Questions about approaching a girl, etc.

[Phreedom]

Ok, so I was in disney world in Florida (I'm from alabama, not a redneck btw). I got to thinkin and I realized... I am actually pretty lonely. I saw one girl there (didn't talk to her), and the way she looked at me made me want to meet her.. but i was with my family and she was with hers.

I am now back in alabama, and really want a girlfriend.. i'm kinda picky though, but that's only because I don't want to be one of those people who goes through like tons of girls and looks like a man****. but yeah, i'll get to it.

If I see a girl like that, how should I approach her? I'm kind of shy but if i make an approach she might think im not shy and maybe talk to me. I dont wanna go up to her and be like: "your cute", "hey wanna hang out?", because I might not know her. I am homeschooled and on summer break atm.

I was in school last year, hated it.

But yeah, education is a priority for me (otherwise i get grounded / yelled at 24/7). But when i go to the class things they have, if i were to see a girl there that i think is cute, or if i go to the movies, how should i approach her?

what should i say to start a conversation? please don't give me answers like: "be yourself" or "think of your interests". I will be myself and talk about interests once we start a conversation, but i want to know HOW to start it.

It's alot to read just for the question, but maybe itll give you some more information about how I should.


Oh, I'm not looking for a **** or anything either.

EDIT: Forgot to say I'm 15 years old, so I can't drive yet.. I DO have my permit though.

[whitebengal]

Simple....walk up to her say 'hello hows it going' Its not difficult. Girls like guys who are confident but not TOO confident....You start of slowly making small talk and then it just leads from there.....Don't be nervous...Honestly it's not THAT bad!!

[Phreedom]

Simple....walk up to her say 'hello hows it going' Its not difficult. Girls like guys who are confident but not TOO confident....You start of slowly making small talk and then it just leads from there.....Don't be nervous...Honestly it's not THAT bad!!

alright... how should i make it look like im not some weirdo stalker that just goes up to random girls and meets them haha

[Yux]

no no just hi with a smile say to whoever it is
then the usual howre you
then use your head and say something like so you from around here
they'll obviously say yes if they don't start asking questions about wherever it is/ask how long they're around here for etc
always remember humour, humour gets me in and out of everything

trust girls are gagging for it just as much as men except men go on about it more

[whitebengal]

alright... how should i make it look like im not some weirdo stalker that just goes up to random girls and meets them haha

You wont look like a stalker....because it's a normal and natural thing to do...if she doesn't seem interested just walk away!

[RedStratocas]

Ok, so I was in disney world in Florida (I'm from alabama, not a redneck btw). I got to thinkin and I realized... I am actually pretty lonely. I saw one girl there (didn't talk to her), and the way she looked at me made me want to meet her.. but i was with my family and she was with hers.

I am now back in alabama, and really want a girlfriend.. i'm kinda picky though, but that's only because I don't want to be one of those people who goes through like tons of girls and looks like a man****. but yeah, i'll get to it.

If I see a girl like that, how should I approach her? I'm kind of shy but if i make an approach she might think im not shy and maybe talk to me. I dont wanna go up to her and be like: "your cute", "hey wanna hang out?", because I might not know her. I am homeschooled and on summer break atm.

I was in school last year, hated it.

But yeah, education is a priority for me (otherwise i get grounded / yelled at 24/7). But when i go to the class things they have, if i were to see a girl there that i think is cute, or if i go to the movies, how should i approach her?

what should i say to start a conversation? please don't give me answers like: "be yourself" or "think of your interests". I will be myself and talk about interests once we start a conversation, but i want to know HOW to start it.

It's alot to read just for the question, but maybe itll give you some more information about how I should.


Oh, I'm not looking for a **** or anything either.

EDIT: Forgot to say I'm 15 years old, so I can't drive yet.. I DO have my permit though.

first off, thank you very much for not being one of the stereotypical idiots on this forum that always say "I DUN HAVE A GIRLFREND WUT SHUD I DO?" and actually giving information.

okay, now to actual advice. you were right not to go up to the girl you didnt know while she's with her family. it sucks, but there's nothing you could have done about it. and as for the picky thing: you should try to be more open. the thing about relationships and making them work best is forgetting about what other people think. when you worry about what other people think, you loose the connection between you and your girlfriend. do as you please, people are more accepting than you think. teenagers are supposed to date like crazy. its supposed to be casual (not sexually) and you're supposed to be navigating through the dating world and discovering what you do and do not like and what is most important to you in a girl.

on approaching girls, it depends on the situation. if they're with friends, you have to be more forward. girls love compliments. even if she has a boyfriend, she wont be disgusted or offended in any way if you just tell her that you saw her and think that she's cute. ive been in a few situations where it's a good conversation starter. it makes them feel like you're open about stuff. and if she does have a boyfriend she'll tell you, and it wont be a big deal. its a confidence booster for her and for you. its a win-win. but if they are alone, in a classroom setting or something, you can use the same technique or just simply sit next to them casually and strike up a conversation on something relevant, even if it's dumb and you don't really care. conversations morph fast with girls.

[Phreedom]

first off, thank you very much for not being one of the stereotypical idiots on this forum that always say "I DUN HAVE A GIRLFREND WUT SHUD I DO?" and actually giving information.

okay, now to actual advice. you were right not to go up to the girl you didnt know while she's with her family. it sucks, but there's nothing you could have done about it. and as for the picky thing: you should try to be more open. the thing about relationships and making them work best is forgetting about what other people think. when you worry about what other people think, you loose the connection between you and your girlfriend. do as you please, people are more accepting than you think. teenagers are supposed to date like crazy. its supposed to be casual (not sexually) and you're supposed to be navigating through the dating world and discovering what you do and do not like and what is most important to you in a girl.

on approaching girls, it depends on the situation. if they're with friends, you have to be more forward. girls love compliments. even if she has a boyfriend, she wont be disgusted or offended in any way if you just tell her that you saw her and think that she's cute. ive been in a few situations where it's a good conversation starter. it makes them feel like you're open about stuff. and if she does have a boyfriend she'll tell you, and it wont be a big deal. its a confidence booster for her and for you. its a win-win. but if they are alone, in a classroom setting or something, you can use the same technique or just simply sit next to them casually and strike up a conversation on something relevant, even if it's dumb and you don't really care. conversations morph fast with girls.

Thanks! You helped alot!

Also, what if she tells me she has a boyfriend? what should i say? I'll feel like an idiot for going over and talking to her and acting like i like her and stuff lol

Edit: Also, i know i dont care what other people think.. i had a girlfriend and that lasted for like 4 days cause her parents were divorcing and then i was like "shes not my type" so yeaah. but when i was with her , i didnt care what anyone else did.. i was fixed on her. well, i noticed them, but you know what i mean.

[whitebengal]

Thanks! You helped alot!

Also, what if she tells me she has a boyfriend? what should i say? I'll feel like an idiot for going over and talking to her and acting like i like her and stuff lol



Don't act TOO interested....Move in slowly and then during conversation ask her if she has a boyfriend...if she says yes just ask about him and then talk about something else...If she says no don't say anything just ask something else. :eusa_danc

[Breakfloor]

think to yourself before you go in "what is the worse that can happen - she can say no"

you have nothing to loose if she says no, just move on.

[Yux]

Here's a piece of advice that has stuck with me through my life, if you're never going to see someone again it doesn't matter what the hell you do.

As in you screw up you won't see her again, you take a risk and you succeed and you're in.

[Astone]

I agree with the above posters. If you like a girl, be a MAN! Go up to her and just start talking. If she's not interested, then it's no big deal (like others have said), especially if you're never going to see her again. At least you'll know that nothing happened; imagine thinking about what COULD have happened if you didn't ask her. If she's interested you win, if she's not, you still win. You gain more experience and it'll be easier to confront the next girl. Good luck!

[FlyingJesus]

Whip it out

[BaybeeElin]

Just smile at her and say something like 'alright' :P
Try to look like a nice guy and not too forward.
You could try to start talking about something shes into, like, if she's on her phone you could say you like her phone(make sure it doesn't look like your intending to steal it though ! ), or if shes with her dog ask her what its name is etc.
Just go from there.
You don't have to ask for her phone number or anything straight away.
Oh and make sure you're the one who ends the conversation, it will make her want to get to know you more. You could finish of by saying.. 'Well I'l see you around'.

Yeah I know you only wanted to know how to start a conversation but I just couldn't help it :)

[RedStratocas]

Thanks! You helped alot!

Also, what if she tells me she has a boyfriend? what should i say? I'll feel like an idiot for going over and talking to her and acting like i like her and stuff lol

Edit: Also, i know i dont care what other people think.. i had a girlfriend and that lasted for like 4 days cause her parents were divorcing and then i was like "shes not my type" so yeaah. but when i was with her , i didnt care what anyone else did.. i was fixed on her. well, i noticed them, but you know what i mean.

it comes to you. depends how you do it, but unless the girl is a complete jerkface about it for whatever reason (in which case you shouldn't care what she thinks anyway) she wont be mad. if anything happy. girls are just like guys, they like being noticed and asked out. if a girl asked me out, i'd be thrilled despite the fact i'm in a great relationship right now. it's just another form of a compliment to both genders. it might be awkward if she has a boyfriend, but it's not a bad awkwardness. just say sorry and you didn't know and keep talking to her. its way better to approach and take the risk than to not do anything and spend the next few days/weeks wondering what really would have happened if you approached her.

and thats good. just remember its about the two of you. i've seen lots of couples go down the road of being puppets for everyone else.