My brother bullies me

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This is in all seriousness btw (Y).

Well it all started when ;

One night I was sitting on the computer while my mum was out. My brother (who's 16) came home quite drunk and asked to go on the computer. However, he didn't like it when I replied "5 minutes" I turned round and he punched me in the face and went to bed :S

I just thought it was a one-off but now usually when I'm with friends and he's been drinking he always calls me a "Mink,tramp,****,loser" just whatever and regularly hits me when were alone.

I'm to scared to tell my mum incase he shows her a video of me smoking on his phone, if she ever found out she would disown me.

Help?

[benjamin]

throw a rock at him
seriously, it works
i just watched my brother throw a rock at someone hurling abuse at hm lol

[buttons]

are you joking?
my brother would come back with a basebal bat babe. x

[Jamesy]

1: tell your parents
2: tell another trusted member of your family
3: social services?
4: police

[BobX]

Maybe hes trying to toughen you up a bit for some reason? Just say to him look, those punches and names really hurt and i would appreciate it if you would stop please. If he punches you then, go to your mum. I doubt he will show her the video of you smoking. If he does, then just say you were trying it, found it was disgusting and never doing it again.

[buttons]

1: tell your parents
2: tell another trusted member of your family
3: social services?
4: police
I don't trust any of my family :S Police wont do anything without evidence, social services can kiss my *** there jerks like.


Maybe hes trying to toughen you up a bit for some reason? Just say to him look, those punches and names really hurt and i would appreciate it if you would stop please. If he punches you then, go to your mum. I doubt he will show her the video of you smoking. If he does, then just say you were trying it, found it was disgusting and never doing it again.
toughing me up? No don't think so. I always tell him to stop and he'll just laugh in my face & tell me to pee off. & trust me, he would show her the video, and if i had just tried it, i wouldn't be inhaling it or smoking the whole ***? Look kinda weird?

[Naruto!]

Steal his phone one time when he's left it unguarded, delete the video and then tell your parents. Your fault for having the dirty habit anyway.

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Steal his phone one time when he's left it unguarded, delete the video and then tell your parents. Your fault for having the dirty habit anyway.
it's not my fault my brother beats me up & calls me names in front of all my friends?!
But yeh, I guess I'll just try and steal his phone when he's not got it. :)

[BobX]

it's not my fault my brother beats me up & calls me names in front of all my friends?!
But yeh, I guess I'll just try and steal his phone when he's not got it. :)


He meant its your fault for having the habit of smoking, thats why you were filmed.

[Naruto!]

it's not my fault my brother beats me up & calls me names in front of all my friends?!
But yeh, I guess I'll just try and steal his phone when he's not got it. :)
No Im not saying that (referring to the top part) I meant it's your fault that you chose to smoke which led to the phone problem.

[buttons]

I know what you meant dear, but i'm sure he'd find other things to blackmail me with, like...my diary for instance, he stole pages outta it and says he's gonna put it on the school messageboard if i do anything to annoy him, which is kinda hard not to as he seems to get annoyed easily!!!

[Naruto!]

I know what you meant dear, but i'm sure he'd find other things to blackmail me with, like...my diary for instance, he stole pages outta it and says he's gonna put it on the school messageboard if i do anything to annoy him, which is kinda hard not to as he seems to get annoyed easily!!!
where would he store things like that? try find it when hes not in your house

[buttons]

where would he store things like that? try find it when hes not in your house
i'll find it when he's out drinking tonyt :) then my mum wil be out, then i wil get wel bullied by him, i know it sounds sad saying bullied but whatever. K i'm gonna steal his phone, delete the video (i have stoped smoking) find my diary pages (probably under his pillow where he hids his xmas cards for my mum :)) and destroy them.
Then if anything happens again I'll tell my mum. oxox

[JackHb]

This is in all seriousness btw (Y).

Well it all started when ;

One night I was sitting on the computer while my mum was out. My brother (who's 16) came home quite drunk and asked to go on the computer. However, he didn't like it when I replied "5 minutes" I turned round and he punched me in the face and went to bed :S

I just thought it was a one-off but now usually when I'm with friends and he's been drinking he always calls me a "Mink,tramp,****,loser" just whatever and regularly hits me when were alone.

I'm to scared to tell my mum incase he shows her a video of me smoking on his phone, if she ever found out she would disown me.

Help?

I seriously doubt your mother will disown you for smoking, just say you tried it.
Mine didnt say much when she found out I smoke.

And you should just tell your mum, if he is beating his own sister then god knows what he will be like when he is older.

The majority of parents love there kids no matter what, so just tell her. Siblings are different.

[Naruto!]

i'll find it when he's out drinking tonyt :) then my mum wil be out, then i wil get wel bullied by him, i know it sounds sad saying bullied but whatever. K i'm gonna steal his phone, delete the video (i have stoped smoking) find my diary pages (probably under his pillow where he hids his xmas cards for my mum :)) and destroy them.
Then if anything happens again I'll tell my mum. oxox
glad to help [:

[Ostinato]

Do you not think your mother would be more concerned the fact your brother is seriously abusing you than the fact you have had a smoke or two in your life?

If it happens again I think you should stand up to him and say you won't accept it. If it escalates wait until he is sober. Simply tell him you are sick of it and there is no way your going to let him treat you in such a way. He might realise and apologise etc. but if not then I suggest you go to your mum and make sure she knows the full extent of the story. Explain that it really isn't just sibling fights etc. but in fact really is physical abuse.

If he shows her the video she'll really just need to get over it as the issue ofyou being abused is a bit more serious... :rolleyes: You could even just claim that it was the first time you tried it and he caught you...

If your mum fails to recognise the situation please inform me and I'll get you in touch with people who will help as it isn't an acceptable position for anyone to be in.

[RedCrisps]

FGS! Why say your mom qill disown you "/

obv she won't, maybe she won't like what you done but she will never hate or disown. just try to delete the video wen he is asleep or sumin. and next time he hits you tell your mom. AND DON'T SMOKE IN THE FIRST PLACE!

[buttons]

Stop telling me not to smoke, FGS. it was like the day i was stopping as well >.<'.
My mums best friend starts chemo in 2 weeks time, I don't think she needs me to tell her I smoked,
but then I can use that against my brother i guess, tell him not to. whatever, thanks Al. :)

[GommeInc]

This is in all seriousness btw (Y).

Well it all started when ;

One night I was sitting on the computer while my mum was out. My brother (who's 16) came home quite drunk and asked to go on the computer. However, he didn't like it when I replied "5 minutes" I turned round and he punched me in the face and went to bed :S

I just thought it was a one-off but now usually when I'm with friends and he's been drinking he always calls me a "Mink,tramp,****,loser" just whatever and regularly hits me when were alone.

I'm to scared to tell my mum incase he shows her a video of me smoking on his phone, if she ever found out she would disown me.

Help?
Simple. Tell your mum. It's stupid to smoke, but then again your brother is bullying you, which is worse. Is your brother always drunk when he does this? Also, telling your mum about his drinking problem is revenge enough anyway.

[The Don]

video him beating you up then blackmail him back? (ofcourse you dont blackmail him till hes sober)

[Earthquake]

I don't know why but when I read on the lines of


I turned round and he punched me in the face and went to bed :S

I laughed out loud

[le harry]

video him beating you up then blackmail him back? (ofcourse you dont blackmail him till hes sober)

good idea.

[BowTies1]

tell your mum smoking was a one off or your borther preassured you todo it and has been blackmailing you with it she will understand and no mother would disown there child

[BIG-BAD-BOSS]

Guide:

1) Get your brothers phone and delete the video
2) tell your mum

[BIG-BAD-BOSS]

I don't know why but when I read on the lines of



I laughed out loud

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[Earthquake]

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Oh my, Temper temper.

[BIG-BAD-BOSS]

Oh my, Temper temper.


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[Loqo]

When hes drunk one night or whenever he leaves his phone un attended. DELETE THE VIDEO! then go tell your parents. Why smoke anyway? Its sick.

[Elliott$]

Stand up to him

[lAdmire]

Well, you have to tell your mom. Either you put up with it or deal with the fact that she may be angry with you but your brother will stop bullying you. Which is more important? I would tell my mom. She probably won't disown you, but she'd probably be really disappointed.

[alex 1889]

1.Hmm. Delete the video of his phopne, im sure hell leave it around sometimes and you can just delete it.

2.Stop smoking because its really stupid

3. get a video of him on your phone [if yoiu have one]

4. Go tell your mum when hes not in the house

5. Ram a spear through his chest while singing about the joy of pie


and thats how to tackle a bully in 5 easy steps

[Elliott$]

1.Hmm. Delete the video of his phopne, im sure hell leave it around sometimes and you can just delete it.

2.Stop smoking because its really stupid

3. get a video of him on your phone

4. Go tell your mum when hes not in the house

5. Ram a spear through his chest while singing about the joy of pie


and thats how to tackle a bully in 5 easy steps
[I]Or you could do it like a normal person... (talking about the last one)

[alex 1889]

Or you could do it like a normal person... (talking about the last one)
Yes but the idea of pie and spears is tempting isnt it :l

[Smits]

He's 16 do him for assault. He'l get into more trouble if he's 16 though, police much?

[Method]

Why get the police involved? if her Mums best friend is going into cemo the Mum doesn't want to be in a court house when shes in their.

Tell her fgs otherwise it will get worse and she will be anyoyed you haven't told her..

[BlueTango]

If you're looking for good advice on the issue, I recomend Child-line, as they're proffessionals on the Issue.

All calls to childline are free, confidential and will NOT show up on a phone bill.

[5,5]

Tricky situattion, maybe try manning up and fighting him back?

[Stephen]

Lol my sisters 16 and she scatches me when I say to her she can't go on my computer.. And thats when shes sober :P Sometimes I think she is looney :(

[Frodo13.]

Lol my sisters 16 and she scatches me when I say to her she can't go on my computer.. And thats when shes sober :P Sometimes I think she is looney :(

Ditto, apart from my sis is 19 lol.

Just tell your Mum, I doubt she would actually disown you just for smoking would she?

[Ugawa]

Just tell your parents u smoke but say like not often, I thought my parents would kill me but my dad just turned round and gave me a *** lmao

Nia
XxX

[Throne Sofa]

Like others have said, delete the video.
Either when he's asleep, forgets it or whatever, make sure you delete it!
And just put like your bed agaisnt your door or get a lock.
Maybe you could fight back?

[myke]

Steal his phone one time when he's left it unguarded, delete the video and then tell your parents. Your fault for having the dirty habit anyway.

Great minds think alike ;) ditto.

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GREAT place for advice, helped me through my life :)

[Porkah]

Maybe, it might be a problem with the acohol, as you said "when he's drunk". Maybe he may be on drugs or something behind making him agressive. Maybe tell your parents, and maybe a councilour.