Age difference.

[Scriptermone]

Hmmm, yeah - well I like this girl you see... but the thing is, i'm in year 10, she's in year 7.

Although there's a 3 year age difference in school years, there's only a 2 year age gap, she's 12, nearly 13, im 14, nearly 15.

We both like eachother alot.

Do you reckon it would be considered 'sick', or 'disgusting' to go out with someone who's younger than you?

If we do end up going out, do you reckon you can give me some advice on how to counter the people who start verbally abusing me?

I only want positive replys, any negative ones - i'll get mod to close.

Thanks

-Joe

[mangle]

To be honest if that were my school it would be riddiculed. Personally i would wait till the summer hols but you both like each other so i wouldn't hold back tbh.

[the wombats]

since she is 12 and you're nearly 15, then i think that is quite bad as she's still very young and going through pubety. however, it's upto you really.

[Kardan]

I think something up to a 5 year age gap is fine, but not when your so young...
Maybe give it a few more years?

[Scriptermone]

Thanks for the positive reply.

Yeah as you said, it would be riddiculed, I would only plan on telling a few of my most trustworthy friends who wouldn't take the **** out of me or anything.

May I ask, why wait til' the summer holidays? :S confused lol.

EDIT: And btw at alcohol, she previously went out with a 15 year old when she was 11.

and as I said in my first post, she is 12 and closer to 13, than I am 14 closer to 15.

[the wombats]

Thanks for the positive reply.

Yeah as you said, it would be riddiculed, I would only plan on telling a few of my most trustworthy friends who wouldn't take the **** out of me or anything.

May I ask, why wait til' the summer holidays? :S confused lol.

you can spend alot of time with her on your own without your friends maybe?

[Scriptermone]

Ah yeah lol, got a bit confused lol.

Read my edit btw ^^

[mangle]

You can go 6 weeks just you and her , noone has to see you and you two can build a relationship without all the hastle. Also she'll be in year 8 when you get back!

[Scriptermone]

thanks for all the positive replys everyone. :D

I really appreciate your help.

[Antallica]

I wouldn't because you get people going 'OMG DUDE SHES 13 UR 15'
its bad enough me going out with someone 12 and im 13 :S

[Kardan]

I wouldn't because you get people going 'OMG DUDE SHES 13 UR 15'
its bad enough me going out with someone 12 and im 13 :S

I think 12 and 13 is worse than 13 and 15 :P

[Hecktix]

Well, you are gonna start wanting (if you aren't already) sexual activity in the next few years, and she won't be ready for that for a couple of years (if she it's it's wrong), so if you do stuff like that with her it's completely sick because she may not be fully developed etc.

Due to her age, I wouldn't PERSONALLY.

Also, you can't keep things quiet nowadays, people at school would find out, and I get the crap ripped out of me for going out with a girl in the year below me, let alone 3 years below :P

I would avoid it, due to the sex thing and people finding out, but it's up to you.

[Scriptermone]

Sorry dude, im not putting you down or anything, but that really wasn't the advice I was looking for :S

Why do you think I asked for advice how to counter people saying *Removed* like that?

EDIT: Pointed at Antallica, not you invincible.

EDIT 2: To be quite honest, I don't really want to have sexual activity until i'm with someone, where we are both at the legal age of 16.

Edited by Nick- (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not post language that could be seen as inappropriate on Habbox Forum.

[Mumie]

Dude, it's not about what other people think. I mean, noone can take over your life.

Make your own decisions in life, don't let ANYONE make decisions like this for you.

LEAD YOUR OWN LIFE..

Did I sound like a hippy?

Mumie <3 AKA Simon :P

[Scriptermone]

Dude, it's not about what other people think. I mean, noone can take over your life.

Make your own decisions in life, don't let ANYONE make decisions like this for you.

LEAD YOUR OWN LIFE..

Did I sound like a hippy?

Mumie <3 AKA Simon :P


You know what, i'm gonna stick by that rule you've just given me.

'Lead your own life'

+rep to everyone who's given positive comments and actually helped.

Thanks everyone.

[indian8132]

My mum and dad have a 4yr difference in age (I think its 4yrs :P) its ok when your older but not when your in school.

[Hecktix]

Yeah go for it... just don't sleep with her kk

[Scriptermone]

I wont, don't worry :D

I wouldn't do anything that she didn't want to do/object to.

[Callum.]

If she's like mature and you're not planning on being sexually active with her then it's fine, but you'll probably get flamed? at school for going out with her although you could tell no one and secret date her =).

[e5..]

If you live nearer her, see her out of school, where noone at school would know, but more hug each other at school than get off, save that till your at home =]

[Hecktix]

Even if she wants to don't have sex with her - it's wrong.

[Scriptermone]

I wont lol.

[Brody]

tbh if u were in my skill i would take the **** out of u bad tbh because i dont think age difference is wrong just maturity i mean she is probabl;y just starting puberty or going through it where as if ur 15 u towards to end but up 2 u

[hobo]

how can u find a 12 year old attractive when ur 15? :s
i think it's quite gross tbh, cos i would consider a 12 year old to be a child, they definately look like one, but i'd consider a 15 year old to be nearer an adult.
i don't get how you can look at a 12 year old and not see a kid.

[Scriptermone]

ok, that's your opinion.

I have mine, and so far every single post here has been helpful, except yours.

in maturity, mental-wise she is a very smart girl, she doesn't really hang out with all people in her year, usually year 9/10's...

EDIT: That was at brody.

She doesn't look like a kid to be honest, I can pm you a picture to you if you want florescent.

EDIT 2: btw, i'm not 15... i'm 15 on July 31st, she's 13 in like 2 weeks time.

[Callum.]

i sorta think a 12 year old going out with a 15 yr old is a bit ******, and a 15 year old who can't get a girl friend so he looks for people younger.

not being rude or anything sorry.

[Scriptermone]

:/

she's 13 in 2 weeks...
i'm 15 on July 31st, practically august...

[Leprachaun--X]

Well my friend went out with a guy who is atleast 2ish years older than her but she looks young for 15 and has been asked if she was in year 10 by the dinnerladies (your not allowed down the town at lunch unless your in year 10 and above)

And the guy did get lauhed at by his mates for a while but everyone just got used to it. And tbh if you like eachother you should go out and tell anyone else to shove their opinion where the sun dont shine.

[Scriptermone]

Well my friend went out with a guy who is atleast 2ish years older than her but she looks young for 15 and has been asked if she was in year 10 by the dinnerladies (your not allowed down the town at lunch unless your in year 10 and above)

And the guy did get lauhed at by his mates for a while but everyone just got used to it. And tbh if you like eachother you should go out and tell anyone else to shove their opinion where the sun dont shine.

Wow, I find it hard to believe why some people can't post more positive things like you.

+ rep.

Thanks for the advice.

[Jamie!]

it does sound fairly sick like.. i suppose she looks older for her age and is not just some lil kid?

suppose aslong as you like her, and she likes you, then you might aswell. i just wouldn't go about doing stuff with her if she ain't developed yet.

[Scriptermone]

If i'm allowed i'll post a pic of her and you tell me your opinions.

[Jamie!]

If i'm allowed i'll post a pic of her and you tell me your opinions.

you're allowed, as she don't use the forum.. or you could just upload it onto photobucket or something and post the link.

[Scriptermone]

Here's a link to a pic on her bebo:
In my opinion, she doesn't look 12 atall.
http://file023b.bebo.com/10/large/2007/04/01/21/2357624296a3985837988b61461097l.jpg

[Kieeran]

To be honest if that were my school it would be riddiculed. Personally i would wait till the summer hols but you both like each other so i wouldn't hold back tbh.

Thats true. But in my school thersa sixth form going with a year 9 and he gets called a nonce and a perv etc. But, when people are older, it makes no difference. My mom and her bf have nearly a 10 year gap, although he looks 10 years younger than what he is anyway, you wouldnt believe his age

[dannyisnotamazing]

It would be bad for you in school times because people will take the mic and it will annoy you although it's a small age gap when your old it's not but at a young age it is.

[Scriptermone]

She doesn't go to my school lol.

[cocaine]

Here's a link to a pic on her bebo:
In my opinion, she doesn't look 12 atall.
http://file023b.bebo.com/10/large/2007/04/01/21/2357624296a3985837988b61461097l.jpg

lmao, she doesn't look 12 at all, she looks about 13/14.

dude, do what you want to do, if you can keep a stable relationship with her then sure, go for it! why should you care what other people think, as long as you're happy with each other?

[Scriptermone]

Thanks matt, so far the only posts i've seen from you have been positive :D

You've probably had loads of name changes or w/e. lol.

But thanks for the advice, i'll try to rep but I repped you recently for that funny post lol.\

EDIT: Gotta spread, ill give you some some other day :D

EDIT2: Funny thing really, she looks older than she does, and guess what... so do I, when she saw me in my display pic she thought I was 20 O_o here's the pic she saw lol... may I remind you all, i'm only 14.

http://i3.bebo.com/034a/12/mediuml/2007/05/28/10/2121441071a4508796649b832536925ml.jpg

[cocaine]

Thanks matt, so far the only posts i've seen from you have been positive :D

You've probably had loads of name changes or w/e. lol.

But thanks for the advice, i'll try to rep but I repped you recently for that funny post lol.\

EDIT: Gotta spread, ill give you some some other day :D

EDIT2: Funny thing really, she looks older than she does, and guess what... so do I, when she saw me in my display pic she thought I was 20 O_o here's the pic she saw lol... may I remind you all, i'm only 14.

http://i3.bebo.com/034a/12/mediuml/2007/05/28/10/2121441071a4508796649b832536925ml.jpg

lmao ty :]

i used to be erosions, xelame, neurotic & cocaine.

and yeah, you look way older than 14 O.o

[Scriptermone]

Ah yeah, I remember you now.

How old would you say I was if you didn't know how old I was.

[cocaine]

Ah yeah, I remember you now.

How old would you say I was if you didn't know how old I was.

i'd say like 16/17, possibly 18.

[Scriptermone]

Hehe, when I went on holiday to spain, my dad knows this guy and I hadn't seen him since I was like 6 or something, don't really remember him, but he though I was 21 lol, I was like O___O how cool xD

[PlebHead]

Hmmm, yeah - well I like this girl you see... but the thing is, i'm in year 10, she's in year 7.

Although there's a 3 year age difference in school years, there's only a 2 year age gap, she's 12, nearly 13, im 14, nearly 15.

We both like eachother alot.

Do you reckon it would be considered 'sick', or 'disgusting' to go out with someone who's younger than you?

If we do end up going out, do you reckon you can give me some advice on how to counter the people who start verbally abusing me?

I only want positive replys, any negative ones - i'll get mod to close.

Thanks

-Joe



If she's a fairly mature year 7 then it's not so bad really. If she's like still a little girl it would perhaps cause more of something for "people to talk about". But at the end of the day who cares about what other people think, aslong as you are both happy.

And as for the people who may start verbally abusing you, they are probably single themselves so they are hardly the right people to judge you for anything to do with who you go out with.

[Scriptermone]

Thanks for your response :D

[dannyisnotamazing]

EDIT2: Funny thing really, she looks older than she does, and guess what... so do I, when she saw me in my display pic she thought I was 20 O_o here's the pic she saw lol... may I remind you all, i'm only 14.

http://i3.bebo.com/034a/12/mediuml/2007/05/28/10/2121441071a4508796649b832536925ml.jpg

That's fairly shocking.. you look like an adult and a very scary one at that. o.0*!

It may be because of the hair and such but you look like you're about 18-20..

[Zample]

Babe, don't worry about it. I've just recently turned 13, my boyfriend is 14 and going on 15 at the end of June. The thing is, we both completely love each other. You can't let what other people say put you down. Yes, things happen, but honestly.. if you like her, go for it. There will probably be issues. I remember my good friend Nicole was always looking out for me, when I started first going out with my guy, I was still 12 and he was 14. I was on MSN talking to him at one point, and I left the room. While I was gone, Nicole started to flame at him, asking him why he's screwing around with a 12 year old, why he couldn't get someone his own age, and what he was trying to do to me.
He was slightly taken aback, and he kind of just blocked me for the time being. I came back and looked at the message history, ****zed out on her, and had to call him back and apologize and beat Nicole up :)


Look - people will say things, but they'll eventually get over it. Forget other people, anyway.


I may only be 13, and only newly a teenager at that..

but most people don't see me as a child.


And to the guy who said that anyone who looks at a 12 year old could see a child, I seriously beg to differ.


http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n81/Zample/Me/barnesandnoblebaby.jpg


that's me with a couple friends.
we're all around the same age.

do you see children? :x

tbh, i don't, and nor do many others.




edit: btw you look olddd! xD but in a good way ;]

[Vause]

im 15, and amy is 14.

im 16 on august 13th, shes 15 on august 23rd. (:

god i love her <3

[burton-x]

Being realistic, people would probably get the wrong idea...
but if she acts older than year 7 or whatever, then people will probably be understanding. Close friends will stick by you, even if they do tease a bit! lol

[Vause]

well i've left school, and amy's in y10.

but like burton said, if she acts older, who cares? your happy and that's all that matters :)

[burton-x]

Yeh, when you're older then girls always go for older guys, a couple of years would be nothing! Most people's parents have more than that, but its when people are still seen as children when people start raising eye brows...
but seirously do what you wanna do otherwise you'll regret it.

[Vause]

my mum is 40, and my step dad is 33. L-O-L.

[burton-x]

Mum and Step dad are a day apart, but Mum and normal dad are like 5 years apart,
and my Dad and Step Mum (its gettin like Eastenders) , well, my Dad is 49 and my Step Mum is like 35 or something :l

He's like "I love it when Julia has a birthday, because every year I feel slightly less like a pervert"

[Vause]

ROFLMAO.
it makes me laugh.
but lol, my mums well old and mark (step dad) is like 33/34.

my real dad is 44 LOLLLL

[Zample]

Hahaha i have a friend whos mom is like 52, and her dad is like 35. hahaha they're divorced though. :3 but it still amuses me.

[clarissa !!]

theres 10 years between my mum and stepdad looool :|

[Vause]

LMAO! ooer, that's alot.

[Byble]

Wait For A While.. My Dad Is 10 Years Older Than My Step Mum.. It Doesn't Matter When You Are Older..

But Not In School.. Its Like Sounds Pervy =]

[Vause]

it sounds pervy yes, but if they're happy then who cares?

[FlyingJesus]

And to the guy who said that anyone who looks at a 12 year old could see a child, I seriously beg to differ.


http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n81/Zample/Me/barnesandnoblebaby.jpg


that's me with a couple friends.
we're all around the same age.

do you see children? :x


Yes.. you all look very young there actually. edit: In fact I wouldn't even say 12..

As for this case, if she's in year 7 that's age 11/12 not 12/13, so something's wrong there. As others have said, I don't see how a 14/15 year old could see a 12 year old as being attractive unless there's something wrong with them, and I know the girl in this case may not look that young and may act mature etc., but she is still 12.

Also, no offence to young people (and I'm sure I'll get loads of replies saying OMG YER I CAN) but at that sort of age you can't understand love properly. I know because I've been that age and thought I knew it, and I've known it as it is at an older age, and I realise myself that I didn't have a clue before.

As a further point, although you may not be thinking about sex right now, you will soon enough. Every 15 year old starts wanting it, and if you stay with her for a long time, by the time she's legal you'll have had to have been together nearly 4 years without it, and no mature relationship can last that long without sex, so it either wouldn't last or you'd be doing something very wrong.

[Vause]

i went in a relationship without sex for nearly 9 months. :)

[Carlos]

young love ;D

[The Professor]

young love ;D

Lol -.-

And IMPO age doesnt matter, maturity does. Most year 10s (my year) in my school have the maturity level of a year 7, and vice versa. Thats why I dont believe in the "age of consent," it's whenever you're mature enough to handle the consequences.

If she is one of the more mature year 7s, I would say go for it. But YOU also have to be mature enough to take the consequences. By that, I mean the pee-takes, people calling you a paedo and the such.

Good luck :)

[xenex]

Wait till shes 13 and your 15, then itll took better, trust me

[Moh]

I like this girl whos 13 and im 16 :(

[YoManGo!]

im year 10 and my girlfriend's in year 9... and people say i'm bad O_o

[.:Normal...]

12 and 14 is kinda young. But 13 and 15 seems fine to me. :]

[Soka]

Wait till shes 13 and your 15, then itll took better, trust me

what you mean look better, its up to him what he does

as long as they don't have intercourse then he can go out with her, its your choice but think about it this way, my parents have a 2 year gap and most parents have a simliar age gap sometimes around 4 years, so its simliar circumstances. like people said you might get ridiculed for it by people at school because for example a person in my year (11) goes out with a year 8 and everyone calls him a paedo lol. but if you like this girl then just ignore it and build the relationship stronger in the holidays and you should be fine in a few years with no worries at all :)

[DCeption]

I would probably wait a few years as in school the age differnce seems rather more significant than if you have left school etc.

[Bef]

Meeh, when i was 11 i had a 14 year old boyf. Lol. My brother and cousins always used to take the mick out of my little boyf and im sure some kids in school must have given him some crud about it but nothing to terrible. We wer "together" for a year. Wouldnt count him as a serious boyf thou as i was so young and it was more of a friendship really.
When i was 12 i had a 14 year old boyfriend and was with him till i was 15 and at the time i thought it was really serious. I grew up, realised i was just a little girl trying to be mature.
At that age its all really about friendships. I had a really good friendship with both my "boyfriends" when i was young but after we "split up" i didnt speak to either of them so i ended up losing a friend. Meh, i dunno.
Go for it but try and not take it all to seriously. Have fun.

About the whole parent age gap thing.

My real dads like mid 40s and his wife is like 24/25 or sumit. How bout that for an age gap :|

[BlIc]

dude if u think about it ladz of ur age are not supposed to approach girlz of that age in that way.... if you were 23 and she was 20.... well thats an normall matta but dude think about what ur friends would say and think about you future in relationships at ur skwl .....

[RunescapeWorker]

Wait until your 17, if she likes you still and like her still you know it's love. regardless, don't use her at all :) i'm pretty sure you won't do anything like that

[Ini]

Man dont listen to these guys, if you like her go for it.

If your friends laugh they aint your friends just dont be shy, but no naughty stuff that would be wrong lol.

Treat her as if you were the same age.

[Ashley 12344]

Cba reading all thread, but do what you want to.
I'd keep it quiet, pretty much guarantee you'll receive abuse at some point.

I'm 16, try to limit it to 2 years gap. Still got for 15/16 preferably anyway, tend to find they aren't up for as much younger. You know what I mean :P

[Swearwolf]

Im 17. ex gf is 13. gap meant nothing to anyone who knew us both

[I3rap]

It's 700 days differnce, it's hardly anything, it would be sick if they where like 10 and you where 19. I guess in the school year's people think age differnce does matter, go with what you want.

A suggestion to counter the possible bullying, to go out, but not "Publicly" IE not snogging in the middle of school etc.

[bouncy-bunny1]

I don't see what the problem is..I have a friend (shes 13) whos going out with a 15 year old. As long as you like her, she likes you and you get on there's nothing wrong with the relationship.
Because your older people may think your likely to force her into stuff but you seem like a nice guy, just try to find out if she likes you and if she does go for it!
If people start upsetting you with stuff about your age difference just ignore them if you have a special bond and really like eachother theres nothing wrong with it. :D