This girl I fancy in class...

[Sabu]

There's this really, really really nice girl in my class that I really, really really fancy. She knows I fancy her, shes actually know for 4 years...
Every time I ask her out, she says "NO!" But obviously in a nicer accent :)
I got her a present on Christmas Day and I got her a card and teddy for valentines day. All I got was a hug though. And on yesterday, 21st March, this boy who has only started fancying her for 2 minutes asked her out...(this is where my heart was shattered)...and she said..."YES!" But obviously in a less happier accent. Thing is, I don't think she really likes him. What could I do to make her like me more? You know, incase they brake up?

[lil-rarez]

erm well this is a case for lil rarez:
First of all if your shoving gifts at her just STOP. this will make her feel that either 1 you have stopped fancying her or 2 she will start thinking why and maybe the reverse phycology my come into play.

Also its been said that personality is a greater key than looks *cough* but its most important make an EFFORT. As people get older it is said that its their personality is far greater aspect than their looks.

I FEEL LIKE HITCH :D

Well next impress her, try get another girl make her jelous or something like that. Also if they do break up its your chance not to go straight in there but to comfort her tell her that she is too good for him. That sort of stuff. That will make her feel more confident in you and herself..... The rest you will find out sooner or later?

MAKE SURE THAT THE TIME IS RIGHT FOR YOU!
IM OUT.... LIL RAREZ (HITCH) LOL GOOD LUCK :D

[-JT-]

yeah i agree with him, you should just go out with someone else for a week and see how she reacts. Also make sure you go on and on and on about the girl your going out with.

[Ciaran]

erm well this is a case for lil rarez:
First of all if your shoving gifts at her just STOP. this will make her feel that either 1 you have stopped fancying her or 2 she will start thinking why and maybe the reverse phycology my come into play.

Also its been said that personality is a greater key than looks *cough* but its most important make an EFFORT. As people get older it is said that its their personality is far greater aspect than their looks.

I FEEL LIKE HITCH :D

Well next impress her, try get another girl make her jelous or something like that. Also if they do break up its your chance not to go straight in there but to comfort her tell her that she is too good for him. That sort of stuff. That will make her feel more confident in you and herself..... The rest you will find out sooner or later?

MAKE SURE THAT THE TIME IS RIGHT FOR YOU!
IM OUT.... LIL RAREZ (HITCH) LOL GOOD LUCK :D
^^^^^^^^HAHAHA. wrong :P^^^^^^^^

Trust me on this one if you go out with someone else she will think you have moved on. now for my advice :P lol, i personally would not ive her gifts to make her feel like you are a psyco or something, i havent really bin in this situation before but i suggest you go for every hug and kiss you can get off her, ahh i know (works every time for me) start asking her if she is huggable and if she says yes then hug her, after that hug her every time you see her (getting closer) **few weeks pass** ask her if she is kissable (guess what happens next?)

Hehehe works all the time

[MYKE!]

I think u should approch this guy she said yes to, have a cizalized talk.


and then break dance on his face.

[Ciaran]

I think u should approch this guy she said yes to, have a cizalized talk.


and then break dance on his face.
Lol yeh im not exactly a baby so i usually batter that person and that solves things usually depends on if you hard or not...

[*.Glitter.Rip.*]

Try and be nice to her but dont be clingy! People hate that. Make good interesting and funny conversations better than hers making her feel special.

[-JT-]

maybe you should just get a bongo drum and try to impress her by playing it really really fast.

[Pulchritudinous]

If your already mates, then keep being friendly, and hopefully if she doesn't really like this other guy, she'll come back to you, if you've been making an effort.
Like Ciaran said, if you keep giving her gifts she might think your a psycho.
But...just compliment her or something.

[-JT-]

like i do :D

[Sabu]

Lol yeh im not exactly a baby so i usually batter that person and that solves things usually depends on if you hard or not...

Errrrrr, but if this girl really does like this guy, and I break dance on his face. Wouldn't the girl just hate me even more for hurting him?

(PS look at the mission under my Forum name :))

[partie2]

Awww well just be yourself and your love will pull you together :)

[Jacko2kn3]

Love stinks my friend. I'm kind of in the same situation as you, I've 'liked' her for ages, she knows, but she is going out with one of my friends, and now he knows I like it. Man is it all wrecked :(.

Don't give gifts that are very expensive/all the time, I was thinking of a Valentines Day Present to get her, but we got into a fight and let's say I wasn't talking to her LOL.

If we didn't fight I would have got her a rose or something, just so she knows I care still :)

Don't go out with another girl, that is probably the worst thing you can happen. She COULD be jealous, and stick her tongue down her boyfriends throat in front of you, and you definatly don't want that. Just keep talking to her, go out with her on a night as friends, and perhaps her bf will get jealous. Now if he is jealous and says "your spending too much time with "mystry-man300"" she won't be happy as he doesn't trust her ;)

[-JT-]

good advice my man, same position as you, if the lass i "like" did that, i would probably break about four noses.

[infatuation]

WEll, i just i told the girl I like that I liked her.. on the phone.
and now she plays with it.
she says ohhh I know who Z likes
'this is in irl..'
just using z because I don't use my real name.

[-JT-]

wow, you must be one of the complete web safe people.

[Ciaran]

Errrrrr, but if this girl really does like this guy, and I break dance on his face. Wouldn't the girl just hate me even more for hurting him?

(PS look at the mission under my Forum name :))
Ah yes my friend but if its for love it kinda cancells itself out, you see its all fair in love and war...

Edit**************

whoa whoa whoa back up!!!
Told her on the phone? omg whoops worst thing to do, for eg: yesterday i went out with my mate and a girl, i likes the girl and when my mate left i told her and asked her out, she said yes and we got off... now dont give her time to think about it by calling her up, go up to her and tell her to her face.

[Pulchritudinous]

Get her on her own, and tell even though you know she likes 'whatever the boys name is', tell her how much she means to you, you might get some sympathy.
But it doesn't always work out the way we want.

[-=rooty987=-]

Girls lyk being talked to... well i think so, so try having a nice conversation.

[2hd.]

same situation with moi.
Because i like this girl but im so timid i havent got a hope in hell with girls, and now my mate is going out with her when ive known her aaaggeesss and hes known her a month. I just act like im ok with it and wait for them to break up :)

[infatuation]

well if the girl on the phone rejects me..
I can ask someone else out
as I barely hang with any guys
as I like girls.

[Pulchritudinous]

When I like a boy...I just kind of flirt, or talk to them lots, and hug them often, so maybe you could do that to the girl, if u get me...:s.

[Painiac]

yeah i agree with him, you should just go out with someone else for a week and see how she reacts. Also make sure you go on and on and on about the girl your going out with.

Personally I think that is an awful thing to do, using someone to get the girl you want :(

[Jacko2kn3]

Seems like lotsa members have love problems. I have decided in the hols I will go out with her, get her alone and tell her exactly how I feel. In real life she can't put "lol :P" when I say something.

Worth a shot, it can either make it or break it :)

[-JT-]

I recon iw ill do the same dude.

[Fingerboots]

If she doesn't like you, you can't force her to by buying gifts and things. Then if you went out, it might be pressured.
Just let her like you for who you are, it could take time or whatever but at least it would be purer.
*Shrugs* Just keep being your funny, happy self around her and you'll have nothing to loose. And if she doesn't like you for who you are, she's not really worth it. Sorry..

Touc, well done mate. I have heard about her so much from you, better to get it out in the open. Go you! :D Good luck on that as well. ^_^

[Jacko2kn3]

Meh, she is going out with a good friend of mine (who I sit next to in form, believe it or not).

It's so annoying. Usually if you want to go out with someone you talk to them all the time at break/dinner/after school. Now he is going out with her they STILL talk all the time. It drives me nuts. I'm not going to talk to her if her boyfriend is there, it'd be so awkward, but there is no time he isn't there. ARGHHHHHHH!

[-JT-]

i hate that. Do it at night.

[Jacko2kn3]

Yeah but I hardly see her at night. If I go out with her, then my friends are like "where were you last night?", so I lie, and somehow someone manages to find out, and they are like "Oh yeah, that's your lass who you go out with on the sly" :@

So annoying. Thus meaning I have to be sneaky ;)

[-JT-]

yeah i will have to do the same man!

[la-ur-en]

Okay, first of all...
What to DO -
Stop giving her presents - It will make you look as if you are desperate, maybe just a wee card, and a hug doesnt hurt anyone.

Stop asking her out - Okay, i'm a girl so i should know, she is playing hard to get, it's a girls game, what you have to do, is when she says no, back off for about a day, then the next day, go up to her and just start talking as if you are friends again, she definetly wont want to lose you as a friend!

Look presentable - Okay, so people always say 'wear what you're comfortable in' well, this time, wear what you're comfortable in, but, instead of wearing the ripped jeans, or the muddy trackies, try washing and ironing them, she will know that you are not some grubby pup and that you are a mature 'man'.

Feel confident - Whatever you do DONT shy away and DONT act over confident, you will either look:
a) as if you can't handle a serious relationship
or
b)as if your a 'playa' and you are just using her.
Instead, try being a bit of both, if she says something funny, laugh, don't stare at her, and don't make fun of her, laugh. Usually, if you laugh at a joke, the ice is broken, and it's easier to take to one another, if you don't she will get bored and go find someone who is more 'humouris'

Body language - Okay, this is quite hard, try copying how she looks, if shes tilted on one leg, you tilt on one of your legs, but if she folds her arms, its time for you to stop copying her, and lean into her a bit, whatever you do, don't face each other face on, kind of slant your bodys together, that way, it shows your comfortable. Try and keep eye contact with everything she is saying, and once in a while look at her lips, it will show your interested, and well, i think you should know why you are looking at her lips. ;)
If you lose eye contact, she might feel as if you are trying to dodge her, and she will lose interest in you. If she loses eye contact, try putting your hand on her shoulder and say something funny or compliment her.

What to say - well, you have to plan out the first thing you say, then it will all come to you what to say once you have said the first words, don't say anything cheesey, say 'hey, how are ya?' then ask her what she done yesterday and what she is doing tonight, even if it is something that you find boring like dancing, act interested, tell her that if she ever has a show you will be there!

Compliment her - Don't just speak to her, she might be worried incase she looks awful, so instead, say 'i love the way your hair is today' but don't say 'theres something diffrent about your hair, it looks nicer' that will make her think that you didn't like the way her hair was last time!

What NOT to do -
Dont follow her - She will think that you are a weird person, and, what will also go through her mind is, 'thank god i didn't go out with him, he wouldn't give me any space' so if you talk to her when you see her in the hall or something, don't go searching for her!

Dont pull her away(friends) - What a girl hates most is being pulled away from her friends, if she is with them, don't drag her away just so that you can talk to her alone, try talking to her friends, that way, it will ease her mind, so she will know what you wont split her up from her friends if you did go out.

(boyfriends) - don't try and split her and her boyfriend up, if she doesn't like him she will soon dump him, for now, just do some 'unharmful flirting' don't flirt like mad, just act like she is your friend, that way, she will know that you are there for her, if you keep clinging she will think you are an idiot who needs to get a life, because you are jepordising her relationship, if you are to spaced, she will think that you didn't like her as a friend, and so, wont want to go out with you, as you aren't still communicating. She will also think you have lost interest, and have gone off her just because she is going out with someone, what she really wants is for you to stay her friend, she will need a friend if she has problems, and being good friends is better than not being friends at all!

Call her names - Do NOT call her any type of name that you think will offend of her, if she takes something that you say offencively just say 'i didn't mean it like that, i meant ect ect(explain what you meant). If you are offencsive towards her she will think you are immature little boy, and she wouldn't be bothered about you.

Pass her notes about 'us' - Whatever you do, don't pass her notes in class, if a teacher catches you, she will find it REALLY embarassing, so, instead say 'i need to talk to you after class' this way she wont get embarssed if the teacher catches you sending something to her!
^Tip^ - if you are going to pass a note, ask to borrow her rubber, then, wrap the note around it before returning it, this way, it is camouflaged!


Good luck, if she really likes this guy, and there is no possible way that they will split up, then just stay friends, if you get interested in another girl, don't lose your friendship, as she obviously still wants you as a friend!

[Jacko2kn3]

I disagree with some things lauren, but I will ****yse tomorrow as I am tired |-)

[Mentor]

should i be taking notes :blink:

[P_R_I_N_C_E_S_S*L_E_X_Y]

u g2 get 2 kno her n b m8s wiv her thts wot happened wiv me ryt this guy (now my best m8) kept askin me out n i kept sayin no but nicely :D n we became really gd m8s n i didnt fancy him wen he was askin me out n now we r best m8s n i fancy him n we went out n it didnt work sadly :( but if ya ur m8s wiv her b4 u go out wiv her at least if u brake up ur still gna b gd m8s!!

i guess if u luv sum1 enuff as a m8 n b their best m8 ull luv them as more than tht u just have 2 giv it tym ull c it will work out the way u want it sooner or l8r xx

[P_R_I_N_C_E_S_S*L_E_X_Y]

Okay, first of all...
What to DO -
Stop giving her presents - It will make you look as if you are desperate, maybe just a wee card, and a hug doesnt hurt anyone.

Stop asking her out - Okay, i'm a girl so i should know, she is playing hard to get, it's a girls game, what you have to do, is when she says no, back off for about a day, then the next day, go up to her and just start talking as if you are friends again, she definetly wont want to lose you as a friend!

Look presentable - Okay, so people always say 'wear what you're comfortable in' well, this time, wear what you're comfortable in, but, instead of wearing the ripped jeans, or the muddy trackies, try washing and ironing them, she will know that you are not some grubby pup and that you are a mature 'man'.

Feel confident - Whatever you do DONT shy away and DONT act over confident, you will either look:
a) as if you can't handle a serious relationship
or
b)as if your a 'playa' and you are just using her.
Instead, try being a bit of both, if she says something funny, laugh, don't stare at her, and don't make fun of her, laugh. Usually, if you laugh at a joke, the ice is broken, and it's easier to take to one another, if you don't she will get bored and go find someone who is more 'humouris'

Body language - Okay, this is quite hard, try copying how she looks, if shes tilted on one leg, you tilt on one of your legs, but if she folds her arms, its time for you to stop copying her, and lean into her a bit, whatever you do, don't face each other face on, kind of slant your bodys together, that way, it shows your comfortable. Try and keep eye contact with everything she is saying, and once in a while look at her lips, it will show your interested, and well, i think you should know why you are looking at her lips. ;)
If you lose eye contact, she might feel as if you are trying to dodge her, and she will lose interest in you. If she loses eye contact, try putting your hand on her shoulder and say something funny or compliment her.

What to say - well, you have to plan out the first thing you say, then it will all come to you what to say once you have said the first words, don't say anything cheesey, say 'hey, how are ya?' then ask her what she done yesterday and what she is doing tonight, even if it is something that you find boring like dancing, act interested, tell her that if she ever has a show you will be there!

Compliment her - Don't just speak to her, she might be worried incase she looks awful, so instead, say 'i love the way your hair is today' but don't say 'theres something diffrent about your hair, it looks nicer' that will make her think that you didn't like the way her hair was last time!

What NOT to do -
Dont follow her - She will think that you are a weird person, and, what will also go through her mind is, 'thank god i didn't go out with him, he wouldn't give me any space' so if you talk to her when you see her in the hall or something, don't go searching for her!

Dont pull her away(friends) - What a girl hates most is being pulled away from her friends, if she is with them, don't drag her away just so that you can talk to her alone, try talking to her friends, that way, it will ease her mind, so she will know what you wont split her up from her friends if you did go out.

(boyfriends) - don't try and split her and her boyfriend up, if she doesn't like him she will soon dump him, for now, just do some 'unharmful flirting' don't flirt like mad, just act like she is your friend, that way, she will know that you are there for her, if you keep clinging she will think you are an idiot who needs to get a life, because you are jepordising her relationship, if you are to spaced, she will think that you didn't like her as a friend, and so, wont want to go out with you, as you aren't still communicating. She will also think you have lost interest, and have gone off her just because she is going out with someone, what she really wants is for you to stay her friend, she will need a friend if she has problems, and being good friends is better than not being friends at all!

Call her names - Do NOT call her any type of name that you think will offend of her, if she takes something that you say offencively just say 'i didn't mean it like that, i meant ect ect(explain what you meant). If you are offencsive towards her she will think you are immature little boy, and she wouldn't be bothered about you.

Pass her notes about 'us' - Whatever you do, don't pass her notes in class, if a teacher catches you, she will find it REALLY embarassing, so, instead say 'i need to talk to you after class' this way she wont get embarssed if the teacher catches you sending something to her!
^Tip^ - if you are going to pass a note, ask to borrow her rubber, then, wrap the note around it before returning it, this way, it is camouflaged!


Good luck, if she really likes this guy, and there is no possible way that they will split up, then just stay friends, if you get interested in another girl, don't lose your friendship, as she obviously still wants you as a friend!



i cnt imagine how long it took u 2 write all of tht but neways yeh thts wot u gta do!!!!!!

Edited by Jacko2kn3: please do NOT double post, simply edit your previous post by clicking the edit post button

[Sabu]

On the outside, people in my class probaly think that i'm an ugly, horrible little creep. But on the inside i'm a big friendly giant :D

[KickerFliper]

The Big Friendly Green Giant
Who Grows Sweet Corn?

[Jacko2kn3]

It's the Jolly Green Giant, not The Big Friendly Green Giant.

[Ciaran]

Perfect advice, just adding to that try to be convident but trey avoiding friends when your with a girl, mates bring out the bad side of you :)

[Evil]

lol strange ideas people get