Confedience

[laurenx]

Most of my friends say that I dont talk and I am a bit shy. Yes, I can be shy most of the time. I put 100 % in trying to talk in a conversation and all that. I just need to know how can I boost up my confedience? I don't really like being shy you see. I just need my confedience back, anyway reasons HOW? Thanks +REP to good replies.

[Rizla]

Swear at a teacher.

[Ostinato]

Swear at a teacher.

I doubt that'd help, but all suggestions are welcome I guess... :rolleyes:

The only real way you can become 'confident', is just by gradually coming out of your shell. It isn't an overnight thing, and you don't suddenly just wake up one morning confident.

I used to be quite a shy person when I was younger, but now I'm a really loud, bubbly, fun and confident sort of person.

I just don't really care what other people think of me, and they can take me as I am and if they don't like it then that's their problem - not mine. I just started talking to people, and gradually just got to know about everyone - haha.

Just start talking to people, and don't allow other people to dominate the conversations, while your pushed to the back. Stand up for yourself and make yourself heard hehe - because honestly, when your more outgoing etc you'll enjoy yourself much more.

You could perhaps try joining some sort of afterschool/during school club? Badminton? Dancing..? Something like that... ;P - And that way you will get the opportunity to meet lots of new people and make friends! :]

[laurenx]

I doubt that'd help, but all suggestions are welcome I guess... :rolleyes:

The only real way you can become 'confident', is just by gradually coming out of your shell. It isn't an overnight thing, and you don't suddenly just wake up one morning confident.

I used to be quite a shy person when I was younger, but now I'm a really loud, bubbly, fun and confident sort of person.

I just don't really care what other people think of me, and they can take me as I am and if they don't like it then that's their problem - not mine. I just started talking to people, and gradually just got to know about everyone - haha.

Just start talking to people, and don't allow other people to dominate the conversations, while your pushed to the back. Stand up for yourself and make yourself heard hehe - because honestly, when your more outgoing etc you'll enjoy yourself much more.

You could perhaps try joining some sort of afterschool/during school club? Badminton? Dancing..? Something like that... ;P - And that way you will get the opportunity to meet lots of new people and make friends! :]

That's a really good post. Thanks, +REP.

I do try alot when I met new friends, I talk, so yeah. I'll keep going as I am at the moment (Talking and joining in) and I'll see what happens. I love going out and whenever I am at a disco/party I always like dance for ages. Like I said thanks for the help!

[Ree...]

if u fink sumfin
say it
coz evryone else is probs finkin the same fing n will join in a conversation bwt it wiv ya!!


well
it dnt work for me coz i fink of stupid fings but it shud work 4 u

[Rizla]

Ostinato makes a habbit of putting down my advice :(

[Ostinato]

Ostinato makes a habbit of putting down my advice :(

Lol I don't! I just don't see how swearing at a teacher is going to help boost her confidence? It'll simply get her into bother, and put her behind with work etc.

When I post contradicting anyones points or advice, it is in no way personal, amd I am simply giving a contrasting idea for the thread started to see both points of view. :)



Glad you felt I've helped and good luck! :]

[laurenx]

Lol I don't! I just don't see how swearing at a teacher is going to help boost her confidence? It'll simply get her into bother, and put her behind with work etc.

When I post contradicting anyones points or advice, it is in no way personal, amd I am simply giving a contrasting idea for the thread started to see both points of view. :)



Glad you felt I've helped and good luck! :]


Ostinato makes a habbit of putting down my advice :(

Don't you just love it when people are talking about you! :P

[Rizla]

I'm only kidding :p I pick the threads I give advice in, usually when advice is actually needed. Yeah, you can ask advice on little problems, but, at the risk of sounding harsh, it usually just comes off as whining to me :(

[Ostinato]

I'm only kidding :p I pick the threads I give advice in, usually when advice is actually needed. Yeah, you can ask advice on little problems, but, at the risk of sounding harsh, it usually just comes off as whining to me :(

Lol, fair enough - we're all entitled to our opinions! hehe! :P

I treat every post and thread as the same, and don't give anyone more priority than another. I give each user as good advice as I can, no matter how big or small their problem is.

In this case, I'm glad my advice has been effective for her and hopefully it will pay off! :]

[-Soph-]

I was like this in yr7ish and before that.

You just eventally come out of your shell, You've just got to learn not to care what people think of you..
Make your presence known.. But in a good way obviously.
Try to talk more to people.

[foxyfox00]

Basically alot of people arent really confident.
They fake it. Lol I do just pretend you incharge of the situation.
If you really shy take it slow, Sit next to some random person in class
or talk to someone at the bus stop.
Every little bit helps

Goodluck!

[laurenx]

Basically alot of people arent really confident.
They fake it. Lol I do just pretend you incharge of the situation.
If you really shy take it slow, Sit next to some random person in class
or talk to someone at the bus stop.
Every little bit helps

Goodluck!

Thanks + REP


I was like this in yr7ish and before that.

You just eventally come out of your shell, You've just got to learn not to care what people think of you..
Make your presence known.. But in a good way obviously.
Try to talk more to people.

Thanks +REP aswell

[Tanya]

basically just want everybody else has said. dont be afriad to say something because of other people, try not to care what they think

[Jamie!]

I used to be fairly shy compared to the people I doss with but im starting to get alot more confident. I just stopped caring about what people say and just get on with thing and speak your mind, but didn't go over the top :]

[Machine Head]

I doubt that'd help, but all suggestions are welcome I guess... :rolleyes:

The only real way you can become 'confident', is just by gradually coming out of your shell. It isn't an overnight thing, and you don't suddenly just wake up one morning confident.

Exactly. I'm just starting to come out of my shell now, because I'm starting to get older etc. :P

[Mentor]

Do somthing exseedingly random, come in dressed in a stupidly over the top costume on a chairty day, or somthing. Once yourve done something like that you dont realy have much of an exsuse to be shy anymore :p

[betty345!]

Drama, Drama, Drama!! It brings you right of your shell. Especially when you think, most of the people who you preform infront of you won't know you, So if you did anything wrong. They're not likely to tease you for it?

In year 7 i was like OMG i cant preform infront of my form, now i've preformed infront of the whole school, year 11's parents/family. All the teachers, which came to about 1800 people. and i'm in year 10. It took me about 3 years, so it's not an overnight thing :-P

[Joord]

Be a LITTLE bit naughty at school, and have a laugh with the people around you. But don't turn it into a habbit.

[laurenx]

basically just want everybody else has said. dont be afriad to say something because of other people, try not to care what they think

Thats the problem, I try to but then I'm like, no i can't. +rep


I used to be fairly shy compared to the people I doss with but im starting to get alot more confident. I just stopped caring about what people say and just get on with thing and speak your mind, but didn't go over the top :]

Thank you! +rep


Exactly. I'm just starting to come out of my shell now, because I'm starting to get older etc. :P

I guess you've had experience! lol. Thank you for the comment +rep



Do somthing exseedingly random, come in dressed in a stupidly over the top costume on a chairty day, or somthing. Once yourve done something like that you dont realy have much of an exsuse to be shy anymore :p

Mabye not, of wise I'd be too freaky! Thanks anyway!


Drama, Drama, Drama!! It brings you right of your shell. Especially when you think, most of the people who you preform infront of you won't know you, So if you did anything wrong. They're not likely to tease you for it?

In year 7 i was like OMG i cant preform infront of my form, now i've preformed infront of the whole school, year 11's parents/family. All the teachers, which came to about 1800 people. and i'm in year 10. It took me about 3 years, so it's not an overnight thing :-P

I HATE drama! I get all nervous. Last week, we had to learn a line something like 'Tis is art though' blah blah, I didn't learn it properly. So I got my book, which had the words and focused! When it was my turn, I remembered all of it! But I guess that was ok. Then, we done a story thing, so if someone throws a ball, you say 'It was a summery day and all of a sudden..' then you pass it to another person then you sit down once you've had your go. Miss told me to start first, lol. So I said 2 lines, forgot something like 'It was a nice morning..' and then People started pointing at me, but I didn't care. You see, since primary school, Whenever in class a teacher asks me something like 'What is 103 x 29' I go red, and I say nothing. Nothing, at all. Then everyone laughs and go 'SHE IZ GOING RED!!!!1!!!11' :l I get frustated sometimes, but now I hardly go red, so I think I am improving something.


Be a LITTLE bit naughty at school, and have a laugh with the people around you. But don't turn it into a habbit.

I do have a laugh with people!

Thanks for all your comments! On thursday (2 days ago) I started weirdly talking to my friends! All my friends started saying 'Oh my god. Lauren is talking!' and then there like 'yeah, I spoke to her earlier!' I felt really proud of myself, I was achieving something, and now on I carried on talking. So next week I am talking more! Thanks guys, and if you have any comments, please say!

[Dan2nd]

Drama, Drama, Drama!! It brings you right of your shell. Especially when you think, most of the people who you preform infront of you won't know you, So if you did anything wrong. They're not likely to tease you for it?

In year 7 i was like OMG i cant preform infront of my form, now i've preformed infront of the whole school, year 11's parents/family. All the teachers, which came to about 1800 people. and i'm in year 10. It took me about 3 years, so it's not an overnight thing :-P

To be honest this didn't help me I hated drama! lol I think my problem was I started off shy and for the rest of my school life everyone knew me as this I came out of my shell when I started college I made a new group of friends and I am now one of the loud ones ! There is one boy called Inderpal who never talks andI always try to get him involved ! so you could try and make a new group of mates outside school somehow maybe joining a club or something hope it dosn't sound to dorky or even go to social events such as partys

or if your old enough you could get a job? this is something which also helped me I used to hate talking to people I don't know but now I work in Waitrose (super market) and just go up to random people and ask them if they need help.

I hope you see what I'm getting at all you have to do is go to new places and meet new people !
hope I've helped

[Memmish]

You dont sound very shy to me, you said you dance lots at parties and talk to people, its weird that your friends would suggest you're shy. It seems like you are on the right path to becoming more out-going. good luck and have fun! x

[Carlos]

I read a book called "Feel the fear and do it anyway", it was pretty life changing. Hope that helps.

[-Dispute]

it is hard, i used to have it, try talking to the other sex from you, and maybe join a drama class, that boosts your confidence!

[Stab]

Im not sure if its fair to say,

but if you don't act like you are oozing with confidence, youll never have confidence.

that little saying helps some people.

[laurenx]

To be honest this didn't help me I hated drama! lol I think my problem was I started off shy and for the rest of my school life everyone knew me as this I came out of my shell when I started college I made a new group of friends and I am now one of the loud ones ! There is one boy called Inderpal who never talks andI always try to get him involved ! so you could try and make a new group of mates outside school somehow maybe joining a club or something hope it dosn't sound to dorky or even go to social events such as partys


or if your old enough you could get a job? this is something which also helped me I used to hate talking to people I don't know but now I work in Waitrose (super market) and just go up to random people and ask them if they need help.

I hope you see what I'm getting at all you have to do is go to new places and meet new people !
hope I've helped

Thanks! This has helped me +rep

You dont sound very shy to me, you said you dance lots at parties and talk to people, its weird that your friends would suggest you're shy. It seems like you are on the right path to becoming more out-going. good luck and have fun! x

I do go out, parties and all that. I try and not to think about people, thinking about me as who they 'think' I am, which I'm not. I am quite shy. Thanks anyway +rep


I read a book called "Feel the fear and do it anyway", it was pretty life changing. Hope that helps.

Ooh, I must read that! +rep

it is hard, i used to have it, try talking to the other sex from you, and maybe join a drama class, that boosts your confidence!

I have lots of guy mates, I get on well with them, and I think I talk more to them, then my other mates. I think it is because they don't know me that well, and I don't care what they think about me.

Im not sure if its fair to say,

but if you don't act like you are oozing with confidence, youll never have confidence.

that little saying helps some people.

I wouldn't say that, all these people have been saying how they boost thier confedience..so why can't I?

Thanks anyway! Drama tommorow :(