I need to save the relationship... but how...

[Cixso]

Yeah...

After almost 2 years of being in a relationship with my girlfriend she sent me the most... cant get the word... but the most..... email...

She lives in Australia, recently moved from Tokyo as her dad works for the government, so she does travel. (No, she isn't Japanese, she was born in Austria, but she speaks English as her family do (Australian))

Anyways, we always tell each other I love you, your everything to me and stuff, like a real couple should do. (Yes it's online, and please don't annoy me about it. If you ever felt real love you'll understand. No she isn't a man, we go on webcam.) but... she didn't tell me she loved me... it's making me teary right now typing it & thinking about it...

I woke up today at around 11:20am, yeah, about 30 mins ago, and I checked my inbox, I must say I smiled when I seen an email from her :P, but...

The first paragraph was about her explaining school to me, THEN I read the second one and I actually teared up and I haven't even read half of what she said. She wants to take a break, away from the relationship because of school and the pressure she has to do. The standard is higher and she needs all grade c's and above to progress onto grade 12 (Tokyo schooling is different, she should be on 12 already, but she has to get all C's in grade 11) So I do understand where she is coming from saying she needs a break and to ease the pressure.

It's even harder too, as everything reminds me about her...

The company I work as CEO - SS-Host.com (Sarah Smith)
Sarith, Sar = Sarah, ith = Smith
Most of my passwords relate to her in a shape of form.
I always dream and think about her when I'm asleep or when I'm on my way to college on the bus/bike.
Sarah KNOWS all my passwords. I sent her them in an email incase something happeneds...

I guess what I need to know is from somebody who has been in this/similar relationship crises before. I love her with all my heart, I've never been afraid to tell anybody in person, or online. I really don't care if we are dating over the internet, everybody at college knows perfectly well and they probably think it's wrong but I don't care.

I would class my self as a good guy in relationships, I'd know how to treat most girls right, and I can usually work through bad moments, but I don't know what to do, I don't know what to say to her anymore and I find it hard to type.

I personally think when she means take a break, 9/10 it actually means theres another guy, and its killing me thinking about it. I trust her, but... theres a certain line you can go up too before it get's crosses and in any situation trust doesn't matter.

Sarah is really really good looking, the most beautiful person I've ever seen (and I'm not being biast as she is my GF, well... "was/hope she will be still...") her personality is amazing, she is loud, but not annoying loud, she has many many friends,

I don't want to split up with her, I understand her situation but I don't want too. It's for her health really... so she isn't under pressure and stuff...

Anyways, can anybody give me advice? Any positive advice will do.

[Catzsy]

Its sounds to me as if she is under a great deal of pressure and probably doesn't know which way to turn. Maybe just say you will support whatever decision she comes too and give her a bit of space at the moment. If you do love her you will want what is the best for her and things maybe a lot different once the exams are over.

[Cixso]

Its sounds to me as if she is under a great deal of pressure and probably doesn't know which way to turn. Maybe just say you will support whatever decision she comes too and give her a bit of space at the moment. If you do love her you will want what is the best for her and things maybe a lot different once the exams are over.

Yeah, I've already spoken to her about giving her space.

She is under pressure, a whole lot of it and I accept that. I'll make sure that she knows I'll always support which decision she chooses.

Thank you. +REP.

[Rix]

I know the situation oh so well but not 2 years.
2 years ago I really liked my best friend (Girl) she was awesome and we got on so well and everything. I asked her out and yeah so anyway a few months later i ask her mate out and we go out for about 6 months it wasn't really a strong relationship it was my first and she was generally busy so i saw her like once a month it didn't work. Then My best friend turned around and said Rix i really like you. So yeah i broke up with my Girlfriend at the time for her. We both liked each other the same way but yeah we waited around 3 weeks before we made it official and then the week after we made it official she broke it off with me and never gave me a reason she just said it was better that way.

I guess the point i'm trying to make is Love hurts but what you get from it when it all works can't be found else where, I don't see anything wrong with internet dating its pretty much normal just because you can't see them daily doesn't mean its not real.

Danny I know it hurts but you need to make up your mind whether its worth hanging around waiting for the chance to get back with her or you have to move on sorry for making it seem so blunt but If its meant to be its meant to be.
Just remember if you need to talk rix is here for u <3
Stay Strong Danny
<3 Rix

[Catzsy]

Yeah, I've already spoken to her about giving her space.

She is under pressure, a whole lot of it and I accept that. I'll make sure that she knows I'll always support which decision she chooses.

Thank you. +REP.

You sound like a very sensible, caring person and I am sure it will all work out for the best in the end. xx

[Cixso]

I know the situation oh so well but not 2 years.
2 years ago I really liked my best friend (Girl) she was awesome and we got on so well and everything. I asked her out and yeah so anyway a few months later i ask her mate out and we go out for about 6 months it wasn't really a strong relationship it was my first and she was generally busy so i saw her like once a month it didn't work. Then My best friend turned around and said Rix i really like you. So yeah i broke up with my Girlfriend at the time for her. We both liked each other the same way but yeah we waited around 3 weeks before we made it official and then the week after we made it official she broke it off with me and never gave me a reason she just said it was better that way.

I guess the point i'm trying to make is Love hurts but what you get from it when it all works can't be found else where, I don't see anything wrong with internet dating its pretty much normal just because you can't see them daily doesn't mean its not real.

Danny I know it hurts but you need to make up your mind whether its worth hanging around waiting for the chance to get back with her or you have to move on sorry for making it seem so blunt but If its meant to be its meant to be.
Just remember if you need to talk rix is here for u <3
Stay Strong Danny
<3 Rix

It's worth waiting for, I would wait 2 years to get back with her. But, love does fade after a while, so I don't know how long I can wait without my feelings going all down for nothing.

Thanks Rix, I'll keep everything in mind.


You sound like a very sensible, caring person and I am sure it will all work out for the best in the end. xx

Thank you very much. :)

[Rix]

I've tried waiting for people in the end it just makes you grumpy and depressed not saying thats how you'll end up but thats how i take it

[GommeInc]

You're taking it the wrong way. All couples take a break, it's actually qutie a good thing because when that break is over you love each other more and have loads to talk about. It's sort of like resetting the relationship, everything is still there but you have more to talk about and express yourself more. Don't think that there's another man, there isn't anything worse in a relationship than trust issues. Perhaps ask if she could e-mail you every so often to tell you what she is doing, and tell her what you are doing of course.

[Cixso]

You're taking it the wrong way. All couples take a break, it's actually qutie a good thing because when that break is over you love each other more and have loads to talk about. It's sort of like resetting the relationship, everything is still there but you have more to talk about and express yourself more. Don't think that there's another man, there isn't anything worse in a relationship than trust issues. Perhaps ask if she could e-mail you every so often to tell you what she is doing, and tell her what you are doing of course.

Very good points. I'll carry them out and I'll keep in mind what you said about the break issue.

Thank you. :)

[FlyingJesus]

Don't mean to defecate on this happy party but I've never seen a "break" work in the end - it usually means they either want to break up entirely or they're sleeping with someone else.

Also if you do break up, don't wait around for her. Been there done that, it just makes things much much worse for yourself and awkward for her.

[Lilian]

Lily willy will look after you <3