Depression

[Charlie]

Yeah, so i've had a really crappy month, and i've been on some help forums, trying to get some sort of help, but i just can't think what to say, and i don't know what to do, and i'm desperate.

And, i know this probably seems really lame, but i seriously have no idea what to do anymore, i honestly just don't see the point in anything, and i just wanna give up, and i have no-one to turn to, to talk to or help or whatever, and i'm just so lost, and bleh.

I'm just looking for some sort of idea or help or something, and don't post really stupid things because i'm seriously not in the mood for your pathetic immature comments. This is like, a 100% serious thread, i really need something because i'm that desperate.

Anyone?

[Duck Hunt]

It Would Be Easier To Help If You Told Us Why You Feel Depressed Or Else The Only Kind Of Answers People Could Give Are Stupid Ones
Id Try Helping But Idk What Im Going To Try Helping With

Sorry That i Cant Help Atm ;[

[Charlie]

I know it would be easier, but i really don't know what to say, and if i do say it, i'll be a massive long life story, i'll try anyway.

So, my girlfriend got all paranoid about this girl who likes me that i'm talking to, and just starting complaining loads and then she started threatening to leave me, this went on for hours, and then she would, but she'd come back the next day, and in a few hours, she'd be doing the same thing, and it happened for about a week, and then after that, the girl she was paranoid about, just started talking to me less, and then blaming me for not talking to her, and all this other silly stuff, and i just couldn't handle being asked all these questions, and then having her not believe my anwers.

Also, my whole relationship is internet based, and it's gotten to the point where i can't stand just talking over the internet anymore, i need to do things in real life because i've said all that i can say to her, that we need to do things in real for it to work out because we're just boring each other to death, but her mom hates me for something i did, and refuses to let my girlfriend meet me, and my parents won't let us meet unless her moms okay with it, and knows, which just makes it harder, but we're still trying to make it work, but i just wanna give up because it just seems so impossible, but i love her, even though its over the internet, so i don't wanna throw away a year long relationship, even though it's pretty much pointless.

I also have the fact that i have no life, i spend all day on the computer talking to people or just doing something utterly lame, because i'm just too shy to go out and meet people and lead a decent normal life with a social life and friends and so on, and it's just making me thing, what's the point in being here, if i have no life? I also have problems with my dad going off in moods, and not talking to anyone for days and then i'm having to listen to my mom complain when its her fault for not being a great wife as well as a great parent so that my dads in these moods.

So yeah, that's the whole problem, and i'm sorry for it being so long but i tried to include everything that i could.

[Duck Hunt]

I also have the fact that i have no life, i spend all day on the computer talking to people or just doing something utterly lame, because i'm just too shy to go out and meet people and lead a decent normal life with a social life and friends and so on, and it's just making me thing, what's the point in being here, if i have no life? I also have problems with my dad going off in moods, and not talking to anyone for days and then i'm having to listen to my mom complain when its her fault for not being a great wife as well as a great parent so that my dads in these moods.

That Right There Seems Like Me.. im On The compute Almost All Day Refusing To Answer The door Incase They Want Me To Go Outside To Play (Theyre Like 5 Years Younger Than Me But Still) I Hate My Dad Too.

About The GF Part, Is It Possible To Meet In Secret? Like Go To A Resteraunt with Her Without Letting The Parents Know? If There Isnt And If She Still Is Paranoid Just Try Meeting Privatly To Sit And Talk About It. Otherwise There Isnt Much You Can Do That i Know About :( Or Just Stop Talking To That Girl Entirely If She Trys Talking To You (If Its Real Life..) Just Walk Away (If its Computer..) Idk How You Chat On There.. Habbo? If So Just Ask Your GF to Go To One Of Your Locked Rooms

i Hope This Helps, If Not, Sorry :(
Gl With These Problems Too

[Charlie]

It has helped, thanks +rep.

The thing is, we are trying to sort something out so we can go behind her moms back and do it all in secret, but it means that i'd have to go there, and she lives in Wales, which isn't really close to me, and it's about 2 hours on the train to get there, and i'm not so sure about catching the train on my own because i'm scared of missing my stop and stuff, but we have been trying to come up with loads of ideas on how to meet.

Also, with this other girl, i think i might just try and talk to her and clear everything up, about certain things that i haven't and won't mention, and see how it goes from there, as i haven't be completely honest, so i'll try that.

And, thanks for helping. ;)

[Duck Hunt]

Np - Ouch 2 Hours.. Well Again i Wish You Luck With Whatever You Can Do With This

[ScottDiamond]

Eat some fruits, do some work outs in your room and go out on your bike for about half an hour. It keeps you fit and when you feel very fit you feel like going to explore more, going out and meeting new people as you always remember:

"If I can cycle for 3 miles on my bike in a day, I can do anything in a day."

You just need to reach out and achieve what you want. :)

[UnholyJess]

Tell the girl that likes you that you do no want any relationship with her, and let your girlfriend know that. It will make her feel much better. In my opinion i think your girlfriend is just afraid of losing you.
Explain to her exactly how you feel.

I think your girlfriend needs stability.

Your still young, you have your whole life ahead of you. You have plenty of time :)

[paws]

Every phrase through puberty brings depresion from your hormones. If you aint been with someone for a few years. You'll get very depressed. If that's not the case, arrange to go cinema with some friends or something, have some fun :).

[Charlie]

Eat some fruits, do some work outs in your room and go out on your bike for about half an hour. It keeps you fit and when you feel very fit you feel like going to explore more, going out and meeting new people as you always remember:

"If I can cycle for 3 miles on my bike in a day, I can do anything in a day."

You just need to reach out and achieve what you want. :)

I'll try that, and see if it works out. Thanks +rep.


Tell the girl that likes you that you do no want any relationship with her, and let your girlfriend know that. It will make her feel much better. In my opinion i think your girlfriend is just afraid of losing you.
Explain to her exactly how you feel.

I think your girlfriend needs stability.

Your still young, you have your whole life ahead of you. You have plenty of time :)

I've told the girl that i love my girlfriend and i can't be with her, and it just upsets her and so just goes and stuff, so she does know that, and keeps asking if we'll be together and i don't know, and when i say that she does the same. It seems like she doesn't understand that i'm already with someone who i love, and that i can't just leave her for someone that i don't have feelings for. And, my girlfriend knows i have no feelings for her and stuff, but i've been known to lie alot, so she can't trust me. :(

Thanks though. +rep.

Every phrase through puberty brings depresion from your hormones. If you aint been with someone for a few years. You'll get very depressed. If that's not the case, arrange to go cinema with some friends or something, have some fun :).

Yeah, it probably does, and not being with someone has upset me before, so it's probably just that, but it seems alot worser then before, and i'm scared of what might happen. Also, all my old friends have gone off and made new ones, and due to my account being hacked, i've lost all contact with them so there is no way to plan meeting up with them and stuff.

I did apply for college again, and i was hoping to get myself so new friends as i am a bit more confident, but it doesn't look like i'm going to get into college, and due to back/leg problems, i can't get a job and do the same and try and get friends that ways.

Thanks though! +rep. Oh, paws, i can't rep you because your cautioned, but i'll rep you when you aren't if you remind me ;)

[UnholyJess]

Well if the girl wont leave you alone just tell her to stop bothering you :)

[Nightrose]

k
well ill try and help.

Your Gf is online correct? and so is the other girl, what i can see is that your gf doesnt trust you and that is a serious issue because in a internet realationship there needs to be more trust than in real life as you cant physically be around the person bur if u can over come that it will work. internet relationships normally fade out after a year or you begin not to talk as much but with yours it seems like your going strong.

explain to the other girl that likes you that if she carries on like that, you will have to chose your relationship over her and i know this sounds harsh but cut her out, ie block her to either she understands that you cant be her friend because of the feelings and complications between you both and that she could end up recking your relationship. which if she likes you she will understand it.

Your Gf- seems worried that your cheat on her and she will end up with a broken heart, you should talk over that you both talk to other girls and no matter if one of them likes you, you would never leave her for them. teling her this and making her part of your regulay life routine might help like ring her at a certian time of every week say a friday evening, or plan to talk at a certain time everyday and tell her you love her a lot in the convos at random times, she wont think your werid but sweet, Trust me. Tell her that nothing wil lbecome between you two not even the distance or your friends, tell her shes the most important thing in your life.

Meering her- You both wnat to meet up but her mums not having it, it may be because she doenst wnat her "baby" going to meet someone as she may think something "sexual" will happen between you to but shes covering it up by saying that its something you did. A lot of parents dont want their children to meet their online lovers as they think either something "sexual will happen" because no one will travel that far for anything.

anyway maybe you should have your mum meet her mum for a coffee at the same time as you meet her, this will be able for both mothers to meet and discuss any issues that arrive and then you either stay at hers or she goes back to yours but do not meet up secretly as if yours and hers parents find out they may stop cotact between you both all together. you wouldnt want that.

About going out-i used to be like you, used to always stay in on the computer chatting to people that i met online and friends, but recently i got the corage to go out with my friends because its the end of school neraly and everyones relaxed and dont comment about what i wear etc. maybe to start off you re- socilaizing have a sleepover with a few mates. you could go shopping with each other. Tell them about your online gf so they can support you through it.
if not go out for a excersize and think of yourself as beauitful and confindece remember your what you think you are, no matter what anyone say so stand up tall and get out there girl.

sorry for the long post
all the best sweetheart
x

[:Hazel]

i probably cant reallt post anything that hasnt already been said but...

1. you need to meet this online g/f to strike up a proper relationship. you say you have no one to talk to but she may be the one you can confide in, meet in a neutral place in between where you both live.

2. talk to your dad if you can & ask him whats wrong and explain that he is creating an atmosphere when he goes off in these moods. he might open up...

3. i know it sounds cheesy but try & get a hobby of somesort, something that you feel good and confident with. it will get you out of the house & you may meet new friends and open up a wider social circle because of it.

all the best, i hope things get better. :)

[Blue]

i suppose most of this has been answered in the post, but about the train thing, i was like that, i get anxious really easily. If you do decide to get the train to see her, then perhaps ask someone at the train station when the next train is etc etc. Also look on the internet for the train times and know what stop to get off at and stuff, it would end up being fine

[DiscoPat]

I think everyone would agree that if her mum likes it or not, you two need to meet in real life to just boost it up as Hazel said above. About the social life thing, I'm not sure how old you are so I'll try to be specific; try going into a club for example, if you like cooking, then join a cooking club or chess club etc, this way you will be around people who you have somthing similar about and talk/discuss things, also you would make some new friends who you can go out and have fun with.

Try to avoid things which make you stressfull or depressed, and try to be with people who you can talk and have a laugh with. There is more to life if you actually do somthing, by siting at home, nothing will suddenly change, honestly.

Just arange to meet with this girl your in love with and see how things go, I hope everything turns out well mate :)

Disco

[sarey]

you on medication for depression? if not, go to your doctor and ask if you can. it might help?

[Nightrose]

you on medication for depression? if not, go to your doctor and ask if you can. it might help?

psh pill arnt the answer they just make things worse
sorry sarah#

[sarey]

it's ok, but they have helped my mom, she has had depression since i was four and she started medication a few years ago, she's got alot better. i guess it effects people it different ways...

[Antallica]

see a doctor?

[Charlie]

Sorry for bumping this thread or whatever, but just thanks to everyone who posted, i've repped you besides Hazel because i have to spread, so i'll rep you when i can.

I'll try all of what you have said, and see how it goes, and so on. Also, i daren't go the doctors because i've have to have my mom arrange it because i'm just way to shy to do it, so she'd ask what was up and say i didn't need that anyway. I also had some conselloring, well, it was one session which was bad enough and i'm scared the doctors will be the same, which is way i never went back to conselloring.

[sarey]

But, it could help you? I'm not saying medication will help because it effects people different ways, it's just if you get some help, maybe therapy or something, then it could help you... just a suggestion. ;)

[Buttons.]

Just to bump the thread or whateverr. It's three hours from her place to mine. :)!

[Charlie]

Just to bump the thread or whateverr. It's three hours from her place to mine. :)!

You said it was 2 hours?

And, we aren't together anymore, so it doesn't matter anymore does it?

[Buttons.]

Hms. It might've been two hours. I'm sure it was like ohoh two and a half?

Andand it's your fault we're not.

[Charlie]

Excuse me? You are the one that dumped me, so if it's anyones fault, it's yours! :(

[Buttons.]

You know my reasons for doing that. You're the one who wouldn't take me back or anything!! :(

[Charlie]

You know my reasons for doing that. You're the one who wouldn't take me back or anything!! :(

Well, you dumped me, and then a few seconds later, your asking me out? I mean, you could at least make up your mind. And, when i do ask you out, you just don't give me an answer and stuffs! (u)!!!

[Buttons.]

It's not a few seconds thanks!! And i didn't exactly ask you back out.

And are you waiting for my answer? Oops, i must've forgotten. ;)

[Charlie]

:'( .

[Buttons.]

Oh quit complaining. I'm yours aren't I?

[Shawnstra]

I know it would be easier, but i really don't know what to say, and if i do say it, i'll be a massive long life story, i'll try anyway.

So, my girlfriend got all paranoid about this girl who likes me that i'm talking to, and just starting complaining loads and then she started threatening to leave me, this went on for hours, and then she would, but she'd come back the next day, and in a few hours, she'd be doing the same thing, and it happened for about a week, and then after that, the girl she was paranoid about, just started talking to me less, and then blaming me for not talking to her, and all this other silly stuff, and i just couldn't handle being asked all these questions, and then having her not believe my anwers.

Also, my whole relationship is internet based, and it's gotten to the point where i can't stand just talking over the internet anymore, i need to do things in real life because i've said all that i can say to her, that we need to do things in real for it to work out because we're just boring each other to death, but her mom hates me for something i did, and refuses to let my girlfriend meet me, and my parents won't let us meet unless her moms okay with it, and knows, which just makes it harder, but we're still trying to make it work, but i just wanna give up because it just seems so impossible, but i love her, even though its over the internet, so i don't wanna throw away a year long relationship, even though it's pretty much pointless.

I also have the fact that i have no life, i spend all day on the computer talking to people or just doing something utterly lame, because i'm just too shy to go out and meet people and lead a decent normal life with a social life and friends and so on, and it's just making me thing, what's the point in being here, if i have no life? I also have problems with my dad going off in moods, and not talking to anyone for days and then i'm having to listen to my mom complain when its her fault for not being a great wife as well as a great parent so that my dads in these moods.

So yeah, that's the whole problem, and i'm sorry for it being so long but i tried to include everything that i could.

How far do you live from your girlfriend? Maybe you can do it secretly. Also, do you really love her? If not, I suggest stepping out of your comfort zone and look for a girlfriend who lives near you. As for your parents, you can try talking to them, telling them how you feel. For all your problems, you can also share them with your friends.

Good luck (: