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[WHANGFACE]

Ok, I think I'm just about ready to come out to my mates.. I just really have no idea how to.

What should I say, how should I approach them? Its all sorta new to me, idk what to do ;[

[Jooe!]

Just say, No need to beat around the bush, Some of the boys might feel a weird around you maybe :s But normaly the girls take it really well but will sterotype [Spelling?] like "omg we can go shopping" But maybe speak to one person at a time and other those you trust :)
Im out to some of my mates but i kind of wish i told none of them it likes they treat me different, so i would think twice before you do it, but you seem ready?
anyway hope that helped

[Nixt]

It could be different with you. My mates just realised, and didn't care. If you just tell them, get right out with it, then it should be okay.
If any of em do reject you [hopefully they won't] then they were not real friends anyway!

[WHANGFACE]

Well my best mate is a bit homophobic, but the way we been the last few days, we been really close. I've known him since we were about 2, and nothings ever came between us.. I just feel that this won't, but I know he feels weird around gay people.. I just really don't know.. ;[

[Jooe!]

Well my best mate is a bit homophobic, but the way we been the last few days, we been really close. I've known him since we were about 2, and nothings ever came between us.. I just feel that this won't, but I know he feels weird around gay people.. I just really don't know.. ;[
dnt tell him then, most teenage boys are homophobic, well most in my school,
but i wouldt tell him if i was you, but if you feel that close to him maybe, as you seem to be gd friends he should like you for who you are, not what you are.

[WHANGFACE]

i hope so.. its like hes told me stuff yesterday and day before he said hes never even thought of telling anyone else, he just said he can relate to me and he said nothing would change that...

but i got a feeling in my stomach this would... even if its slightly..

[Jooe!]

Well its a big thing, So maybe leave it for now as you dnt want it to ruin your friendship

[:Jamie]

Erm I wouldn't if you feel it would ruin your friendship, My best mate I known since 2 just like you but I wouldn't want to tell her or anyone untill were both more grown up maybe the situation would be better.

[brodeo]

Don't come out to wreck a friendship. Give your friends time to mature.

[Eternity]

Don't come out to wreck a friendship. Give your friends time to mature.

I agree with him ^^!
I'm not going to come out to anyone, at least until i've desided right, which will probably be in a year or two...

[WHANGFACE]

Yeah I know, why the hell would I do it to wreck a friendship? I only even thought about it coz I think hes practically guessed.

[Ostinato]

dnt tell him then, most teenage boys are homophobic, well most in my school


I disagree. You'll most likely find that teenage boys arn't actually homophobic, but their scared of getting into a friendship/talking to etc. a gay person, incase they'll be labelled gay aswell by the other 'macho' guys... :rolleyes:

Well, your still fairly young, and although you may be certain of your sexuality just now, you'd be surprised the amount of people who come out as gay, then a few years realise their actually not or it was just a phase they went through during puberty.

I say, you shouldn't do anything rash.

Think about it - your not actually going to get anything out of coming out? Fair enough, it might feel better and stuff - but why do people have to know your sexuality anyway? It's nothing to do with them... All you can really get out of this, is different treatment from your friends, as they'll think your a different person or something and try to treat you more feminine or something, and you other guys might try and keep out your way and stuff, which no-one deserves.

However, if you think you really are wanting to come out and are determined to, then I say go for it. If this friend of yours can't put his pesonal beliefs to the side for a long term friend, then he's not worth it.

[WHANGFACE]

I disagree. You'll most likely find that teenage boys arn't actually homophobic, but their scared of getting into a friendship/talking to etc. a gay person, incase they'll be labelled gay aswell by the other 'macho' guys... :rolleyes:

Well, your still fairly young, and although you may be certain of your sexuality just now, you'd be surprised the amount of people who come out as gay, then a few years realise their actually not or it was just a phase they went through during puberty.

I say, you shouldn't do anything rash.

Think about it - your not actually going to get anything out of coming out? Fair enough, it might feel better and stuff - but why do people have to know your sexuality anyway? It's nothing to do with them... All you can really get out of this, is different treatment from your friends, as they'll think your a different person or something and try to treat you more feminine or something, and you other guys might try and keep out your way and stuff, which no-one deserves.

However, if you think you really are wanting to come out and are determined to, then I say go for it. If this friend of yours can't put his pesonal beliefs to the side for a long term friend, then he's not worth it.
I think some boys might feel a bit weird around them as they probaly have it into their minds that if someones gay its gunna mean he hits on every boy in sight, and obv. its not the correct suspicion... I really wanna do it, as I know it will be a massive weight of my shouders, and I really could do with that at the moment really.. But thats the thing I'm worried about, people pushing me away. But Myles knows someone who is lesbian, and he acts totally fine with her. I just really don't know. But you have helped alot, thank you :]