Am I over reacting? +rep to any good answers

[348GTS]

Okay, today my brother got home from mississippi. My parents paid 5000$ to send him there for a month, to help build houses for victims of Katrina. Then she spent roughly 2000$ on the stuff that he needed to bring. Its a really good thing to do, I said that I might want to do it, but she said maybe next year. It got me kind of mad that she was spending all this money on him, but then I just thought I was being selfish.

Then, today when we go and pick him up, my sister says to my mom, (my sister is 17) that next year she wants to go down to africa to help. My mom said that that would be good, and she'd even pay her a salarie of 8$/h to work down there. It costs 4600$ to go. My mom said no problem.

See the big thing is, my mom and my dad say that I'm their best child. I always help out, I help my mom all the time, same with my dad, I make dinner, clean up the house, walk the dogs, clean their cages, do all the chores. So I'd think after awhile I'd get some sort of reward, not trying to be selfish, but it'd be nice. Instead they send my brother, who all he does is throw tandrums (hes 15), to mississippi for 5grand and my sister who borrows the car and also treats my mom like ****, to africa for 4600$. Also, when my brother came home, my mom ordered him over 200 dollars worth of new abercrombie clothes and like 200 bucks in shoes. Then, we go to winners and she wont even buy me a 15$ wallet. When I asked for some abercrombie clothes, she said that I didn't need it. My brother has like 10x the amount of clothes I have. My mom is always comenting me too. I guess she treats me like an adult. If I have a problem, I'll talk to her about it. If I want something, I'll let her know.

I know this kind of sounds like a rant, but I really need help. My parents are really really nice, I couldn't imagine better parents, but its kind of unfair, how I do everything, and I get nothing? Another example, we have cleaning ladies every wednesday come. We're suppose to clean up before they come, so they're not waisting their time cleaning up our crap. My mom goes "Andy, can you clean up the whole house before the cleaning ladies come" and i just say okay, but I'm a bit dissapointed, so shes like okay i'll ask sam if she can do the games room. But, shes out tanning, so she doesn't need to.

I guess I am acting a bit selfish. Its just I've got to the point were i'm doing so much and getting nothing in return. also, when i even hint that i might want something too she says that maybe next summer she'll send me to a golf camp, which is like 100 bucks. She also says that golf is like my sport and we spent a lot of money on it. It was like 200 bucks.

[Luckyrare]

its sad when people in familys feel they are been done unfairly about money. i dont think there is much point in getting to upset about it.

On the other hand it does seem a unfair, what place are you in the family? the youngest?

Good things come to those who wait, if your the favourite you will get a return in money one day. As I dont feel you should get to upset, the worst thing you could do is fall out with your parents over material things.

hope this helped a bit xP

[ReviewDude]

Perhaps it's because they feel they'd miss you, or perhaps they need you around more that the others? I don't know, but if you're the one they can always rely on, be it for cleaning or just to always be there.

I think the best idea is to sit with your parent(s) and say you know they're spending a lot of money on your siblings, but that you feel you want to earn some more money - and it's only fair you get paid for all the work you do around the house.

If they're reasonable, they should see sense :)

[lDuckFunk]

Seens Very Unfair, Depending on what age you are I don't see why you wouldn't be allowed to go. You mentions you think you're your Parents Favourite Child, If so Maybe They're just over protective. Sorry I Can't Really Help Until I Know your age

[CJW93]

They are proberbly alot older than you

[hobo]

if your older brother and sister don't treat your parents very well, maybe your parents think it could be because they've spoilt them, so don't want to go the same with you.
it could just be an age thing too, maybe you'll get the same treatment when you're older.

i don't think you can really complain you don't get much spent on you though, that's a lot of money to spend sending someone to camp, my parents have never given me money since i turned 13, and have never bought me anything expensive. there's a lot of people far worse off.
so you should think yourself lucky.

[348GTS]

if your older brother and sister don't treat your parents very well, maybe your parents think it could be because they've spoilt them, so don't want to go the same with you.
it could just be an age thing too, maybe you'll get the same treatment when you're older.

i don't think you can really complain you don't get much spent on you though, that's a lot of money to spend sending someone to camp, my parents have never given me money since i turned 13, and have never bought me anything expensive. there's a lot of people far worse off.
so you should think yourself lucky.

I realize that I'm really lucky, but I see my brother and sister who do like 10x less than me, and get so much more than me,

To remind, we get 25 bucks a week, but my brother and sister don't do anything and i do all the work, and they still get as much as me.

also, i'm 13, the youngest. I find though, whenever my mom sees that im upset she'll try to talk to me but i keep just acting happy and that because i dont want to make her mad. I don't know if i should talk to her about it or not.

[Elkaa]

13 is very young to be having alot of money spent on you, just bare that in mind. From what I read, they sound 16-21.

[lDuckFunk]

13 is very young to be having alot of money spent on you, just bare that in mind. From what I read, they sound 16-21.

13 is Very young to be sending you to foreign Countires, Even though for a Good Cause. If your Older Siblings have Jobs, Do they still get money from your Mum/Dad?

[348GTS]

my brother is 15 and my sister is 17.

[Topjak]

You're whining because mummy and daddy won't spend $5000 on their 13 year old to build houses? You understand money doesn't come out of thin air.
Your 17 year old sister was allowed becasue she's 17 for christ sake! She's more responsible and probably alot more help down there than a 13 year old.

Yes you are over reacting.
You also earn double my pocket money, so it's not as if your parents are being cruel is it?

[lDuckFunk]

2 Years Isn't a Long Wait If you think about It, Ask your Mum about Next Year see what she says

[Jord]

They are proberbly alot older than you


Good comment :rolleyes:

And 13 is really young to have so many resopsabitiys ask your mother if you could try to get a job to earn some money to go with your sis next year she might say yes.

[speedylight93]

Maybe she feels as if your other two siblings might get along better with her if she sends them on these trips, because as you said your sister treats your mom like crap, so perhaps your mom could feel that your sister will stop treating her like crap if she sends her on these sort of things.

[luke-p]

Well I'm 15 nearly 16 now, and my dad spends more money, and gives me more money randomly, than he did when I was 13.

Although my brother who is 10, does get basicaly everything he asks for... -Cough- 3 ******* bikes... What a waste of money, but oh well ^_^...

As said on one of the posts in this thread, good things come to those who wait :)... Or if you can't be bothered waiting, tell your mum and dad what you told us in this thread, how you feel about it.

[348GTS]

You're whining because mummy and daddy won't spend $5000 on their 13 year old to build houses? You understand money doesn't come out of thin air.
Your 17 year old sister was allowed becasue she's 17 for christ sake! She's more responsible and probably alot more help down there than a 13 year old.

Yes you are over reacting.
You also earn double my pocket money, so it's not as if your parents are being cruel is it?

Jesus christ, calm down their nitro. Obviously you don't know my family, if you did, money is not an issue. Did I ask if I wanted to go down this year? No. I wouldn't of. And we go with a group, you're with like 20 different people, its like a camp, its not like you arrive there are your alone.


Thanks for the help luke.

edit' guys, its not that I want to go to one of these camps, sure it would be nice, I'm just tired of having no money spent on me. I'm the youngest and I do the most, yet my mom spoils my sister, taking her shopping, buys my brother all sorts of things. I get nothing, not even a 15$ wallet.

[FlyingJesus]

Yeah that is an overreaction, especially as they said that they'd allow you to in the future.

[Hayd93]

to me you are sounding like a spoilt little brat grow up

Edited by Elkaa (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not be rude.

[Dan2nd]

My Parents have alot of money but I find it alot more rewardin to buy everything for myself ...

[:LeKevin:]

clean up the house, walk the dogs, clean their cages,

Sorry, that caught my eye... You keep your dogs in cages....... :|

[348GTS]

Sorry, that caught my eye... You keep your dogs in cages....... :|

If you knew anything about dogs, when they go to sleep they are suppose to have a cage, its like their home.

[Browney]

If you knew anything about dogs, when they go to sleep they are suppose to have a cage, its like their home.

Or they could just have a kennel or dog bed.

[Recursion]

You can get huge 'shed' like cages. One of my cousins kept her dogs in it, then let the dogs out a few hours a day, then let the dogs in the house for a few hours a day, walked, them etc... If they are kept in cages then they don't wreck the house with the smell and hair.

You are probably too young to go abroad without your parents. Im 13, youngest in family, and do alot of jobs too. Your lucky, you get $25 which is around £12.50 here. I get £12 per month pocket money.

[Topjak]

edit' guys, its not that I want to go to one of these camps, sure it would be nice, I'm just tired of having no money spent on me. I'm the youngest and I do the most, yet my mom spoils my sister, taking her shopping, buys my brother all sorts of things. I get nothing, not even a 15$ wallet.

In which case you're acting spoilt. Grow up.

[Frodo13.]

Its probably because your the youngest. In my opinion, 13 is very young for you to be sent to foreign countries/danger zones without being accompined by a parent.

Your parents probably think, because your the youngest, you dont need much spending on you. The best advice I can give you is to sit down with your parents, and discuss how you feel. If they are as nice as you say, Im sure they will be reasonable :)

[fuffie]

your not acting selfish. your mum and dad are spending the money on your brother and sister and dont let you have things you would like.

this is were my sister hsould think herself lucky.. she gets treted how my and my twin gwt treated even though she is younger what ever we get she gets

[:LeKevin:]

If you knew anything about dogs, when they go to sleep they are suppose to have a cage, its like their home.
:S I'd never lock my dogs up in a cage, quite cruel imo. But w/e :S I know of kennels obv. But cages... Sounds abit OTT to me.

You shouldn't worry about it yet, just think they might be saving money up for you when you're older ;)

[Ashhizzle]

Dude, your 13. count yourself lucky.

I don't even get pocket money, i haven't been abroad for 5 years man.

[348GTS]

In which case you're acting spoilt. Grow up.

Let me guess, your a single child? How about this. You work hard at your house, clean it. your brother and sister have parties and that and wreck it. YOU need to clean it all up. Your brother and sister are just on the computer, dont even say thank you. Then, they decided to spoil your brother and sister with all nice things, and you get nothing.


How would you feel?

and btw, this isn't a thread that we can discuss how spolied i am because i get money for allowance and crap like that.

[:LeKevin:]

Let me guess, your a single child? How about this. You work hard at your house, clean it. your brother and sister have parties and that and wreck it. YOU need to clean it all up. Your brother and sister are just on the computer, dont even say thank you. Then, they decided to spoil your brother and sister with all nice things, and you get nothing.


How would you feel?

and btw, this isn't a thread that we can discuss how spolied i am because i get money for allowance and crap like that.

Put your foot down abit, try and tell your parents? Just refuse to clean up after them. You shouldn't be used as a little skivvy :S

[Earthquake]

I would laugh if it turned out your brother was spending the money on a flat and things he wanted and your sister actully wanted to go to canada and buy a home their

[348GTS]

I would laugh if it turned out your brother was spending the money on a flat and things he wanted and your sister actully wanted to go to canada and buy a home their

i live in canada lol.

[[DC]eption]

13 no wonder, can you not see that?

[Topjak]

Let me guess, your a single child? How about this. You work hard at your house, clean it. your brother and sister have parties and that and wreck it. YOU need to clean it all up. Your brother and sister are just on the computer, dont even say thank you. Then, they decided to spoil your brother and sister with all nice things, and you get nothing.


How would you feel?

and btw, this isn't a thread that we can discuss how spolied i am because i get money for allowance and crap like that.

Wow, you suck at guessing. I have 3 brothers (2 of which older) and an older sister.

I know EXACTLY the situation your in, I've been in it and i don't whine half as much. It's how things go, I'm saying quit acting spoilt and deal with it.

[YoManGo!]

ITS OBVIOUS
you're too perfect. your mother can't function without you, who will do those chores when you go!?

[lAdmire]

Maybe you're acting a bit selfish but I can't relate, but understand how you feel. Just talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Hopefully, she will understand. Maybe she doesn't want you to go, feeling a bit over-protective of you. Maybe she has her reasons. Just tell her how you feel & see what she has to say. You never know.