mhmm, worried about my mate.

[edible]

Right, basically my friend's Mum has got the shingles, last Monday her Mum went into hospital with heart problems, and so she stayed at her dads and didnt come in the next day.
I asked her if she's okay, and if her mum's okay and she just gets all..quiet and she's like yeah yeah, and she's hesitating.
She's been spoken to numerous times about missing out on things such as lessons which will be needed for exams and that. She's coming into school late all the time, she's forgetting things, getting in trouble.
Yesterday, we were walking together to the lower site, and we saw an ambulance and she was dead paranoid, worried, and she burst out in tears, we went to the office, she phoned but there was no answer, so she starting crying again, but her's Mum's supposebly okay now..I've seen her in the streets doing shopping for her Mum and she's been up late doing work, going out for things for her Mum.
Yesterday aswell, she left her School folder/diary thing at minee, and asked me to bring it in the next day..And i did something wrong, Im kinda scared to tell her I did this as she may flip on me, and I dont wanna upset her tbhh.

I read her diary thing, and it had loads of notes from her mum to our Head Of Year, basically saying that everythings okay and fine, when it's not..
One of the notes said "She's really worried/scared, I nearly died infront of her last week and she keeps panicing alot, and Im scared she will mess up her exams" And also it said stuff about her brother, which I knew about, but her Brother went missing a couple of weeks back.

I know i shouldnt of done what I did, but I was concerned, I've told her that if she needs anything she can tell me, but I cant stand liars and I cant stand her lying to me aswell, so I dont really know what to do.

Im worried incase she messes up with exams and school, and she's REALLY worried about her Mum, she's pretty much falling behind.

Any advice?!

[Breakfloor]

shes scared for her mum. theres nothing you can do. shes not gunna stop worrying because your worrying for her.

imagine if your mum was ill and shes nearly died aload of times. you wouldnt be a happy person either. so shes going to be fine but not untill her mum is.

i know what im talking about because i was in hospital for 6 weeks and it was the other way round. the parent was scared for the kid. if he got a phone call he would rish so he could pick it up just incase something happened to his boy. if an ambulance went past he would worry (i dunno why because his kid was already in hospital) but when his kid got over it he was alright.

[edible]

I'm not just worried about her being worried about her Mum, Im also worried about her education with exams and thatt.

And I'd expect her to be worried..but it's just cos she's getting REALLY upset about it, at the most random moments..one minute she's all happy, and like a minute after she's in tears.

Her Mum's only nearly died infront of her once..

[efq]

Just give her time, and dont bring anything up that will upset her.

Hopefully her mum is fine.


Exams can wait. I dont think she really cares about them at the moment and she shouldn't.

If shes got stress she should be allowed off school. With a reasonable reason.

[Breakfloor]

im sorry but shes never happy if you think its just randomly.

she will always be worried. but happyness is her shield. she dont want you to know shes scared for her mum.

the only thing you can do is get her to let it out. emotions are like animals. they dont like being caged. the longer she ignores them the worse she will get. if she wontlet it out then im afraid to say theres nothing you can do.

[edible]

but the thing is..i think she can tell I know that she's scared, which is why she does this "happy" thing.

[Shawnstra]

Ask your mate to be mentally prepared. If not he/she will be even more devastated if something happens. Console him and affirm him that his mum would be ok, but just in case, expect for the worse. Good luck :)

[:Hazel]

Just continue to try and talk to her & maybe even have a chat with her Mum saying how worries you are about her education etc. so that maybe her Mum can speak to her. It sounds as though she has had a traumatic experience- so give her time.

[iJoe]

tell your head of year....... but say you dont want them to say yuo told them

invite her out this weekend and dont talk to her about her mum,

[le harry]

Dont talk to her if you know it will upset her.

Try and get her to keep her mind off it, go to the movies etc.

[.:Normal...]

Poor girl :( I'm not sure about your school system, but here if you have excused absences for emergencies and such you'll be able to take them over in summber school if you wanted to. If I were you I would look into that because I don't think she should take exams worrying about her mom every 3 seconds anyways. So look into that and see what you can do for her. You're a great friend!

xox,
Jess.

[Lozzoling]

Hug her, alot.