Stressed

[Cwmbran]

Ok, well after being single from the beginning of June I finally found someone... Well two. :eusa_wall

There is this girl in the college I go to that I like, and she likes me but we don't know each other very well so I would want to get to know her go out with her a few times before we are "official".

Now... The second, a girl who I used to go to High school with & 6th Form.
Summer 06 we became extremely close, we became best of friends then I stopped going out with her and her friends for about 3 months. Now I started going out with her and her friends again mid way through this summer, and my feelings for her start to grow, she also tells me that she has feelings for me too, and they are very strong.

Now... The stressful part, the second girl has a boyfriend they have been together since she was 14 and he was 17 they are now 17 & 20.
She has been saying ever since summer 06 that she wants to break up with him but hasn't had a good enough reason and she is afraid of what he will do if she breaks up with him as this is his first girlfriend.
She says that she loves him but she has cheated on him many times, she has even had sex while in the relationship with him, and he has also cheated on her which I have witnessed but he will not admit to it. (I have told her, but she says she deserves it)

Still with the second girl, she tells me that when we are together it's a hell of a lot more exciting than being with her boyfriend and that she really wishes she was with me.

Now I have no idea what to do... As I like the second girl more than the first this could just be because I don't know the first girl as well as the second girl, but I need some advice on what to do it's just "BLURGHHH"

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[Nemo]

Go for this first tbh. The second girl cheated on him so how do you know if she begins to bore you, she won't do the same? You can't trust them type of people. Also the first one seems to like you straight away, and as far as you know, there isn't anything bad or anything. Go for her i say :)

[:Delirium]

hmm thats a tough situation mate.. both girls like you eh? hmm well you can try talking the 2nd girl into breaking up with him since it just isnt working between them and you can tell her to tell him that she knows he cheated on her (wd if u understood that, lol) and u and her can get together, since you and the 2nd girl were close before and you know each other, its easier to start a relationship then with someone who you dont know a lot about but you like each other..

Hope I helped,
Dee.

[Cwmbran]

Go for this first tbh. The second girl cheated on him so how do you know if she begins to bore you, she won't do the same? You can't trust them type of people. Also the first one seems to like you straight away, and as far as you know, there isn't anything bad or anything. Go for her i say :)
All of our friends that know, including her self say that she would change if she just finished with him and was with me... I really want to get to know the first girl more before I get into a relationship with her as we could not suit each other at all.

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hmm thats a tough situation mate.. both girls like you eh? hmm well you can try talking the 2nd girl into breaking up with him since it just isnt working between them and you can tell her to tell him that she knows he cheated on her (wd if u understood that, lol) and u and her can get together, since you and the 2nd girl were close before and you know each other, its easier to start a relationship then with someone who you dont know a lot about but you like each other..

Hope I helped,
Dee.


Forgot to mention that, I have told her that she should break up with him, which she did for one day but it was her mothers birthday and he was invited around so they got back together at the end of the day, when ever i bring it up now she always says that shes afraid of what he would do if she broke up with him.

[Nemo]

All of our friends that know, including her self say that she would change if she just finished with him and was with me... I really want to get to know the first girl more before I get into a relationship with her as we could not suit each other at all.

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But she probaly started off like that with him, if she gets bored with you then the same thing might happen again, like i said. Can't trust em.

[Cwmbran]

But she probaly started off like that with him, if she gets bored with you then the same thing might happen again, like i said. Can't trust em.

Really should have mentioned this as well... She only got with him because she felt sorry for him, he had not had a girl friend and he was 17, but with me she has told her friends who have told me that she doesn't know what she likes about me, but she does not feel sorry for me.

[:Delirium]

well he could get arrested if he beats her, etc..

[Nemo]

Really should have mentioned this as well... She only got with him because she felt sorry for him, he had not had a girl friend and he was 17, but with me she has told her friends who have told me that she doesn't know what she likes about me, but she does not feel sorry for me.
HMmmmmm, that changes a lot, but id still go for the first one xD

[Cwmbran]

well he could get arrested if he beats her, etc..
It's not that I think shes afraid of, I think shes afraid of him hurting himself.
It's his first girlfriend and they have been together for 3 years last tuesday, also a little note girl number two spent her anniversary with me.

[:Delirium]

dang man.... it makes sense... but she spent it with you...?? now thats confusing :eusa_wall

[Cwmbran]

Mhmm and it's stressing me out, also me and the second girl have kissed... That was all.
We were not drunk infact neither of us had any drink, it just happened...

[:Delirium]

i know what you mean... well heres my point of view, i would get to know the 2nd girl a bit, not too deep that youll go into a relationship, just enough that ull become good freinds, and use that as something to fall back on? if the thing with 2nd girl doesnt work, you can try with the 1st..

Good luck =]

[,Jess,]

Oooer, that's difficult. The 2nd girl has obviously cheated on her current boyfriend so like she could do the same thing to you. Maybe get to know the first girl a bit more, there's nothing much that seems could go wrong with her right now just get to know her more and then see where it goes from there ;]

You do really seem to like the 2nd girl though, so maybe take the risk of that she might cheat on you or whatever..

[:Delirium]

Exactly what i said Jess, well said.. +rep.

[Cwmbran]

Oooer, that's difficult. The 2nd girl has obviously cheated on her current boyfriend so like she could do the same thing to you. Maybe get to know the first girl a bit more, there's nothing much that seems could go wrong with her right now just get to know her more and then see where it goes from there ;]

You do really seem to like the 2nd girl though, so maybe take the risk of that she might cheat on you or whatever..

This is the only boyfriend she has ever cheated on, and she says she loves him... Makes me laugh.

I may give the first girl a ring tomorrow, ask her if she wants to meet up or something.

Also to the person who made the point that I should use her as a backup, I really don't like to do that as she could think we are going to get together and then I say no... 'Tis just mean.

+Rep for all.

[:Delirium]

I meant that u dont get TOO close so u hint that u wanna be together.