Hugs?

[Halting]

Hey,

Most of my friends are all part of our group, there's about 20 of us. About 10 girls and 10 boys. The boys usually hug the girls and vice versa. I only hug a few of the girls- not that I don't like the others, it just never comes into mind.

Recently I started getting hugs from more popular and better looking girls. This completely mucked up my mind, because- if all of the girls in 'my group' are asking for hugs from the boys, then why aren't I being hugged as much as the rest? Meanwhile, I'm being hugged by some much better looking girls.

I know this sounds a bit weiiiiird, and it is. But it's confused me and I don't like missing out of things like that when everybody is saying goodbye.


Also, even though I'm really happy with my life right now, it's getting a bit boring. Sometimes I would rather be at school than at home. I never really go out of the house of weekends apart from Sunday morning to do my paper round and a few other bits and bobs. I feel like my life is a repeat, and every Monday the cycle starts again. Monday-Friday is school, Friday night - youth club. Saturday- a very boring day but I can finally have a lie in, and Sunday- I have to get up at quarter to five in the morning, travel a few miles by car, put a bunch of leaflets in a bunch of papers and catch the train home. The rest of the day I'm on the computer. And so the cycle starts again the next day.

Maybe I'm just taking the things I've got for granted? If I look at it one way, I'm happier than ever- but I just don't feel any happiness inside me :S

Halting,

[Krypsis]

Hey,

Most of my friends are all part of our group, there's about 20 of us. About 10 girls and 10 boys. The boys usually hug the girls and vice versa. I only hug a few of the girls- not that I don't like the others, it just never comes into mind.

Recently I started getting hugs from more popular and better looking girls. This completely mucked up my mind, because- if all of the girls in 'my group' are asking for hugs from the boys, then why aren't I being hugged as much as the rest? Meanwhile, I'm being hugged by some much better looking girls.

I know this sounds a bit weiiiiird, and it is. But it's confused me and I don't like missing out of things like that when everybody is saying goodbye.


Also, even though I'm really happy with my life right now, it's getting a bit boring. Sometimes I would rather be at school than at home. I never really go out of the house of weekends apart from Sunday morning to do my paper round and a few other bits and bobs. I feel like my life is a repeat, and every Monday the cycle starts again. Monday-Friday is school, Friday night - youth club. Saturday- a very boring day but I can finally have a lie in, and Sunday- I have to get up at quarter to five in the morning, travel a few miles by car, put a bunch of leaflets in a bunch of papers and catch the train home. The rest of the day I'm on the computer. And so the cycle starts again the next day.

Maybe I'm just taking the things I've got for granted? If I look at it one way, I'm happier than ever- but I just don't feel any happiness inside me :S

Halting,

Okay, I can't help you with the first bit with what you said about hugs, because I got confused O.o but I understand what you mean about the cycle... seems to be happening to me aswell. Hope everything clears up.

[Halting]

Thanks. If I look around me, I have nothing to be unhappy about. But I just don't feel any happiness.

I'm just never involved on anything on weekends. I try, but everything has to be paid for.

[Vixt]

I know exactly how you feel.

I'm taking that you are still in school yes?

The cycle is going to continue until you go to college or 6th form or whatever.

When that time comes, you will start to meet new friends and you will become older so you will be able to "drink".

You will start to realise that you're going out more, and if you get a job, that's an income so you can splash out on what you want :P.

Being a kid is just a waiting game.

My cycle is:
Monday-Friday: School/Computer
Friday Nights: Xbox Live & Computer
Saturday Morning (5:45AM): PaperRound
Saturday: Computer/Friends
Sunday: Homework/Sleep/Xbox Live

It's repetative, yes, but think of what would happen if you never had the life you have.

Things will get better, i'm sure of it!

[foxyfox00]

About the hugging thing, girls just generally hug guys and girls all the time.
Everyone loves a hug, maybe they were just being nice?

Now the other thing
Its called a rut.
Everyone gets stuck in routine, Im sick of mine.
But as said above, when you get older you go in and out of them.
It sound like your content with your life, but you are forfilled.
I think if you give back to people, try new things and broden your horizions you'll get that feeling.

Hope it helped.
<3

[GoldSolid]

I know what you mean about the cycle too, I have exactly the same, you feel as if you have more of a life whilst you're at school than you do at home, I go to school, come back, go on the computer and that's my life really.

But I have friends at school and it's more fun than being in all day. I wouldn't say that at school though because I'd sound like a right geek...

[Rizla]

Next time you're with your mates, ask one of them if they're coming out on the weekend. Problem solved o.O

[Halting]

I do. It's usually a no, and even then. I live a very long walking distance from all of my friends and school. It gets a bit ridiculous relying on your parents to take you out every weekend and pick you up later, when half of the time they aren't in.

[Ostinato]

We all get into our routines, which are good and fun to start with but in the end get a bit tiresome!

First of all though, about the hugs - you only really give a few selected people hugs so their probably thinking the same, and don't go out making an effort to hug you back. In future, why don't you just give everyone a wee hug - whether you like them or not - and that way you'll get to hug everyone just like your friends! :)

Now, about the routine. There isn't much you can do about the school part and your paper round - as their basically compulsory. But you could maybe just go out with your friends more or something, or even go to a wee youth club, or just do something with your family or something a night or 2 a week. Just do some spontanaous stuff, and don't be sitting on the computer all the time - that's probably why it seems so boring! Try new things! Stuff you've always wanted to do, but you've never had the chance or the time.

Just enjoy yourself! :]