My friend...

[sarey]

A friend from school, I found out that she was hospitalized because of anorexia nervosa, I'm so upset, I knew she was unwell, she just told me it was a new 'diet', and I had an idea of what kind of damn diet too! The last time I seen her was three weeks ago, she hasn't been going to school, but that last day I seen her, she looked so pale, so skinny, it made me feel so sick...

How can I help her, if I can at all?
I'm so worried about her.
I am aloud to visit her when she gets more fitter, at the moment, it's just family aloud.

[lAdmire]

Maybe you can just talk to her, try & motivate her, cheer her up. You know make her feel good about herself.

[CJW93]

Let your friend know that you are concerned for the health and well being

[buttons]

you said that
like
3 months ago.
i think
if that was you.
ya.

[sarey]

...
I've made a thread before asking what anorexia nervosa was...
But...
I don't remember making a thread about this?

I'm not aloud to see her, as I said, until she's more fit, I could write her a letter though, I just don't know what to say, that's the thing.

[5,5]

Maybe write a letter and give it to tthe family to give to her. Just to let her know you care.

[sarey]

I just don't know what to write...

I mean, 'how are you', stupid question.
'I hope you're okay', stupid thing to say because it's obvious she isn't.

[Janet Snakehole]

Just explain that you're worried about her, and that you hope she gets better soon. And basically just tell her in the letter, that you are always there for her. :]

Hope she recovers fully soon. x

[SAUSAGEFINGERS]

empty out her slim fast.

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[sarey]

thnkyou pl0x.
x
ty everyone else too.

[Frisky]

Try make her feel happy/wanted. Maybe she didn't do it purposly? (unless i've read that^^ wrong)

[efq]

LMAO !1111 LIRL REP+

ontopic: Get her a card and flowers and write message

empty out her slim fast.

[sarey]

yeah, she loves roses, i'll get her some of them too.
thanks guys

[spot.]

send her some fatty foods

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[PriceTags]

I think you should get a blank message card with a funny picture/message in the front and just write a short message to say that you hope she'll get well soon and stuff. Do you know what treatment she's getting?

[Metric.]

mine is 'under control'

[Steven.]

Anorexia Nervosa is pretty much hospital treated and not much anyone outside can do apart from motivate, encourage, and just comfort.

If shes in hospital shes in the best place for treatment.

But if she wasn't in hospital you can help her and encourage her to seek help from charity's that work with that illness.

[J4M3S]

I'de love to be anorexic ):

And i think you should like just tell er like you don't need to lose weight just look how fat i am and stuff like that.

[FlyingJesus]

I think you should get a blank message card

sounds good

[sarey]

I think you should get a blank message card with a funny picture/message in the front and just write a short message to say that you hope she'll get well soon and stuff. Do you know what treatment she's getting?


Her family told me that she was being fed by a tube and on an IV because she's too weak at the moment, but when she's fitter, she'll be able to eat by herself again.

I'm giving the letter and flowers to her family today to give to her.

[PriceTags]

sounds good

But they're generic and you can write what you want on them. I mean blank as in it doesnt say "Happy Birthday" or "Get Well Soon" on it.

[GrebSkeb]

You could send her some choco's not impling anything just like as a get well soon gift

[Beau]

I'de love to be anorexic ):


... It's a sign of the maturity of the members of HxF when comments like 'Omg I wish I was anorexic I could lose weight.'

Contrary to your beliefs, anorexia isn't actually something you want to get. Do you really a mental condition? Because, at the end of the day, that's what it is. Do you really want to be walking through town with friends, feeling fantastic, and then see yourself in a shop window, and feel like complete crap? Do you want to spend nights laying in bed, hunger killing you, but the fear of eating is too much of a risk to put yourself out of your misery? Do you want to have the burden of calculating the calorie content of anything that passes through your lips? Do you want to endure suspicious comments about eating/exercise habits from parents/friends? Do you want several hours of absolute revulsion when you eat something that people free from anorexia eat on a daily basis? I could go on, I really could go on, but I won't.

Conclusion: You obviously know from the media that anorexia is one of the most deadly mental conditions in the world. Try to be mature, and not throw comments like that around, because while they may seem harmless to you, I can pretty much guarantee that they would really hurt someone who has, or has been effected by the condition.

[Alkaz]

Yah you cant just stuff food down their necks. Youve all got to work at it. Like encourage her to eat to get better and how u dont have to be skinny to look nice, you can be slim and still look nice and be liked. She will probally eat tiny amount but u got to gradually motivate her into eating more.

[FlyingJesus]

... It's a sign of the maturity of the members of HxF when comments like 'Omg I wish I was anorexic I could lose weight.'

Contrary to your beliefs, anorexia isn't actually something you want to get. Do you really a mental condition? Because, at the end of the day, that's what it is. Do you really want to be walking through town with friends, feeling fantastic, and then see yourself in a shop window, and feel like complete crap? Do you want to spend nights laying in bed, hunger killing you, but the fear of eating is too much of a risk to put yourself out of your misery? Do you want to have the burden of calculating the calorie content of anything that passes through your lips? Do you want to endure suspicious comments about eating/exercise habits from parents/friends? Do you want several hours of absolute revulsion when you eat something that people free from anorexia eat on a daily basis? I could go on, I really could go on, but I won't.

Conclusion: You obviously know from the media that anorexia is one of the most deadly mental conditions in the world. Try to be mature, and not throw comments like that around, because while they may seem harmless to you, I can pretty much guarantee that they would really hurt someone who has, or has been effected by the condition.

PROTIP: please do not feed the trolls

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[SHOKER]

you emo

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[Jaiisun]

Get well soon to her from all of us at HabboxForum, i think!

Hospital is the best place for her.

If, and when, you see her, she won't want to be moaned at, or be told off, that'll not help anything- even asking why probably won't motivate her.

Just let her know you're there, let her know you care- and remind her of the dangers of anorexia, i guess. Tell her how you couldn't bear any of those dangers happening to her because you care for and rely on her too much. Explain how much of a good friend she is to you.

If you can, speak to her family. Ask if you can go in with them; then you can go in sooner. Explain to her family how worried you are- maybe they'll let you see her earlier than you thought.

Don't try and tell her what to eat; what not to eat; or even what to do. That's her doctor's job; and she's more likely to listen to him since he has a higher authority than you.

Personal info!:
My girlfriend is currently in hospital suffering with pancreatitis (google it) and she gets pains any time she eats; so they've put a tube up her nose to her stomach that feeds her. I worry about her like you do about your friend. It's hard to think anything would happen to them. Just be positive!

Keep yourself going that she is being treated; before it was too late.

[d17c]

Tbh, there's nothing you can do to help, even the hospital can't do much to help except get a psychiatrist to talk to her and educate her about her condition.
The only person that can change things is her, so hopefully she's a smart girl.