How to be Popular?

[Mesea]

K, when i was in year 6, i was soo popular. Everyone liked me and respected me and i was funny and everytin. I enjoyed it soo much. Now that im in year 9, i aint popular. People call me geek coz i do good in my class work, i look nutin like a geek. How can i be popular. Whenever i try to say sumat, these 2 people in my class stop me, coz they absolutely hate me, but others like them. So what can i do? ty

MY LIFE IS HELL, and i feel like commiting suicide but im still thinking =[
and its not just coz im not popular,

[Tanya]

being popular means people like you for you, you cant be popular because then you wouldnt be yourself, if that makes any sense?

& anyway, being popular isnt all its cracked up to be!

[Wootzeh]

You're pathetic, thinking of comitting suicide just because you aren't 'popular'. People have much worse lives. Just be popular with your own bunch of friends, no need for everyone to like you.

[Slash]

not being 'popular' shouldn't make you want to commit suicide.
hundreds of thousands of people have worse lives.
don't change, if you carry on working hard and well, you'll do well in the future.

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

I was dying to say that :p

That was to what ChuckNorris said.

[DCeption]

Half the people who are "popular" are idiots anyways, im not unpopular but im not one that everybody knows. Just stick to your own group as they like you for who you are!

[brandon]

How to Be Popular
The meek may inherit the earth, but high school will still belong to the popular people. Want to be one of them? It doesn’t mean you have to change who you are or what you care about, but you may have to challenge yourself in ways you never considered before. If you decide you’d like to jumpstart your life and become popular, here are some steps to help you reach your goal. See you at the prom!
Evaluate the reasons why you want to become popular. Are you just trying to impress other people, and be accepted into a certain clique, or are you trying to make more friends and improve your enjoyment in life? You won’t have much success or happiness unless you are doing it for the right reasons.
Be comfortable with yourself. This is the most important quality you can have. If you like yourself and present a confident image, it will be much easier to have others see that and want to be around you. Once you are okay with being alone and happy with who you are, it’ll be easier to make friends.
Relax. When you strike up a conversation, don't always be wondering what the other person is thinking. Just let the conversation flow. If you get too tense, then something negative will get across. While you maybe thinking "Wow, I sound so geeky," your face could be saying "I don't want to talk to this freak."
Be assertive and outgoing. Friends aren’t just going to throw themselves at you, especially not if you’ve had a not-so-popular image for years. Even if you are naturally shy, you’re going to have to come out of your shell a little bit and put yourself in social situations. Don’t be afraid to go and sit at a new table at lunch, or strike up a conversation with the person next to you in study hall. Avoid thinking about whether or not you’re "cool" enough to talk to a certain person, rather, let that person see why they should want to talk to you.
Share something about yourself - it doesn't have to be big, just funny incidents or mishaps that will make people laugh (and not totally creep them out.) Believe it or not, laughter often makes people feel more comfortable around you - making it more likely that they'll recall you as someone they'll like to hang around with.
Get involved. One of the easiest ways to meet people is to participate in school activities, such as athletic teams, community service projects, or artistic groups. Being part of a group automatically fosters some formation of relationships, and can give you the added confidence you need to feel popular. Don’t be worried about whether a certain group is cool or not; choose something that fits your interests and talents, and eventually people will recognize you for the good qualities you have. You don’t need to be a cheerleader or football player to be popular.
Create your style. While many of the popular kids may wear the same kinds of clothes and have the same haircuts, this does not mean that simply changing these things about yourself will make you popular. Don’t go overboard with style changes, as it will only make you look like you are trying too hard. Instead, look at your hair and clothing as a chance to present yourself in the best light. Maybe a new, shorter haircut will help you to show off your eyes and smile, or that fashionable pair of jeans is just the confidence booster you’ve been looking for. A change can be a powerful thing. Tailor the latest trends to your own ideas, and put forth an image that makes you feel good.
Take pride in your appearance. If you’re trying to attract people to you, being clean is a definite plus. Showering every day, as well as using deodorant and cleaning your ears, etc, is an easy way to maintain yourself as someone people won’t mind being around. Washing your face regularly is also recommended, as it will be important to put your best face forward, and acne can definitely bring down your confidence level. For girls, makeup can be an option.
Jump in the pool. Or do something else unexpected. What this means is, sometimes to get yourself noticed, you may have to put yourself out there in ways you hadn’t considered. Maybe this means going up and talking to the girl no one else will, or dancing crazily at the next formal. Let yourself go. You’ll be surprised how good it can make you feel, and how people respect a person who goes against the crowd and does what s/he wants. Make sure you don’t just become a ‘novelty’ who amuses others with his/her antics, however.
Develop relationships. As you begin to meet people, don’t just treat them as items on a checklist. Find out what they like to do, their interests, and learn about them as people. You’re trying to make friends, not just be known. Also, be sure to keep in touch with your old friends—you don’t want them to think you’ve forgotten about them just because you’re making new ones. Don’t exclude anyone.
Don’t think too hard. Being popular is as much a state of mind as anything else. If people see you trying too hard to be popular, they will usually dismiss your efforts. Just continue to believe in yourself, and it won’t be long before others follow your lead.
Give out as many or even more compliments than you receive.
Be known for your talents, though not in a showy and annoying way. If a large group of people feel you will become famous for your talents, this is an amazingly fast way to increase popularity and especially recognition in your school.
Even if it seems like the "popular" thing to do, don't have sex to gain popularity. You don't have to do everything that others are doing for them to like who you are. Abstinence aside, the consequences of premarital sex are just to high for a young man/woman. Waiting until you've tied the knot is safest, but that doesn't mean safe sex before the honeymoon is out of the question. Be legal, responsible and careful!
Study hard. Being popular doesn’t mean being stupid. Participate in class, do your homework, and don’t be afraid to be known as a smart girl. Just be sure you leave plenty of time for social activities. Let people know that academics are important to you, but are not your whole life. Show ‘em you know how to have fun, too!
Don't leave your old friends, you can be friends with whoever you want to.
Make sure your appearance is not in competition with anybody else. To learn how to improve your appearance, see related wikiHows.

Tips
Not everyone is going to like you. Be able to accept that and, if necessary, talk to the person about it. You don’t have to be friends with everyone, just handle the situation with respect and courtesy.
Talk to your parents about the changes you are making in your life, and explain to them your reasoning. They are likely to be concerned that their child is acting differently.
If you have curfews or rules that frustrate you and you think hinder you from doing the "popular" things, remember that even the coolest kids have parents and rules... everyone goes through it. Hey, give your parents a break once in awhile for trying- use that Friday night at home to catch up on magazine reading or even homework.
Be a good student. It is a common misperception that if you’re doing well in school, you’re a nerd. You can be popular and keep a high grade point average.
Leave some time just for you. Once you are popular, you may be busy with a lot of friends and activities. Make sure you still have time to be alone and reflect.
One rule is "never be embarrassed". Embarrassment shows weakness. It's OK to show emotions, but not weakness! Let those awkward moments pass you by like they're nothing but another era of your life! (Extra Comment: It's not necessarily bad to be embarrassed, it may happen at some point whether you like it or not. But the way you handle it can be even more important than what happens. Accept whatever happened, focus on how to avoid it, and forgive and forget!!! It will happen to everyone in time... and if not... who cares, you learned something for yourself!!!)
Don't care so much--other people can tell if you're trying too hard!
Never underestimate the importance of good grooming (shower every day; use deodorant), physical fitness, and a nice, sincere smile. This holds if you're a punk, jock, geek, goth, prep, or anything beyond or in between.
Don't just dump your friends that you already have.You can be friends with any one you want to. But if you decide to dump your friends, maybe you should talk to to them and explain that you feel like you are growing distant from them, and that your interests have changed. You don't need to completely write off your old friends to have new ones. Just don't blow them off. That's mean and will jeopardize your future friendships. If they see you treating someone badly, there is no guarantee you won't do that to your next friend.
Get a MySpace page, if you feel the need, and learn something new. But if you want to do something risk-free, that has no chance of giving out information about you that is deadly in the wrong, and probably present hands, you can do one of many things. Some good ideas are keeping a scrapbook or diary, getting the emails of close friends and family and dishing it out to them, or... write a how-to on Wikipedia!!! Then people who might have tried to harm you with information that wasn't theirs will be replaced by people who are there to let you open up and trust them!
Tea tree oil is a brilliant way of dealing with teenage skin problems. Look out for products which include it as an ingredient, or simply use pure tea tree oil(undiluted) and dab a little onto spots or irritations.
Summer is a great time to work on some of these changes. You can exercise outdoors so you look better and change your hair and style. You can also more easily sever ties with anyone you'd like to distance yourself from.

Warnings
Don’t do dangerous/stupid things in order to become popular, such as smoking, drinking, drunk driving, or illegal drugs. You’ll only be putting yourself at risk, and none of these things will make people think you are cool. Actually, you will be prima facie cool, but you might be in danger.
Popularity as a teen is no guarantee of popularity as an adult. Likewise, unpopular teens often grow up into popular adults.
If many people (over 10 or 20, let's say) sincerely believe you will become extremely famous, and you don't become famous, who knows what will happen? You aren't famous, while maybe they are. Then you will want revenge. That's not good.
Do realize that being popular has its downsides. If you wish to be left alone, stick with being part of smaller groups, but who knows? Maybe you will find the far reaches of popularity your kind of thing.
Popularity may make you some enemies or rivals. Do not be humiliated by them or angered, try to understand them. If they don't mellow down, then they are either harassing you and should be reported or whatever, or are just very helpless and do not need to be bothered more. Just be friendly, and keep out of their bubble. Then they will probably stay out of yours. If they are political enemies, make sure to hire some bodyguards.
Try not to swear. When people swear most people just think that you are desperately trying to be cool and wont want to be friends with you.
Myspace can be a very dangerous website, be careful how much info you give out on it.
Popularity, in the end, is only partly about how others see you. Your reputation may fade and change over time, and the only thing you can/should do about that is stay absolutely true to yourself. Take these tips for your personal benefit (not in a greedy, manipulative way!) just think about what is important to you and will always be. And don't be dependent on your popularity, that again, is focusing too much on your reputation. The more you do this for the right reasons, the better you will be, and probably be seen.

[GoldenMerc]

Slack in work if they still call you a geek stick up for your self push them around show them what your life is like,You shoulnt let people push you around,thats the mistake i made then i got bullied.

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

Yeah, if you're getting this down about it, throw some fists, what's the worst that can happen? You get battered, but people know they can't mess you around.

[Fomas]

Tut this is so sad...
When you get into year 11, you will actually realise being popular is nothing.
I think the whole idea of being popular is sad.

In college, everyone talks to everyone.
I forgot naiive people think like this.

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

I'm the same, I don't really care if everyone likes me, but it seems to mean I get on with most people :p

[Machine Head]

You're pathetic, thinking of comitting suicide just because you aren't 'popular'. People have much worse lives. Just be popular with your own bunch of friends, no need for everyone to like you.

And you're blind ;l


K, when i was in year 6, i was soo popular. Everyone liked me and respected me and i was funny and everytin. I enjoyed it soo much. Now that im in year 9, i aint popular. People call me geek coz i do good in my class work, i look nutin like a geek. How can i be popular. Whenever i try to say sumat, these 2 people in my class stop me, coz they absolutely hate me, but others like them. So what can i do? ty

MY LIFE IS HELL, and i feel like commiting suicide but im still thinking =[
and its not just coz im not popular,

I think it would be better if you weren't popular, you actually have more friends.

Popular is when everyone talks about you, and heard of you - it doesn't mean they like you.

However if you're not popular, you do have friends. You can go places without being crowded by a bunch of people and can have a better time at school :)

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

So why mention it if it has nothing to do with the problem she is asking about? Emo, I reckon.

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[Machine Head]

So why mention it if it has nothing to do with the problem she is asking about? Emo, I reckon.

Actually, it is related to the topic ;l

And I'm not emo ;)


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[WhatDidIdoNow?]

It's not, the topic is about her not being popular. And I meant her.

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[Machine Head]

It's not, the topic is about her not being popular. And I meant her.

Exactly, and the post I made is about being popular ;l

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[WhatDidIdoNow?]

Doesn't matter, you don't quite get what I'm saying.

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[-:Undertaker:-]

Most of the Popular Kids in my School are morons who Smoke, Vandelise, Hurt People, Bully People and are stupid - Just be YOURSELF !

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

What school?
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[Mentor]

Depends what you mean by popular o.0

[Tanya]

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[Chaz]

"People call me geek coz i do good in my class work"-So? You will be the one in an office earning £100's an hour whilst there labeling baked bean cans at tesco?

[Azul]

follow my lead.

[FlyingJesus]

Half the people who are "popular" are idiots anyways

Tru dat. I'm well popular and I'm an absolute {insert rude word here}. However, I'm perfectly happy with it, as are other popular kids. You learn not to be so liberal as to give a toss about other people's feelings when you're that high up.

[BL!NKEY]

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Sorry I had to.

[FlyingJesus]

Hahahaha that's genius!

[betty345!]

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LMAO SORRY HAD TO DO IT

Okay, popular wth? All the popular people are wierdos who think they're so kl. when really they're just the talk of the school because everyone is nice to their face, and *****es about them behind their back. Srsly, if you want to be popular you're lame. I'm popular with the friends i want to be with. I don't like it when people try to be something they ain't. These people who i hang around with are like my only good friends, not people i hate and hang around for, for rep...
Sorry I had to.

[JonJonStress]

You sound so like me... minus the suicide. Sure, it sucks because it's like if people don't like me, they hate me.

[DCeption]

Slack in work if they still call you a geek stick up for your self push them around show them what your life is like,You shoulnt let people push you around,thats the mistake i made then i got bullied.

Slaking in work is going to do nothing, i would rather be unpopular for a couple more years, but at the end of it have real friends and a good job, and be able to laugh at all the "popular" kids who failed.

Edit: Lmao flying :P

[foxyfox00]

Why would you care about being popular it doesnt make you a better person.
As said before you might be popular but not really liked or be a friend.
Alot of popular people just use you. Alot are also nice people.

When you get older you dont really care about being popular.
You will mature to learnt that [hopefully].

[infatuation]

lmao.
suicide because you're not popular anymore.
OMG CALL DA POLEECE.
no but seriously, being popular is nothing.. So what if I am? It's nothing special, you just hang out with less people, and you get talked about. "/

[Eamonn]

LOOOLOLLLLLLLL

[omgabear]

Yea. Your passing your subjects and will get a decent job, there failing and will be working at maccas.

Sucks to be you eh?

[Joord]

Not all popular people are dumb. I'm top for all my subjects. But at my school, a geek isn't what you get bullied for.

[Tanya]

everyone whos popular at my school are usually quite clever

[Eamonn]

Not all popular people are dumb. I'm top for all my subjects. But at my school, a geek isn't what you get bullied for.
you actually call yourself popular AHAHAHA soz but you call your self popular ahahah you must think highly of yourself ahaha

[FlyingJesus]

Yeah I call myself popular, because I know I am.. and also I do think pretty highly of myself, I don't see why I shouldn't. I'm not some little depressed pessimist, I'd rather be happy than not. Cheers whoever bad repped me saying I'm up myself haha, state the obvious why don't you. In my experience people who dislike people who are "up themselves" are simply jealous because they don't feel good about themselves.

[WhatDidIdoNow?]

If everyone wants to talk to you, or nobody has a bad word for you, then you're popular. It's that simple.

[RedStratocas]

People know when theyre popular, knowing your social status isnt something about thinking highly of yourself.
Im not a very popular person but I talk to a lot of different people. Just dont be afraid to talk. The #1 thing that I have learned over the years is [litterally] keep your head up. It actually means a lot.

[iluvben]

being confident and being yourself i think?

[RedStratocas]

being confident and being yourself i think?

Eh, it isnt always that easy. I know a lot of extremely confident people who arent popular. It really does depend on personality.

[Tanya]

People know when theyre popular, knowing your social status isnt something about thinking highly of yourself.

i agree. its people who think theyre better than other people because theyre popular which does my head in

[RedStratocas]

i agree. its people who think theyre better than other people because theyre popular which does my head in

Yeah, knowing youre popular is different than thinking youre better than everyone

[alexxxxx]

People talk about me behind my back, but it ain't cos I'm popular. :( x]

I have fun, I don't need to be 'popular.'

[RedStratocas]

;2225501']I have fun, I don't need to be 'popular.'

Thats the best way too look at it. It might sound cliche or lame to some people, but its true. As long as youre having fun, it really doesnt matter.

[FlyingJesus]

i agree. its people who think theyre better than other people because theyre popular which does my head in

Darned :(

Nah I'm not really that up myself, but like Mr Red said - I know that I'm popular. It does push the ego inflation button somewhat, because it's nice to have lots of people liking you, but I know my boundaries.

[Memmish]

The best thing to do at school is just work hard and get good results, as soon as you get to college everybody talks to everybody and it doesnt matter whether you were popular at your last school or not. Good results mean a great future and as long as you have some friends you will be fine. Spend time with the people you do like and ignore the ones who you don't.

hope your ok <3

[Tinsual]

I'd never want to be popular, as when your popular u get "fake mates" and you turn evil.

just ingnore hte geeks, and stop wanting ot be popular again:)

they are the ones who wont get a good paying job in the future:)

[allykin]

popular people are the main people that have no life.
i hanged with popular people and i turned a bit dint like scvhool but i hanged with different people there popular but there real friends and care about there work so unless you dont wanna do no work and get crp results then be so but the main popular people dont cares about work.

[Rizla,]

"Popular" people aren't real mates? Not in my school, in my school there are very few people who don't have close mates.

[FlyingJesus]

Loving how people assume that being popular means you are a horrible person with fake friends. I'm popular - that doesn't mean I'm up myself, it means I have lots of friends and I know it. I do of course have a few groups of close chums (I'm lucky enough to have quite a number of people that I like a lot), and yes there are people who I consider "friends" but aren't really that close to me, but that doesn't make them fake.

[Rizla,]

They presume because they don't like the so-called popular kids, nobody else does :( Popular doesn't mean known, known and popular are different as far as I'm concerned. Popular people are known, but not all known people are popular.

[FlyingJesus]

Yeah like the rat-kid in my last school. He was well known but no-one liked him.

[LiveToDie]

Popularity is Over-rated.

[Rockerboi6]

k grow up

[dirrty]

Education is more important then popularity.

[allykin]

true. ,

[Rizla,]

Yeah like the rat-kid in my last school. He was well known but no-one liked him.
I liked Ratty, he was a cool guy once you got to know him :(

[FrozenWhisper]

Just be yourself, the popular people at my school suck, there are afew nice ones. Most of them call me a "spoff" (same as geek) and I just go, "Atleast I'll get a good job ;)"

[MsTanya]

popular people arent usually nice anyway, if that makes sense? it sometimes goes to their head too much

[alexxxxx]

Meh, I don't think I'm popular, but i get on with everybody and they like meee =]

[-Dispute]

maybe lack of confidence, sounds like there abit jelous of the fact your doing well, just ignore them for now, if it gets bad, tell a teacher, they will keep a eye out. good luck mate

[Midnight.Rose]

Ok, well at the end of the day no offence but you will never be popular. These people who are nasty to you are "popular" and people look up to them, which is sad. But all i can say is, to make people like you more, you have to be happy like all the time, be funny but not too funny, be caring and be confident in yourself. Walk into school with you head held high and smile and people will want to be around you.

[Ezzie.]

I used to be picked on when i was in year 7, i'm in year 11 now and everyone knows me and likes me in my school, I just be myself, all this popular crap is rubbish, the "it" crowd actually aren't that popular, more hated