Does she like me?

[348GTS]

Okay, theres this girl in my grade named Andrea. I've liked her since about grade 7 (now in 9) but I've never been really crazy about her. This is mainly because she was always in the enriched program (smarter people) and I wasn't because when it comes to school, I'm lazy. so this year I'm in enriched english, and for this term, we sit next to eachother. Im normally really shy because I've never had a girlfriend or really been around girls, but once I know them, I'm really talkative. Thats what happened with me and her, we're talking a lot and on facebook. She makes tuns of comments on facebook and irl like "oh my god I never knew you were so funny" and "you make my day" and stuff like that. I'm pretty sure she likes me, but like I said before, I'm shy and I've never had a girlfriend. I think I could muster up the courage to ask her out, but we're only in one class together, which isn't necessarily a bad thing (so I'll have time for my other friends) but she hangs out with people that I barely know... and how pathetic as this must sound, I dont really know how to treat her. I'm really nice and I help out everything and I know we'd be really good together, but I've never kissed a girl, I've never even hugged her before and I think it would be really akward.

I don't know, I might be over-reacting, but I think that she likes me. I'm also afraid that I'll ask her and she'll say no, like she did to my friend a couple years ago.

thanks guys.

[warezkid3]

Just keep talking to her

see what happens

[jesus]

Ask her. :)

What's the worst that could happen?

[348GTS]

Just keep talking to her

see what happens

Yeah, I'll do that and add her on msn and stuff, but once this term is over I won't be sitting with her in English class and then that might set us apart.. and she's also really busy so she won't be on MSN much.


Ask her. :)

What's the worst that could happen?

I guess I could ask her, but I only will if I'm pretty sure she likes me. I dont want to ruin our friendship because she is really really nice and shes just amazing.

[Jamesy]

I've been in this situation many a time. You've thought non stop about her everyday since year 7? I've felt thatway about someone (she's the kindest sweetest sexiest person evar, and Mine!).

keep talking to her, but flirt. Flirting is easy if you break it into groups.

Soppy: The kind that is all gooey and luvvy duvvy. Can be over powering, don't overuse.

Kinky: it's good if you are having a laugh and a joke around, be careful as you may seem like a pervert.

Friendly: Hint at it, stand close to her and see how she reacts. and just generally be friendly. Make that one lesson count so she can't wait to see you next time.

Somedays you will have set backs that will knock your confidence. you say the wrong thing or she is in a bad mood. Those days suck and can bring down your whole week.

I expect you are also worried about ruining the friendship if she says no. Well, you are just going to have to take the plunge and go for it. Everyone says do it in person, don't if it's going to come out wrong. That will suck majorly. But don't do it via text. That IS sucky.

Call her, something like that. Do you have her mobile number? Ask to meet her outside school. Take her some where special. Somewhere you can chat and have a laugh with, but is a bit private, incase you get spotted and it goes around the school and it's like :P.

But basically, talk to her. Make every moment count and make her as if she is special to her. If you are sure she likes you go for it, what have you got to lose? If she says no she probably isn't ready. You can never force people.

[Florx]

Good advice +rep.

[348GTS]

I've been in this situation many a time. You've thought non stop about her everyday since year 7? I've felt thatway about someone (she's the kindest sweetest sexiest person evar, and Mine!).

keep talking to her, but flirt. Flirting is easy if you break it into groups.

Soppy: The kind that is all gooey and luvvy duvvy. Can be over powering, don't overuse.

Kinky: it's good if you are having a laugh and a joke around, be careful as you may seem like a pervert.

Friendly: Hint at it, stand close to her and see how she reacts. and just generally be friendly. Make that one lesson count so she can't wait to see you next time.

Somedays you will have set backs that will knock your confidence. you say the wrong thing or she is in a bad mood. Those days suck and can bring down your whole week.

I expect you are also worried about ruining the friendship if she says no. Well, you are just going to have to take the plunge and go for it. Everyone says do it in person, don't if it's going to come out wrong. That will suck majorly. But don't do it via text. That IS sucky.

Call her, something like that. Do you have her mobile number? Ask to meet her outside school. Take her some where special. Somewhere you can chat and have a laugh with, but is a bit private, incase you get spotted and it goes around the school and it's like :P.

But basically, talk to her. Make every moment count and make her as if she is special to her. If you are sure she likes you go for it, what have you got to lose? If she says no she probably isn't ready. You can never force people.

Thank you very much! sorry if I'm always against asking her, its just im shy.

I dont think she has a phone, but I'll try flirting. Considering that Iv'e never had a girlfriend, I've never flirted lmao. I feel like such a loser. I'll try sitting closer to her in english class if shes in a good mood and see.

[Jamesy]

Flirting isn't supposed to be known, it's spontaneous. You must learn it as you go along, once you get the hang of it, it will all come natural to you. Same with kissing and hugging and... other stuff ;) But that's a bit far fetched for now.

I still suck at kissing, I accidently bit her :O


Good advice +rep.

If that was aimed at me you will notice it's turned off ;) +rep is said so many times...

[Florx]

I'm with you mate. I've never had a girlfriend either but I flirt with the girl I like occasionally. Improves her mood :p.

Anyway I always go with the philosophy "What's the worst thing that can happen." That is she will say no.

If she thinks she made the wrong decision about saying no she will possibly not talk to you till she gets over it (that has happened twice to me) but at the end of the day if you don't ask you might be missing out!

Bite the bullet and ask. If she says yes you might have months of happiness if no days of regret but you will get over it.

Thanks for reading my ramble :p

[jesus]

Yeah, I'll do that and add her on msn and stuff, but once this term is over I won't be sitting with her in English class and then that might set us apart.. and she's also really busy so she won't be on MSN much.



I guess I could ask her, but I only will if I'm pretty sure she likes me. I dont want to ruin our friendship because she is really really nice and shes just amazing.If you are really close friends it might not be wise to ruin that.

Get drunk together and see what happens. ;)

[Jamesy]

can't be any worse than my ramble ;)

The major danger is you going out with her, having a shy attack like Ugawa's thread in here somewhere and it all grinding to a halt. This a trap many people fall into, including me.

[348GTS]

I'm with you mate. I've never had a girlfriend either but I flirt with the girl I like occasionally. Improves her mood :p.

Anyway I always go with the philosophy "What's the worst thing that can happen." That is she will say no.

If she thinks she made the wrong decision about saying no she will possibly not talk to you till she gets over it (that has happened twice to me) but at the end of the day if you don't ask you might be missing out!

Bite the bullet and ask. If she says yes you might have months of happiness if no days of regret but you will get over it.

Thanks for reading my ramble :p


Thanks everyone, and I'll ask her probably after the march break or something, but I'll add her on msn and try to talk to her like as much as possible. One big problem for me though is that I kinow like some of her really good friends, and if I suddenly start going out with her without like them knowing they might ask random questions and stuff. and theres always one of them around because she has so many friends, so if I don't know her friends well, and we start just going out we'll probably have like no time just us two.

I guess im fine with her but her friends are nice but i'll just be some random person that starts going out with her.

god, it'd be so much easier if summer was coming up and we could just go alone...

[Jamesy]

That's why you meet out of school, she will obviously have to have some time away from her friends. Person I love is busy, she gets like 5 calls per half hour, but it doesn't stop us having...fun shall I say ;)

[348GTS]

That's why you meet out of school, she will obviously have to have some time away from her friends. Person I love is busy, she gets like 5 calls per half hour, but it doesn't stop us having...fun shall I say ;)

I dont know where we could meet though, she lives like an hour walk from my house, but if I could bike it would be easier.. fking snow... I could bike anyways though. We could probably go somewhere afterschool too.

Its like in class, when she isn't sitting next to me, should I go see her when shes with her friends? Walk up to her and hold her hands, hug her, or just leave her? In the halls when I see her should I just like talk to her or hold her hand or what?

See if its summer I don't care about this stuff, but in school, its not like what people care about me, its just... I dont want to embarrass her infront of everyone or be too clingy.

[Florx]

First give her a hug but make sure you don't hold on to long. - Hands on her back but don't pat. Hold her close but not too tight (let her breathe lol).

Then when she releases let go. Then smile at her.

Thats basically the first step. Do that a few times (a week not a day).

Step 2: Stand close and see how she reacts. If she moves away slowly you are too close. If not reach for her hand. If she jumps away apologise else just hold her hand and smile (not a big cheesy grin just a reassuring smile).

[Jamesy]

just say hi, smile to her. You don't have to stop and drag her away. Something as simple as a passing smile will let her know you care.

[348GTS]

just say hi, smile to her. You don't have to stop and drag her away. Something as simple as a passing smile will let her know you care.

Okay, thanks.

I'm really considering not asking until like Summer, but its 110 days away, and she probably has camp. I added her on MSN so I'll talk to her A LOT this whole week and if I think she really likes me, I'll ask her this week

TYVM guys.

[Florx]

One more thing...



GOOD LUCK :)

(You may/will need it. Pfft girls - drive us crazy with or without)

[Jamesy]

One more thing...



GOOD LUCK :)

(You may/will need it. Pfft girls - drive us crazy with or without)

But if you find that special one, there's nothing better :). you may have noticed my good mood lately :D.

I've loved this girl sicne year 8, went out with her, she dumped me then february the 14th we met up and <3

[348GTS]

One more thing...



GOOD LUCK :)

(You may/will need it. Pfft girls - drive us crazy with or without)

ty :)


But if you find that special one, there's nothing better :). you may have noticed my good mood lately :D.

I've loved this girl sicne year 8, went out with her, she dumped me then february the 14th we met up and <3

hopefully I'll be in the same situation lol

[348GTS]

Okay so I added her on MSN and she went on about an hour ago and we talked for about an hour. Mainly about The Office (TV show I've never seen) and then about school and stuff. Maybe once I get to know her I can ask her if she wants to come over and watch ;)

Thanks again guys.

[Evescence]

Just dont wait about, get in there. Ask her out before its to late, not straight away but soon because some other guy might come along then you have to wait even longer.

[Metric.]

party with her. Or add her to facebook!

[348GTS]

god, she likes me and I'm like 80% sure. On msn I told her I'd do a project with a partner but I dont want to do it for 8 mins and now she wants to be my partner, she laughs at practically everything I say and she just keeps complimenting me..

AND WHY THE **** CAN'T I ASK HER OUT

god damn it, why am I so nervous

i'm guessing we should go see a movie or something before I completely ask her out?

[Buax]

Ask her. :)

What's the worst that could happen?

Agreed. Some possible embrassement for a few seconds, but then you know and you could find you're self with the girl of your dreams.

[ChampJames.]

god, she likes me and I'm like 80% sure. On msn I told her I'd do a project with a partner but I dont want to do it for 8 mins and now she wants to be my partner, she laughs at practically everything I say and she just keeps complimenting me..

AND WHY THE **** CAN'T I ASK HER OUT

god damn it, why am I so nervous

i'm guessing we should go see a movie or something before I completely ask her out?

Very positive post from you there.

I think the bit I have highlighted, about going to see a movie together, could be a good idea. Try and get it to be just you and her and take it from there.