Have I been Used?

[EverSteve]

Hi,

I used to love someon and they used to say ILY back etc.

I got already to go on holiday with them on Monday, they were supposed to be coming down today but then didn't.....and said they wasn't coming

Now he says we dont work, so we aint lovers anymore plus he wont meet again irl for the holiday. So I think ive been used for the kissing.

Anyone else had this experience?

[JackHb]

Hi,

I used to love someon and they used to say ILY back etc.

I got already to go on holiday with them on Monday, they were supposed to be coming down today but then didn't.....and said they wasn't coming

Now he says we dont work, so we aint lovers anymore plus he wont meet again irl for the holiday. So I think ive been used for the kissing.

Anyone else had this experience?

He probably wanted more than kissing.

[Chadwick]

Did you pay for his holiday ?

[EverSteve]

no i stayed in England for the holiday, it would've been same price if he didn't come anyway, so no we didn't.

[adidas™]

like jack said, he would of wanted more than kissing, lets say he got more than kissing and then said it wouldnt work etc, without you having any idea this was coming or anything then that wudda been classed as 'used'

[EverSteve]

well he got me to cancel a football game and stopped me going to spain cuz iwanted to go with him. and he said ye...then today just before he came he said it wont work and just didn't come.

Is there something else to it?

[the wombats]

if you were being used for kissing, then i think he would of got a gf. don't you?

[EverSteve]

if you were being used for kissing, then i think he would of got a gf. don't you?
Yes but it dont count up.

How can you just suddenly turn up Str8 over night last Thursday we was 'looking really forward to it'....

Im not saying used, im just saying why dosen't he wanna meet again, if he dosen't wanna meet as a friend again well that just shows he just wanted to meet me for the kisses. Right?

[spot.]

u gay?

[EverSteve]

im bi, and why is that such a big issue, im asking for help :(

[Antony]

im bi, and why is that such a big issue, im asking for help :(

its not. sounds like he wanted more like other people have said.. or he just felt embarassed or shy something a long those lines. what was his excuse to you. just he's not coming down?

[EverSteve]

its not. sounds like he wanted more like other people have said.. or he just felt embarassed or shy something a long those lines. what was his excuse to you. just he's not coming down?
He was supposed to come down and didn't, im just annoyed that he left it till the day he was supposed to be spending 6 days with me.

He said
"It wont work, I think Im not that way, I dont fancy you no more".

Whats fair enough

I asked will we still meet upand be friends now and again and he says no i dont wanna meet up again. Therefore if he wont meet up as friends that means he wanted to use me :L

[Antony]

He was supposed to come down and didn't, im just annoyed that he left it till the day he was supposed to be spending 6 days with me.

He said
"It wont work, I think Im not that way, I dont fancy you no more".

Whats fair enough

I asked will we still meet upand be friends now and again and he says no i dont wanna meet up again. Therefore if he wont meet up as friends that means he wanted to use me :L

what a di**. you win some you loose some i guess. try not to get too low about it. don't you have anyone else you could go with, a mate, cousin someone like that. throw it back in his face, say you never liked him or something? give him a peice of his own medicine.

i know he's thrown u in the **** heap but just learn from ya mistakes and dont turn down spain holidays in future. get to know someone good first and make sure u know the feeling is mutual before going on holidays....

hope it gets better for you

[BobX]

Maybe he panicked and didn't thing you two would be "Accepted" in Spain and had to figure out a reason to not see you anymore. So he just finished it for good. He may come back around eventually. Don't treat it as you've done something wrong. Plenty more fish in the big Rainbow-flag Sea ;)

[Jamie!]

'Used me for kissing' - lol?

And he has obv found someone else and has sacked you off pronto.

[SHOKER]

its a he ? but your gender says boy ?

[EverSteve]

its a he ? but your gender says boy ?
Im Bi...more attracted to boys though but i still think ill turn straight....but not over night like a certain boy who i know ;).

And well maybe I wasn't used, why else would he have not met me and dumped me 6 hours before supposily coming to see me which he said he was looking forward to only a few days ago.

I think someone knows at skl hes gay and now hes trying to deny it before other people realise, however why would they be where he was going and its not like his mates call for him!

[BobX]

Thats probably right, Evertonized.

:)

[SHOKER]

silly question but no one knows:

was the boy in question actually bi/gay ?

[Mrchins]

ouch, unlucky my friend.

[JackHb]

Im Bi...more attracted to boys though but i still think ill turn straight....but not over night like a certain boy who i know ;).

And well maybe I wasn't used, why else would he have not met me and dumped me 6 hours before supposily coming to see me which he said he was looking forward to only a few days ago.

I think someone knows at skl hes gay and now hes trying to deny it before other people realise, however why would they be where he was going and its not like his mates call for him!

Gay's dont like to just kiss.
He would of wanted more and you probably didn't give it to him.

I have a few gay friend's and they are never just chatting up the one guy, its multiple.

Anyway im not encouraging you to go out and ****. So don't be coming back blaming me lol.

[EverSteve]

Well we went from relationship for 2 Months to non-friends within 2 days :). The only thing im angry about him not tleling me but the rest im over now, ive had my few days to have that heartache. I can't be bothered anymore.

Thanks to everyone who commented :)

[Octagon-x]

Hi there,


I've been reading through some forums and I've seen you've wrote this on other forums. During this post I'm going to quote on things from other forums and hopfully make things a little more clearer.

"Perhaps I'm wrong here, but this seems to me like there's a huge probability that someone in a position of authority (parents?) made him "an offer he couldn't refuse".

Even if that is true, If the person Loved Everton that much would they really take money? Or some sort of 'speculism' for there love? I'm afraid not.


Love is a very big part of a lot of peoples life these days and I know Steve & His EX Quite well, Unfortunetly, I have to say that in my opinion, You have been pulled along like a fool. Your ex is not worth the pain and there is so many people out there whom care for you very much (Me being one of them) And I'll always be here for you, Day or night :)

Keep your head high and remember to Keep the Faith :)


All my love,
James