Sexuality...

[:Liam]

Ok well there was a debate going on with me and a couple of my mates basically they were saying you cant know your sexuality until you have sexual experiences. like they were saying you cant know your gay if you've never done anything with a guy. Do you think thats true?


Well personally I dont I think its a load of crap. Like if you dont get turned on by women your obviously not straight and like if you get turned on by the thought of doing stuff with guys you could be gay/bi. Like I think sexuality you have to really think about it like some people it comes second nature like there just straight no questions but when your gay you know it like you just do :S.

[drama]

it was only after i had sex with a guy that i realised i wasn't gay haha, but i doubt it was because of that.

[Kardan]

A friend of mine said she realised she was gay at the age of 7; so no...

And how are you supposed to choose who to have sex with if you don't know your sexuality before hand?

[Mitch4?]

Nah it aint true, it's just an arguement people use against people when they were curious they just say "you dont know until you try it".
but then again some people are actually gay, but are in denial to themself, so they believe they are not gay but they are actually, and if they did have a gay experience then they might have new found confidence,

p.s. dont listen to me im just blabbering

[TooClose]

Rubbish. I didnt have sex until like a year after i knew my sexuality.

A straight guy could enjoy sexual stimulation from another guy without being gay.. I have a male friend who really enjoys recieving head off other guys because he says guys are better at it. However, he's deffinately straight.

[Moh]

Your sexuality hasn't got anything to do with sex :P

[TooClose]

Your sexuality hasn't got anything to do with sex :P

That's true to an extent i suppose.

[Tarantula]

I'm not fussy.
:rolleyes:

[spandeXXX]

no lol
most straight people believe they're straight way before they do anything with a girl other than 'kiss', so why should it be different for gays, lesbians or even bisexuals?

TUT.

[Christian]

Rubbish, I can proudly say I'd rather do things with a boy than girl and I ain't even do things with a boy yet and I have with a girl. (No the girl was not that bad at kissing if you think that's why I turned gay).

[today]

Rubbish, I can proudly say I'd rather do things with a boy than girl and I ain't even do things with a boy yet and I have with a girl. (No the girl was not that bad at kissing if you think that's why I turned gay).
Kissing means nothing, its more of 'sex' do you like that, or not. lol. Kissing wont turn you gay. :S

[Christian]

Kissing means nothing, its more of 'sex' do you like that, or not. lol. Kissing wont turn you gay. :S

Yeah, I know lol but I never got to the point of ******** her.

[Skuxx]

I don't think sex is the be all end all when it comes to sexuality. I think you know when you're attracted to someone, whether it be emotionally, physically or sexually. I personally identify as bisexual or pansexual, and I always have, even though at one stage I felt no sexual attraction whatsoever to either gender, and at another no sexual attraction to females.
Sexuality is about emotions and physical intimacy as well as sexual intimacy. When it comes to sex, you have to have some underlying desire to want to do it - if you don't, and you do it anyway, it's bound to be an unpleasant experience and wouldn't tell you anything either way if you were, for some reason, looking for answers.
So no, I don't think that you have to had sex with someone of the same or the opposite gender to determine your sexuality.

[Skuxx]

K I already typed a reply to this yesterday but it looks as if it didn't actually post so I'll compose another..

The entire "you don't know until you've tried it" thing is **. You'd have to be at least halfway interested to willingly have sex with someone of the same gender, because if you weren't, it'd just tell you what you already know - you're not gay/bi.
Then again, sexuality isn't necessarily all about sex. You'll know if you're attracted to someone of the same gender - whether it be in an emotional, physical or sexual sense. You don't need to have sex with someone to prove or disprove your sexuality to anyone, including yourself.
I've known for sure that I'm attracted to both genders for probably around six years now, even though at one stage I wasn't sexually attracted to either gender, and at another I was sexually attracted to males, but not females. I still desired emotional and physical intimacy with both, however, so I still called myself bi or pansexual. There is a lot more to it than just what you feel downstairs, as such. Haha.
This was pretty lame compared to my post yesterday, but it has the same general message, so yeah.

[Samishlol]

Sexuality has nothing to do with sex.

If you question your own sexuality then obvi your not gonna be totaly straight or totaly gay. But having sexual experience just to prove your the way you are hmm..

If your gay you will know from a young age i guess as there is such a thing as a gay gene.

[Hazza]

Its been proved that you're born with your sexuality. Trying sexual acts with both sex's may have somewhat an effect but it's not the main reason.

[Samishlol]

Its been proved that you're born with your sexuality. Trying sexual acts with both users may have somewhat an effect but it's not the main reason.exactily

[coley]

I had a slight idea around age 6 - 7

[Clowgon]

Rubbish. I didnt have sex until like a year after i knew my sexuality.

A straight guy could enjoy sexual stimulation from another guy without being gay.. I have a male friend who really enjoys recieving head off other guys because he says guys are better at it. However, he's deffinately straight.

Lmao. Has he tried it on with you yet? :P

[Alexicles.]

I think you could know your sexuality as soon as you get turned on or "prefer" a certain sex, you wouldn't have to actually have sex to know what you would like to do ;).


xx

[Janet Snakehole]

i don't think thats true, no

[Jacktard.]

well, certainly for guys, not so much girls, but u would probs no when ur about 14 ish and whatever gender(s) you ********** over

[lew!]

No, because you just know. If your straight, then you don't have to do it with both a woman and man to decide, you just naturally know that a man and/or woman turns you on!

[RandomManJay]

In a way it does make sense, how do you know if you like something until you've tried it? But then again, why would you want to try it in the first place unless you wanted to :P. I suppose some people may only realise their true sexual preference after sex but I suppose some may not have to.

[StripedTiger]

lmao! i disagree and agree :P

okay you may realise that you dont like what your doing to a girl and deem yourself as gay, but many people know because of their "imagination" lmao

hat about guys who like gay porn? XD bet they know if they're straight or not :T i think it just depends really

[Twist]

A friend of mine said she realised she was gay at the age of 7; so no...

And how are you supposed to choose who to have sex with if you don't know your sexuality before hand?
Ever heard of a drunken one night stand?

[DeejayMachoo$]

hmm this may be true in some cases where its a confidence thing but, people can get turned on by just the thought of sex doesnt matter if its 2 men, or 2 women or a man and a woman stright people can get turned on by all of them as can gay people.