Girl advice needed... Rep given

[Josh-H]

Ok so I am not the kind of lad who posts this kind of thing on the forum but still I really NEED some advice.

I really like this girl which for the time being I'll call... 'Bob' :P

So I really like 'Bob' but Im quite sure 'Bob' doesn't like me back because I dont really talk to her a lot out of shyness...

For one week of a school holiday way back in October I walked around everyday with my friend and 'Bob' and 'Bob's friend and it was fab. No silences or anything and I talked constantly for like 5 hours a day.

After we was back at school , we never seemed to talk much and now its got back to the point it was at before.

I know what I have to do and that is to talk to her but I find it really difficult and tbh I could do with conversation topics and good ways to start talking, like finding the right time... because if I randomly started talking to her it would probably seem a bit weird to her :P

So basically I need
Conversation Topics
Ways to get into a position to have a conversationThanks a lot.

Guys and galz welcome to reply :)

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[Blinger1]

Try to talk about your hobies and her hobies, what you enjoy doing and what she enjoys doing! You could also ask her to go to a see a movie or something ;-)

[Vibe]

Right bob has a nice name so compliment her on her stuff not like us lads do usually try tripping girls up lmao.


Say like " nice shoes" even if they are on sale at £3 at clarks.

Or even take her to mcdonalds or something

Its a start x

[Jamie!]

I know its easier said then done but just bring up how you used to doss about with her at school and how much you enjoyed it. And keep slipping in some larl compliments when you are talking about something.

[ReviewDude]

Right bob has a nice name so compliment her on her stuff not like us lads do usually try tripping girls up lmao.

I do that all the time! It's great fun. I mean... really mean and you shouldn't do it.

Anyway, one way is just to ask her questions. Most girls really come out of their shell when you ask them about themselves. Get to know everything about her. Ask her favourite films, music, books, tv, anything. It also comes in handy during later stages of the relationship for presents and stuff :)

[Josh-H]

I feel so touched that people replied. nice conversation topics :)

But how would I create an openng to talk to her... I find it really hard

[Lµke]

I feel so touched that people replied. nice conversation topics :)

But how would I create an openng to talk to her... I find it really hard

Well firstly, i know it seems wrong, but earwig in on her conversations with other people, and kinda but in. If she says, oh did u see eastenders last night? But in with Omg, yea did you see the big punch up? And go from there.


If you don't want that apporach, find something you both have in common and simply start a conversation and you should find it easier from there. Pluck the courage up mate and go for it. Its down to you in the end.

Goodluck.

[J1MI]

Rite here it is: Firstly with complimenting girls straight away is not good. If you go in there with a hi, you look nice today, bang you've got yourself a very awkward situation!

In no circumstance do you wanna start the conversation topic with a compliment, obviously you want to compliment her, but you have to do it subtly, like if she says "it was a mad rush to get to school today i didnt have much time to get ready", you slide in then with a smooth "you look great anyway". I hope you get where im coming from.

Rite for the starting of the conversation, usualy the hardest part. You gotta make sure your around her quite a bit, or like you see her in a certain place, so shes expecting to see you. Like if you wait for a bus together or something like that. You wanna make it as casual as possible, make sure you get the eye contact first, so she knows you want to talk to her, then just walk over and simply go,
"alright, how you doing?"

I know i know, its pretty hard to do it, but dude when you do it (i know you will) its just the best thing, coz then you have started the conversation, and you can tell from her responses where she wants to take the conversation.

Remember: If the conversation runs dry, you gotta have backup topics! But nothing to strenuous, think of simple things like... Did you watch ... last nite? Or What you doing at the weekend?

Im sure u'll get the hang of it, you just have to break the dead lock of not talking, coz the longer you keep it the more chance shes gonna forget about you, and think your not interested.

Hope this helps :)

[Ostinato]

Okay well, as you used to hang around with her and stuff, that's a really good start and shows she must like you and stuff, but as it often happens - if you don't keep a friendship strong and continue talking and stuff, it gradually wears away.

I think you should just go over to her one day, and say something like 'Aww remember last october when...' or something like 'Aww I was thinking the other night about that time when...' and get her talking. From there you could just talk about old stuff you did together and eventually say 'hey dyou know what?! we should get together again sometime!' and see how it goes from there.

I'm not a believer of you can have your whole nights conversation planned out ahead, as it's just not a proper and healthy way to go. I feel you should simply think of a few pointers to help you out if conversation runs dry, but don't worry - it takes two to tango so it's not as though shes going to stand their silent all day expecting you to do all the talking! :]

Good luck mate!

[Albion]

ask "Bob" and a few other friends down to the beach, the beach is always fun and everyone talks on the beach

[Josh-H]

Rite here it is: Firstly with complimenting girls straight away is not good. If you go in there with a hi, you look nice today, bang you've got yourself a very awkward situation!

In no circumstance do you wanna start the conversation topic with a compliment, obviously you want to compliment her, but you have to do it subtly, like if she says "it was a mad rush to get to school today i didnt have much time to get ready", you slide in then with a smooth "you look great anyway". I hope you get where im coming from.

Rite for the starting of the conversation, usualy the hardest part. You gotta make sure your around her quite a bit, or like you see her in a certain place, so shes expecting to see you. Like if you wait for a bus together or something like that. You wanna make it as casual as possible, make sure you get the eye contact first, so she knows you want to talk to her, then just walk over and simply go,
"alright, how you doing?"

I know i know, its pretty hard to do it, but dude when you do it (i know you will) its just the best thing, coz then you have started the conversation, and you can tell from her responses where she wants to take the conversation.

Remember: If the conversation runs dry, you gotta have backup topics! But nothing to strenuous, think of simple things like... Did you watch ... last nite? Or What you doing at the weekend?

Im sure u'll get the hang of it, you just have to break the dead lock of not talking, coz the longer you keep it the more chance shes gonna forget about you, and think your not interested.

Hope this helps :)

Very nice, this applies to everyone whos posting really nice help :)


ask "Bob" and a few other friends down to the beach, the beach is always fun and everyone talks on the beach

If I didnt live 2 hours from nearest beach I would :rolleyes:

[NightSlayer]

I feel so touched that people replied. nice conversation topics :)

But how would I create an openng to talk to her... I find it really hard


Go up to her and act normal and say alreet? :D That's what i do,

[.demolitionman.]

listen in to 'bobs' conversations and try to relate to them and start talking ;)

[FlyingJesus]

I wouldn't go out with a girl called Bob if I were you. Or if I was me for that matter.

[Josh-H]

I wouldn't go out with a girl called Bob if I were you. Or if I was me for that matter.

:P

I did say.. For the matter of this topic I would call her bob :P

But please keep the advice coming :D

[FlyingJesus]

Sorry just being a *** :P

Anyway, you're at the same school right? If so, and you're in a class with her, just say something obscure about the work - possibly ask her for some help, that way you can be sure that she's talking to you at least about something, and if there's anything you can link to an amusing anecdote or something, slip that in. Not long-winded jokes, just make fun of a word or something, be a bit cheeky if you're up to it, but keep it clean enough for a lady ^_^

If you're not in the same classes as her at all, still try talking to her at school as much as possible. By that I don't mean "be a leech and follow her around", just be friendly. Get in with her friends so that it's not awkward, because if her friends don't like you it severely lessens your chances with her.

Be sweet, but not overly so. Be funny, but don't get annoying. Be generous, but don't be obsessive. It's not easy, sorry ^_^

[Rockerboi6]

Bob is such a girls name :s not lol.

[FlyingJesus]

O LOL!

[Josh-H]

Well she's in ... *thinks* All but one of my lessons... So yer thats good for conversation but I think it would be weird to just go over and have a conversation :| So what can I do about that?

[Frodo13.]

Rite here it is: Firstly with complimenting girls straight away is not good. If you go in there with a hi, you look nice today, bang you've got yourself a very awkward situation!

In no circumstance do you wanna start the conversation topic with a compliment, obviously you want to compliment her, but you have to do it subtly, like if she says "it was a mad rush to get to school today i didnt have much time to get ready", you slide in then with a smooth "you look great anyway". I hope you get where im coming from.

Rite for the starting of the conversation, usualy the hardest part. You gotta make sure your around her quite a bit, or like you see her in a certain place, so shes expecting to see you. Like if you wait for a bus together or something like that. You wanna make it as casual as possible, make sure you get the eye contact first, so she knows you want to talk to her, then just walk over and simply go,
"alright, how you doing?"

I know i know, its pretty hard to do it, but dude when you do it (i know you will) its just the best thing, coz then you have started the conversation, and you can tell from her responses where she wants to take the conversation.

Remember: If the conversation runs dry, you gotta have backup topics! But nothing to strenuous, think of simple things like... Did you watch ... last nite? Or What you doing at the weekend?

Im sure u'll get the hang of it, you just have to break the dead lock of not talking, coz the longer you keep it the more chance shes gonna forget about you, and think your not interested.

Hope this helps :)

Most of the girls in my form are still getting ready when there in the class!! But ya, thats a nice way to compliment them!!

I've had the same problem here with the girl I like, but luckly, I sit next to her in French, and we talk alot, so its not a problem for me anymore!! Ive got her number and everything. Just make sure you are around her so she notices you, but not too much, because she will probz think your stalking her!

[Rockerboi6]

It's like the habbo homepage phoneline, Where it says Hi im Bob, have you got your personal credits code, Excellent, Does She say that?

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[Josh-H]

It's like the habbo homepage phoneline, Where it says Hi im Bob, have you got your personal credits code, Excellent, Does She say that?

lol :P

Iv never spent money on habbo recently so I havn't rung the bob line :rolleyes:

Can we stay on subject here please!

[Dan2nd]

I get this when I havn't seen my good friends in a long time just go up to her and say hi if she says hi back your hopefully feel comfortable round her again and the conversation will just flow :)

[Josh-H]

I really appreciate everyone replying and all of the posts, well nearly, have helped me a little so ty :)

[Jcshua]

tell one of your friends to ask who she likes or if she likes you.


or even get your friends to set you up with her, friends are good like that.

[Josh-H]

I don't want to give away any hints though?..

[Kpod]

Share Hobbies, Ideas, ask her to come and play with you after school:)

whats the worst that can happen apart from being turned down?

Talk about school work, Internet sites, Mates, sports, this normally gets a girls heart.

Hpe it helps for a littel award in return.

[Josh-H]

Share Hobbies, Ideas, ask her to come and play with you after school:)

whats the worst that can happen apart from being turned down?

Talk about school work, Internet sites, Mates, sports, this normally gets a girls heart.

Hpe it helps for a littel award in return.

Well the worst that could happen would be awkward silences and times and tbh I dont want that..

I try to talk to her a bit more now.

[Memmish]

I don't want to give away any hints though?..

ohhhh hints are everything!!!

"i hear josh likes you Bob!!!
Bob: o rly yee hes cool"

lol! you guys seem to get on, as you said plucking up the courage to start a conversation is the hard bit the rest should be easy. If you are queuing outside a classroom stand near her and just start talking. After a while the hints begin and maybe you can start up something more.

[-Undiscovered]

just try to tralk about her interests and even jusdt hi's and little convos, etc good luck :)