My whole family are crazy..

[-Dispute]

Well I kinda need some advice...my whole family are weird and I can't cope any longer...


My Mum

My mum is an alcoholic, she gets drunk everynight, if I hide her wine bottles, even if she is out of her head, she is willing to drive. I have to look after her like she is disabled, she has now started drinking during the day, and driving. She gets so drunk that she starts arguments with my Dad, who has a very short fuse.

My Dad

Like i've said he has a short fuse, he smokes behind our back, thinking we don't know, and gets in stupid moods. He plays mind games with us, and used to be quite agressive when I was younger. Now I think the reason I am so shy is because of him.

Any advice on helping **** heads?

[Stephen]

Bio-Reduction Therapy.

http://www.newwaysclinic.com/alcohol_summary.html ^^

[Earthquake]

I don't wanna sound mean or anything becuase their your parents and everything, Hold a party?

[-Dispute]

Hold a party??

[MattyBoy]

The only way your gonna get through this one is to be carcastic. Right, first you need to cry, get siomething that makes you cry really bad, now to the words. Go to a point you mum and your dad are together and say. "Ive had enough of my life, i feel like killing myself because of you, your making my life a miserable by all your fightings and addicts, unless this stops im gonna kill myself" (just be carcastic)

[Naruto!]

Bio-Reduction Therapy.

http://www.newwaysclinic.com/alcohol_summary.html ^^
Agreed

[Brody]

maybe try contacting some professionals on a matter like this,

like a teen helpline

[,Jess,]

Yeah talking to someone proffesional would be good but maybe try and talk to your Mum and Dad about how you feel.

Sometimes [I know this sounds bad but it isn't really] people forget that what they do can affect others and how it can affect them.

I hope things sort themselves out for you :]

[Earthquake]

Look when I say hold a party, I mean 80% of teenagers dont have a chance to do this, your mum seems sound just give replace her alchol with juice or water or something to trick her then write her a letter.

[Stephen]

Tbh theres a 1% chance of your mum giving up drinking when you have 'a chat' with her.

If shes an alcoholic then she needs pro help.

And buy NiQUITin for your dads birthday.

And just leave the room when your mum and dad argue. Your not gonna stop the arguement by saying "PLZZ STOPPP!!!" just let it be over with unless your parents pull a knife/gun/bazooka/grenade out on eachover, or if your dad punches your mum in the gob to shut her mouth, OR if your mum kicks your dad in the balls.

[lAdmire]

well, i think you need to take this up with your family.
talk to them.
tell them exactly how you feel.
hopefully they will understand.
here's some seperate advice for each.

mom
maybe you need to get your mom psychological help.
she needs to visit a doctor.
because she's going to keep drinking & driving until one day, she's going to hurt someone & pay the price.
umm... yeah.

dad
well, if your dad decides to smoke, it's his decision.
umm, talk to him.
tell him how you feel.
let him know that he's hurting the family & tearing you guys apart.

hopefully both your parents will understand because this is some serious issues that you guys are going through & i hope they get better.
make sure you come back & tell me the outcome of the advice you were given from all of us habbox members.

[reindeer.]

The only way your gonna get through this one is to be carcastic. Right, first you need to cry, get siomething that makes you cry really bad, now to the words. Go to a point you mum and your dad are together and say. "Ive had enough of my life, i feel like killing myself because of you, your making my life a miserable by all your fightings and addicts, unless this stops im gonna kill myself" (just be carcastic)

thats not sarcasm ;/

[Stephen]

thats not sarcasm ;/

LOL!! :rolleyes:

Thats called lying and meaning that after you've said it, your mum and dad will make you have counsilling.

[CJW93]

Talk to a friend a cousion or any family member

[seattlegrace]

The only way your gonna get through this one is to be carcastic. Right, first you need to cry, get siomething that makes you cry really bad, now to the words. Go to a point you mum and your dad are together and say. "Ive had enough of my life, i feel like killing myself because of you, your making my life a miserable by all your fightings and addicts, unless this stops im gonna kill myself" (just be carcastic)

I actually agree. (Although none of that is sarcasm, it's called being melodramatic) It hits them where it hurts, thats what you want as they'll feel doubtful on themselves, hopefully bringing you all closer together. If they feel too doubtful, then god knows. Professional help could be an option.

[5,5]

Get proffesional help from somebody.

[Soka]

once an alcoholic your always an alcoholic, so if you give up for a year and have one drop of it again, then you'll start up again.

i would suggest to your mum going to an alcoholics anomynous place where other alcoholics go and discuss how long they've being off and stuff - tell her your thinking of leaving if she doesn't at least make an effort to sort out her problem - DON'T tell her your thinking of killing yourself cos thats just stupid

and your dad, maybe hes angry because your mums drunk all the time? or try get him to go to an anger managment class or something so that he deals with his anger himself, rather than out on other people like yourself. smoking damages your health, but i guess if he can't give it up tell him to do it outside so hes only damaging his own health and not yours aswell.

i strongly advice seeking professional help/ringing a help line because you should not be dealing with this problem yourself

[Shawnstra]

I think you should call for help. Maybe get your aunts and uncles to step in to help you with this, you can maybe call childline to get them to help you. Try to make your parents understand their mistakes. Maybe indirectly send your mum to counseling.

Seek professional help!
Good luck.

[jesus]

jeremy kyle will sort it :D

[-Dispute]

Ty for all the advice, a few things that may be in the way of some of the advice is that my Dad hates my Mums side of the family, and vice versa..My Mum won't admit she has a problem, she says she does nothing wrong, even though she does. My Dad was like this for years before all this, which is why my Mum drinks because of him. She has depressions and turns to the drink. So althoguh all this advice is great, with my family it will not work..I have tried hiding the drinks, she always finds them...I have even tried drinking as much as I can but tbh I don't want to be like ger and get addicted. I think they need a divorce, but My dad is the only money earner and my Mum won't get a job because of her deppression, so I'd have to live with my Dad, and my Mum will get even worse on her own.

[vogue]

Tell your mum that she needs to get a grip, she's got to stop drinking otherwise she won't see you grow up. Refer her to a councillor or something along the lines of that.

As for your dad, confront him about the smoking and if he gets aggressive with you call the police. If all else fails, move out.