantee tomorrow theyl both take me aside and try and get me to talk. I don't want to take sides, but i don't want it to seem like i don't care and i don't love them both cos i do.
Ive never had a proper family before them and theyve been so great to me over the past few years, theyve helped me through so many hard times. I always looked at them and thought thats how i would want my relationship to be one day and now look.

Well it seems the argument may be alcohol fuelled, and a lot of people have arguments but regret them in the morning and get thing's sorted. See how things are in the morning, and if they speak to you about it just explain to them you don't want to be involved or taking sides, but you respect their decision whatever it may be - but also tell them how good a role they have been in your life and how much you appreciate them being there for you as a couple!

[sarey]

My parents divorced when i was 4, and when my dad returned back into my life, he used to use me to get back at my mum.

Just tell them you love them both and cannot choose if they ask you to go with them, if they do get a divorce, they both still love you, dont let them force you into taking sides.

If and when they do divorce, whoever you get placed with, the other parent has got visitation rights, so you will be able to see them both. If they start crying, explain that its what you feel, and that you dont want to be part of the arguements, and make them understand you love and need both of them, but you cannot take sides.

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

Are you sure your Dad used you to get back at your mother, or is that just what you've been told? I'm not doubting you, it's just that people always seem to blame the father...

[sarey]

This thread is about and for Bef, so lets keep it like that. :/

[foxyfox00]

Its not selfish for you too feel this way. Its totally normal.
Just tell them that you dont like them fighting and you dont want to get involved. Its also important to respect what they choose even if it hurts, overall its their life not yours.

Divorce is a funny thing it sepates people as lovers but it brings them closer as friends. Just try can tell them how you fell and that you dont want to get into thier divorce. Hopefully they will remian together

[Bef]

As there not my real parents and im over 16, there wont be any legal buisness. It will be solely down to me. My aunties gone to work and i aint a clue where my uncle is. Meh, i woke up this morning to them arguing again and just turned over and went back to sleep.

My auntie says its all about him being a **** his whole life and how he can't even see it. I dunoo. Cheers for your help, i guess all i can do is step aside but try and be there for the both of them

+Rep to all<3

[Many]

If it's not usually like that, then it could be a one off, everyone aruges I guess..
Let them cool off a little and everything will be fine, no divorce.
If not sit donw all 3 of you, and talk, talking solves everything. (most the time..)

[Minix]

It doesn't sound like that big of an argument, and, lets face it, you're old enough to have noticed if anything has been seriously wrong for the past three years.

If they've been together a while, and they're starting to get, um, kinda bored of their relationship, then try and get them to compromise more and show more love to each other. It might not work, but if they're having trouble communicating, communicate for them. Sounds like a really good thing you three have going on, and it'd be a shame to let it go.

Tell us all how things are going on in a week or to ;]

It'll probably blow over. Think optimistic thoughts.

[brandon]

Say you care for both of them equally, you wont take sides because you both love them the same, and for them to split up would tear you apart too :(

[Metric.]

My mom and dad got divorced when I was like 10 and my mom claims to still hate my dad but when ever I go to visit my dad my mom comes and she always wants to go over to his house and my mom and when we get there my mom acts all b****y to him and I can tell that she still likes him because they usually end up laughing and getting wasted. But I don't think they'll ever get back togeather, although it would be nice =)