Growing Apart?

[ChampJames.]

Well, the thing is, me and my girlfriend will have been together 5months on valentines day.

I'm only 15 and stuff but I feel as though I really do love her, and when it's love, age is irrelevant. Shes about 18months younger than me, so there is a small age diffeence.

But the problem is, it's not like it used to be. Sometimes I feel that she doesn't want to spend time with me and that she wants to split up. She will make plans with me and then cancel them at the last minute and make plans with other people. Then, other times everything will seem fine and she will tell me that she loves me, im the best person shes ever met, ive stole her heart etc. and just things like that. We just seem to be growing apart.

I've been told off most of my school mates, some of hers aswell, that I should finish her because she treats me like **** and they don't know why I'm still with her. But I just keep using the excuse that I love her.

I don't know if she actually does love me back but I just want things to get back how they used to be, we used to 'come as a package' we did almost everything together and we wanted to see each other, but now it doesn't feel like that. I guess it will be our '5th Anniversary' on Valentines day and I want to make her 'fall for me' again so that the relationship can get back on track.

I just want some advice on how I could do this, or what could have gone wrong?

Any help is much apprechiated.

[lAscend]

ok 1 age isnt a matter unless it is you feeling awkwards about it and about your relatinship you need to talk about this with her and dont forget that she has always got other mates that she might want to go out with, ive known people to ditch there mates to go off with there boyfriends and girlfriends. Maybe she thinks that the relationship isnt working, you just need to talk to her! :)

[Mikkaoz]

Uuh you could always make plans with her than you cancel them yoursrelf. :S

[Janet Snakehole]

Well, perhaps you two should talk.
I know its hardly the best advice ever, but perhaps ask how she feels about the relationship and explain how you feel towards it too.

I hope things sort out. x

[Muniflex]

Maybe you should do something special on Valentines Day, something she wouldn't be expecting so she realises why she is with you and it may put you back on track...

If she doesn't appreciate it and still treats you like dirt then you could easily do better.

Think about why you love her and is it enough for you to stay by her side.

[ChampJames.]

Thanks for all the advice so far. I will reply to each reply seperately :)

lAscend: Thanks for that about the age thing. It doesn't bother me at all, I love her, so her age doesn't matter and 18 months isn't really alot. Some people at our school seem to have a problem with it and call me a 'peado' but they're all just childish *****s :). And we talked about that before.

Mikkaoz: Funnily enough, I've tried that one. But I can't bring myself to do it. Even with just a mate, if I promise something, I'll do it.

Konichiwa!: Thanks. We do have the odd chat about i every now and then, but when we do, everything seems great and fine, which I suppose is a good thing.

Gothic Habbo: Thanks for that about Valentines Day. I am planning 'romantic' things that she should like and what she would call 'sweet'. If she doesn't apprechiate it when I suppose that shows the end of the relationship anyway.

Everybody, thanks for the advice so far. I hope I can get this sorted and thanks again :). You're all very kind people.

[Blue]

I would personally take Gothic-Habbo's advice, it's what i would do in that situation. And, like others have said, if she doesn't appreciate it, then just give up. I know what it feels to be in love, and it really sucks when that finishes.

Best of luck :)

[ChampJames.]

Thanks Blue.

Yeh, that about the valentines thing seems more like me. In some way :S

Ive just ordered a personalised card which there is only one in the world :P and that should arrive on wednesday, so its here ready. I am also planning on getting some roses and then taking her out to Preston for the day.

[The Professor]

Well, perhaps you two should talk.
I know its hardly the best advice ever, but perhaps ask how she feels about the relationship and explain how you feel towards it too.

I hope things sort out. x

I disagree.

It IS the best advice ever. Basing a relationship on guesswork never works, you need to be straight with each other.

[Teyauna.]

Well, I would sit her down and talk to her. Go over there one night when you know she's free. Or walk her home from school and talk to her about how you're feeling.

[StripedTiger]

I've been told off most of my school mates, some of hers aswell, that I should finish her because she treats me like **** and they don't know why I'm still with her. But I just keep using the excuse that I love her.

Never ever let other people tell you what to do in a friendship or relationship. I'm honestly speaking from experience here and it is the worst thing that can ever happen. If people are telling you to ditch her, ignore them. Don't ever give them the satisfaction of doing that because it can rip your heart apart, send you off the rails and just ruin you inside.

Follow your own heart, your own mind and your own beliefs. If you love her then stay with her. If shes telling you that she loves you and stuff, then she really must mean it. If shes cancelling to go out with her friends, maybe she just wants a small break from you. A lot of girls are like that. It may irritate them being with the same person and conversation may die out a bit and the date / outing will become boring. Don't feel second best cos she goes out with her friends instead, shes allowed to have friends, and remember that :)

If it gets so much its unbearable, talk about it. Keep the communication open. If you lose her, you may never get her back.

[ChampJames.]

Thats brilliant advice, probably the best I have seen for a while.

She does tell me she loves me, and alot more recently, but she also tells her friends like 'love you' but she always tells me its different sorta love.

[Ugawa]

You seem like a decent boy and you diserve better, maybe you should tell her you want a break, then she might realise what she had now that she's lost it. If she doesn't want you back after then she's not the one for you. Everyone deserves someone that treats them like they are wanted and loved.

Hope this helped

gl

XX

[ChampJames.]

Thanks,

Things seem to have improved alot recently and one of the things I have noticed, even though this is only small, she has started telling me she loves me, which means alot to me really :)

Im just going to hope things keep getting better and if I need any advice again, I'll certainly come back here as its been a great help.

Thanks.

[Florx]

People will drift apart but they can also drift together if the right things are said or done!

Happens to me with my mates.

[Muniflex]

Thanks,

Things seem to have improved alot recently and one of the things I have noticed, even though this is only small, she has started telling me she loves me, which means alot to me really :)

Im just going to hope things keep getting better and if I need any advice again, I'll certainly come back here as its been a great help.

Thanks.

If she really loves you then it isn't small. it may be that, i love you, when you are young and just say it to somebody you like....

Well whatever it means i am glad it is working out and i hope you all the best together:)

[Metric.]

Bros before ****. You will break up with her and if you push your friends away you will be a loner!!