Confused

[Naythi.]

Well

I find lads and girls attractive , And everyone thinks im gay anyway but im not i like both ...

But i realy like this lad , And this girl ...

I no i cant have both ( If youve been watching hollyoaks , John paul and craig ) :P

But also the lad i like , Hes sorta gay acting , But that doesnt mean he is gay ? And i realy like him more than i like the girl ?

What should i do ?

Also : Nobody knows im bi ... They just have opinions :P

[whoooosh]

a lot of people go through times where they like both girls and boys
its completly natural
just go with what feels comfortable
guna tell people your bi ?

[FlyingJesus]

I don't know how old you are, but if you're like 12-17 I wouldn't bother "coming out" as bi because it's highly likely that it's a phase. I went through it myself aged 13-15 or around then, and I know a lot of other people who did the same, and if you tell everyone you're bi now then you'll probably feel stupid for it later. Also Hollyoaks was welllllllllllll good :D

[Naythi.]

=]

But ive also liked guys for a while now =S

And im pritty sure its not a phase

Also ... Im 15 lol =]

Yeah Hollyoaks comes up with some good storie lines =]

[Moh]

I know what you mean about liking two people of the oposite sex. I have never gone for eather of them so I can't realy give much advice.
But since you like the boy more, then if hes trustable then tell him you bi (And if hes not bi or gay then ask him not to tell any 1) thats how I first told some 1 in r/l :) )

[EverSteve]

If your 15 I WOULDN'T come out, if you have a sister you could leave a gay ****o book in her room, then go in with him looking for something and find it?? I Dno if that would work

Or you could just go for it, but i defintly wouldn't snog someone you think would blap to the whole of the world, that would be not to good :|

[Naythi.]

Thats the whole point ...

Well were realy good mates aswell , He wouldnt say nothing , Hope not lmao =]

But yeah . . .

But the girl is always changing whos shes going out with and can never stick with someone , So i think im going to,,, DURNOO =S

[Nixt]

You're 15, you say you have liked both sexes, you seem sure that you're bisexual so I'll continue my post under that pretence. Like other people have noted however, you are still young and a decision can't really be made right now. You only really know your sexuality when you meet someone that you really, truly love - at that time you will know whether you're gay / straight or bisexual.
Anyway, onto the issue at hand. You like the boy more so therefore the answer to the question "who shall I choose" is an obvious one; the boy. Of course he may be straight and all that malarkey, so trying anything on with him is a big no-no. You say he is a good friend? Trying to snog him, for example, if he was straight would be very bad and would change your friendship forever.
I would suggest therefore, if you are extremely confident you can trust this guy, that you tell him your sexuality - or that you are confused about your sexuality. You can note his reaction then and perhaps this will open up new horizons for you both (if you get me ;)). Another possibility is telling him that you like him in that way after telling him your sexuality. I am split on advising you to do this though, because it could be as bad as trying to kiss him.

It all comes down to how you trust him. This is where I am going to sound a little harsh, but it's necessary; you need to prepare yourself for his rejection of your feelings for him if you do decide to tell him / try anything with him. You think he might be gay but there is no way you can be sure, so as much as it will probably hurt it's easier to accept now that he probably isn't gay than getting upset about it at a later date. You could be lucky though.

Good luck :] and sorry for my ramblings x)

[Naythi.]

THanks for the advice ...

Yeah i guess your right ... And if i just ask him if hes gay ...

And hes not , He would probaly hate me for thinking he could be gay , , ,




a big no-no.

Made me smile . . .

Havnt even told my parents or nothing , Even though they might guess ;P

=D

+REP :D

[Nixt]

Havnt even told my parents or nothing , Even though they might guess ;P


Well you shouldn't tell them before you are ready, the fact is you have a long, long time before you really have to make any solid decisions (in fact, you don't necessarily ever have to) so don't do anything before you are comfortable with doing it :).

[Naythi.]

But i already feel like i want to tell somebody =S

But who ?

I no i can trust my mates , But sometimes i just feel like i cant =S

The only people i tell is on here ;P

[today]

Garion's turning into Osinatino <-- is that how you spell his name? LOL.

Good avice once again sexi. :] & Good luck nay.

[Naythi.]

Good avice once again sexi. :]

Very True ( About the sexi bit ) :P

Thanks for the advice aswell

[Moh]

But i already feel like i want to tell somebody =S

But who ?

I no i can trust my mates , But sometimes i just feel like i cant =S

The only people i tell is on here ;P
its best to tell a adult cos if u fall out with them they wont spread it. Kids r horrible and once they fall out with u they will spread it.

[today]

Not all friends are like that though...

[Moh]

Not all friends are like that though...
Most of mine r :(
well they will spread if even if u r mates

[Naythi.]

Well

Most of my friends i could trust

But i no it would get back to people , And at my school that there is people out is nobody . . .

And like i wouldnt want to be the only person to be constantly getting abuse from ... My schools like that >.. =S

But i want to be able to tell people thou ... Cos i want to have relationships with guys and stuff !

[today]

Well

Most of my friends i could trust

But i no it would get back to people , And at my school that there is people out is nobody . . .

And like i wouldnt want to be the only person to be constantly getting abuse from ... My schools like that >.. =S
Report any abuse, its not on/fair.

But i want to be able to tell people thou ... Cos i want to have relationships with guys and stuff !
You can but it doesnt mean everyone has to know.
Read up ^^

[Naythi.]

Yeap ...

Its just i dont want to tell people due to the fact ...

How will they take it ?

=S

[today]

there either friends or there not, lol simple as (:

[Enuk]

Ooo that is a problem.. Mayb you should tell the girl you like her then you wouldnt have to worry about people being rude to your cause your bi

[benjamin]

=]

But ive also liked guys for a while now =S

And im pritty sure its not a phase

Also ... Im 15 lol =]

Yeah Hollyoaks comes up with some good storie lines =]
Yeah I'm 15, nearly 16, and I always thought for years I was gay but it can soon change, seriously, trust me.. I told most of my mates I was gay, and well now that I don't think I am, I feel like a bit of a *** because I'm going to have to tell them that I'm not at some point now.

But maybe you could start by telling a close friend you're curious and stuff, if you have someone close you can talk to and you know they won't care or tell anyone.

[Naythi.]

Yeah yeah

Spose i could ...

Well ive sort of done something i shouldnt of today =S

Well ill post on my blog what happened ....

I went to town with few mates ... That DIDNT no i am gay / bi / Curious ... Dont no what i am =S

And then met this guy ... Whos gay ... Hes cool but sorta strange Lmaoo =D

I dnt personaly no him , but ive added him on msn and bebo lol :P
And think were going to start chattin and stuff get to no each other


Bt i also told my best mate i was gay =[
Dont no if shes alryte with it =S

[today]

Which is? (:

Your blog, latest one doesnt mean he wants you btw.

[Naythi.]

Im about to post it =P

[today]

Oh right, well it doesnt mean he wants you could be friendly and you took his 'sign' the wrong way (:

[Naythi.]

Yuhuu

Hes actualy gay thou ?

But yeah doesnt mean he is interested =S

Maybe hes just being friendly ? =]

[today]

Example:
Ben was gay and said bye mister to you.

That doesnt make him want you, its being friendly and if you took "mister" as sexual, where as he might of meant "bye mister" as he forgot your name ect.

Get me?

[Naythi.]

NooNoo Noo =D

Just the way he said it and looked thats all =D

But yeah your probs right ...

Just friendly thats all ..

But were getting on alryte chattin on msn

[today]

Just chat and dont make a move or "move too fast" (:

[Naythi.]

I will take your advice =D

Lol

Yeah were just chattin as mates

[Moh]

If you trust him and like him then you could try hinting to him?

He might even know ur gay/bi?
when i first told a m8 in r/l he knew :s

[Naythi.]

He knows :P

Cos the group of people i was with know im gay

But some of my mates dont no =S

That wud be embaresing " Im gay " " I No "

[Moh]

Humm, you could hint that you like him? Like when he looks at you smile like more romanticly, where u give more eye contact (or sumin like that)
if that fails ask him:
You, Me, Bedroom, Handcuffs, Blindfold, Melted Chocolate - can any 1 resist that?
(Please dont actualy say that, that wd be a bit too far :p )

[today]

Humm, you could hint that you like him? Like when he looks at you smile like more romanticly, where u give more eye contact (or sumin like that)
if that fails ask him:
You, Me, Bedroom, Handcuffs, Blindfold, Melted Chocolate - can any 1 resist that?
(Please dont actualy say that, that wd be a bit too far :p )
Actually saying anything, making a move is too far.

Do you know the dude, as in about him, hang with him more before you do anything.

[Moh]

Actually saying anything, making a move is too far.

Do you know the dude, as in about him, hang with him more before you do anything.
Umm true, but you can tell alot from a smile, if he smiles back then theres a connection, if he gives more of a funny look then hes not rly interested

[Naythi.]

Nope =[

Mett him today ... But few of my mates know him ...

Thats all =S

But i dont want a relationship ... Well Yeah ...

I like him ( Looks & Personality ) That i no of so far ;P

He could turn into a nasty piece of work by tomorrow :S

[Moh]

Nope =[

Mett him today ... But few of my mates know him ...

Thats all =S

But i dont want a relationship ... Well Yeah ...

I like him ( Looks & Personality ) That i no of so far ;P

He could turn into a nasty piece of work by tomorrow :S
ohh, I thought u knew him for quite a while.
yea, its best to go slowly and get to know him.
never know, he may make the move on u =]

[EverSteve]

Agreed dont rush in, get his msn and talk to him :)

[Naythi.]

Doubt it =[

Lmao

Btw off topic question :P

I see you have aol ...

Its probs just mine ... But has your aol color changed ?

Mines gone purple/ Blue ish
Lmao

[today]

Umm true, but you can tell alot from a smile, if he smiles back then theres a connection, if he gives more of a funny look then hes not rly interested
A "smile" could be took the wrong way, it depends on the person, he might jsut smile in a "friendly" way and nay may take it as "i like you" smile. ;) Get me?


Nope =[

Mett him today ... But few of my mates know him ...

Thats all =S

But i dont want a relationship ... Well Yeah ...

I like him ( Looks & Personality ) That i no of so far ;P

He could turn into a nasty piece of work by tomorrow :S
Yeah, dont rush get to know him deep down and his friend's ask him what he's really like but not bluntly.

[benjamin]

NooNoo Noo =D

Just the way he said it and looked thats all =D

But yeah your probs right ...

Just friendly thats all ..

But were getting on alryte chattin on msn
..Or he could be just flirting?

[Naythi.]

..Or he could be just flirting?

Haha possibly :P

...

Were just getting along as mates , Hes said he doesnt want a relationship with anybody ...

Soo oh well ;D :P

[Janet Snakehole]

Lol. Bless ya. :)