Loner?

[[Chris]]

Well.. im actully a little worried about myself.. i've noticed that while im in school i would prefer to be alone and sit away from the group of friends im usually with and not get involved.. but when im at home, im so bored when im not with anyone

im actully worrying myself tbh

is this normal?

[Smiddy]

Yeah I went through that, it's just a phase, I hope! It was for me anyway.
Find something to talk about with your friends, it'll make you feel better.

[[Chris]]

Meh, its been like this for quite a while now.. my friends worried about me aswel.. i think its because i've been constantly bullied through the years...

but i hope it passes..

im usually fine with people when theres no choice (like lessons) but at breaks, lunches ect i sit with a group of friends, with one of my best friends.. but then i just prefer to sit away..

[Smiddy]

if you have the protection of your friends then eventually bullying will stop.

It's good to hear your friends are worried for you though!

[[Chris]]

if you have the protection of your friends then eventually bullying will stop.

It's good to hear your friends are worried for you though!

he acts as though nothing happens the next day.. but im fed up of it so i end up turning towards my best friend who isnt usually with the bully.. and i've been making more friends with this

but i just sit away from them on the corridor we/they sit on and just do nothing while the group just play on my ipod

but.. i barly get out because i have nowhere to go, most of my friends live miles away from me and never come out so i guess i've become anti-social

[Moh]

I was like that during school, but once I got away from school and went to college, my confidence is much better. I'm now one of the loudest on the course :P

[[Chris]]

I was like that during school, but once I got away from school and went to college, my confidence is much better. I'm now one of the loudest on the course :P

i am myself when i have no choice to be on my own.. but when i have a choice im just not myself.. around girls and boys

[Pyroka]

tbh i prefer to be alone alot more than with others. it feels better, calmer... time to think rationally without people around me influencing me. i'd not be worried about it dude, its just who you might be. it could pass i guess.

[Moh]

;4688830']i am myself when i have no choice to be on my own.. but when i have a choice im just not myself.. around girls and boys
Are you with different people during breaks than in class?

[[Chris]]

Are you with different people during breaks than in class?

yeh, its sort of a choice that i cant change, im fine and myself when im in lessons i laugh, i mess ect, but i still even want to be alone.. im willing to go to the group with my friends, but i will sit away, even if they ask ne to come and "join in" i just tell them in fine, and yeh, one of my other best friends makes me smile when ever i see her, shes just funny though and always cheers me up.. but if i have the choice i would sit somewhere quiet and do nothing.. but at home its the total oposite, i "need" someone to be there or im so bored... its just wrong

[Pyroka]

;4688851']yeh, its sort of a choice that i cant change, im fine and myself when im in lessons i laugh, i mess ect, but i still even want to be alone.. im willing to go to the group with my friends, but i will sit away, even if they ask ne to come and "join in" i just tell them in fine, and yeh, one of my other best friends makes me smile when ever i see her, shes just funny though and always cheers me up.. but if i have the choice i would sit somewhere quiet and do nothing.. but at home its the total oposite, i "need" someone to be there or im so bored... its just wrong

I'm actually on your wavelength on this. I know what you mean, you enjoy being around people but at the same time they get on your nerves and you'd rather have peace and tranquility. You'll join friends but you won't feel sociable because you'd rather not. You have that best friend, but whilst you love spending time with them, you love spending time with yourself.

I get that, and when I get home I almost attention-seek until someone talks to me and then I blank them. The mind works weirdly.

[[Chris]]

hmm, yeh.. i like being around my friends because it gives me a sence of being liked, i've always been the kind of person who has put themselfs down, and has been put down by other people..

im not a violent person, and i really care about my friends, my friends trust me with some of their most "secret" secrets..

i really need someone to talk to in real life, not just on msn or bebo..

i dont really get annoyed of my friends.. only when they constantly go on ect ect.

i just love to be on my own, even though theres nothing i think about, i just do nothing, and no i'd rather not get too involved, even though i like to get to know more people ect..

i have quite a few friends that im close too.. its just i like being with them and most people really..

im just really worried about myself and i feel that its effecting the people around me, and i dont want them to feel sorry for me. i dont like hurting my friends in ANY way...

[Pyroka]

Yeah, I used to get bullied but I think it's to do with confidence. You feel like you're not part of a group because bullies don't make you feel a part of society. There's nothing wrong with you imo, you just like to be alone whenever you can. I suggest going to a field and looking up into the sky, honestly you'll feel so much better about yourself.

It's actually quite relaxing too so you don't get stressed as much as others do, and you end up with a calm trustful mind. Don't worry about yourself, and if you're worried your friends think you're not friendly, then just tell them straight that you like to be alone sometimes, for the peace and quiet. I bet one or two will actually agree yknow.

[[Chris]]

well.. i cant do the field thing, as you probably'll get injured by chavs..

one of my friends keeps asking me whats wrong when i walk with him and one of his best friends (another of my friends) i always walk ahead, or behind or to the side trying to be on my own, i feel that itts my own problem that i cant control in any way... i sometimes get annoyed like everyone and just walk off.. but thats normal..

when i sit down away from everyone im fine, im happy, calm and i dont think of anything..

its just worrying me the way i am.. i can understand that its been the bullying of my past and present thats causing it.. but i just .. its all my fault really..

im the one who doesnt do anything about anything.. im the one who sits around doing nothing with no-one.. im the unhealthy one who sits around all day
But im the one who cares about everyone.. and thats why people like me

forget it

[Pyroka]

LMAO Oh dear, chavs :rolleyes: Seriously though, you sound like me when I was 13 years old, not being offensive at all but I went through this sort of stuff back then like how you are, but I'm a little more confident now.

You're not a loner, you just prefer to sit by yourself because it makes you feel better. It's not a problem, it might just be who you are and you probably will grow out of it as you get older and more sociable. Thats how I got over it, I just worked my way through and lived life the best I could.

[[Chris]]

thanks - you've helped me alot thank you so much

[Pyroka]

It's all good, just go your own path. :) you dont have to be around people constantly to feel good about yourself, being by yourself helps too. <3

[RichardKnox]

I'm basically the same, although I've never been bullied and do have reasonable self confidence. I like being with mates, but sometimes I just prefer my own company or just 1 or 2 close friends. At home sometimes I get bored, but I do enjoy the peace etc. of being on my own.

[The Professor]

If you seem to have several problems that are getting to you and you prefer to be alone, those are the causes and (one of the) effects of clinical depression. If you're worried about yourself, go to your GP and talk to him/her and they'll point you in the right direction :)

Try taking on board what Pyroka has said too though, its some pretty sound advice :)

[LoveHateHero]

dont play rs.

[Zak]

;4688791']Well.. im actully a little worried about myself.. i've noticed that while im in school i would prefer to be alone and sit away from the group of friends im usually with and not get involved.. but when im at home, im so bored when im not with anyone

im actully worrying myself tbh

is this normal?

I prefer being alone, but I do have friends. You need some kind of social structure in your life though, so I would do abit of both.