Shy problem + rep

[-Undiscovered]

Okay, so i like a guy from my tennis group, i told my mate and she went and told him, he doesnt believe her? What does this mean, he doesnt want to?

I cant speak to him, not now even more, i hate the way i look and i dont think i will ever get a boyfriend, but anyway how do you speak to lads, what i say, people say flirt what is flirting? what do you do?

Please help me, its making me hate myself whenever i see boyfriend and girl friend, i just wish , why cant it be me. :blue_sad

[brandon]

The fact he is in denial could show that he has feelings for you too, and also could be a bit shy. Maybe get your mate to hint for you to find out if he feels the same way. Also flirting comes naturally, I do it for a joke quite a bit, sweet talking and winking in a kinky way does it for me!

[Ree...]

just look at them as a mate
if u rly like sum1 u will find it hard to talk to them at first but if u pluck up the courage once u get talkin u just wont be able to stop
just go for it it will be fine

[:James:]

It probably means that he wants to hear it from you.

[-Undiscovered]

I hope so , thanks for advice, i will try talking to him when i see him, i repped you but ree i cant rep you i given to rep recently, so i will try and remeber to give it to you. thanks. :)

[Lµke]

I uset to be the same with girls i liked at around 13/14. I mean i just uset to go up and chat to them, get to know them abit more. Then flirt, and if there not interested you will know by there body language and actions back towards you.


Also he might of thought your friend was joking or trying to wind him up by saying you liked him.

[Jamie!]

Yeah, he probably likes you if he doesn't beleive that you do like him and wants to hear it from you. You don't have to go straight upto him and tell him, just go up and ask for his number or something.

[Eternity]

He definately likes you, alot. The fact he doesn't believe you means he's in denial a girl like YOU could like him.

you have self concious issues, just look at yourself in the mirror, think of how others look and think... i'm prettier than them? If people are telling you otherwise, they're obviously jealous of your looks or your abilities etc?

as for flirting, flirting is like eye contact, fooling around, hugging, seductive clothing, seductive reactions & mannerisms. It's hard to explain really.

[ReviewDude]

First of all, from a guy's perspective, a friend of a girl asking you is always a difficult situation. I mean, you're pressured because you don't want to say 'no' because you'll hurt their feelings - yet you can't say 'yes' in case they're joking. So you have to look for an answer that leans neither way. In this case, it was him saying he doesn't believe her.

People who say "he definitely likes you" or "he's hiding his feelings" can't really tell. Whilst it could be true - you're going to have to ask him yourself. Or better yet, get to know him first :)

Good luck!

[omgabear]

He could be scared too. If he thought it couldnt be true then he might have feelings back.

Ask him yourself, dont get a friend. It will show your character, also... if you need friends to ask questions like that, your going to get nowhere with the relationship.

Give it a shot :P and best of luck!

[Ostinato]

First of all, it's all just mind over matter!

Think about it - what's the worst that can happen by just going up and talking to him/other boys? There not going to attack you - and if they say something snide or whatever, then that's their loss and your better than them, and you can find better, more respectable people to be talking to in that case!

I think you should just try and talk to this guy. Think about it though, if your going be thinking about what you can say next constantly, it's going to make conversation even more difficult! Before you speak to him, think up a few topics of conversation that you can use if need be. Music, sports, television, films, the wather (xD), and then if the conversation gets a bit dry, you can resort to them. My main advice to you though, is just let it all come naturally and talk to him as though you've known him for years, and just be confident within yourself that you can do it.

Once you start talking to him more, you'll become more comfortable around him and then you can decide whether or not you want him to know that you like him for definite, and see how things go from there.