I need to convince my mum...

[Absently]

Right, I have a mole on the side of my face, it's on my right cheek, but I have a fringe that covers it. Most people don't know that I have a mole on my face, because i can cover it quite good. And anyway, I went to the doctors with my mum to get it removed, and to get it removed I have to get surgery, meaning I will have quite a big scar. This mole is medium size, and i do hate it, i got made fun of when I was little about it. So like, i'm desperate to get it removed, but the thing is, my mum doesn't want me to get it removed. I do truly want it removed, because I think it makes me look uglier then I am. I hate the way people say, ''Oh you look lovely with a mole on your face, everyone else is just jealous,'' welll their not. It does make you look terrible, theirs nothing nice about it.

But all i need to know is, how can I convince my mum to let me get it removed :S

[Kardan]

A very close friend of mine recently had a mole removed from her collarbone area, and it's left a 5cm long scar, looks quite red - It's been a few weeks and the scar is clearly visible...

As for convincing your mum; try and tell her how it's affecting your quality of life?

And personally; everyone gets teasted about something... I've been teased for my looks throughout my life; you just deal with it :)

[Absently]

A very close friend of mine recently had a mole removed from her collarbone area, and it's left a 5cm long scar, looks quite red - It's been a few weeks and the scar is clearly visible...

As for convincing your mum; try and tell her how it's affecting your quality of life?

And personally; everyone gets teasted about something... I've been teased for my looks throughout my life; you just deal with it :)

No, I've been bullied most of my life, and I can't handle it anymore.

And tbh, i've said it to her, how i feel, but she still is against the idea.
She thinks I look beautiful with it, but thats how parents are supposed to feel.

[N-Dubz]

Will you be happy with the scar though? It's not something that wouldnt be noticeable either.
I've never really had anything on my face like a mole to be teased about so I dont know how it feels.
If you want it that bad tell your muum how it makes you feel and that she shouldnt stop you from having confidence.

[.::BaRkSeH::.]

er...the top left half of my face is covered in moles o.o i have one on my left cheek as well,like in all my pics you just see this mole just right there it doesn't bother me tbh cause without them my face is pretty darn boring!! rather a mole than an ugly scar!!

[Absently]

I truly wouldn't mind a scar tbh, even if it's noticable. The doctor made me feel worse with having the mole. He was like ''Your fringe won't be always able to cover it, y'know?'' and like, it's okay with a scar, 'cos it would be like an acne one, but probably worse?

[Smiddy]

Say you're afraid the mole will get infected.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/moles.htm

That's a pretty poor example though, there's probably some way of getting pictures of the really mank ones.

[.::BaRkSeH::.]

i have no idea what you're fretting over, moles are alright unless they are like massive and hairy, some people have theirs on their top lip and they are absolutely vile, you should feel lucky it's not worse. i have moles all over the top of my head & i quite like them

[Absently]

Mine isn't small, it's quite big tbh.

[Duck Hunt]

Moles can carry/hold/can contain cancer ive heard. And to all the people saying "ugly scars" and "scars are awful" etc, scars are just whats left of something, kind of like a memory, so they mean something, and i think all of my scars look pretty cool, however small they are lol. Tell your mom that you dont want to get cancer (if its true what i said in bold) and you want it removed. Sorry if i wasnt much help.

[IceNineKills]

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[Spiffing]

No, I've been bullied most of my life, and I can't handle it anymore.

And tbh, i've said it to her, how i feel, but she still is against the idea.
She thinks I look beautiful with it, but thats how parents are supposed to feel.

Thats exactly the same with me, i have 2 big moles on my neck, ignore what people say, they're just *******s with nothing better to do than make fun of you. Apparently getting them removed hurts like hell and they looks disgusting afterwards butttt you could say to your mum, it could get infected, people make fun of you because of it and your just really unhappy with it. Might work o.x ? x

[Fehm]

Everyone gets teased, im a boy with long hair, so waht? But people annoy me about it! And.. On topic: Sanctity of life: Quality of Life. Dont you do Ethics HabboxForum Users?! lol

If its affecting you alot, make her realise that you wont leave the house without it being removed because you feel your quality of life is dropping vastly!

[Robby]

when you get it removed you may get a little scar or it may be quite a big one.

But most chicks like scars ;)

And when your 16 it will be your choice, you will have to sign, not your parents so its up to you.

[Teyauna.]

I have three moles: one on my cheek, one in my head (but it's quite unnoticeable) and one on my neck. People don't make fun of me, but I know if they did I wouldn't even care. It's a mole, why would you want to remove it and have a scar there for the rest of your life? Just leave it, don't convince your mom in letting you do anything. Deal with it. It's that simple.

[Absently]

when you get it removed you may get a little scar or it may be quite a big one.

But most chicks like scars ;)

And when your 16 it will be your choice, you will have to sign, not your parents so its up to you.


I'm a girl. I care about what especially guys think of it tbh.

And I AM 16.

[leah]

If I was you i'd make her feel sorry for you..
say she doesn't know what its like to have everyon laughing at it,
say people say moley moley to your or something..
make her think that it would be in your best interests if the mole was removed. :)

[verda]

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[Hitman]

I'm a girl. I care about what especially guys think of it tbh.

And I AM 16.
Well if I was going out with you, I'd rather you had a mole than a scar... ;) You could cover it up with makeup I suppose...

If you really want it done then tell your mum you really want it done, surely she'll agree... although once you have a scar you can't just go "oh I wish I had the mole instead" so take that into deep consideration.

[Virgin Mary]

You can get it removed like Enrique. Tell her it may be cancerous.

[Absently]

They can't freeze it off btw, I have to go into surgery, and they will cut an eye shape around it, and then it'll be stitched.

Oh and I got her to agree, I have to goto the Childrens hospital in Dublin on the 1st of September for an appointment.

I had to almost cry infront of her.

[BaybeeElin]

Even the most STUNNING girls fret about parts of their body.
Common worries are :
moles (like you)
weight
boobs
hair
nose
ears
bum
tummies
legs

ETC !!

I know that all sounds stupid, but if you were perfect, and so was everyone else, everything would be so boring and uniqueness wouldn't exist.
I worry about my looks alot aswell, like every girl does.
If it's troubling you so much you will have to really make sure she knows how much its affecting you, you could even show her this thread, or be clever aswell by like some people have said, mention that it has risks.

As you get older, you will accept your looks and move on, and people who are worth your time will see past one small mole and see the beautiful person who is there :)

[Spiffing]

Good, your getting it done ^^

Lol theres a mole on my belly with a crack in the middle.Oh dea :P

[Hushie]

Moles can carry/hold/can contain cancer ive heard. And to all the people saying "ugly scars" and "scars are awful" etc, scars are just whats left of something, kind of like a memory, so they mean something, and i think all of my scars look pretty cool, however small they are lol. Tell your mom that you dont want to get cancer (if its true what i said in bold) and you want it removed. Sorry if i wasnt much help.
That's moles that develop later on in life. I'm sure if it was at risk of being cancerous the doctor would have done something about it.

[Inseriousity.]

"If everyone was pretty, the world would be a boring place" - lmao, I have that as my msn name thing. yes, really sad but tbh, sick of all the depressing ones.. "I was an angel until you took my wings" oh give over and see a doctor... :rolleyes:

Anyway, back on topic, I agree with BaybeeElin who said the same thing as me -hi5- and Hitman -hi5-

[Moh]

I'm glad your getting it done and your happy.

Shame the cut would be a cut which would have to be stitched, but with some scars, if you decide not to get them stitched, you don't get as bad of a scar (When my sister cut her forehead, they was going to stitch it. But she said no and she dosn't have a scar).

[N-Dubz]

If it makes you feel more confident, then I'm happy for you.

[J-P-C]

good for you 100%, you have to realise its not about anyone elses decision its about YOURS! your the one who has had to put up with the terrible bullying etc, so if you want too then go for it. the only concern for you is that, will people bully you even more when they find out you have removed the mole and have a scar on your face that would be the biggest worry for me! but good for you for doing something about it, you seem a very strong and confident charactor dont let a mole affect who you are

[e5]

If the people know you have a mole and you get it removed, leaving a scar, they will laugh more, but if your hair covers it, they won't actually notice it. But for those who don't know, get it done and then say u were hit my a stone or something!

I got hit by a golf club on my left eye brow and it looks quite cool actually ;) (the scar)

[ideabox]

Right, I have a mole on the side of my face, it's on my right cheek, but I have a fringe that covers it. Most people don't know that I have a mole on my face, because i can cover it quite good. And anyway, I went to the doctors with my mum to get it removed, and to get it removed I have to get surgery, meaning I will have quite a big scar. This mole is medium size, and i do hate it, i got made fun of when I was little about it. So like, i'm desperate to get it removed, but the thing is, my mum doesn't want me to get it removed. I do truly want it removed, because I think it makes me look uglier then I am. I hate the way people say, ''Oh you look lovely with a mole on your face, everyone else is just jealous,'' welll their not. It does make you look terrible, theirs nothing nice about it.

But all i need to know is, how can I convince my mum to let me get it removed :S
You're missing the point, my friend :P
"Chicks dig scars"

[MOGWAI]

It's not your mums face so do what you want, it's your quality of life being affected not hers. You can get rid of scars with bio oil, chop it off man thats my advice.

[:Liam]

You shoud get the surgery on it. It could be a cancerous mole or develop into a cancerous one so you can use that to persuade your mum. and for scars theres always makeup and creams ect.

[Absently]

You're missing the point, my friend :P
"Chicks dig scars"

but im a GIRL.

odea. people can't seem to figure that out.

[[DC]eption]

Glad your getting it done :) You can cover the scar with makeup n ****? N i wud rather go out with a lass with a scar on her face than a mole if im honest!

[Zexe]

i found a link for good advice (http://www.google.co.uk/search?client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-GB%3Aofficial&channel=s&hl=en&q=suicide&meta=&btnG=Google+Search)

then she will let you

[Jaiisun]

Be strong and forceful - be adamant that you want it done because it's your face and you can't carry on living life with all the grief you're getting because of it. Let her know that, now you have the option of getting it removed, she is prolonging your ordeal by making the time that you have it on your face longer.

;].
Jay x