How to tell if your in "love"!

[Demi]

Love

Love is an emotion of deep affection or devotion, in my view it's nothing to be played around with.

Okay, so I'm here to tell you if you're really in love!
I mean, really in love.

Do you always dream about someone most nites of the week?
Do you day dream about your planned week with that person?
Do you read through their texts more than once?
Do you keep little silly things from them? (Love letters)

If your in "love", you want to be with this special person forever, you miss them after you leave from somewhere that you have been with that person.
You'd do anything for them, you'd probably even die for them, you'd do anything to make them happy, even if it involved you out of their life.

I'll give you an example, my personal life here:

Most of you don't know my name, but it's Damir and the girl I'm with now is called Sheryl.
Yeah she's all you want in a girl, shes gorgeous, fit and all that stuff a guy looks for in a girl.

At first, I was like "WOAH SHES HOT?!?!?!?!" to my friends, but after I talked to her, we found so much in common.

The thing is, I fell in love with her, even though she's from Switzerland.
(She's from England, same as me, she just does her education there, so it's all the time I get with her when we're on our college breaks)

I don't mind if you think thats sad or whatever, but there's another example of love, you don't care how crazy the situation is or how anyone else thinks about it.

My mates think I won't last with her till the next time I see her, but to be honest I will.
I know I will, because 1 - I would never cheat on her, 2 - She would never chat on me, 3 - It's a great feeling with her.

Back on track...

You know when your in love with someone, when your heart beats fast with them, like today, I was with my girlfriend, and she put her hand on my chest, well.. the thumping and what!!!

Secondly, you miss them when you walk away from them, when you say bye for them to get on the bus, when you walk the other direction with her, you suddenly feel something missing in you.

Thirdly, you always want to talk to them, you look at their texts and want to reply back... but "Sorry you have insufficient funds left" comes up.
It's a bugger when that comes up isn't it?!

Fourthly, You always ask them if they're okay, even if they always say stop asking me or just... "Yeah I'm okay".
You also know when somethings up.

Fifth, you always tell them you love them, infront of anyone, infront of anywhere etc... You don't care where you are with them, you'd always kiss them there and make everyone go "WOAH". (In my case! ;])

That's all I have for now, I really hope this helps a little.

Love is something that everyone has a different version off, propper love is where you only say "I love you" to one person, the other love, where you love your family, friends etc... It's just... Friendly love.
Though family might be close love kind...

Thank you for reading!

Maken

[liquid]

aw, that was sweet.

[benjamin]

i agree about the section:


I don't mind if you think thats sad or whatever, but there's another example of love, you don't care how crazy the situation is or how anyone else thinks about it.
i agree with that totally :]

[Demi]

Thanks for reading =]
Quick responses!

[Callum.]

aw, that was nice :). +rep

[Demi]

Just realised.
Spelt the thread name wrong.
SHAME on me.

Thank you all for reading! =]

MOD - Change the name to How instead of Hot???
Please x

[DiscoPat]

The most painfull is when you watch the one you love - love somone else..:(

[Demi]

The most painfull is when you watch the one you love - love somone else..:(

AH that ones a pain.
Sorry to hear that! =[

XxX

[DiscoPat]

If only I showed you the chat logs and text messages, uhhh, also I have to beat up some boy because of this, not the person she loves..

[Demi]

I see.
Someone sturring stuff???
Deserves beating up to be honest.

[StainCast]

hehe.

Good thread. +rep

xx

[Demi]

Thank you =]

[DiscoPat]

Um, he said somthing, which I didnt like, and done somthing, and I couldnt beat him up then because I'm a prefect, so ughh! I made a plan..
I'm gonna like give a fiver or somthing to someone telling him to 'fight' or hit this guy right at the back of the school field, where I will 'break it up' and instead ill beat him up... and in my report ill just say I had to use force because they were blah blah blah... then I won't loose my prefect. :)

[Demi]

Ahaha.
Nice one! =]
Legend plan I think.

[Adam!]

The most painfull is when you watch the one you love - love somone else..:(
Bloody horrible that init..

-Wishes she would stop loving him-

[Demi]

At the moment I'm fine with that problem.
But, yeah it's pain.

[DiscoPat]

Now that the topic is open I wana go and bust his house, but i dont know where he lives.

[The Professor]

Sorry to crash the party, but I really think you're taking this too seriously. To formulate my post, I will make a few presumtions;
All people posting here are 16 or under (as is common on habbo)
All people who have posted have been in at least one mid-long term relationship (3 months+)

I would now like you to consider the relationship you have been (or are). You see each other at school, once or twice a week outside school, and keep in contact via phone/msn daily. When you break contact with this person, it is likely only to have dinner or to sleep, and within 12 hours you will be chatting away again like there is no tomorrow. It is not for an extended period of time. How this can leave an "empty feeling" is beyond all reasonable logic.

Now to the other point raised; breaking up. I would like you to consider all the possible reasons for someone who is 16 or under to break up with someone. It is highly unlikely that the sex life had gone downhill, or that you didnt have enough money to pay the rent without benifits (as is common in adult relationships). It is more commonly the case that you are simply bored with each other. Youve done everything there is to do, go to the cinemas, have a nice long kissing session behind woolworths etc, and now you want something different. It is also common that you've had a small argument about something extremely minor (such as who puts the phone down first). Now, if simply being bored warrants a break up, there can't have been a lot there to begin with besides the thrill of having another partner after all these months. So how can it be that "painful"?

If you are still telling yourself "OMGZZZ, 'E IZ LYK SOO RONG, I WUD DIE FOR MA BF/GF" then you are either just desperate, want to go out with someone for image or are obsessed. In either of those cases, go and get professional help, because you are either sad, a chav or an emo.

My point is, no matter how you think you are "deeply in love" you never really are. Your age restricts you too much to truly experience having a long term partner, and therefore you cannot truly experience love until you have a house, car, money and a nice big double bed and all the other things adults use to piece together a love life. No matter how much you tell yourself you love your partner, you dont, its just exciting and makes you feel good temporarily to kiss someone, or hold their hand or tell them who you murdered last night.

Rant ends.

[Demi]

Sorry.
I'm over 16 =]
So I have the experience.

Yes you can be in love.
You probably haven't but someone has!

The empty feeling thing, you've got me wrong on that. =]

Sorry x

[Adam!]

Im 15, means nothing tbh..

And if I cared to look to the right of me there is a nice big comfy double bed thats mine? lol

[DiscoPat]

I strongly disagree with Professor-Alex, to be in 'love' you don't realy need experience, and the age doesnt realy matter as much, ofcourse an 8 year old wouldnt fall in love with somone but your saying about under 16s with no experience, well - to be honest, I'm 15 and don't have alot of experience, only loved two people, this is my seccond time. Each time it feels like "ah this is the one.." but its infact the same, but because you dont have feelings for the previous person, you forget exactly how it feels, its kind of hard to explane.. Overall, love doesnt have a specific age to be deeply in love, I say this because obviously an 8 year old (in general) doesnt realy have the inteligence to feel a 'deep love' thing, - you know...?:s.

[kasi]

aw, that's well cute.
+rep

[Browney]

Tripe. Utter tripe. Love is fake. Especially at this point in your life. Hormones raging, more image obsessed than ever you are in your life. Get over yourself.

LET THE FLAMING BEGIN!

[Demi]

Did somebody hurt you Cola?
Seems like you have something BIG against it.

Nothing against your views, but wow.

[kasi]

Did somebody hurt you Cola?
Seems like you have something BIG against it.

Nothing against your views, but wow.

lol yeah i thought that too.

[Demi]

Hehe.
Great minds think alike ;)

[Browney]

Well, I thought I was in love. I had all the symptons of love, but she was from canada and we ended up breaking up because we can't have a proper relationship because we were to young and too far away. It was a mutual feeling.

[Demi]

That's just a long distance relationship.
A REALLY long one.
If you know you can see that person every 4 weeks for like 2 weeks running etc... Then you've a chance then.

I mean mine sounds like a long distance relationship, it sort of is, but she comes every month for 2 weeks, and it's the two weeks we spend together.
I go to her's and stuff, like actually catch a plane. LOL

I guess catching a flight to Canada is well out of reach tbh.

[luke-p]

Love hurts alot antd I just give up on it till i am about erm 20 odd.. id like love but i'd like alot of things in my life but you cant always get what you want...

[its ree agen !!]

The most painfull is when you watch the one you love - love somone else..:(


try it when one of your best friends + them are together.

it sucks... completely.

[Demi]

Deserve to be SHOT!
=]
EEE

What?!?!? They do.

[Charley]

Sorry to crash the party, but I really think you're taking this too seriously. To formulate my post, I will make a few presumtions;
All people posting here are 16 or under (as is common on habbo)
All people who have posted have been in at least one mid-long term relationship (3 months+)

I would now like you to consider the relationship you have been (or are). You see each other at school, once or twice a week outside school, and keep in contact via phone/msn daily. When you break contact with this person, it is likely only to have dinner or to sleep, and within 12 hours you will be chatting away again like there is no tomorrow. It is not for an extended period of time. How this can leave an "empty feeling" is beyond all reasonable logic.

Now to the other point raised; breaking up. I would like you to consider all the possible reasons for someone who is 16 or under to break up with someone. It is highly unlikely that the sex life had gone downhill, or that you didnt have enough money to pay the rent without benifits (as is common in adult relationships). It is more commonly the case that you are simply bored with each other. Youve done everything there is to do, go to the cinemas, have a nice long kissing session behind woolworths etc, and now you want something different. It is also common that you've had a small argument about something extremely minor (such as who puts the phone down first). Now, if simply being bored warrants a break up, there can't have been a lot there to begin with besides the thrill of having another partner after all these months. So how can it be that "painful"?

If you are still telling yourself "OMGZZZ, 'E IZ LYK SOO RONG, I WUD DIE FOR MA BF/GF" then you are either just desperate, want to go out with someone for image or are obsessed. In either of those cases, go and get professional help, because you are either sad, a chav or an emo.

My point is, no matter how you think you are "deeply in love" you never really are. Your age restricts you too much to truly experience having a long term partner, and therefore you cannot truly experience love until you have a house, car, money and a nice big double bed and all the other things adults use to piece together a love life. No matter how much you tell yourself you love your partner, you dont, its just exciting and makes you feel good temporarily to kiss someone, or hold their hand or tell them who you murdered last night.

Rant ends.


I don't agree with this really. Some ways it makes sense, but it others it doesn't. I'm also in a long term, long distance relationship, I'm over 16, can drive etc etc but me and this person have been together for over two years? The person I'm with was 15 and I was 16 when we first started seeing eachother, yeah it wasnt serious straight away.. But you can be in love at a young age I think. Experience doesn't mean anything, I don't feel you need experience in 'love'. If you find your soul mate at a young age then fair play. having money/car/house makes no difference. If you've got the person you love with you, then nothing else matters. You find ways of making it work.

On the other hand, SOME young people 'think' there in love when they are not. Its all part of life really. But when you've found the right one, you'l know. For all the reasons the starter of this thread stated.:)

[Browney]

That's just a long distance relationship.
A REALLY long one.
If you know you can see that person every 4 weeks for like 2 weeks running etc... Then you've a chance then.

I mean mine sounds like a long distance relationship, it sort of is, but she comes every month for 2 weeks, and it's the two weeks we spend together.
I go to her's and stuff, like actually catch a plane. LOL

I guess catching a flight to Canada is well out of reach tbh.

You base a relationship on 2 weeks a month? At least I talked to my Girlfriend everyday.

[Demi]

You base a relationship on 2 weeks a month? At least I talked to my Girlfriend everyday.

lol
I'm talking to mine now.
I talk to her every night, on the fone mate.
Bills are expensive.
LOL

I see her quite a lot in this case.

You sure ned to learn to read my friend! =]
and... You really don't know what real love is.

Obvioussly you have your own beleif of what it is, but... you don't in my view.

[Browney]

lol
I'm talking to mine now.
I talk to her every night, on the fone mate.
Bills are expensive.
LOL

I see her quite a lot in this case.

You sure ned to learn to read my friend! =]
and... You really don't know what real love is.

Obvioussly you have your own beleif of what it is, but... you don't in my view.

Oh, we are friends now? Right. And I don't know what love is? Many people are more or less affectionate than others. Who are you to dictate what love is? You wrote a guide to being in love like love is simple. It's not. It's not symptoms it's not signs. You wrote that guide like it's a science. Love is special and there is no right and wrong ways to neither be nor fall in love.

Ps. I coloured all the spelling and grammatical mistakes to show you need to learn how to write, "my friend."

[cocaine]

The most painfull is when you watch the one you love - love somone else..:(

Oh god, tell me about it.

[DiscoPat]

Uhhhhhhhhhhh, drives me mad..

[Demi]

Oh, we are friends now? Right. And I don't know what love is? Many people are more or less affectionate than others. Who are you to dictate what love is? You wrote a guide to being in love like love is simple. It's not. It's not symptoms it's not signs. You wrote that guide like it's a science. Love is special and there is no right and wrong ways to neither be nor fall in love.

Ps. I coloured all the spelling and grammatical mistakes to show you need to learn how to write, "my friend."

No we're not friends.
I'm not God so I don't write it like it's "science"!
I write it the way I think it should be.
Or at least, my experiences.
Which in your case is none, in my case, lots.

[Mentor]

Oh, we are friends now? Right. And I don't know what love is? Many people are more or less affectionate than others. Who are you to dictate what love is? You wrote a guide to being in love like love is simple. It's not. It's not symptoms it's not signs. You wrote that guide like it's a science. Love is special and there is no right and wrong ways to neither be nor fall in love.

Ps. I coloured all the spelling and grammatical mistakes to show you need to learn how to write, "my friend."
It is science? it falls under biology, it can be explained right down to the indervidual endorphins released in your brain, your a human, not some all powerful being, were not as incridibly beyond scientific comprehension as we like to think we are.
How a conciosus mind reacts to the emotive pattens created by the hormonal chemical releaces in the brain though, thats the issue for philopshy, since tracking a nural network on the scale of the human brain, is one thing that is quite someway beoned are own comprihention.


Sorry to crash the party, but I really think you're taking this too seriously. To formulate my post, I will make a few presumtions;
All people posting here are 16 or under (as is common on habbo)
All people who have posted have been in at least one mid-long term relationship (3 months+)

I would now like you to consider the relationship you have been (or are). You see each other at school, once or twice a week outside school, and keep in contact via phone/msn daily. When you break contact with this person, it is likely only to have dinner or to sleep, and within 12 hours you will be chatting away again like there is no tomorrow. It is not for an extended period of time. How this can leave an "empty feeling" is beyond all reasonable logic.

Now to the other point raised; breaking up. I would like you to consider all the possible reasons for someone who is 16 or under to break up with someone. It is highly unlikely that the sex life had gone downhill, or that you didnt have enough money to pay the rent without benifits (as is common in adult relationships). It is more commonly the case that you are simply bored with each other. Youve done everything there is to do, go to the cinemas, have a nice long kissing session behind woolworths etc, and now you want something different. It is also common that you've had a small argument about something extremely minor (such as who puts the phone down first). Now, if simply being bored warrants a break up, there can't have been a lot there to begin with besides the thrill of having another partner after all these months. So how can it be that "painful"?

If you are still telling yourself "OMGZZZ, 'E IZ LYK SOO RONG, I WUD DIE FOR MA BF/GF" then you are either just desperate, want to go out with someone for image or are obsessed. In either of those cases, go and get professional help, because you are either sad, a chav or an emo.

My point is, no matter how you think you are "deeply in love" you never really are. Your age restricts you too much to truly experience having a long term partner, and therefore you cannot truly experience love until you have a house, car, money and a nice big double bed and all the other things adults use to piece together a love life. No matter how much you tell yourself you love your partner, you dont, its just exciting and makes you feel good temporarily to kiss someone, or hold their hand or tell them who you murdered last night.

Rant ends.
So many people seem to ramble on about this sort of crap in some form of attempt to sound knowlagable. But in reality, all of your dedcustions are bull, From a purley biological standpoint, your grounding assumpions are wrong.

Love = Nill to do with exsperince. Love is an emotive responce, not an active one, your exsperince is not involved, hence the phrase "love is blind" since we never learn to love from are past exsperince.

Age has little to do with emotive and biological maturity. You dont have some magical transformation when ever you pass threw a artical age boundry. Humans mature at differnt times, while some are fully capable of understanding emotions such as love at 14, others may not be cabable of fully understanding it to 20 or later.
The hormonal teenager steriotype comes from the fact, The sex drive is working, but the abilty to fully comprihend emotions such as love is yet to work, hence why it all becomes about self gratification, since the entire framework on which the human animal learns to choose its final mate, and acheave love, is yet to be formed. This does not happen at a set age, its varifes massivly. As ive already said, it has ZERO to do with exsperince, so you can own as many cars, houses, morgages as you like, this doesnt have anything to do with the emotion of love.
Love can happen in minutes or years, whether long or short, the emotion can be just as strong "/ Human emotions a ficle.

[Demi]

Ahh thank you!

[Browney]

Which in your case is none, in my case, lots.
You don't know anything about me do you? So don't make up my life story for me. And if you read my earlier post it says I felt everything you did when I was "In love."

[DiscoPat]

Everyone has different ways of showing and recieving love, but overall it wont make a huge difference..

[Demi]

You don't know anything about me do you? So don't make up my life story for me. And if you read my earlier post it says I felt everything you did when I was "In love."

Yes well..
Everyone has their own definitions.

[Charley]

Everyone has their own opinion on love as you can tell by the different replies in this thread. But only you know when your in love. Know one can tell you if your in love or not, because know body knows how you feel. They can pressume. But when does other peoples views bother you? Love is a strong emotion.

[Browney]

Everyone has their own opinion on love as you can tell by the different replies in this thread. But only you know when your in love. Know one can tell you if your in love or not, because know body knows how you feel. They can pressume. But when does other peoples views bother you? Love is a strong emotion.

+Rep for that. That's what I was/trying to say.

[Demi]

+Rep for that. That's what I was/trying to say.

But you weren't no where near?

[Browney]

Everyone has their own opinion on love as you can tell by the different replies in this thread. But only you know when your in love. Know one can tell you if your in love or not, because know body knows how you feel. They can pressume. But when does other peoples views bother you? Love is a strong emotion.

I said that you wrote a guide like love was simple. Eg, everyone falls in love the same way. Like everyone falls in love the same way. Also I did say I was trying to say.

[Rizla,]

Ok, I agree with Cola saying most teenagers can't fall in love, but f**king hell, you are a ******.

Edited by Nixt (Forum Moderator): please do not avoid the Forum filter, thanks :).
I know I'll get another infraction for this, but he is!

[Browney]

I'll take it "you" is me. I don't mind. Say what you like. Everyone's entitled to their own opinions. That is how a debate works.

[tbh imo no m8]

The most painfull is when you watch the one you love - love somone else..:(

Been there done that mate i can relate ;[


Sorry to crash the party, but I really think you're taking this too seriously. To formulate my post, I will make a few presumtions;
All people posting here are 16 or under (as is common on habbo) 17
All people who have posted have been in at least one mid-long term relationship (3 months+) try 4 years

I would now like you to consider the relationship you have been (or are). You see each other at school, once or twice a week outside school, and keep in contact via phone/msn daily. When you break contact with this person, it is likely only to have dinner or to sleep, and within 12 hours you will be chatting away again like there is no tomorrow. It is not for an extended period of time. How this can leave an "empty feeling" is beyond all reasonable logic.You my son have obviouslly never been to this point in your life and when you do son you'll know what he means it is indescribale and you are right it is like 12 hours but still for this 12 hours the only time your not thinking about him/her is when your asleep unless you are dreaming about them.

Now to the other point raised; breaking up. I would like you to consider all the possible reasons for someone who is 16 or under to break up with someone. It is highly unlikely that the sex life had gone downhill It does you just don't notice it until someone points it out after you brea up, or that you didnt have enough money to pay the rent without benifits (as is common in adult relationships). It is more commonly the case that you are simply bored with each other. She was with me not me her Youve done everything there is to do, go to the cinemas, have a nice long kissing session behind woolworths etc(if that floats ya boat mate), and now you want something different. It is also common that you've had a small argument about something extremely minor (such as who puts the phone down first). Now, if simply being bored warrants a break up, there can't have been a lot there to begin with besides the thrill of having another partner after all these months. So how can it be that "painful"?

If you are still telling yourself "OMGZZZ, 'E IZ LYK SOO RONG, I WUD DIE FOR MA BF/GF" then you are either just desperate, want to go out with someone for image or are obsessed. In either of those cases, go and get professional help, because you are either sad, a chav or an emo.

Like i said you have obviouslly not been there son

My point is, no matter how you think you are "deeply in love" you never really are. Your age restricts you too much to truly experience having a long term partner 4 years, and therefore you cannot truly experience love until you have a house, car, money and a nice big double bed and all the other things adults use to piece together a love life. No matter how much you tell yourself you love your partner, you dont, its just exciting and makes you feel good temporarily to kiss someone, or hold their hand or tell them who you murdered last night.

Rant ends.

[Demi]

Simple reason for this thread which I didn't meantion.
It's my view on it.
You can guess that if you have some common sense tbh.

Thank you =]

[StripedTiger]

like the thread maken +rep :)

its quite helpful thanks

[Demi]

It's okay, thank you!

[MusicPalace]

:O if that is like true...I'M IN LOVE.

[Demi]

Glad to hear XD

[louder]

you've described lust imo, i've felt that tonnes of times.

EDIT: i just looked at your myspace btw, the picture of you + your girlfriend is SO sweet. aw [:

[Demi]

Ahh Lust + Love = All you need =p

xxx

[yessaJOSH.]

If that's true, im definetely in love. <3

[J00BI]

good advice usin 2moz

[@xP]

Lol thanks ill try it :)

[Josh-H]

try it when one of your best friends + them are together.

it sucks... completely.

I've experienced that one... Its a weird feeling, you are like ... i'm sad shes going out with my best mate, kinda happy for your mate and just sad overall :(

Now for my next problem, this guy I don't like and the girl I do like telling each other that they like each other ETC.

Much Worse^^

[Hannybobz]

Everyone has their own opinion on love as you can tell by the different replies in this thread. But only you know when your in love. Know one can tell you if your in love or not, because know body knows how you feel. They can pressume. But when does other peoples views bother you? Love is a strong emotion.
amen to that :)

Im in love and im only 14 and I don't care who says what and who thinks what... I know full well Im in love :) This is the guy i lost my virginity to and I'm glad it was him! :D

[Animate]

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