Do u think long-distance relationships work?

[.Nickie]

I was just wounderng what people think about long-distance relationships and if people think that they work out. Its i am in one atm as i live in birmingham and my bf lives in wales. Everything is going great and we have been together for nearly 3 months now.
So yer vote in the poll and write your reasons for thinking if they do work or if they dont.
Nickie x

[benjamin]

no, and i feel that from past experience.

[Ostinato]

I think they can...

I think it is an extremely hard thing to do and must be really difficult to get through, but I think if a couple has a lot of love and just have to put up with it - they can get through it.

I think it only really works though if the couple knows they will re-meet again, and it's not like a permanent arrangement...

[Liam!]

I think they can...

I think it is an extremely hard thing to do and must be really difficult to get through, but I think if a couple has a lot of love and just have to put up with it - they can get through it.

I think it only really works though if the couple knows they will re-meet again, and it's not like a permanent arrangement...
yeah, above's right.

so lee.. you and rebecca are over babe.

[Nixt]

I think if you are prepared to stick with it, they can. As long as you see them now and again though.

[lick me]

if you make regular plans to meet them yes. but seriously long-distance relationships, for example, someone living in the uk and their partner in america, it won't work.

[.Nickie]

if you make regular plans to meet them yes. but seriously long-distance relationships, for example, someone living in the uk and their partner in america, it won't work.
Thts not totally true my mate hasa bf in america and they have been together for nearly 3 years. I just guess it depends if you can both cope with not seeing the other person.
In a way it is good though cause then you cherish the time when you are with the person to make it more special.. if u get wot i mean

[piddle2k6]

It depends what kind of relationship it is and if you are prepared to dump the physical side of it

[dirrty]

depends how loyal they are. since there is a distance, one person could cheat on the other and they wouldnt find out.

[.Nickie]

i think this is gonna get me all scared now
=']

[Nightrose]

depends how loyal they are. since there is a distance, one person could cheat on the other and they wouldnt find out.

True, very true, you need to have a lot of trust there,

[Seacat]

If you meet regularly then I think it'd probably work better than a normal one because you'd be even more happy to see each other instead of it just been a routine of walking in to school and seeing each other, then seeing each other all weekend and every weekend. I'm not saying people who spend all their time with each other have rubbish relationships, but if you go ages without seeing each other it's gonner feel really exciting every time you meet.

I don't think it can work if your relationship is online only and you've never met the person. I also think that you have to have met in real life before you started a relationship, not just started talking to someone on MySpace then started going out with them and saying "oh yeah we'll meet" when really you both know it'll never happen.

[Lyca]

I think they can work but its alot of effort to keep it up.
You need to meet reguarly and not just have the odd conversation on MSN.
I dont know how ld you are but if you are comfortable with sex it would be good to have a healthy sex life when you do see him

[Liam!]

If you meet regularly then I think it'd probably work better than a normal one because you'd be even more happy to see each other instead of it just been a routine of walking in to school and seeing each other, then seeing each other all weekend and every weekend. I'm not saying people who spend all their time with each other have rubbish relationships, but if you go ages without seeing each other it's gonner feel really exciting every time you meet.

I don't think it can work if your relationship is online only and you've never met the person. I also think that you have to have met in real life before you started a relationship, not just started talking to someone on MySpace then started going out with them and saying "oh yeah we'll meet" when really you both know it'll never happen.
LOL that's what lee's doing.:rolleyes:(2nd paragraph)

[danny.p12345]

well... they only happen if both people trust each other. If you dont then theres no point atall.. I actaully prefer it now lol cause everytime u meet you make the most of ure time were as if you lived closer together you would see them but it wouldnt be the same.

But yea this is the first long distance relationship ive been in and its grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrreaaat :D

[Niall!]

NO i don't think it can.
Espeacially over the net

[Boo-]

Yes they can.

My boyfriend is in the army. He lives about a 3 hour drive from me. He only comes down on weekends sometimes not even every weekend. But its true what Seacat said, it does make it more exciting to meet up and you appreciate each other more when you do spend time together. We have been together for 8 months now and everything is going great.

The main thing is trust. - even though recently one of my friends tried to mess up our relationship and split us up... but they are just jealous ;]

[Tristan]

If they used to live close etc.
Not if they've never met eachother/been far apart from the start.

[danny.p12345]

well me n nickie are workin XD cause i love her soooo much XD

[Lycan]

It works but only with older people.. for example

a long distence relationship between 17 yearolds has a much his rate of sucess then one between 13 year olds, 14 yearolds etc etc.

the same with close distence relationships..

[:Hazel]

Not really, must be hard to commit to someone you don't see.

[Lycan]

not really... you can easily commit.... only thoose who are prone to cheat and look around can't commit and thats normally the girl i might add.

if you find it hard to believe that long distence can't work what about when one goes on a trip for 3 months.. should the commitment vanish or are you rather stupidly refering to "Internet Only" Relationships

for example i am in a long-distence relationship at the momment and i do go and see her and she does come down weeks to see me - train costs 134.40

[Shawnstra]

Nope. If you cheat on the other party, he/she cannot stop you :P

[.Nickie]

Hmm.. i dunno wot to say... i know that people can promise to not cheat and stuff but they are only words. I guess a long-distance relationship is just really about the trust and love between them both and if one doesnt have both then the relationship aint gonna work.
i think the hardest part of my l-d relationship is the fact i have no self-confidence and dont think anyone would like me. And well yeah i do trust him but i still have that little part inside me but i guess its the same if you have a close relationship with someone.

[Hippacrocabear]

I think they can...

I think it is an extremely hard thing to do and must be really difficult to get through, but I think if a couple has a lot of love and just have to put up with it - they can get through it.

I think it only really works though if the couple knows they will re-meet again, and it's not like a permanent arrangement...
I agree.
My friend i am going traveling with has been with her boyf for years and years ther going to be apart for atleast a year.
If they can last that, they can last anything.
I dont think i could do it myself.

[Cwmbran]

If you see them occasionaly then yes, i.e. Every weekend, a few times a month etc.

If you don't see them at all then I doubt it would work out.

[SusieC]

Yes- from the lyrics "The time we spent apart will make our love grow stronger"- :P

It deopends on you and your partner- whether you're strong or not, because some can't take the time of being apart but some only grow stronger with being apart- because they are motviated by the thought of when they see each other again.

[-Soph-]

in my own opinion, no.

[lAdmire]

I have never long-distance dated. All my bf's have been from my school && in my town or close to my town && I think it doesn't work because you really don't know what their doing when you're not there so it'd be hard to trust the person && also you rarely ever see them. && you probably only talk to them through MSN because of long-distance calling most likely. It just doesn't work. What's the point?

[Niall!]

It works but only with older people.. for example

a long distence relationship between 17 yearolds has a much his rate of sucess then one between 13 year olds, 14 yearolds etc etc.

the same with close distence relationships..

Dats cuz most 13 + 14 your olds are horneh and feel the need to have sex before the age of 15

Don't worry I'm not like that xD

[le harry]

Same, if your a driveable distance away then it might work. Anything further is silly.

[YoManGo!]

depends. personally i wouldn't be able to commit and would end up cheating, but that's just me.

[Jaiisun]

Nickie! x

It really depends.
Some people can make it work, others are hopeless at it.

I've tried a long-distance relationship and they don't really work for me.
If your partner is upset, or crying, you just want to be with them and hold them, an MSN emoticon would just feel patronising.

Now, it takes me 1 hour to get to my girlfriends house.
1 train.
1 bus.

It can be annoying, but that's worth it.

Being honest, we met on Habbo.
Permanant, old-school, die hard (ex-)Habbox staff will remember her as misspartyqueen.

The first few meeting times were awkward, but they pass.

Now, we've met each others families.
She's been to a family meal with my whole, extended family.
I've stayed at her house (still working on her staying at mine! :P)
It's all great!

So, the distance is a big dependance factor.
And your tolerance of being away from them.

Jealousy kills off most long distance relationships.
If they're out with their friends, you don't know them; as much as you think you do.

BIG JAY RANT OVER.

[Virgin Mary]

For a while, yes - but, in the long run, no.

[Kanakai-D]

In my opinion..
I don't think they work.
I mean sure it's really good to miss someone now and again..:P
But one day you'll get down because you can't see them, then you break up.:S
But that's just my opinion tbh..