I feel like a loser...

[POOLSOPEN]

I realize posting this is bound to subject me to flaming and the like, but I'm willing to take that risk.

I'm 20, and I'm a virgin. I'm a guy by the way, so yeah.

I never drank, did drugs or smoked until last year, when I was 19. Never got into much trouble. I tried marijuana 3 times, then quit drugs altogether. Recently, I've picked up drinking as a substitute for the cutting I did (I'll explain the cutting below). I'm quitting smoking right now, and it's hard.

I cut because back in December 2005, a girl I was dating died from brain cancer. She was 18. I realize it's been 2 or 3 years, but I can't help but wonder "Why?".

A buddy of mine is 15 (he lives next door) and he's been bragging to me about fingering his girlfriend and whatnot and the farthest I've ever gotten is a hardcore make-out session. I feel like I'm a loser.

I'm not a jock, or a goth, or emo, or punk, or anything. I guess I'm just a plain, old school type of guy. I was catholic but now I'm aethiest. I've been told by the 5 or 6 girlfriends I've had during my 6 years in high school that I'm a sweet guy, and honestly I'd never do a thing to hurt a girl. I'm not ugly, but I'm also not "hot". I think in old school ways, like "Kids under 18 don't need to be having sex or doing drugs or drinking", things like that.

My question is: Will I ever get laid? Or should I just give up and go celibate or something?

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[VPSwow]

Get out down the town....?

[Aflux]

Life's goal isn't to get laid.

[POOLSOPEN]

My goal is now :l

I feel like such a loser, hearing my buddy brag about him and his girlfriend.

One reason why I've never done it yet is because I'm shy due to:

A) Not feeling satisfied with my...er...size (2" normal, 6" erect, sorry if that's T.m.i.)
B) I'm unemployed atm, and I'm getting some belly fat.

I'm also shy around girls, abit, like if I want to kiss the girl, my mind'll start racing and thinking of the consequences, then eventually I just won't go through with it.

[Naruto!]

My goal is now :l

I feel like such a loser, hearing my buddy brag about him and his girlfriend.

One reason why I've never done it yet is because I'm shy due to:

A) Not feeling satisfied with my...er...size (2" normal, 6" erect, sorry if that's T.m.i.)
B) I'm unemployed atm, and I'm getting some belly fat.

I'm also shy around girls, abit, like if I want to kiss the girl, my mind'll start racing and thinking of the consequences, then eventually I just won't go through with it.
Wow. I can see why you're unhappy with your size.

[POOLSOPEN]

Wow. I can see why you're unhappy with your size.

Thanks T_T

Well then, seeing as I'm apparently pathetic in the size department, any suggestions? Maybe I should go gay, or better yet! Kill myself!.....too bad i have a fear of death.

[Aflux]

6' is normal for a guy and surveys show women like smaller penises.

Get a part time job or full time and it'll come, don't worry - it always does. Don't go looking for it, it'll come for you.

[Naruto!]

Thanks T_T

Well then, seeing as I'm apparently pathetic in the size department, any suggestions? Maybe I should go gay, or better yet! Kill myself!.....too bad i have a fear of death.
Na, you shouldn't worry so much.

[DJ-Vimto]

don't worry about it, there's plenty more people that will be in a similar situation to you. Just get on with living your life, wait till you are ready, with the right girl, right place, and the right time.

[POOLSOPEN]

*sigh* You guys are right....

I mean, if my first time went awry and I ended up getting the girl pregnant somehow (broken condom much?), I wouldn't ditch her, I'd stay by her side no matter what. I have more dignity than that. I'd never run off and get away from it.

[Muniflex]

It will happen when it happens. Don't do something you are not ready for just because other people aroudn you are doing it.
It will happen when it's meant to.

[Everlong]

*sigh* You guys are right....

I mean, if my first time went awry and I ended up getting the girl pregnant somehow (broken condom much?), I wouldn't ditch her, I'd stay by her side no matter what. I have more dignity than that. I'd never run off and get away from it.

If you think about all of the possible bad outcomes you will probably put yourself off it. the fact that your friend brags about him and his girlfriend doesn't make him cool and if it makes you feel bad he shouldn't do it. it would be better to wait than to just give up completely.