How do you tell your Mum..

[Ry]

that you're gay. I'm in this position, only my close friends know, If i do tell anyone, it would only be my mum, i have a good relationship with her, but i don't think i can tell her, but i think i need to, sooner or later, I'm not sure what her reaction will be, I certainly can't tell my older brother or dad, or anyone else in the family, She'd have to keep it quiet, i think she would, Any ideas?

*Huge Sigh*

Anyone else has similar problems/issues?

Discuss.

[alexxxxx]

How old are you? (breaking rules I know but it effects my answer).

[:Hazel]

Sit her down on her own and get everything off your chest. Say you have felt like this for a while but have bottled it up and you feel she is the only one you can tell. I think your brave for doing it, it takes alot of courage. She will be a bit taken aback but I'm sure she will get used to the idea & will support you.

[Ry]

;2601010']How old are you? (breaking rules I know but it effects my answer).

I've left school, and i have a job now, if that helps any.

[alexxxxx]

I've left school, and i have a job now, if that helps any.

Ah, okay. Umm, i'd tell her at a quiet moment when it seems appropriate, try and make it part of a conversation rather than trying to sit her down and telling her.

Does that help or am i posting **?

[Ry]

Everything helps, also to add:

She says things in joking when im in the car or something, this girl i always bump into, the same one, im like ugh that girl is weird, she's like, in a joking way, you know you want her, i think she fancies you, Upsets me so much lol ;[

[:Hazel]

All the more reason to talk to her and tell her how you feel. She doesn't realise these comments are upsetting you and until you tell her it will continue.

[Ry]

Oh oh, also, My best friend is gay, and he was going through the same thing untill recently he came in drunk one night and told his mum, and she was fine with it. (He was worried like i am) Also, he told her a while ago about me (his friend) being gay, to test her reaction, and in turn i tried this method with my mum, and she was like: You pick your friends dont ya, a gay guy and a, well, rude word for a girl

So anyway, now im jealous that his mums fine with it. Partly.
Also, she has made comments like "I think i'd get on quite well with a gayboy"

When i said something about my friend, and im mixed with thoughts, im just not sure how she'll react. I was going to tell her at christmas, i don't think i could right now, i don't know, my heads messed with it all. But maybe then i'd spoil christmas, Ahh lol

*rambles*

[Uwe]

Leave some dirty pictures on yoru PC screen and go in bath x

[:Hazel]

I would tell her now, then buy christmas she has had time to get used to it. The more you put it off the harder it will get.

[Ostinato]

I wouldn't tell her at Christmas. She could ultimately get upset by it or just be shocked, and it could ruin yours and your other family members time.

I think you should sit her down sometime this month, and just explain to her. Tell her it isn't a choice you personally made, it's just something that you are and you can't change it. Try and explain to her that you have taken time to come to terms and get used to it yourself, and you trust and love her enough to feel she has a right to know as you are both now mature adults.

If she doesn't take it the right way, then you need to understand. Don't be like storming off straight away or anything - because obviously it will be a bit upsetting and a shock to her to find something like that out, especially if she doesn't suspect it already. Therefore, if she does, just tell her your sorry but it's what you are and at the end of the day shes going to need to come to terms with it whether she likes it not, as it isn't something you can just change when you feel like it.

Just because your friends mum took it well, has no rellevance to your own mums reaction. Some people just act and have differet opinions to other people, on things. I wouldn't get jealous, because by seeing that your mum is concerned and upset about it - it shows she does care for you in her own way.

I wouldn't worry too much though. It's what you are. Your happy with it, so why shouldn't she be?

[Ry]

Thanks for the advice mate <3

[womanizer]

Leave some dirty pictures on yoru PC screen and go in bath x

thats what I done.... lolol

didnt turn out very good my dad was about to hit me...

[hit-by-a-car]

Dont tell her. simple. Keep it secret - LIVE A SECRET ALL YOUR LIFE! :eusa_clap :eusa_danc

[alexxxxx]

Dont tell her. simple. Keep it secret - LIVE A SECRET ALL YOUR LIFE! :eusa_clap :eusa_danc

i don't think you really can.

[womanizer]

;2601152']i don't think you really can.

that guy in coronation street hasnt told his lolol

[-Wolverine]

As a mod, you should know this is supposed to be in 'Gay/Lesbian chat' ;)

I'd try and wait till Jan maybe, and tell her then, it's after Christmas, and nothing important really comes soon after so no one's holidays would be ruined.

I'd just tell her straight up, and see what she says.

Edit: You moved it now lol. xD

[Billay]

theres so many gays on this forum its unbelievable.

[Flumples]

o i just told mine I was bi when I was drunk.

didnt actually say 'IM BI' though...

'mum im ****ing girls AND guys!!'

which was probably worse than just going 'yeh im bi'... :)

[benjamin]

um well, i don't think i'd be in this situation as my mum found out from a friend ;__; didn't go down to well with my dad but ermm..

i think it'd be easier if you could like, leave her hints? and then try and get her to ask you if you are, it'd be easier.

hope i helped.

[uh huh her]

maybe just leave her little hints? though i think it would be best telling her straight. just sit her down, & just say something like 'mum, im gay'. that what i did with my mum (well, i said 'mum, im like james' [my sisters gay best mate] & she was totally fine with it). if shes a bit iffy when you first tell her, she'll soon come to sense & get used to it. just tell her when you feel ready [:

[hit-by-a-car]

maybe just leave her little hints? though i think it would be best telling her straight. just sit her down, & just say something like 'mum, im gay'. that what i did with my mum (well, i said 'mum, im like james' [my sisters gay best mate] & she was totally fine with it). if shes a bit iffy when you first tell her, she'll soon come to sense & get used to it. just tell her when you feel ready [:
MAYBE SHE WAS RIGHT IN WORDS, BUT NOT FEELINGS.

if you ask me.

Tell her (big risk of getting batered)
Turn straight

Its up to you =)

[uh huh her]

MAYBE SHE WAS RIGHT IN WORDS, BUT NOT FEELINGS.

if you ask me.

Tell her (big risk of getting batered)
Turn straight

Its up to you =)
:rolleyes:
ry, i would just ignore his posts. most of them are full of **** anyway.
don't keep hiding it, cos sooner or later she'll find out anyway [:

[benjamin]

:rolleyes:
ry, i would just ignore his posts. most of them are full of **** anyway.
don't keep hiding it, cos sooner or later she'll find out anyway [:
yeah. better than her walking in on you in bed with a guy.. :rolleyes:

[hit-by-a-car]

yeah. better than her walking in on you in bed with a guy.. :rolleyes:
Yeh, cause the next thing ull know is an ice pack over your head and a great big lump.

[brandon]

Sir, I have a solution!
Just click me! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FfcIEJipoDw)

[benjamin]

Yeh, cause the next thing ull know is an ice pack over your head and a great big lump.
you're not funny

&lmao brandon

[uh huh her]

Yeh, cause the next thing ull know is an ice pack over your head and a great big lump.
just sthu.

Sir, I have a solution!
Just click me! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FfcIEJipoDw)
lol! [:

[Nick.]

Leave some dirty pictures on yoru PC screen and go in bath x

Lmao Ant! I'm guessing that's how you did it/will do it. :p Only joking x


o i just told mine I was bi when I was drunk.

didnt actually say 'IM BI' though...

'mum im ****ing girls AND guys!!'

which was probably worse than just going 'yeh im bi'... :)

Lmao... her reaction?


MAYBE SHE WAS RIGHT IN WORDS, BUT NOT FEELINGS.

if you ask me.

Tell her (big risk of getting batered)
Turn straight

Its up to you =)
=/ I doubt you're helping Ry.

Hey Ry, [:

If I were you, I would wait until you feel the time is right. There are multiple things you can do...

Get a friend to talk to her! However, I would leave this to the last, as she might feel that you don't trust her by telling somebody else first.
Tell another member of the family. Grandmas are great to talk to, or even auntys. My aunty rocks... ;)
Don't tell her. Simple, don't tell her until you are older... however the longer you leave it the harder I think you'll find it.
Email here, or write a letter explaining everything. Letters are a great way to express you're feelings, and it doesn't put you on the spot, so you don't go red, get nervous or anything else when telling them. Leave the letter on the kitchen worktop maybe, and make sure you're out when she finds it! And if you don't want to talk about it to her, maybe say that in the letter. Just tell her that you want her to know, and you don't wanna talk about it.
Drop Hints. Sometimes, dropping hints is the easiest option.
Do what Ant said. :p
Do what Sam did. :pHope this helps!
Nick.
xxx

[hit-by-a-car]

tell her on x-mas day. :rolleyes:

Its a jolly day then :eusa_clap

[brandon]

tell her on x-mas day. :rolleyes:

Its a jolly day then :eusa_clap
Well if it's a negative responce surely it would just ruin christmas?

I'd just wait till the time is right, there is no rush is there. :)

[Ry]

Thankyou for ALL the advice :) x

[Hopeless]

If you know your mum would keep it quiet and you can trust her. when you sitting down chatting with her. Maybe tell her.


I am in a simular situation. My dad absolutly hates gay people and i am bisexual so i am in a weird situation. I haven't told anyone that im bisexual but the probably first person would either be my mates or my mother.

Mums the word :D

[benjamin]

If you know your mum would keep it quiet and you can trust her. when you sitting down chatting with her. Maybe tell her.


I am in a simular situation. My dad absolutly hates gay people and i am bisexual so i am in a weird situation. I haven't told anyone that im bisexual but the probably first person would either be my mates or my mother.

Mums the word :D
i thought you said you were gay

[Flumples]

Lmao Ant! I'm guessing that's how you did it/will do it. :p Only joking x



Lmao... her reaction?


=/ I doubt you're helping Ry.

Hey Ry, [:

If I were you, I would wait until you feel the time is right. There are multiple things you can do...
Get a friend to talk to her! However, I would leave this to the last, as she might feel that you don't trust her by telling somebody else first.
Tell another member of the family. Grandmas are great to talk to, or even auntys. My aunty rocks... ;)
Don't tell her. Simple, don't tell her until you are older... however the longer you leave it the harder I think you'll find it.
Email here, or write a letter explaining everything. Letters are a great way to express you're feelings, and it doesn't put you on the spot, so you don't go red, get nervous or anything else when telling them. Leave the letter on the kitchen worktop maybe, and make sure you're out when she finds it! And if you don't want to talk about it to her, maybe say that in the letter. Just tell her that you want her to know, and you don't wanna talk about it.
Drop Hints. Sometimes, dropping hints is the easiest option.
Do what Ant said. :p
Do what Sam did. :pHope this helps!
Nick.
xxx
o basically she was just like.. oh, okay then. whatever floats your boat. its a bit annoying when I have people over to sleep though, cos now she has to check up on me now and again when I have guys over to sleep & not just girls cos thinks i'm just gonna **** them.

funny really.. lol

& yuh, letters are great. spesh when you want to go to a party and they wont let you so you write a 'running away' letter. tell them you love them but cant live with them, you're gonna be safe so don't worry, etc... then just come back once the partys over :)
*shud be a council0r mon*

[<3]

Everything helps, also to add:

She says things in joking when im in the car or something, this girl i always bump into, the same one, im like ugh that girl is weird, she's like, in a joking way, you know you want her, i think she fancies you, Upsets me so much lol ;[

Maybe deep down she knows you're gay, and she's making those comments to try and change your mind.

[Ry]

Maybe deep down she knows you're gay, and she's making those comments to try and change your mind.

I can only wish :eusa_wall

[benjamin]

I can only wish :eusa_wall
can i ask, are you like in a hurry to tell her?

[brapbrap]

"Mum, Im Gay"

Works a treat.

[SkaterRock]

Sit down and tell her, and explain why she should be happy like im your son and i am who i am etc etc. ;)

[risque]

If you don't feel you can console in any of your family atm, then you'll have to wait a little bit longer. You can only really tell her once you're feeling strong enough to do so, and once you're strong enough to handle her reaction.

Put it this way, if your mum has always taken care of you, been over protective, gotten on well with you, she's probably going to take it fine.

I hope everything ends up A. okay.

[Ry]

Thanks for that.

[Typoh.]

Yes, thats true the longer you leave it the harder it is, im gay i told my family and friends and they were surportive throughout my school years, dont suffer tell someone.:)

[Mxrt]

If you don't want to tell her in a conversation, I'd go with the hint plan. Like, start wearing a bit of pink or leave a sticky note on the fridge saying everything, or if you have some alphabet fridge magnets, use them, thats how my friend did it.

[fitcovboy]

that you're gay. I'm in this position, only my close friends know, If i do tell anyone, it would only be my mum, i have a good relationship with her, but i don't think i can tell her, but i think i need to, sooner or later, I'm not sure what her reaction will be, I certainly can't tell my older brother or dad, or anyone else in the family, She'd have to keep it quiet, i think she would, Any ideas?

*Huge Sigh*

Anyone else has similar problems/issues?

Discuss.

You will probably find that she knows, i have heard so many times of people worrying and when they do eventually pluck up the courage, their mother says she knew, it does not help you have the courage to tell her, i guess only you can do that. I do hope you do find the courage and all goes well :)

[benjamin]

oh ry, btw. if you still need help try reading

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=272428

:]]

[danlee15]

just tell her she will understand and be proud of wat u r

Edited by micky.blue.eyes (Super Moderator): Please don't bump old threads.

[RedCrisps]

does your mom really need to know?

[seattlegrace]

does your mom really need to know?

Did you read any of the entries before the one posted before yours? This was atleast 9 months ago.