Abit stuck...

[Crimson]

Well, i feel a little nervous posting here.

Anyway, I'm 13... and I am attracted to men much more than females. I find some girls pretty but i am much more into the whole idea of, well men.

School is such a vicious place, your not accepted if your not classifed as "normal", whatever crap that might be. I seem to force myself to not be attracted to men, but everytime I see this one particular boy, it is all thrown back in my face.

I'm really nervous, and shakey whenever i talk about it... I wanted to speak to someone about it, yet at the same time I dont. If you know what i mean.

I hang around with girls, way more than boys. I have about 2 male friends really.. I don't know why. But most of them call me a "poof" and so on anyway. My best friend is Charlie, I really wanted to tell her basically everything. I did sort of hint to her once, but she didn't get it. About a week ago i told her a secret and she blabbed it out to someone...

I just really wanted to say somthing, any advice?

[:Hazel]

You are quite young so people may say its "just a phase" if you tell them now. I'd keep things to youself at the minute purely because of your age, your hormones could be all over the place.

However if you feel you are 100% sure of how you feel and are ready to tell someone i'd suggest someone more responsible than a friend who could be prone to blabbing e.g. your parents perhaps.

[Crimson]

Thats the problem, i'm like 50%... Thankyou +rep

[CrazyColaist]

now that you hole school know's you may get called a queer a poof but you will get quite alot of attention (not attention seeking) but when everone gets to know it will die down you will still be called gay **** sometimes but thats by the chavs//year fives.

[Nightrose]

umm mabye your
Bi-curious
or even Bi-sexual - means you fancy both men and women (just in case you didnt know)

[Leprachaun--X]

Are you certain you are more attracted to men?

Because sometimes it could just be the idea of sex that gets you to think about what it would be like with the same sex and other things etc.

Like one guy was worried because he got aroused by seeing his friends penis but really after a while he realised that you get aroused alot at random times sometimes.

I wouldnt really worry too much and I think the best person to talk to is someone older who you know and trust

[Antony]

You are quite young so people may say its "just a phase" if you tell them now. I'd keep things to youself at the minute purely because of your age, your hormones could be all over the place.

However if you feel you are 100% sure of how you feel and are ready to tell someone i'd suggest someone more responsible than a friend who could be prone to blabbing e.g. your parents perhaps.

Like Hazel said, boys go through a faze through puberty, whereas they become attracted to the other sex. I, like Hazel would reccomend you keep it to yourself, see how you adapt with how you feel, like I said it could turn out to be a faze. Untill your 100% sure about your sexuality, e.g.. if you continue to be attracted to guys, then you should come to terms with being bi-sexual or gay. But it's always up to you whether you want to come out about your sexuality. Do it when you feel comfortable and ready to accept who you are :)

Never feel bad about who you are either! :D

[:Jamie]

Keep it to yourself and wait and see how you feel when you grow up a bit more.

[Jamesy]

i think the important thing is to be urself, if they dont like it they can shove it :)
And i know what u mean, sometimes i sometimes wonder about things like that. So either im Bi, or just hormones, but however you turn out your friends should accept it, perhaps they just arent mature enough now. hope this helped

[Vause]

if your friends dont accept you - they're not really your friends. i've been through this about me being 'gay/lesbian' at school, i told people i was bi to shut them up, and as i left 3 weeks ago, i've just come clean. seriously, be who you want to be and don't let anyone hold you agaisnt that.

[fallseason]

True but its hard you can't go your not my true friend and leave then it'd be harder to go through plus I'm not sure it could be a phase but i don't think you have to kiss or go out with a guy just to like them... you are who you aree and thats all there is to it.

[unit]

If you tell some of your girl friends (ones you trust) then they take it a lot better than a guy will :) They might even be excited because they have a "gay best friend" (I know my friends were) :)

[fallseason]

I am 13 and I am Bi (85/15 85 gay)but I am not too sure if its a phase because I use to be really homophobic until about 12 and a half when I started to like the same sex. I don't really want to tell people especially not at this age I would like to keep it quiet until 14 months when I am 15 and maybe think about telling my family its just I don't want to go through this and then a few months later turn straight.

[Kieran]

I went through the "gay" phase. I think a lot of males do. I think the reason why I did was because I saw my next door neighbour naked all the time whenever we stayed over at each others houses (nearly every weekend). Now Im not attracted to males. Sure, everyone and then I think phwoar he's fit but not in a way that I'd actually want to do anything with them.

Just wait till your at least 16ish. Then decide if you feel you really are.

[Jamesy]

it probably dont help either that half the adverts on here are Real Jock with a half naked man on the front...

[Antallica]

This is like a phase i think.

[Decapitated!]

This is what happened to me it happens to most people youre either gay or straight or bi its YOUR choice.

[Niall!]

You are quite young so people may say its "just a phase" if you tell them now. I'd keep things to youself at the minute purely because of your age, your hormones could be all over the place.

However if you feel you are 100% sure of how you feel and are ready to tell someone i'd suggest someone more responsible than a friend who could be prone to blabbing e.g. your parents perhaps.

It's extremely hard to tell anyone, most of all your parents. I imagine I have sometimes and I know what the reactions would be.
Tell youre best friend, the quiet ones are often the best :)

[Nuxty]

DO NOT LISTEN TO OTHERS! YOU yes YOU chose your sexuality! No one else!

Yes, you do get bullies out there but just ignore them. Because think to yourself them bullies will probley be in prison by the age of 18/19.

Just think, would you rather be a bully and commit crimes and be in prison? or settle down with someone you love? So what if its a man! They only thing that matters is that you are happy and love this person.

Don't let others bring you down! Remeber you are better than bullies!