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Muniflex

21-01-2008, 12:39 AM

Ok so my mate asked me to check his emails the other day because he was awaiting an important email.. Anyway.. I checked but in his inbox there was an email from GAY.com clicked it an turns out he is a member.
Alot of people have said he was gay before but nobody could ever proove it. He is my best mate and im cool with it but i just wanted to know how to, or if i should approach him and ask about it.

All advice welcome, thanks.:)

Aflux

21-01-2008, 12:41 AM

No, wait until he comes out.

He might've wanted you to find out that way on the other hand.

Muniflex

21-01-2008, 12:43 AM

I cant see that he wanted me to know because i asked him if he wantedto check his emails yesterday and he quickly said no.
I just want him to know im cool with it, because he does try to be like me and impress me in a way.

Catzsy

21-01-2008, 01:01 AM

I really think I would leave it until he says something. The fact that you are cool about it shows that you are a really good friend anyway. I am sure you will be one of the first he tells officially. :)

Paulio

21-01-2008, 01:04 AM

Let him tell you, he still might not be gay, he might just be experementing.

Muniflex

21-01-2008, 01:08 AM

Thing is though he has told someone he was gay, then said Bi then straight so perhaps he is just experimenting but personnaly i dont think he is.

RandomManJay

21-01-2008, 04:01 PM

Leave it for him to sort out, if and when hes ready is more important, just wait and see what happens. If you're desperate for him to tell you or find out, be prepared for the consequences if he isn't prepared.

Muniflex

21-01-2008, 04:05 PM

How you mean consequences?

womanizer

22-01-2008, 03:38 AM

out him :D

Muniflex

22-01-2008, 12:36 PM

Lol i cant just out him, im not that mean, lol

le harry

23-01-2008, 10:20 AM

screenshot the email and post it in a bulletin on myspace

Muniflex

23-01-2008, 11:43 AM

screenshot the email and post it in a bulletin on myspace
Lol that would really be the best thing, would it?

BlueLord

23-01-2008, 12:00 PM

Just say I dunno if this is a mistake or anything but when i was checking your emails I noticed you're a member of Gay.com?

Muniflex

23-01-2008, 12:12 PM

That was what i was thinking of doing.. But i dont want it to screw out friendship up......

NeonChains

24-01-2008, 08:59 PM

Thing is though he has told someone he was gay, then said Bi then straight so perhaps he is just experimenting but personnaly i dont think he is.
As you said he did say he was gay - maybe he just never bothered to remove himself from the mailing list. I get loads of spam in my inbox but it doesn't mean I want to "lose weight instantly" etc :P

Muniflex

24-01-2008, 11:21 PM

As you said he did say he was gay - maybe he just never bothered to remove himself from the mailing list. I get loads of spam in my inbox but it doesn't mean I want to "lose weight instantly" etc :P

Nah you don't know him like i do....
Im pretty certain he is gay and i have decided to just wait for him to come out...

Eldec

28-01-2008, 07:46 PM

Never ask "Are you?"

Just be ready to say "I Know

Possibly the best statement i've ever heard? :p

JJ
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screwball123456

12-02-2008, 12:57 PM

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Glen Coco

12-02-2008, 01:14 PM

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seriously go start puberty. this is the GAY / BI and LESBIAN forum.

anywayyy, just wait for him to tell you. if he is gay he'll tell you when he's ready to tell you.

12-02-2008, 01:31 PM

I'd say make it obvious you opened the mail but still be fine with him ;)

And just a question - are you gay or bi? If you are and he doesn't know tell him and he might just be like "Oh me too!" lol

Toughened

12-02-2008, 10:18 PM

LOL @ ABOVE

Personally if I was in your shoes I would confront him and talk to him about it. I would be totally comfortable if my friends were gay to. Gays don't bother me one bit so I'd just ask if he was or not and tell him how I felt and that I'd still be his mate and be there for him.

But then me and my mates are different to you and your friends. Only you know best tbh.

lew!

12-02-2008, 10:34 PM

Muniflex

13-02-2008, 12:07 PM

Are you gay yourself?
And if i was you, i would probberly talk to him when theres nobody about.. Just be like
I found out your a member of gay.com, Dw i wont tell anybody.. Just be carefull about who you DO tell and stuff.

Why, are you coming on to me? Lol

And i talked to him bout it bedore not the site but i asked him if he was gay before.. He just said no and walked off because he knows everybody thinks he is gay. I don'y know if he covering it up or if he really is gay...

today

13-02-2008, 12:17 PM

just give it time. :)

13-02-2008, 12:35 PM

I wouldn't have been able to wait until now to keep it in. I'd just say erm "Hey I read your emails and I know you're gay but its cool"

He probably meant for you to read it

lew!

13-02-2008, 08:00 PM

Lmao :P
But yeah, he obv is but he doesnt want to come out yet.. Go to his profile or make a profile and tlk 2 him to find out if hes gay or not.. lol :P

Muniflex

14-02-2008, 12:28 AM

I think i will wait....

Because everytime i have approached him about it before he just gets annoyed and storms off.......

Like i said it before, i don't know if it is because he is covering or he just isn't gay......!

Jamesy

14-02-2008, 11:36 AM

Funny, I had a similar thing. I checked "my recent documents" on his Vista startbar and Natasha's Bum Fun was top of the list xD

The dirty bugger...

Muniflex

14-02-2008, 11:46 AM

Funny, I had a similar thing. I checked "my recent documents" on his Vista startbar and Natasha's Bum Fun was top of the list xD

The dirty bugger...

Awkward isn't it?! Lol

Roboevil

14-02-2008, 11:47 AM

Make fun of gay people ifnront of him and see what he does, then make fun of him.

Muniflex

14-02-2008, 11:49 AM

Make fun of gay people ifnront of him and see what he does, then make fun of him.

Done summit liek that before, he goes along with it to look cool but you see the awkwardness in his face.

Jamesy

14-02-2008, 02:58 PM

Awkward isn't it?! Lol

Nah, we took the piss.

Not advisable for your situation though.

Muniflex

14-02-2008, 02:58 PM

Nah, we took the piss.

Not advisable for your situation though.

Lol fair enough.

lew!

14-02-2008, 04:24 PM

Muniflex

14-02-2008, 04:32 PM

Get a gay person to start tlking to him an b freindly and tht.. an then put a secret hidden camera on the spy ~(Gay)~ and then you can see wht theyre tlkin bwt and if the gay asks him so r u gay an he says yea then ther u go.

Lol great plan. Couple of problems though.
I don't know anyone else that is gay and 2 i dont have a spy camara, lol:P

Jamesy

14-02-2008, 06:07 PM

Sleep with him. If he does it you'll know. it IS valentines after all...

Lubricant

14-02-2008, 09:29 PM

Just make him feel comftable with you and that he can really trust you. He hasn't told you because he isn't ready. He will come out in his own time.

Muniflex

15-02-2008, 12:39 AM

Sleep with him. If he does it you'll know. it IS valentines after all...

So you presume that i am gay?

Acinuoulation

15-02-2008, 05:36 AM

Maybe someones played a joke on him? I sign many of my friends up and even register an account for them on sexual porn websites from gay to lesbian.

Jamesy

15-02-2008, 10:07 AM

So you presume that i am gay?

No, I presume I'm being sarcastic.

Muniflex

15-02-2008, 01:36 PM

Maybe someones played a joke on him? I sign many of my friends up and even register an account for them on sexual porn websites from gay to lesbian.

Nah i know as much that that is'nt true...

No, I presume I'm being sarcastic.

Lol fair enough:P