How do I ask them?

[timROGERS]

Hey,

I'm an early teenager but I've never felt confident enough to ask someone out. I'm confident in just about every other way, I just can't bring myself to do it.

There's a girl I know well in the year below me, and I just don't know what to do. I think about her so much, and it sends shivers down my spine. I've fancied lots of other girls in the past, but this is different in my mind. The problem really is that I don't want to ruin my friendship with her, aside from the fact that I'm not confident enough to ask her.

I was away on a camping holiday with the church over the weekend, which we both go to, and loads of her friends came up to me and said that they could tell I fancied her, but I just denied it. If they can tell I fancy her, she can probably tell too. When I think back to it, I was consciously and sub-consciously flirting with her.

What should I do? I just can't work it out.

[VPSwow]

Just say to her something like i really enjoy hanging around with you and i love out friendship. Then continue to say maybe we could go out but i dont want to ruin our friendship if it doesnt work out :D

Good luck

[mangle]

Ask one of her friends to see if she likes you?
That'd be a good starting point , if they know you like her then they wont exactly be like "OMGZ THATS WELL SUPRISING" And if she doesn't like you carrying on trying to make her like you and if she does , go for it :]1

[timROGERS]

Just say to her something like i really enjoy hanging around with you and i love out friendship. Then continue to say maybe we could go out but i dont want to ruin our friendship if it doesnt work out :D

Good luck

Thanks for that, but it's just not that simple for me. What do you say? Won't it sound a bit blunt if you just say "will you go out with me?".


Ask one of her friends to see if she likes you?
That'd be a good starting point , if they know you like her then they wont exactly be like "OMGZ THATS WELL SUPRISING" And if she doesn't like you carrying on trying to make her like you and if she does , go for it :]1

I'd do that ideally, but they'd probably tell her which would mess up our friendship :(

[mangle]

Thanks for that, but it's just not that simple for me. What do you say? Won't it sound a bit blunt if you just say "will you go out with me?".



I'd do that ideally, but they'd probably tell her which would mess up our friendship :(
Isn't their a chance she already knows ?
Of course you could just leave it but that gets you knowhere tbh

[Breakfloor]

Well son, its when a man and a women love eachother..

on a serious note.. whip it out and stick it in.

on a REAL serious note just start talking to her abit more before you ask her. if you talk to her then shell just think as you of a friend. try and get closer and THEN start asking her friends. and when the time comes "will you go out with me" will be a good start.

[Phreedom]

man I have the same problem with girls. I am just really shy soo.. yeah

[Mr.Sam]

Ask if she is busy *insert day* and go somewhere together (Not the cinema..)

[Dentafrice,]

well if they tell her thats a good thing.

for me I always ask one of her friends, im not that confident either.

[Throne Sofa]

I've got the same problem. I'm confident in nearly every other way aswell. I'd go for it though, however if you arern't that confident maybe ask one of your mates and her mates to ask them 'questions' about you like ask her to say to the girl you fancy "do you like him" "you think he's fit" or sumin ;) gl!

[Hecktix]

give me her myspace or msn, i'll ask her for you xo

[Yoshimitsui]

Just keep talking to her, and act normal. If you let things take their tole you may find out more about what she feels, spend some time with here when it's just you 2 and things will brighten up.

[@K]

I was never very good at asking girls out, I used to just do it when I knew for a fact that the girl liked me aswell, but now, I have a lovely girlfriend because I just asked her out :D Even though I am quite shy still.

[Boonzeet]

No no no, that will never work. Been down that road. Anyway I can only give advice on how to stop failing a relationship, cos im useless...
Dont be me. Dont hide it from her until it is too late. Just pull the courage and make sure no jerks ruin it. Being Asked by mates = Embarrasing. Dont deny it, dont try and get rid of it. Go with the flow. Just try and pull up the courage. I asked a girl out, no suprise but when she said 'No' we still stayed freinds. There is nothing to be nervous, but I know how you may feel. It wont ruin your life.

But If you are not ready yet, give it a while. Talk a lot. Be kind and generous to her, try flirting. Perhaps she may come once to ask YOU out.

[Antallica]

Sit her down, just you 2, nobody else.
and say
well, i enjoy hanging around with you, i really like you and care about you.
and etc.

[tully4leanne.]

Do wht u think is right

[Colin-Roberts]

royalairforce! ye you read my mind man, stay the hell out of my mind theres dirt things there.

Ontopic: just talk to her more and more become closer, idk about most people but around here when a boy and a girl are friends everyone including that boy in girl asume that there going date eventually it's just the matter of when and how.

[Rockstar]

If i was you Id just go for it "ask her" and If she says no just say ok and leave it that and ask if your still friend's I suppose. :D

[Recursion]

Well son, its when a man and a women love eachother..

on a serious note.. whip it out and stick it in.

on a REAL serious note just start talking to her abit more before you ask her. if you talk to her then shell just think as you of a friend. try and get closer and THEN start asking her friends. and when the time comes "will you go out with me" will be a good start.

That made me lol so much its going in my sig, +REP :P

I had this problem, I told her. If you do it over the phone it doesn't feel so bad :) - I said to her something like "Look, what Joe has been telling you is true, I do love you and want to go out with you, but I don't want to spoil our friendship over it". Just tell her something like that, worked for me :]

[M6mmikaru]

Aw. :) So sweet.
You hsould invite her somewhere - eg. for a walk and where you could just talk to her. If she really is a friend, and let's imagine she wouldn't like you the same way u like her, she would understand and wouldn't change her attitude to you.

Good luck with her, <3

[Rauhl]

just sing youre beutiful by james blunt ^^ shell get the idea

[liquid]

I was away on a camping holiday with the church over the weekend, which we both go to, and loads of her friends came up to me and said that they could tell I fancied her, but I just denied it. If they can tell I fancy her, she can probably tell too. When I think back to it, I was consciously and sub-consciously flirting with her.

What should I do? I just can't work it out.

as far as i know, most girls that age would talk to each other about boys they like. so ask her friends? although if they told you they could tell, if she did like you they'd probably have told you then. -shrug-

[lAdmire]

i think you should just talk to her & be like, i like you but i don't want to ruin our friendship.
just get to know her, ask her out & stuff.

[M6mmikaru]

i think you should just talk to her & be like, i like you but i don't want to ruin our friendship.

just get to know her, ask her out & stuff.


Yhh. That's a nice one :)

[Muppet]

Just grit your teeth and ask her, have confidence! Tell her its okay if she says no, and that you understand if she does. If she says yes its a bonus!

[Tristan]

Hey,

I'm an early teenager but I've never felt confident enough to ask someone out. I'm confident in just about every other way, I just can't bring myself to do it.

There's a girl I know well in the year below me, and I just don't know what to do. I think about her so much, and it sends shivers down my spine. I've fancied lots of other girls in the past, but this is different in my mind. The problem really is that I don't want to ruin my friendship with her, aside from the fact that I'm not confident enough to ask her.

I was away on a camping holiday with the church over the weekend, which we both go to, and loads of her friends came up to me and said that they could tell I fancied her, but I just denied it. If they can tell I fancy her, she can probably tell too. When I think back to it, I was consciously and sub-consciously flirting with her.

What should I do? I just can't work it out.
Mega cheesy, sorry.

Just say to her something like i really enjoy hanging around with you and i love out friendship. Then continue to say maybe we could go out but i dont want to ruin our friendship if it doesnt work out :D

Good luck
Mega cheesy.

No no no, that will never work. Been down that road. Anyway I can only give advice on how to stop failing a relationship, cos im useless...
Dont be me. Dont hide it from her until it is too late. Just pull the courage and make sure no jerks ruin it. Being Asked by mates = Embarrasing. Dont deny it, dont try and get rid of it. Go with the flow. Just try and pull up the courage. I asked a girl out, no suprise but when she said 'No' we still stayed freinds. There is nothing to be nervous, but I know how you may feel. It wont ruin your life.
But If you are not ready yet, give it a while. Talk a lot. Be kind and generous to her, try flirting. Perhaps she may come once to ask YOU out.
Sorry for yourself much?! LOL.


i think you should just talk to her & be like, i like you but i don't want to ruin our friendship.
just get to know her, ask her out & stuff.

Mega cheesy.

Yhh. That's a nice one :)
... lol.


er kk dnt mention ur friendship cause dat's jst stupid.
Well don't say the exact word "friendship" because that just sounds like you're trying to be mega mature and act as if this was the love of your life which it isn't... Your age speaks buckets to prove that.
Word it somehow else if you're going to talk to her about it don't say "I love you" or "I really care about you" or "I have feelings for you". "I like you"/"I really like you" is the right way to go. Cause the previous ones just sound stupid, lol.
Then u reassure her by saying "but if u don't like me in the same way really, don't let it affect us as friends...". No mention of friendship kk. Sounds too stupid.

kk dun.

Best option would be to ask her friends though, preferably the nicer ones if she's got some proper munters as friends. Then if she dnt lyk u in dat way den she wnt b put off of u because of u fancyin her init. As she most likely wud be if u went out straight to her.
Then if they dno if she likes u or not, they'd ask her.

kk. repz plz.
lolllllll.