HELP.

[Miserlou]

My Boyfriends family are religious. Jahovas Whitness.
My boyfriend isn't really.
He smokes, is with me when I'm not in his religion, had sex before marriage, Drinks to get intoxicated, soft drugs, doesn't go to services, ect ect.
However he still has his beliefs. Every year around easter time they go to this hall and pass around bread and wine and talk and read from the bible and Joe's mum keeps pressurising me to go. I don't know what to say and how to not make it sound rude saying no and to me this would be quite strange kind of reinacting the last supper..
She keeps asking me to go to various services so I understand their religion more, which I guess is okay. I'd just feel so uncomfortable in that sort of social situation though. Joe has already told a LOT of their belifes and stuff and I do understand I'm just kind of.. not really interested, is this bad?
This really really isn't me. I have never been religious and do NOT wish to. I kind of believe religion causes problems and conflict but at the same time if you wanna have beliefs I haven't got a problemn with it. I like to live my life how I want and if armagedon came (like Joe says it will :/) I'd have had fun.

[FlyingJesus]

Despite what you might think of religion, the majority of religious people are really peaceful and nice, and stuff like communion can be quite good even if you're not religious. I'm not a Christian myself but I sometimes go to church with my mum who is just because I like the atmosphere - I suggest you just go really, it's one day a year and it'll make your boyfriend happy.

[benjamin]

Why don't you try and tell them why you don't go? Just say what you said there about religion and why you feel it - and as you respect them and their beliefs, they should respect yours.

[Miserlou]

I know their nice lol. I talk to his family all the time about it.
I hope I didn't come across ignorant or rude.
I'm not being funny but I've been to church and a meeting and I did not like the atmosphere. I listened, took it in and was very respectful towards people who spoke to me. It just made me feel uneasy.

Yes I think I might have to. I just feel a bit embarassed and rude really bringing it up. I might speak to Joe later.

[Virgin Mary]

They're trying to convert you, that's what jehovah's witnesses do lol.

[Miserlou]

Lol how very stereotypical.
NOT ALL Jehovas whitness's do.
And the ones that knock on you're door believe they are trying to help you, however annoying for you that might not or might be.
I know another family who are Jehovas Whitness's and don't talk about it to me and are also lovely. You probably wouldn't guess they're Jehovas Whitness's.
Since I've been with Joe two years and it looks I'm set for life with him I'm sure his parents would love it if I came into their religion since they're VERY traditional.
&Since their own two son's have kinda of drifted and one completely.

[Jordy]

They're trying to convert you, that's what jehovah's witnesses do lol.Yeah, always knocking on my bloody door on christmas day trying to convert me, **** off!

I'd be careful if I was you, and if you get chance get his bible, smack him around the head with it, lob it in the nearest bin and run. Jees I've had far to many bad experience's with jobo's.

[InvisibleMan]

[quote=Jordy;4549902]Yeah, always knocking on my bloody door on christmas day trying to convert me, **** off!quote]
They knocked on our door on Christmas day... it was rather funny watching my dad rip into them.

[Miserlou]

Don't get so offended they're trying to help you in their opinion.
They are nice people.
Just say no thanks and shut the door..

Obviously I'm talking pointlessly to a bunch of ignorant, judgemental, 12 year olds.

AND my boyfriend doesn't have a bible. If you READ he isn't religious at all in what he does. He just has beliefs. You know, those things you can't actually touch.
I guess It's pretty harsh interupting your christmas day though I must say.
Never heard that one before. Remember people are indivuduals with thier own decisions and thoughts, those ones knocking on your door at christmas obviously have just as little respect for others as yourself Jordy.

Anyway I dealt with my problem earlier so erm yeah cheers for the help :/. Please close this.

[GommeInc]

Don't get so offended they're trying to help you in their opinion.
They are nice people.
Just say no thanks and shut the door..

Obviously I'm talking pointlessly to a bunch of ignorant, judgemental, 12 year olds.

AND my boyfriend doesn't have a bible. If you READ he isn't religious at all in what he does. He just has beliefs. You know, those things you can't actually touch.
I guess It's pretty harsh interupting your christmas day though I must say.
Never heard that one before. Remember people are indivuduals with thier own decisions and thoughts, those ones knocking on your door at christmas obviously have just as little respect for others as yourself Jordy.

Anyway I dealt with my problem earlier so erm yeah cheers for the help :/. Please close this.
He doesn't have beliefs if he doesn't follow them or believe in them? He's forced to go to services etc on holy days because his parents want him to... It's like people going to a Carol Service or Christmas Day service... They only go because they feel they need to, not really because they believe in the religion... Just say you don't want to go, or go and stoping causing a pointless discussion which involves an ignorant individual who doesn'trealise that a majority of Christian believers are quite nice :rolleyes:

[Miserlou]

Where on earth are you getting this from?
I believe the sky is blue but I don't worship the sky.
He does has beliefs and he classes himself as part of the religion because he strongly believes it all to be true. It doesn't mean he talks about it or goes to things or does things differently. He's one of the most unruley people I've known.
He's not forced, he wants to go.
I already said anyway, my problem has been solved. Thread closed.
Don't blame ME for ignorance of others.