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Lubricant
15-02-2008, 12:37 PM
Today, I told my sister I was gay. She's was ok with it and supportive.
I told my Mum and she didn't understand. She said we're gonna have a talk later. Out of all the people I've told, I thought she would have been the person who understood the most.
My friend has said that if she can't take it then I can stay with her while it's all blown over.
le harry
15-02-2008, 12:56 PM
if she can't accept you for being who you are then slap her and live with your friend.
jesus
15-02-2008, 01:08 PM
if she can't accept you for being who you are then slap her and live with your friend.agreed - its your mum and she shouldnt be bothered seeing as yyou are still her son and still the same person
Muniflex
15-02-2008, 01:38 PM
agreed - its your mum and she shouldnt be bothered seeing as yyou are still her son and still the same person
Exactly. If she doesn't like the fact you are gay and can't handle it then living with your friend would be the best option.:)
habboaddict34
15-02-2008, 07:26 PM
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lolwut
20-02-2008, 08:41 PM
This is exacly what I'm worried about happening when I tell my mum.
But, back on topic; I think if you explain it all to her it should be better, if not, can you live like with your dad or with a friend?
vito201-:D
21-02-2008, 01:43 AM
When my friend came out his mother and father didn't belive him... his younger sister cried for like... 2weeks and his older sister was fine with it...
everyone reacts in different ways... i'm not really sure why... personally it'd have no knock-on effect to find that out about anyone I am close to... I dono why it's such a big thing to some people =/
When my friend came out his mother and father didn't belive him... his younger sister cried for like... 2weeks and his older sister was fine with it...
everyone reacts in different ways... i'm not really sure why... personally it'd have no knock-on effect to find that out about anyone I am close to... I dono why it's such a big thing to some people =/
Its ok with most younger people (Meaning 16+) as its much more common than it used to be, but with older people, its not as normal and back then it was moraly wrong.
I know my mum would be fine with it, but my granddads a bit homophobic, and I see him alot :(
If your mums still funny about it, then your best living with your friend. Shes maybe just a bit shocked? Or maybe been aranging some sort of wedding for you :p
.Stone.
21-02-2008, 03:26 AM
Its ok with most younger people (Meaning 16+) as its much more common than it used to be, but with older people, its not as normal and back then it was moraly wrong.
I know my mum would be fine with it, but my granddads a bit homophobic, and I see him alot :(
If your mums still funny about it, then your best living with your friend. Shes maybe just a bit shocked? Or maybe been aranging some sort of wedding for you :p
I totally agree. Things have changed, we're a different generation.
Well, First - Well done for actually having the guts to actually come out to 2 people in one day, thats quite a big acheivement itself.
Your mum may just be shocked and might just need a bit of time to get over it. This is exatcly what i was afraid of when telling my mum, i thought that she would kick me out etc. However, she understood - I think she was a bit shocked at first (like most people would be).
In 'the little talk' she may give you later, shes bound to give you the 411 on desiese, relationships, school etc - as this is what my mum did. If she doesnt like it, then tough. She cant change what you are and she needs to get that into her head, and if she cant, then you will have to move out as you cant continue living with somone who your supposed to trust when theyre the total opposite and dont like who you are.
Just a bit of advice as I know what its like to be in this position ;)
Thanks :)
fitcovboy
22-02-2008, 12:47 PM
Today, I told my sister I was gay. She's was ok with it and supportive.
I told my Mum and she didn't understand. She said we're gonna have a talk later. Out of all the people I've told, I thought she would have been the person who understood the most.
My friend has said that if she can't take it then I can stay with her while it's all blown over.
I was reading an interesting letter the other day. Perhaps you should get your mum to read it. Here is the link:
http://toward25.blogspot.com/2007/10/mothers-letter-about-her-gay-son.html
RandomManJay
22-02-2008, 05:48 PM
I was reading an interesting letter the other day. Perhaps you should get your mum to read it. Here is the link:
http://toward25.blogspot.com/2007/10/mothers-letter-about-her-gay-son.html
A very powerful letter.
And like some people have been saying, try and talk it over, or give it some time, and in the end, if she can't accept you, its not your fault, so dont get worked up about: "if i didnt tell her, this wouldnt have happened" and "this is all my fault for being gay" etc. It isnt you fault, and there no point in getting upset for being who you are, and not what people want you to be.
uh huh her
22-02-2008, 08:34 PM
she'll get over it.
EverSteve
23-02-2008, 11:54 PM
You've gotta understand that your mum is proberbly shocked at first. Also remember she wants you to continue the family name, think of all her friends etc. she wont think about how your feeling, just give her time and if she really cares about you, she'll understand your natural and undesstand.
GianMarco-Pepe
24-02-2008, 03:57 AM
Personally Id disown you.
rofl.
samsaBEAR
14-03-2008, 11:57 PM
I was reading an interesting letter the other day. Perhaps you should get your mum to read it. Here is the link:
http://toward25.blogspot.com/2007/10/mothers-letter-about-her-gay-son.html
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Personally Id disown you.
rofl.
hilarious :rolleyes:
personally id go live with my friend, then try and tell her again in a couple of weeks. let her have some time to process the information.
having said that, im sure my parents would be fine with me if i was gay
Thetan
15-03-2008, 08:26 PM
Is it just me or is being homosexual the hip thing to do now?
I mean I understand if you really are, but its almost like a trend.
Fugato
23-03-2008, 02:50 PM
You should wait a while - she probably don't want to tell you the real reason.
Leave it for a while - a day or two, even a week would help. Telling your mum your gay makes her feel she's lost something - she won't have Grandchildren from you...
Virgin Mary
24-03-2008, 03:07 AM
No offense but I think it's wrong for any parent to be like that. If a parent is prepared to make their child feel uncomfortable or consider disowning them because of their sexuality then they don't deserve to be a parent.
Vegas
24-03-2008, 01:07 PM
Your mum seems not a nice, like leah said,
has she ever supported u before?
Let the fires of Hell have no fury
on those who dare perform unhetero acts,
or sodomise under the Lords name!
Aflux
24-03-2008, 10:23 PM
I swear being gay is becoming to the 'scene' thing to do.
Mitch4?
25-03-2008, 12:08 AM
I swear being gay is becoming to the 'scene' thing to do.
being bi is the 'scene' thing to do, because on myspace then you have boys and girls commenting how cute you are.
kinda takes away the real meaning of bi because most people will go to me "your not bi, your just straight/gay". no it's not the case sister.
Independent
25-03-2008, 10:45 AM
"Cutting edge: sleeping with my sister"
Lmao!
Blinger1
25-03-2008, 10:51 AM
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Independent
25-03-2008, 10:59 AM
I'm not gay myself, but IMO you should be supported if you're gay or not.
Aflux
25-03-2008, 11:18 AM
I'm not gay myself, but IMO you should be supported if you're gay or not.
LOL.
You don't know whether you're gay at the age of 15 lmao.
Most people are gay for the attention, harsh but true.
Until you ride the chocolate escalator then, yeah...
Well actually you could be intimate while under the influence.
And, you could do it just to proove a point etc.
But gays, are acting as if they're Black?
WE R GAI WE WNT FREEDOM
Cryptoo
28-03-2008, 03:20 PM
Parents don't seem to understand.
My mates (Amy and Melissa) told the're mums and they really did not agree - they just banned each other from seeing eachother.
"Your too young, stop messing up your life" Said Melissas mum.
What kind of mother would hate her own son if he was gay?
JammiePixelz
07-05-2008, 08:23 PM
Well, First - Well done for actually having the guts to actually come out to 2 people in one day, thats quite a big acheivement itself.
Your mum may just be shocked and might just need a bit of time to get over it. This is exatcly what i was afraid of when telling my mum, i thought that she would kick me out etc. However, she understood - I think she was a bit shocked at first (like most people would be).
In 'the little talk' she may give you later, shes bound to give you the 411 on desiese, relationships, school etc - as this is what my mum did. If she doesnt like it, then tough. She cant change what you are and she needs to get that into her head, and if she cant, then you will have to move out as you cant continue living with somone who your supposed to trust when theyre the total opposite and dont like who you are.
Just a bit of advice as I know what its like to be in this position ;)
Thanks :)
o wwwwww bless
LouisCollins
07-05-2008, 08:26 PM
if she can't accept you for being who you are then slap her and live with your friend.
That made me Lol IRL!
Excellent
08-05-2008, 12:09 AM
Even tho I believe all gays should be shot at point blank range I have some sympathy for you here. You are your mothers offspring and she should respect your decision no matter what, (Even if it is wrong:rolleyes:).
Jordy
08-05-2008, 06:53 AM
Even tho I believe all gays should be shot at point blank range I have some sympathy for you here. You are your mothers offspring and she should respect your decision no matter what, (Even if it is wrong:rolleyes:).You may not agree with homosexual relationships but by the looks of it your not even prepared to talk to homosexuals and find out about it. When I was rather young I didn't understand homosexuals, but once I got talking to a few you begin to realise they're just the same as everyone else, and not only that, it's nothing to do with you if they're having a relationship.
It's a pretty sad signature tbh, it shows your immaturity if you feel the need to express your strong views and opinions in your signature.
You won't get far these days saying homosexual's should get shot, you can think that all you like, but if you express it everywhere you'll be classed as homophobic as it's not really accepted these days to say things like that, you should really research the issue.
Excellent
08-05-2008, 09:23 AM
You may not agree with homosexual relationships but by the looks of it your not even prepared to talk to homosexuals and find out about it. When I was rather young I didn't understand homosexuals, but once I got talking to a few you begin to realise they're just the same as everyone else, and not only that, it's nothing to do with you if they're having a relationship.
It's a pretty sad signature tbh, it shows your immaturity if you feel the need to express your strong views and opinions in your signature.
You won't get far these days saying homosexual's should get shot, you can think that all you like, but if you express it everywhere you'll be classed as homophobic as it's not really accepted these days to say things like that, you should really research the issue.It's a free world, I'll express my opinion when and where I choose. The reason why I have it in my signature is to let people know the only reason I'll be negatory to them is if they are gay which I believe is wrong and disgusting. If you was gay in the olden days you would have been whipped (bad idea, maybe you all like that). As the immaturity I believe you are immature for not letting me express my opinion without kicking up a hissy fit. Homophobic is accepted in todays society as people still believe gay relationships are wrong. Mothers wouldn't want their sons or daughters seeing two men kiss on the street would they? They'd pull them away in utter disgust because it's disgusting. I respect the way your head works but it's a pity nobody can re-wire it.
Jordy
08-05-2008, 02:32 PM
It's a free world, I'll express my opinion when and where I choose. The reason why I have it in my signature is to let people know the only reason I'll be negatory to them is if they are gay which I believe is wrong and disgusting. If you was gay in the olden days you would have been whipped (bad idea, maybe you all like that). As the immaturity I believe you are immature for not letting me express my opinion without kicking up a hissy fit. Homophobic is accepted in todays society as people still believe gay relationships are wrong. Mothers wouldn't want their sons or daughters seeing two men kiss on the street would they? They'd pull them away in utter disgust because it's disgusting. I respect the way your head works but it's a pity nobody can re-wire it.Homophobia isn't accepted in the majority of the UK, if you spoke out in it in public you could actually be arrested.
I have no problem with your opinion, it's just that you choose to express your opinion. Don't give us all that 'It's a free country!' - Yes it is a free country and we're free to say the majority of our opinions, homophobia isn't generally accepted a bit like racism isn't. No one can change your opinion, but just because it's a free country is no reason to express opinions like that, keep it to yourself.
'It's disgusting' - How childish... It's not up to you what homosexual couples get up too.
:Edzy
08-05-2008, 03:03 PM
if she can't accept you for being who you are then slap her and live with your friend.
not that easy though tbh.
Excellent
08-05-2008, 04:32 PM
Homophobia isn't accepted in the majority of the UK, if you spoke out in it in public you could actually be arrested.
I have no problem with your opinion, it's just that you choose to express your opinion. Don't give us all that 'It's a free country!' - Yes it is a free country and we're free to say the majority of our opinions, homophobia isn't generally accepted a bit like racism isn't. No one can change your opinion, but just because it's a free country is no reason to express opinions like that, keep it to yourself.
'It's disgusting' - How childish... It's not up to you what homosexual couples get up too.I wasn't being negative to the whole post, I expressed my opinion on homophobia and stated I had some sympathy for him. You go in the middle of your town and shout out loud that your gay, I'd love to see the dirty looks you get. Thing is homophobia isn't and will never be fully understood. Personally I see it as a mental illness or you have the wrong wires in the wrong places. Any gay person who kisses another man deserves to be punished for the sin. It is 100% wrong and police should enforce that gay men or women cannot apply sexual acts in a public place, i.e kissing.
Samantha.
08-05-2008, 04:32 PM
Well Your Mum Should Support You In Everything You Do And Think And Your Sexuality. Like You Said And Many Other People Have Also Said In This Thread, Go And Stay With Your Friend For A While And Let Your Mum Get Used To The Idea (:
buttons
08-05-2008, 04:33 PM
that sucks, you should be glad that you told her tho!!
People really shouldn't be treated differently just before their gay..
today
09-05-2008, 05:00 PM
People really shouldn't be treated differently just before their gay..
try telling some people that..
Papershop
10-05-2008, 09:01 AM
Get over it? What did you expect? It is a shock to most parents because when they were born it was seen differently. But give it time, if she loves you she will understand
Alexicles.
18-05-2008, 07:02 PM
Well, I would move in with your freind, it's just rude for the one person to love you for who you are not to agree with it. :@
Hope this helps.
x
Think about, would you really want your son comming up to you and saying he's homosexual? To be honest i wouldn't, i tolerate it and everything but it's a big shock for your mother and if she's Christian, the churches tend to not socially accept homosexuals because they believe that the whole idea of sexual intercorse is to give birth.
I reckon she will come around soon enough but give her time.
(by the way, GAY = Good As You)
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