Need some help :'(

[Luno1599]

Hey

I currently have a girlfriend who I love to bits,
We have been together about 2 months now and all is... Was ok..

What it is is I have a friend and on here I'll call him bob..
Ok bob keeps flirting with my girlfriend but bob went out with her 3 years ago.. He's always been a flirt but now I'm with her and we are happy I just want him to backoff... I don't want to talk to him as I dont want to lose him as a friend...

If he keeps doing it I'm scared I'm going to lose her :'(

Bob also has a girlfriend who he doesn't treat right and it has been noticed by other friends

Me and my girlfriend have always liked eachother and we have told eachother that... I have waited years for her thats just how much I love her!!

What can I do to help me get through it?

Thanks,
Danny

[Hiro]

In cases like this, there is only one option: confront him. Just be straight with him, you don't like the fact that he keeps flirting with her.
There are problems that could arise with this though, you could lose Bob as a friend, you could lose your girlfriend.
I've been in the same position (the above happened to me - I lost a friend and my girlfriend).

[BaybeeElin]

Hey

I currently have a girlfriend who I love to bits,
We have been together about 2 months now and all is... Was ok..

What it is is I have a friend and on here I'll call him bob..
Ok bob keeps flirting with my girlfriend but bob went out with her 3 years ago.. He's always been a flirt but now I'm with her and we are happy I just want him to backoff... I don't want to talk to him as I dont want to lose him as a friend...

If he keeps doing it I'm scared I'm going to lose her :'(

Bob also has a girlfriend who he doesn't treat right and it has been noticed by other friends

Me and my girlfriend have always liked eachother and we have told eachother that... I have waited years for her thats just how much I love her!!

What can I do to help me get through it?

Thanks,
Danny
You need to talk to him.
Tbh, is he really worth the stress?
He's obviously hurt you, and he must have realised it by now.
Like Hiro said, tell him how your feeling but you don't want it to affect your relationship (bob and yourself).

[H]

Why is everyone saying confront him? what about her? you should talk about it with your girlfriend, because if anything was to happen it would be your girlfriend cheating on you not your friend. Anyways.. you should trust your girlfriend not to do anything, if she is worth it and really loves you then she won't cheat on you simple as. If you start worrying about who she speaks to then where is the trust? If she is going to leave you for this friend of yours then again is she worth it?

but.. history does tend to repeat itself so I guess you have a right to be worried. I'd speak to BOTH of them don't keep your girlfriend in the dark.

GOOD LUCK.

[Catzsy]

I think you should give your girlfriend the trust and respect she deserves. She is probably a lot more intelligent than to fall for somebody like that again otherwise it would have lasted the last time around.
You can't control a situation in any event - I would not worry unless you have actual cause to. :)

[BlueEyedSarah]

I think you need to trust your girlfriend - afterall they are an ex for a reason... I also think you need to talk to your friend, is he acting this way because you are dating one of he's ex girlfriends? He might have a bit of an issue with it, did you ask if it was ok for you to date he's ex?

[Samantha.]

Like manu other people have said, you need to confront your friend Bob i think this is the only way that you can get out safe :] So yehn talk to him and also trust your girlfriend you should do if you love her so much

[Ostinato]

I agree with some above posts. Just beause this guy is flirting with her doesn't mean she is in any way going to accept or act upon it.

However, it obviously is easier said than done to just sit back and trust your girl. I know if it was one of my mates saying it to my girl I'd maybe just have a quick word with him asking him to cool it. But theres no need to be really defneisve or turn it into a fight (where you may end up looking the fool). Maybe just say it jokily, but forcefully enough to get your point across if you know what I mean.

However, you really need to try and keep a bit more secure and don't worry about it.

[Excellent]

Best thing you can do is beat bob to a pulp to let him know that slice of ham is yours and not his.

[MissAlice]

Most females dislike flirts, I for one certainly do, they can't be trusted! You say Bob has always been a flirt, therefore he probably won't change. You also mention that Bob doesn't treat his current girlfriend right, so if you have noticed it, and others have, then your girlfriend probably has too, and ask yourself, would she really prefer that to how you treat her? Highly unlikely. For all you know she might be thinking what an idiot he is, and how lucky she is to have you. You've told each other how much you have always liked one another, and if that's the case then you don't have anything to worry about, because she is with you :)

Ostinato gives you a good tip, to jokingly tell him to push off, providing you do that right, it may just do the trick.

[CJW93]

Ask your mate for a tussle

[leah]

Like you said "bob" is a flirty person, maybe he acts like this with everyone, They must have split up for a reason, don't let Jealousy spoil your relationship. Try and ignore it, you could always flirt with her infront of bob maybe give him a subtle hint to back off?

[Crazychic]

Well it sounds like Bob needs slapping. So tell him to find his own girlfriend and to leave yours alone.

Love Beth xxx

[Youheard]

As Catszy said, you can't build a relationship without trust which by the sounds of things you either have none off or are quite insecure.

In a nutshell, she's with you 'cos she likes you. She'd be with 'Bob' if she liked 'Bob', no matter what 'Bob' says/does. Confronting your friend wont help one bit, he'll just laugh at you and call you pathetic... I know I would.