Trust Issues.

[MusicPalace]

(sorry if this is the wrong section/forum or whatever, I figured since its a lesbian relationship it should be posted here.)

Ok so I spent the night at my girlfriends last night and she was talking on the phone while I was there to this one girl for like an hour before she got off the phone and then later the girl called again and they talked for about another hour. I was getting pretty ticked off and asked her to get off the phone, her dad even asked her to and told her she was being rude talking on a phone with a friend over. I agreed but all i told her when she got off of the phone was that she had annoyed me by being on the phone for so long and not hanging out with me.

So to get to the point...my girlfriend invited this girl over. So today she came over along with my girlfriends cousins and other friend. (this was like a huge lesbian part...see we were all lesbian or bi...4 of us have girlfriends...my girlfriends friend who she had invited over dose not.) Anyways we were all watching t.v and playing video games and I look back to see my girlfriend sitting next to the girl on the coach. My girlfriend kept poking her, playing with her hair, and playing with her hand, and EVEN touching her leg! I only caught about two seconds of it before my girlfriend realized I was watching and stopped whatever she was doing. I kept looking back and seeing her doing something flirty that I did not like at all. So I decided to stop watching t.v and sit in front of them, that way there was no way my girlfriend could do anything. Then the girl layed down and put her legs over my girlfriends lap (that i wouldn't have minded if they weren't so flirty!).

I was going to stay overnight again but i have to go to church tomarrow. Well that girl is sleeping over at my girlfriends house. I'm not there to stop them from being so flirty or doing anything.

Does anyone think im overeacting or should i be worried that they will do something tonight?

[the wombats]

be worried, they obv having an affair. i'd talk to her about it if i was you.

[MusicPalace]

i don't know how to bring that up. how well is "are you cheating on me?" going to sound or "i think you're cheating on me." is their any other way to bring it up to her?

[Charlie]

Sit her down, and just ask her why she kept talking to her instead of you, and why when they were together, she was being all flirty with her, and say that your scared shes about/are cheating on her, and you want to know whats going on.

It really does sound like she's about to cheat, hint why she was being all flirty, or that there is something that is going on with them already, and you should really talk to your girlfriend about it, especially if she was acting all flirty with her, rather then you, i would consider your relationship with this girl as she seemed more interested in her then you.

[MusicPalace]

Sit her down, and just ask her why she kept talking to her instead of you, and why when they were together, she was being all flirty with her, and say that your scared shes about/are cheating on her, and you want to know whats going on.

It really does sound like she's about to cheat, hint why she was being all flirty, or that there is something that is going on with them already, and you should really talk to your girlfriend about it, especially if she was acting all flirty with her, rather then you, i would consider your relationship with this girl as she seemed more interested in her then you.

should i do it in person? (and its not much of a suprise she'd like her and not me...see my gf is kind of goth and that girl was goth...im just not goth like that...so she probably would like a goth gf better.)

[Charlie]

should i do it in person? (and its not much of a suprise she'd like her and not me...see my gf is kind of goth and that girl was goth...im just not goth like that...so she probably would like a goth gf better.)

Yeah, it's better to do it face to face, so she'll know how you feel with the expressions on your face, and you'll know if she was lying to you or something. Also, it's alot better to talk to them face to face because it shows that your serious about it as well.

[MusicPalace]

Yeah, it's better to do it face to face, so she'll know how you feel with the expressions on your face, and you'll know if she was lying to you or something. Also, it's alot better to talk to them face to face because it shows that your serious about it as well.

yeah i see what you're saying now and agree,but I'll have a hard time getting her face to face. I mean maybe I can get her to come off the bus to my house wednesday. But I wonder if that would be too late. Do you think waiting until wednesday is safe?

[Charlie]

yeah i see what you're saying now and agree,but I'll have a hard time getting her face to face. I mean maybe I can get her to come off the bus to my house wednesday. But I wonder if that would be too late. Do you think waiting until wednesday is safe?

You could get it a few days to see if what she did was a on off, and see if her attitude has changed around you and this girl, and it also gives you time to think over what to say/do, and then you can try and get her round your house to talk, and then confront her about it.

[MusicPalace]

You could get it a few days to see if what she did was a on off, and see if her attitude has changed around you and this girl, and it also gives you time to think over what to say/do, and then you can try and get her round your house to talk, and then confront her about it.


well i don't think that me and her will be around that girl again for a while maybe never again. Maybe I should just see if she acts differently around me in school. Do you think I should talk to the other girl?

[Charlie]

well i don't think that me and her will be around that girl again for a while maybe never again. Maybe I should just see if she acts differently around me in school. Do you think I should talk to the other girl?

Yeah, that's a good idea as well, you could confront the other girl as well to see what she has to say, and if you won't see the girl again, maybe see how she acts around you this time around to see if it was just a one off, or something, but also maybe have a word with your girlfriend as well, because something may have happened.

[MusicPalace]

Yeah, that's a good idea as well, you could confront the other girl as well to see what she has to say, and if you won't see the girl again, maybe see how she acts around you this time around to see if it was just a one off, or something, but also maybe have a word with your girlfriend as well, because something may have happened.

maybe i can ask the other girl if they are just friends. I think the other girl just thinks me and my girlfriend are just friends, but im not positive. I am in contact with this girl on myspace and such, but i don't know if i'll see her in person again or not. do u suggest talking to the girl on myspace or in person? also who do u suggest i talk to first?

[Charlie]

maybe i can ask the other girl if they are just friends. I think the other girl just thinks me and my girlfriend are just friends, but im not positive. I am in contact with this girl on myspace and such, but i don't know if i'll see her in person again or not. do u suggest talking to the girl on myspace or in person? also who do u suggest i talk to first?

Well, if this girl just thinks that you and your girlfriend are just friends, maybe contact her via myspace and ask her if anything is going on between her and your girlfriend because they were getting flirtly, and then confront your girlfriend with the evidence if this girl says that something was going on.

[MusicPalace]

Well, if this girl just thinks that you and your girlfriend are just friends, maybe contact her via myspace and ask her if anything is going on between her and your girlfriend because they were getting flirtly, and then confront your girlfriend with the evidence if this girl says that something was going on.

well the thing is im not positive if she jus thinks me and my girlfriend are just friends. should i take a shot at it anyways?

[Charlie]

well the thing is im not positive if she jus thinks me and my girlfriend are just friends. should i take a shot at it anyways?

Yeah, what's the worse that could happen? If she tells your girlfriend, she'll know you know, and probably cover it up, but then at least you'll know the true or something.

Good luck with it, and i hope you find out what you want to know. :)

[MusicPalace]

thanks. I think i'll wait until the girl leaves my girlfriends house so that my girlfriend dosn't look over the girls shoulder while she is reading my myspace message.