Heartbreaker

[Pyroka]

Hi,

I just wanted to share this in an effort to get it out of my system (weird mind ano), but I'm quite literally half the man I was thanks to a girl. I met this girl on the internet, and I swear that I had no idea it would turn from love to.. well I'm still uncertain on what. We talked more and more on MSN, and then eventually we met up in November this year. Probably the best weekend of my life to be truly honest with you all. It was hard though because she lives up north, i live down south (250 miles >_>!)

Thing is though, we always argued. I have a few reasons why we did, like how she was so stubborn and I was so stubborn, and how I wanted the best for her and she just wanted to be with me (at the time). I guess though, the main reason was me, and for a pathetic sad reason, it was me trying to keep her attention on me. It sounds sadder than the Titanic, srsly...

Anyway, time flied and we met up in December again, and I stayed at her house. I thought she was the one tbh, I had all money betting on it. Damnit, I was even planning to move colleges and rent a spare bedroom somewhere, maybe even her house because her sister had moved away recently. When we had to leave eachother, I felt like dying but I thought I'll only see her again. When I get home, I'm so distraught that I actually start shouting at her, I start saying things, because I'm so bloody upset about everything. On last Sunday night, I texted her the bane of all evil, and I told her we didn't have a future together despite I never meant it. I'm not kidding, when I say I started hyper-ventilating once I realised what I had done, which didn't take long really to realise. She still thinks I meant it.

On friday, she decides there's "no future for us" and it "doesn't feel right". I try and try and try to bring it back from the dead, upset as I was. Even my ex-girlfriend had to help me because I thought I lost the will to live... I gave up yesterday upon telling my parents what had happened. I actually thought I may be ok after yesterday was pretty good, and my friends comforted me when I was crying inside. However, I get home in the early morning on this Sunday, and I log onto MSN, and what do you think I find? The girl who I thought loved me, after 3 days of breaking up, is now, yet again, with her ex-boyfriend.

I shouted at her so much last night, nothing I'm proud of but something that had to be done. It's like she couldn't say no to him, however she can say no to me so much. I eventually decide to just get out of her life, to stop giving her grief as yknow, she don't need it and neither do I. I wake up this morning now, and I think to myself "No future for us" and "doesn't feel right" (the only things cycling through my head at the moment) and then I realise:

If there was no future for me and her, then why the hell is she with her ex-boyfriend who lives just as far away as me, and is only a month older than me? :S She's 14 by the way, which did make a considerable thought when she said "no future" but seriously, her and her newly ex boyfriend are in the exact situation me and her were for 6 months. :S I just don't see how she can say "We have no future" because if anything, I had it all planned out for sooner than she thought. -.- Confusion, innit.

Now I feel like I'm going to be sick, I feel so many emotions it's hard to tell whether I love her still, or hate her for breaking my heart and then grinding it up. I can't even decide whether I want to be friends with her, despite I thought she was such a nice person. >_<

I don't know why I'm posting all this on HxF, but I just am, maybe for advice on what I could do to somehow cope, or what people think of the situation... Ugh. I didn't wanna mention any names, but some will know her name. Just don't mention it, nor her boyfriend's name who nearly everyone will know if you say their Habbo Name. :rolleyes:

... I dunno

[Breakfloor]

not being nasty or anything, but shes off the internet. from what i read you met 2/3 times?

go out and get a girlfriend you can meet everyday. it will make you feel better and happy when you see her. just dont think of her or her boyfriend and block her on msn. finished.

and unblock me on msn btw (im [email protected])

[Pyroka]

I know she's off the internet, but it just felt right to me. >_< I've always wanted to have a girlfriend I can see everyday, but I'm a sucker for a long-distance relationship & I'm nervous enough... Plus, I can't ask a girl out especially after breaking up with her so soon. >_<!

I'll add you now.

[Breakfloor]

i had a girlfriend who felt right but turned out a total ***** that was taking the ****.

and long distance relationships.. damn, if i thought it would work i would be in one now with this girl i know. and yeh, take your time. nobody expects you to go out straight away after a breakup. long distance or not. it hurts i know. and if your nervous about asking a girl out.. EVERYBODY IS but most people dont show it. everybody thinks "i hope she doesnt turn me down.. i dunno what ill do if she does."

just jump into it. do it even if all senses youve ever followed say NO DONT DO IT!

[WarezKid]

I anit gonna read all that, but i suppose your not over her and you still care for her?


Dude, go out and try and have fun, it helps ;)


I like to go out with my family if i had a problem like this

[Pyroka]

It feels like she was taking the **** now, but she says she wasn't... I just don't know anymore. >_> Long distance relationships can work, just they need backing from both people. She wasn't willing to come visit me down south tbh, so like my parents say "It would've been a one-way relationship". I can relate to that, since it went to the dogs.


I anit gonna read all that, but i suppose your not over her and you still care for her?


Dude, go out and try and have fun, it helps ;)


I like to go out with my family if i had a problem like this

No, I'm really not over her. I'm just not sure what I care for her now. :S I tried to have fun last night and I actually did. It's just when I'm by myself it sucks so much. I can't even go out with my parents because they just screamed at my sister. I think my mum threw the phone at her, lolz.

[velvet]

I can relate to your situation as I was in a long distance relationship for three years, the guy treated me like crap, and I see that now. We used to argue every day for pretty much the same reasons you gave, he also lived up north and I lived down south, and if I wanted him to come down here, my mom would have to go all the way up there and pick him up :l
He lied to me about everything, about his age and height, but I stayed with him because I was infatuated and naive. But yeah, it all ended after three long years and I felt like I had nothing.
Then I started talking to my friends more, and after days and days of crying I started to see what a **** he was. And after a month or so I was completely over him.

I think she got back with her ex because she was hurt, and didn't want to be alone. She knew if she got back with you you'd carry on arguing, but maybe if she got back with her ex he'd be so happy that things'd be perfect for a while. Generally people who meet thier partners online don't have a lot of confidence and self esteem, (that wasn't ment to be offencive, i'm like that myself) so maybe you're just clinging on to something hopeless, trying to see a future in it because you like the stability of knowing there's someone there.

I advise you to not have any contact with her until you're over her, it'll make things easier, and I don't think you should try and win her back, I don't think it'll do either of you any good.
If you don't have the confidence to meet someone in real life, why not try and find someone online who lives nearer to you?
Since your girlfriend was only fourteen, I gather you're not that old. So don't worry too much about relationships at the moment, you can get by without one as from what you've wrote, you have some pretty good friends there (:
Sorry about the essay aha.

[buttons]

you may think you "love" someone from the internet, you could be wroong. I guess you did meet up with her, but if she doesn't want to be with you just MOOOOOVE ON.

[Pyroka]

I can relate to your situation as I was in a long distance relationship for three years, the guy treated me like crap, and I see that now. We used to argue every day for pretty much the same reasons you gave, he also lived up north and I lived down south, and if I wanted him to come down here, my mom would have to go all the way up there and pick him up :l
He lied to me about everything, about his age and height, but I stayed with him because I was infatuated and naive. But yeah, it all ended after three long years and I felt like I had nothing.
Then I started talking to my friends more, and after days and days of crying I started to see what a **** he was. And after a month or so I was completely over him.

I think she got back with her ex because she was hurt, and didn't want to be alone. She knew if she got back with you you'd carry on arguing, but maybe if she got back with her ex he'd be so happy that things'd be perfect for a while. Generally people who meet thier partners online don't have a lot of confidence and self esteem, (that wasn't ment to be offencive, i'm like that myself) so maybe you're just clinging on to something hopeless, trying to see a future in it because you like the stability of knowing there's someone there.

I advise you to not have any contact with her until you're over her, it'll make things easier, and I don't think you should try and win her back, I don't think it'll do either of you any good.
If you don't have the confidence to meet someone in real life, why not try and find someone online who lives nearer to you?
Since your girlfriend was only fourteen, I gather you're not that old. So don't worry too much about relationships at the moment, you can get by without one as from what you've wrote, you have some pretty good friends there (:
Sorry about the essay aha.

Nothing like a womanly touch. xD I have a knack of going for girls who live in a certain location, all my long-distances were in a certain region of the north which is tbh, rather... weird. I think I have the confidence, but I'm not one to go up to someone and say "hai, i like you." or do some corny chatup line. Way I do, is it takes time and I actually know them through like a club, a job or something else like that.

Sorry about your bf... that's gotta suck. Mine was only 6 months, so that must've hurt pretty much, but you must've felt something for him to stay with him that long under the circumstances. I'm only 16 btw, so I can earn money to go see her and everything. I'm not offended by what you said about confidence, since I'm really not a confident person. When I get confident, it's noticeable. Maybe it is what you said about not feeling alone, but who knows. :S


you may think you "love" someone from the internet, you could be wroong. I guess you did meet up with her, but if she doesn't want to be with you just MOOOOOVE ON.

She was actually the first time I think I experienced love, and my parents told me that you will feel like she's the one forever... God damnit, they're always right. >_< It's hard to move on, as much as I do want to.

[WarezKid]

To the people who are gonna say,

"MOVE ON"


Trust me girls

it ******* hard ;/

[velvet]

Nothing like a womanly touch. xD I have a knack of going for girls who live in a certain location, all my long-distances were in a certain region of the north which is tbh, rather... weird. I think I have the confidence, but I'm not one to go up to someone and say "hai, i like you." or do some corny chatup line. Way I do, is it takes time and I actually know them through like a club, a job or something else like that.

Sorry about your bf... that's gotta suck. Mine was only 6 months, so that must've hurt pretty much, but you must've felt something for him to stay with him that long under the circumstances. I'm only 16 btw, so I can earn money to go see her and everything. I'm not offended by what you said about confidence, since I'm really not a confident person. When I get confident, it's noticeable. Maybe it is what you said about not feeling alone, but who knows. :S

Yeah, I had a hard time at every school I went to, so my confidence is pretty much dead and burried, so I used to meet up with people i'd met online quite a bit. I found whenever I really got along with someone, they'd ALWAYS live up north, or west or something, never anywhere near me. ¬_¬

And it's okay, i'm SO glad i'm not with him, we havn't spoken since, but he's still an immature little child. He gives my phone number out on chat rooms, i've had to change my email address SO many times because he's found it out and got thousands of people to add me. Eurgh.
But it's all good because I acctually have a decent boyfriend, who isn't an immature ****, who lives near me and I can see everyday now (: and we've been together nearly 10 months now so yeah (:
You'll eventually get over her and realise that you don't need the stress and worry of it all, or maybe when things have calmed down and you're happy and ove rher you two could talk again and maybe be friends? If it was ment to be i'm sure it'd go from there.

[Pyroka]

Yeah, I had a hard time at every school I went to, so my confidence is pretty much dead and burried, so I used to meet up with people i'd met online quite a bit. I found whenever I really got along with someone, they'd ALWAYS live up north, or west or something, never anywhere near me. ¬_¬

And it's okay, i'm SO glad i'm not with him, we havn't spoken since, but he's still an immature little child. He gives my phone number out on chat rooms, i've had to change my email address SO many times because he's found it out and got thousands of people to add me. Eurgh.
But it's all good because I acctually have a decent boyfriend, who isn't an immature ****, who lives near me and I can see everyday now (: and we've been together nearly 10 months now so yeah (:
You'll eventually get over her and realise that you don't need the stress and worry of it all, or maybe when things have calmed down and you're happy and ove rher you two could talk again and maybe be friends? If it was ment to be i'm sure it'd go from there.

Ah it's good you turned out to get someone good. ;P result. the previous one sounds right immature tbh. I used to live up north in Liverpool which is close to where both my long-distance ex's lived, however if I stayed in Liverpool I'd seriously be fearing for my life. It felt like someone put a price on my head in school or something, so I left asap xD I think it's cuz northern people are so coolish haha. I guess over time you get over things like these...

if only there was a fixed timespan LOL.

[velvet]

Ah it's good you turned out to get someone good. ;P result. the previous one sounds right immature tbh. I used to live up north in Liverpool which is close to where both my long-distance ex's lived, however if I stayed in Liverpool I'd seriously be fearing for my life. It felt like someone put a price on my head in school or something, so I left asap xD I think it's cuz northern people are so coolish haha. I guess over time you get over things like these...

if only there was a fixed timespan LOL.

Yeah he was a right ****, he lied about his age so I didn't know how old he was until his mom told me, :/

It'll all work out, don't worry. You may not be able to see a future without her now, but give it a week or so and you'll start to come round (:

[le harry]

i'm just going to throw it out there since no one else has yet.

what's their habbo names? :P

[Pyroka]

Not saying a word, but you'll know one of them distinctly. :P

[le harry]

Would you dare to PM me it, my lips are sealed!

[Pyroka]

Nope. I know you couldn't resist to tease him/her... One's an X. Enough said, you'll have a field day.

[le harry]

Darn you Pyroka. :@

I have an idea though, must get to work. :P

[Pyroka]

LOL. Yeah you do that, you little investigator. I not saying a single word, I'd much rather her be happy than me spoiling it. :P

[Superman]

i'm just going to throw it out there since no one else has yet.

what's their habbo names? :P

ROFL oh harry

I don't know if you really were in love or just infatuated, but if it was love then yeah your parents are right and it'll stay with you forever. Still, doesn't mean you can't move on - just makes it difficult. Keep yourself occupied as much as possible so you aren't sitting about thinking about her all the time, best way to do it.

[Camy]

I had kinda the same problem irl with someone, not the internet.
Built up a friendship with her at school for like a year and a half, but didnt have the confidence to ask her out, then i got a new friend who gave me the confidence, asked her out, she said no. Didnt speak to her for weeks. then she asked to be ma friend again, and i jst said ok, but i still was madly in love with her, and hurting bad. When it got to the point I couldnt take it anymore, this was probably the week we broke up for xmas holz, i told her how i felt, half an hour l8er she was going out with one of my friends. I was crushed, and angry and so many emotions in one. Then she said they werent going to go out because: " They care about me too much"
At this point i told them to **** off.
The girl came on msn yesterday and told me she missed me soo much and thinks my other friend ( the girl who gave me the confidence to ask her in the first place ) has stolen me from her, and wants us to be friends again.
Tbh I dnt no what to do, I still love her alot, but im mostly over her, and kinda want to be friends cos shes great, but i think ill be hurt too bad when i hav to look at her.

Sorry bout that lol, but mines is kinda similar.

All i can suggest is, go out with friends/ talk to them alot, try and get your mind off of the girl. And eventually after some time, you'll get over her.

[:Delirium]

Mate i feel what u feel right here.. in my heart yeh. Ive had an incident last year with a girl in my school, i loved her to the point where if i asked her out, it last forever, my first experience in true love, i moved the month after i was gunna ask her, and i really didnt because, well, i guess im too timid yeh. Anyways, yesterday, one of her friends who is my friend on facebook posted an album of a sleepover she had, and well the girl i love was at the sleep over and i saw the pics and i flippin felt a stab right there in the heart, i friggin cried for an hour atleast.

I just hope you get through it, i dont recommend long distance relationships/internet relations, its just too tough to handle and stuff. Good luck in future mate!

All the best, Jack.

[Pyroka]

Cheers to all have replied, and I do feel your pain. It's great to have someone to relate to. A week on however, I've actually started building stepping stones towards the friendship we once had, it's progressing very nicely. She sadly (and I mean this in an honest way) split up with her ex boyfriend after 3-4 days due to some other issues, none inflicted by her. It's a shame it happened the cruel way it did for her really... That's why I'm there for her as a friend. Ironic much.

[manga21]

Hi,

I just wanted to share this in an effort to get it out of my system (weird mind ano), but I'm quite literally half the man I was thanks to a girl. I met this girl on the internet, and I swear that I had no idea it would turn from love to.. well I'm still uncertain on what. We talked more and more on MSN, and then eventually we met up in November this year. Probably the best weekend of my life to be truly honest with you all. It was hard though because she lives up north, i live down south (250 miles >_>!)

Thing is though, we always argued. I have a few reasons why we did, like how she was so stubborn and I was so stubborn, and how I wanted the best for her and she just wanted to be with me (at the time). I guess though, the main reason was me, and for a pathetic sad reason, it was me trying to keep her attention on me. It sounds sadder than the Titanic, srsly...

Anyway, time flied and we met up in December again, and I stayed at her house. I thought she was the one tbh, I had all money betting on it. Damnit, I was even planning to move colleges and rent a spare bedroom somewhere, maybe even her house because her sister had moved away recently. When we had to leave eachother, I felt like dying but I thought I'll only see her again. When I get home, I'm so distraught that I actually start shouting at her, I start saying things, because I'm so bloody upset about everything. On last Sunday night, I texted her the bane of all evil, and I told her we didn't have a future together despite I never meant it. I'm not kidding, when I say I started hyper-ventilating once I realised what I had done, which didn't take long really to realise. She still thinks I meant it.

On friday, she decides there's "no future for us" and it "doesn't feel right". I try and try and try to bring it back from the dead, upset as I was. Even my ex-girlfriend had to help me because I thought I lost the will to live... I gave up yesterday upon telling my parents what had happened. I actually thought I may be ok after yesterday was pretty good, and my friends comforted me when I was crying inside. However, I get home in the early morning on this Sunday, and I log onto MSN, and what do you think I find? The girl who I thought loved me, after 3 days of breaking up, is now, yet again, with her ex-boyfriend.

I shouted at her so much last night, nothing I'm proud of but something that had to be done. It's like she couldn't say no to him, however she can say no to me so much. I eventually decide to just get out of her life, to stop giving her grief as yknow, she don't need it and neither do I. I wake up this morning now, and I think to myself "No future for us" and "doesn't feel right" (the only things cycling through my head at the moment) and then I realise:

If there was no future for me and her, then why the hell is she with her ex-boyfriend who lives just as far away as me, and is only a month older than me? :S She's 14 by the way, which did make a considerable thought when she said "no future" but seriously, her and her newly ex boyfriend are in the exact situation me and her were for 6 months. :S I just don't see how she can say "We have no future" because if anything, I had it all planned out for sooner than she thought. -.- Confusion, innit.

Now I feel like I'm going to be sick, I feel so many emotions it's hard to tell whether I love her still, or hate her for breaking my heart and then grinding it up. I can't even decide whether I want to be friends with her, despite I thought she was such a nice person. >_<

I don't know why I'm posting all this on HxF, but I just am, maybe for advice on what I could do to somehow cope, or what people think of the situation... Ugh. I didn't wanna mention any names, but some will know her name. Just don't mention it, nor her boyfriend's name who nearly everyone will know if you say their Habbo Name. :rolleyes:

... I dunno


Hey , I read and had to reply , because I know how your feeling and its awful I know! She isn't worth it , you sound like a nice guy you know and she obviously dosnt really care if she went off with her ex so soon. I know its hard, it will take a while, couple of months , you know? Arnt gunna lie but just keep thinking it will be over soon and it will , my advice is not to be her friend.. its hard to be friends with ex's after you have split up with them because it makes it seem like nothings changed and you just want them back, but if you think you can take it well :) I mean to get over her you might have to find someone better :) Or it might take time everyone is different. I was in one for a year and she got with someone 2 weeks after.. that was hard but you get over it and find someone better :) I hope you will be ok soon :)