Life at home.

[Euapoual]

I'm sixteen years of age and I'm gonna be hopefully joining an army college soon in harragate.

What I don't get is life at home atm. its been pretty good then before but I think its getting worse...

well this is what I mean, I have a brother of 10. he will always have a £5-£10 on him a day and I only get £2.50 or £3.50 a day if im lucky...

then If I wanna come downstairs and watch the footy, I start watching it then BAMN I have my little brother ''crying'' to my father to watch something else, he is totally a mummys boy because he is still hooked on the cbeebies/cbbc channels..

what else i dont get is i am treated as im a lodger, i have to eat the meals my brother picks or my stepmum cooks yet when its my turn to pick my little brother will get something better?

my stepmum basically treats me as just another kid whos moved in with my dad, but all her kids are treated golden and given everything they need.

i havent not much clothes but if i go into my brothers room (yes i have to sneak as i havent permission to go anywhere around the house, yet my brother is) he has two wardrobes full.

the other day i asked my dad if he can go buy me a pair of nike trainers, he took my stepmum with him and come back with my brothers trainers and not mine, they was the ones i wanted but in his size, he later said he needed them more yet he has wot 5 pairs...

wot else i dont get is he has his own larger room then i do and yet he doesnt use it as he sleeps in the same room as hes mum? its pathetic and at night hes always like ''nite dad, nite dad nite dad'' keeping whole house up nd dont get in trouble.

den my stepmum is now keeping me away from the dog, ive tried to stop them beating the dog but everyone except me always hits the dog, kicks him and spits on it and its disgusting, now there getting rid of it cause i threatend to report them and im really gonna miss him.

look, just help. how can i change my dads opinion on my stepmum (his wife) all i want is a better homelife not this life where im the lodger and all them are the rich family i work for... also my stepmum got my 2 sisters and brother (werent her kids) thrown out only because they come in late and she didnt like them.. :l she ***** us of all the time and trys to act all big when her friends are round, if she was a boy i would have already lamped her already.

help me! shes trying to get rid of me now. also she keeps saying when my lads knock shes gonna tell them stuff that i dont do, what is like playground stuff? i dont get this life, its basically like living in a school playground just i cant have the ****sturring ****.

Edited by Alkaz (Forum Moderator): Thread moved from Education to Teenlife.

[Alkaz]

This is an extremely hard situation to try and help with especially for anyone on the forum to deal with as it could be an abusive situation. It seems that your step mum and dad almost feel like your the runt of the litter. Sorry to put it like that but there wasnt any other way I could. Well I supose one thing you could try is being happy at everything they do, when your brother chooses dinner or what ever bang on at how lovely and well cooked it is. With the trainers, you could say something like ye, he does need them more than me so he is welcome. Ye, its really hard, anyway the link below has some links to other sites and numbers which you can ring up and could give you more advice.

http://www.habboxforum.com/showthread.php?t=150013

[Leetzgirl]

It alright, soon you be in that army college of yours ;)

[iCosmo]

I suggest you either talk to your dad about this then hopefully he was understand and talk to your stepmum if that dosent work then try and speak to Childline there just like a good mate, they dont treat you any different they treat you more like a best mate.

Good luck and i hope it all goes well! :)

[MissAlice]

You made me shed a tear, you must be very strong to be able to live that way. You don't mention your real mother, so I don't know if she is in your life, and I don't know how long your stepmother has been around. I do think it's time you had a heart to heart with preferably your father, as he is obviously blind to how you feel. I also suggest you talk with http://www.childline.org.uk/

I really hope life improves for you!

[leah]

Omg That is disgraceful!
I really sympathise with you, my mum and dad have favourites and they get what they want, however is not as extreme as yours.
When i read about the dog, I was sickened.
Its horrible :( how come you can't live with your mum if your step mums a cow, you could always ask your dad for some one on one time.. build your relationship, make it stronger and when he's closer to you then maybe tell him about your stepmum's behaviour ;[
I feel so bad, welldone on coping with it tbh. :(

[Shawnstra]

It is ironic that your younger brother, whom you would probably be more matured, gets more money to spend (what could he want at his age?) and the permission to the whole house. You could try to speak with your dad, to tell him about all this and how you feel about it. If he does not care about it or tries to deny it (which will be weird because it is so obvious. BTW, despite it being unlikely, it may be just they are not aware of the problem), they do not really deserve to be your parents, but life ain't fair isn't it :( If they do so, call childline or something, those professionals could help you, maybe you could live with a relative or something at worst.

Good luck :)

[Ugawa]

Omg that is so horrid to hear.

I really hope things get better for you. Try not to get to down about the situation because that's when depression sets in. Hopefully you'll be in ur army college soon

XX

[Euapoual]

Omg that is so horrid to hear.

I really hope things get better for you. Try not to get to down about the situation because that's when depression sets in. Hopefully you'll be in ur army college soon

XX
My friends are there for me if I need them, plus my gf gives me love I need what makes me not just crack and beat the **** outa my parents and brother

[Misawa]

Well you're 16 and he's ten, he naturally takes priority because you have your own responsibilities. You should start paving your way rather than having your parents give you money. :rolleyes:

[:Edzy]

I'm sixteen years of age and I'm gonna be hopefully joining an army college soon in harragate.

What I don't get is life at home atm. its been pretty good then before but I think its getting worse...

well this is what I mean, I have a brother of 10. he will always have a £5-£10 on him a day and I only get £2.50 or £3.50 a day if im lucky...

then If I wanna come downstairs and watch the footy, I start watching it then BAMN I have my little brother ''crying'' to my father to watch something else, he is totally a mummys boy because he is still hooked on the cbeebies/cbbc channels..

what else i dont get is i am treated as im a lodger, i have to eat the meals my brother picks or my stepmum cooks yet when its my turn to pick my little brother will get something better?

my stepmum basically treats me as just another kid whos moved in with my dad, but all her kids are treated golden and given everything they need.

i havent not much clothes but if i go into my brothers room (yes i have to sneak as i havent permission to go anywhere around the house, yet my brother is) he has two wardrobes full.

the other day i asked my dad if he can go buy me a pair of nike trainers, he took my stepmum with him and come back with my brothers trainers and not mine, they was the ones i wanted but in his size, he later said he needed them more yet he has wot 5 pairs...

wot else i dont get is he has his own larger room then i do and yet he doesnt use it as he sleeps in the same room as hes mum? its pathetic and at night hes always like ''nite dad, nite dad nite dad'' keeping whole house up nd dont get in trouble.

den my stepmum is now keeping me away from the dog, ive tried to stop them beating the dog but everyone except me always hits the dog, kicks him and spits on it and its disgusting, now there getting rid of it cause i threatend to report them and im really gonna miss him.

look, just help. how can i change my dads opinion on my stepmum (his wife) all i want is a better homelife not this life where im the lodger and all them are the rich family i work for... also my stepmum got my 2 sisters and brother (werent her kids) thrown out only because they come in late and she didnt like them.. :l she ***** us of all the time and trys to act all big when her friends are round, if she was a boy i would have already lamped her already.

help me! shes trying to get rid of me now. also she keeps saying when my lads knock shes gonna tell them stuff that i dont do, what is like playground stuff? i dont get this life, its basically like living in a school playground just i cant have the ****sturring ****.

Edited by Alkaz (Forum Moderator): Thread moved from Education to Teenlife.

if i was in that situation, i would be a *******.

i'd try to be as annoying to your stepmum as possible and mess her life up by chucking out her belongings when she leaves them around etc. but i'm sure its not the right thing to do. You should talk to your dad about her. I have a freind who is in the same situation, she just ignores it but its not solved.

i dunno how to help you because it's not against the law or anything (apart from the dog part)
i'd call childline because i think they could help.

[Dean]

Hmmm.. my research shows that most people who have hard life at home go to the Army :(

[e5]

Obviously, your life atm is problem after problem, if you're parents and brother aren't going to change, you change. I don't mean change who you are but if they are continously going to moan at you, take it on the chin, just, as alkaz said, compliment what is cooked, compliment your step-mum, saying she looks nice today or something. Is there anything you can talk to your dad about? Or even a friend? You could plan to get your friend round, because, i'm sure your mum would act differently when you have a friend round, and there's not much she can do if you have one round is there? Also, as you're the older one, you're treated as the one 'who can look after yourself more'. In my house, that's completely the opposite (LOL) but yeah.. hope this helped :). I also don't think it's your brother's fault, he's just spoilt and likes it like that, so won't change :P

Good luck in the army, if you get to front line, blow up an affganny and pretend it's your step-mum/brother hehe ;).

e5

[Krusty]

do stuff to annoy her

[N-Dubz]

Report them about the dog anyways dont 'threaten' then.
Dont worry about your lil brother, hes little of course he'll get everything he wants. Stuff your dad right now, he obviously is turning a blind eye to neglect so you cant be worrying or talking to him. Talk to your sister and brothers, ask for advice from them and see if they have room for you till you can get your own place. Talk to Hostel's and go an stay in one, they will hold you for a while. Its not hard, if you really dont like it then talk to the council, go to a hostel and pack your stuff and tell your parents to **** off.

[LeahBaby--x]

Try and wind up your step mother but be sneaky about it.. as for the dog report it because its well tight. :(

[CJW93]

I'm sixteen years of age and I'm gonna be hopefully joining an army college soon in harragate.

What I don't get is life at home atm. its been pretty good then before but I think its getting worse...

well this is what I mean, I have a brother of 10. he will always have a £5-£10 on him a day and I only get £2.50 or £3.50 a day if im lucky...

then If I wanna come downstairs and watch the footy, I start watching it then BAMN I have my little brother ''crying'' to my father to watch something else, he is totally a mummys boy because he is still hooked on the cbeebies/cbbc channels..

what else i dont get is i am treated as im a lodger, i have to eat the meals my brother picks or my stepmum cooks yet when its my turn to pick my little brother will get something better?

my stepmum basically treats me as just another kid whos moved in with my dad, but all her kids are treated golden and given everything they need.

i havent not much clothes but if i go into my brothers room (yes i have to sneak as i havent permission to go anywhere around the house, yet my brother is) he has two wardrobes full.

the other day i asked my dad if he can go buy me a pair of nike trainers, he took my stepmum with him and come back with my brothers trainers and not mine, they was the ones i wanted but in his size, he later said he needed them more yet he has wot 5 pairs...

wot else i dont get is he has his own larger room then i do and yet he doesnt use it as he sleeps in the same room as hes mum? its pathetic and at night hes always like ''nite dad, nite dad nite dad'' keeping whole house up nd dont get in trouble.

den my stepmum is now keeping me away from the dog, ive tried to stop them beating the dog but everyone except me always hits the dog, kicks him and spits on it and its disgusting, now there getting rid of it cause i threatend to report them and im really gonna miss him.

look, just help. how can i change my dads opinion on my stepmum (his wife) all i want is a better homelife not this life where im the lodger and all them are the rich family i work for... also my stepmum got my 2 sisters and brother (werent her kids) thrown out only because they come in late and she didnt like them.. :l she ***** us of all the time and trys to act all big when her friends are round, if she was a boy i would have already lamped her already.

help me! shes trying to get rid of me now. also she keeps saying when my lads knock shes gonna tell them stuff that i dont do, what is like playground stuff? i dont get this life, its basically like living in a school playground just i cant have the ****sturring ****.

Edited by Alkaz (Forum Moderator): Thread moved from Education to Teenlife.

She has no right to tell you what to do as she isn't your real mum
Go Sick!