Personality VS Looks

[splatttt]

Being truthful are you someone who goes for personality or looks.
If you met someone who wasnt good looking at all, would you bother to get to know them?
If you met someone who was really good looking but the worst personality would you cary on seeing them?


If you know what i mean.
Do looks reallly mattter to you...?

[FlyingJesus]

I've said it before and I'll doubtless say it again

Looks + personality = girlfriend (or good mate who you secretly wish you could get with)
Looks + no personality = fun for a night every now and then
No looks + personality = a friend
No looks + no personality = just no

[mr.parasols]

I can't imagine EVER going out with somebody just for their looks, I think anyone who does that is pathetic and there relationship will not last. Looks are something you cannot decide, where as personality is something you can shape and mould for yourself. I'd always go for the 'ugly' girl who had a personality rather than the 'pretty' girl without a brain. Fortunately for me, I have both :) 2 years 5 months oh yeh x

[Dan2nd]

I think is a combination of both.. Theres loads of really good looking girls I know who I'd never go out with because theres nothing else there just 'good looks'. I also think if I went out with someone I really got on with but was in no way attracted to them and actually thought they weren't good looking the relationship just wouldn't go well.. so yeah its combination of both so thats why I haven't voted lol

[velvet]

Both are important, no one's going to stay with a complete and utter ***
and no one wants to **** an ugly person.

[Stacey.]

Looks attract me to a guy, but I need to know them better before I actually like them. Although I can be friends with someone who others would say were "ugly" but they had an amazing personality and gradually grow to fancy them.

[Virgin Mary]

I think looks is an immediate factor but I also think if you get to know someone well enough and liked their personality you could like them because of that, regardless of how they look.

[OKweGO!]

Come on this is the 21st century, unless your over 30, your gonna go for looks.

[leah]

well looks attract me to a guy, but his personality keeps me attracted..
Like if someone was really gorgeous, but arogant or mean I wouldn't be interested.. Both are important.

[crans]

looks all the way..

[le harry]

Looks over personality for a relationship. Shallow yes, but i'd rather **** a babe then a toad.

[VPSwow]

I go for both.

If i think someone is fit then i will want to get to know them a lot better in a gf type of way. If they are really fun/ good personality i would want to be a really good mate with them.

But if they are boring and a barbi doll then thats just as bad as having a couch potato as a gf :)

[N-Dubz]

Someones looks make me want to get to know the person.

I do agree personality is important espically in long term realtionships you wouldn't wanna be talking to a wall your whole life.
An then again you wouldn't wanna be walking around with the ugliest thing in town..

[stickwitu]

everyone wants a balance of the two.
if they don't they're too shallow to realise it and want a **** buddy instead of a proper relationship.

[RandomManJay]

They would have to be attractive, but not too attractive as it would be difficult to imagine being with someone far more attractive as yourself as humans naturally have a negative pessimistic view of themselves. I wouldn't go just for looks because if they aren't actually interesting to be around, I would get bored rather quickly.

[Hiro]

Both are important in a way. But you generally love someone you get along with and you can relate to them, so in some cases personality can overrule looks.

[.::BaRkSeH::.]

to be fair, i'm not going to go up to a very ugly person and start a conversation with them so rly, how am I gonna do what kinda personality they have? in saying that though, if a guy can make me laugh then ye that's all that matters!

[FlyingJesus]

to be fair, i'm not going to go up to a very ugly person and start a conversation with them so rly, how am I gonna do what kinda personality they have? in saying that though, if a guy can make me laugh then ye that's all that matters!

Yeah but you're like me, you stop liking people when you find out they're ugly haha

[superfly-dan]

I'd definitely go for personality. Looks are just an added bonus.

[.::BaRkSeH::.]

Yeah but you're like me, you stop liking people when you find out they're ugly haha

that's actually true, on the net it's alryt if your funny & crap but if ur ugly don't show me :( loool! nah i aint that shallow just irl i wouldn't talk to an ugly person but if i got to know them first fair enough but i'd only be mates with them

[BaybeeElin]

most of the time, people's looks give you an idea of what the persons personality is like, but sometimes it's completely different.
Tbh, if I saw someone with greasy hair, beer belly, stinking of BO whilst stuffing their face with a chocolate spread sarnie, I would stay well away.
They have to care about things like that, otherwise they obv can't take care of themselves.
Or they couldn't care less.. :rolleyes:
But yeah, if I saw a fit, good looking lad, I would want to talk to him, but if he was a complete BORE or w.e, I wouldn't stick around for long..
At the end of the day, you're only really going to stay friends with them if there personality is decent.

[Spiffing]

idk, i know really well ugly people that are kind and i know good looking people that are kind. But i know more pretty people who are complete ***** so i'd say personality :D

[Vicrum123]

Personality is deffo more important than looks. Its whats in the inside that counts =]

[PopTart]

I saw it in this thread, I think its a mixture. i wouldn't date a guys cause hes hot.. besides what if hes like a total loser?

[camera]

personality. looks would be a bonus [:
ill only look at good looking guys at work. i call em eye candy. rly, looks are just nothing but to pass time [:

[RedStratocas]

its a balance. i dont think i can go out with someone who i'm not the least bit sexually attracted to. it's biological, it can't work. i would go out with someone who i'm really physically attracted to but dont know anything about personally, but im not saying the relationship will last.

and as other people have said, as much as you want to deny it, you CAN tell a lot about a person by their looks.

[Elasticated]

looks > personality

[Monopoly]

I reckon at my age I shouldn't bother too much with personality.
But when I get older, I'm sure I'll mature and realise there's much more to people.
Don't get me wrong, though. I wouldn't completely ignore someone because they're ugly.

[Ugawa]

Although looks aren't everything it is important to be attracted to someone if you want to go out with them. If you aren't attracted to them then you will soon go off them, that's if you're talking about relationships not just being friends.
Personality is the most important thing in a relationship, coz you wouldn't want to go out with someone that was boring or self-centred

XX

[Danzilla]

I would want a bit of both, i would never go out with someone with good looks if they didn't have a good personality but i wouldn't like going out with someone i don't find attractive that much.
All in all i would have to find them attractive a little and good personality but its mostly about personality.
If your not talking about relationships and just friendship then its personality all the way, who cares what your friends look like.

[FlyingJesus]

Don't get me wrong, though. I wouldn't completely ignore someone because they're ugly.

Oh I would. I find it really difficult to make friends with girls I don't find attractive.

[Herman]

The first thing you notice about someone is most probably their looks.

Let's say we have person A and person B. A is attractive but B is not so. Definitely, at first sight, I would be attracted to A. But if I get to know them both a little better, and realise that A has a rotten attitude and B does not, it is then I fall for B.

The point is, when I first meet someone I will fall for their looks. But slowly as I get to know them better, it eventually leads down to personality.

[lew!]

Personality.
Looks is important as tbh i dont want to go around with an ugly person, but personality is so important.

Im happy with who im with atm. They have both ;)
x

[Paulio]

Personality is a must tbh. Idc too much about looks, I just don't like them to look wierd.

[Moh]

I go for both. But if your approaching someone, you judge them by there looks first.

I wouldn't go for some one who looks nice, but has a nasty personality, but I also wouldn't go for an *ugly person with a nice personality.

They have to have looks and personality for me really. But if i'm rating a guy, I also go for cuteness :P

* - People who don't care about there looks, I think every one should try and look there best, a little bit of make up can change anyone's looks.
Also, if they smell or not ;P

[Breakfloor]

ok, half and half really. i would go out with a girl for looks but if she was a ***** or just NO personality i doubt it would last longer than a day. but its exactly the same if she was ugly.

she doesnt have to be a model but she cant be as ugly *** a fat mans backside.

same with personality. if shes too nice it will lasta while longer but not too long. if she was a ***** i would just leave her.

so a woman with a sense of humour who isnt to stuck up her own *** too far and isaverage looking and above ok, i hope that would last long

[Unbilotitled]

not going to lie, ive had many girlfreinds, None were ugly, i would class them all fit, ive had over 10 in my lifetime

[N-Dubz]

If there was a boy who was ugly and had a good personality..
An there was a boy who was fit and had a good personality..

I'd know who I'd choose, okay the fit one..
Looks matter more, everyone wants someone good looking on there arm no matter what they say because you dont wanna be walking around with Shrek for the rest of your life, and neither do you wanna talk to a wall but you'd always pick looks over that, espically if you liked the sound of your own voice.

[Naythi.]

Personality must be good yeah, i'd prefer personality any day.
But if they were a like, 20stone monster, i'd tell them too hop it.
Looks are not everything although they help (:

[RedStratocas]

Oh I would. I find it really difficult to make friends with girls I don't find attractive.

if anything, im kinda the opposite. i do have attractive friends that are girls, but if they're ugly and i dont want to go out with them, i think it's way easier for me to be friends with them because there's no tension. one of my best female friends is a kinda funny lookin' black girl, and i treat her pretty much the same way as my guy friends.

looks are the deciding factor for me a lot of the time. like my current girlfriend, we're pretty much best friends who kiss and have sex. if she were hideous and we didn't go out, we'd probably still be good friends because i love her personality. luckily, she's basically the cutest girl i've ever met :D

[Style]

Looks first, personality second... looks more important imo

[Glen Coco]

wow alot of you are very shallow.
' i wouldnt go up and talk to an ugly person'

why not? they could be really nice and really funny. people can't choose how they look so no-one should judge people based on looks.
Yes, ok we ALL think at one point 'that mans really fat' but that doesnt stop people going up to people and saying hi. i know some people that arent the best looking people who are really nice and easy to get along with. i'm sure people would say the ame about me. I'm not pretty but i can get along with people fine.
Personality all the way.

[Tristan]

I've said it before and I'll doubtless say it again

Looks + personality = girlfriend (or good mate who you secretly wish you could get with)
Looks + no personality = fun for a night every now and then
No looks + personality = a friend
No looks + no personality = just no

yh boi.

but looks vs personality = looks to win.

[-Eyeless-]

I would go for personality but obviously the best is a lot of both ;)

[Susie Dent]

When I get to know someone and like them for their personality I begin to find them more attractive, even if they aren't conventionally 'good looking'

[Axel]

A combination of the two.

[FlyingJesus]

if anything, im kinda the opposite. i do have attractive friends that are girls, but if they're ugly and i dont want to go out with them, i think it's way easier for me to be friends with them because there's no tension.

Ahhh well I'm quite flirty in my general way of talking and humour, so I wouldn't be comfortable doing that with people I think are ugly lol


one of my best female friends is a kinda funny lookin' black girl

lol


wow alot of you are very shallow.
' i wouldnt go up and talk to an ugly person'

why not?

Because I'd have to look at them to talk and I don't want to look at ugly people

[Nereo]

Although I may like some people because of their personality, I probably wouldnt approach them initially if they didnt have good looks :)

[Hazza]

I've said it before and I'll doubtless say it again

Looks + personality = girlfriend (or good mate who you secretly wish you could get with)
Looks + no personality = fun for a night every now and then
No looks + personality = a friend
No looks + no personality = just no
I'm with this guy!

[Style]

wow alot of you are very shallow.
' i wouldnt go up and talk to an ugly person'



Because I'd have to look at them to talk and I don't want to look at ugly people

Lol


Although I may like some people because of their personality, I probably wouldnt approach them initially if they didnt have good looks :)

yh i agree with u there

... at least with the internet you can talk to 'ugly' people without knowing what they look like or having to look at them.. unless they have a pic of them showing on msn or something but then u can alway hide it..

being seen with an 'ugly' person who is less attractive than you can sometimes be a good thing ...

[luce]

I've said it before and I'll doubtless say it again

Looks + personality = girlfriend (or good mate who you secretly wish you could get with)
Looks + no personality = fun for a night every now and then
No looks + personality = a friend
No looks + no personality = just no

I agree with that in a way. except the girlfriend but thats not for me :P haha anyway Looks no personality? humm depends do you mean carisma? if the were good looking and arogent then you would probs get with them then have enough of there arogence or w.e is wrong with there personality i think :)

It dificult tbh you can't say what you would do becuase it depends on the person you are talking baout

[Abbie.]

loooks

then personality

idk, it depends

[Jack.Lfc]

Looks, if shes like ded good looking and she liked me i wuldnt give one about personality :P

[splatttt]

eh, lots of people are really shallow.


of course yes your first impression is looks obvioulsy but you shouldnt always judge on looks though right?

[Jack.Lfc]

Would you get with a ugly girl?

[FlyingJesus]

eh, lots of people are really shallow.


of course yes your first impression is looks obvioulsy but you shouldnt always judge on looks though right?

Yes you should, anyone can fake a personality, looks are what's real

[EverSteve]

Although its shallow, Looks are everything for me. Although Personality obvoiusly will affect me as my bf has a great one atm.

but if im single, i look for the best lucking, not for the one who has the greatest personality.

[Moh]

wow alot of you are very shallow.
' i wouldnt go up and talk to an ugly person'

why not? they could be really nice and really funny. people can't choose how they look so no-one should judge people based on looks.
Yes, ok we ALL think at one point 'that mans really fat' but that doesnt stop people going up to people and saying hi. i know some people that arent the best looking people who are really nice and easy to get along with. i'm sure people would say the ame about me. I'm not pretty but i can get along with people fine.
Personality all the way.
Yes, but you can do alot of things to change how you look.
Say you have a big nose, you just simply take the attention from your nose to another part, such as your hair. If you have nice hair, thats one of the first things you notice.

I wouldn't get with anyone who dosn't care about there looks. Everyone should make an attempt. Like I said, simple things can change your looks.
i.e. Frizzy hair, just simply straighten it and maybe add a few waves?
Another thing, add some make-up.

If you really want to look good, you can.

Sorry most of it dosn't make sence, a little tired :P

[splatttt]

Yes, but you can do alot of things to change how you look.
Say you have a big nose, you just simply take the attention from your nose to another part, such as your hair. If you have nice hair, thats one of the first things you notice.

I wouldn't get with anyone who dosn't care about there looks. Everyone should make an attempt. Like I said, simple things can change your looks.
i.e. Frizzy hair, just simply straighten it and maybe add a few waves?
Another thing, add some make-up.

If you really want to look good, you can.

Sorry most of it dosn't make sence, a little tired :P



i totally agree with what you said.
surely people can change the way they look to focus on something else, at least make an effort.
thats a good way to look at it.
:)

[leah]

Yes, but you can do alot of things to change how you look.
Say you have a big nose, you just simply take the attention from your nose to another part, such as your hair. If you have nice hair, thats one of the first things you notice.

I wouldn't get with anyone who dosn't care about there looks. Everyone should make an attempt. Like I said, simple things can change your looks.
i.e. Frizzy hair, just simply straighten it and maybe add a few waves?
Another thing, add some make-up.

If you really want to look good, you can.

Sorry most of it dosn't make sence, a little tired :P

yeh I agree tbh everyone can improve the way they look :)

[Klydo]

It's all about the looks for me, if they're ugly I'd never date them. Personality is just a bonus.

[RedStratocas]

Yes, but you can do alot of things to change how you look.
Say you have a big nose, you just simply take the attention from your nose to another part, such as your hair. If you have nice hair, thats one of the first things you notice.

I wouldn't get with anyone who dosn't care about there looks. Everyone should make an attempt. Like I said, simple things can change your looks.
i.e. Frizzy hair, just simply straighten it and maybe add a few waves?
Another thing, add some make-up.

If you really want to look good, you can.

Sorry most of it dosn't make sence, a little tired :P


true that. i'll admit some people have it easier than others when it comes to looking good, but most people can look good if they just try. people who don't even try to look good, it says a lot about their personality.

[N-Dubz]

Yeah people can improve themselves, but if your ugly you always will be.

People can fake personalites, and people change, but so can our looks.
Some people don't grow old gracefully, or have damage done to there face.

I think its looks more because if all my friends had good looking boyfriends an I was walking around with a troll I'd feel uncomfortable.
Personality aswell, but people can change people, and everyones a ***** sometimes in there lives. It does matter though, talking to a wall isnt much fun.

[Soy]

Being honest and from past experience, looks will get you further than personality

[today]

Looks for me really.

[Teyauna.]

I would say I go for personality first. But if you're ugly, I wouldn't want to be dating an ugly person.

[Josh-H]

I've said it before and I'll doubtless say it again

Looks + personality = girlfriend (or good mate who you secretly wish you could get with)
Looks + no personality = fun for a night every now and then
No looks + personality = a friend
No looks + no personality = just no

Spot on really.

Needs to be a balance

[GommeInc]

The way I see it, everyone has certain expectations for looks, but personality is what seals the deal, so to speak. You can have a stunning looking boy/girl/Barkseh who may have a crap personality, and you will eventually be bored of them, unless your weird and like having nothing to talk about or like being shouted at for no reason, but if you have a boy/girl/Smiddy with good looks and a great personality (great meaning better than good) then you're onto a winner :D

[helenhiya]

short term / first attraction - looks
long term - personality

[[DC]eption]

i wouldnt go out with an ugly person...

[today]

eption;4893049']i wouldnt go out with an ugly person...
I'm not sure many would, some will!

[The Professor]

If I were being philosophical (which I often am) I'd have to say that beauty is a matter of perception and therefore looks are irrelavent. To elaborate, if you meet a person that isn't necessarily the prettiest person in the world but you get on really well with them and feel comfortable with them, you will start to find them more attractive. Case studies are ample in this thread: RedStratocas and mr.parasol' posts being good examples. If you meet a person who you think is fit and get on with them, so be it. If you meet a less fit person and get on with them, you'll start to think they're more fit over time. Its all a matter of perception ;)

To give a simple answer: personality. I could never go out with a barbie doll ;)

[Jaiisun]

The first thing you see when you meet somebody is their looks and sub-consciously you decide whether you like, or dislike, the way they look. Somebody good looking is good to be seen with.

However, when you get to know somebody, their personality allows you to decipher common interests, common dislikes etc. - somebody with a good personality will keep you happy in the long-term.

I think that:
If you go for somebody solely for their looks - you'll be insecure and won't last.
If you go for somebody solely for their personality - you're a better person than I am, but you may become very conscious of whether people are staring at your partner, or people making fun may get to you.
If you combine both, you get the best of both worlds.

Personally, I have been lucky enough to find a gorgeous girlfriend with the most amazing personality. However, since we met on Habbo, it was her personality I came across first, before i'd seen her.

;].
Jay x

PS. I'm not e-dating, we realised we live close!
:P

[Virgin Mary]

It's not a case of vs, you essentially need both to have a lasting relationship. Attraction is subconscious and based on evolution, survival of the fittest and all that as well as social influence (e.g. beauty is connected to wealth in most places).

[camera]

Q1: yes
Q2: he can just f off
Q3: no. but if im looking for a bf (which im nt), looks count. just look presentable enough is fine.

if i had to choose, personality will be it.

[Recursion]

Usually the dumber ones are the ones who focus on looks tbh.

Personality over looks, but some people are lucky and get the middle :P

[Rich.Boy]

Id say personality but obviously you are gonna have to base on looks first before you actually get to know their personality.

[NIKKEE]

Obviously you have to be attracted to the person in a way otherwise it's just a friendship.
The other thing with that is if someones good looking you'll give them a chance and then if their personality is rubbish you can forget about them whereas if it's someone not so good looking many won't even give them a chance to find out if they've got a nice or rotten personality.

But personally I go for who I find good looking, which isn't always everyones taste.
Who's to say who's good looking anyway? For me it's not the typical good looking guy, and I like funny guys. Usually if I don't really find a guy good looking and then they're personality shines through and they make me laugh something in me makes me start to fancy them. But then again, I always give people a chance when I meet them.

[Antallica]

To be honest, i wouldnt go out with an ugly person.