Parents

[e5banned.]

Getting beyond a joke :@

My brother gets no blame what so ever for what happens.

Usually me and bro are like fighting and he starts it and then when I get up and hit him or w/e he always shouts out to my mum or dad and my dad usually comes in telling me off and not saying a word to my brother, this time my brother was on getting me and my dad walks in and actually sees him doing this, yet again I get the blame? Usually if I was hitting him I get a bollocking and this time when my bro was gettin me, my dad says absolutely nothing to him, just tells us both to get out and then continues telling me off AGAIN for like nothing.

I do a hell of a lot more than my mum and dad actually account for, it's more lots of little things that add up rather than the occasional big help. My brother NEVER tidies his room, never takes his clothes upstairs after my mum has ironed them and never tidies up after himself. I, on the other hand do. Obviously my parents don't take note of this and when i'm feeling kind, I put my brothers stuff in his room and then guess what.. he gets the praise for it.

ok, and for instance my dad typed his password to his computer wrong a few times, so he decides to blame me for changing his password, but then moments later he is like aw sorry i just typed it wrong...

I get alot more money spent on me than my brother does, that's fair enough, my dad is alot nicer to me than my mum can be but just blames alot of stuff on me, which I then argue back at him and he takes his bat home and then doesn't do anything for me like take me out.

My brother tells me that he is jealous of what I get, and then tries to put me down saying I have no friends when he sees me hanging about with my mates? and when I shout my mum or dad like he does to get him to get off me I get told off for being "too loud" yet when he does it I just get told off and to stop annoying him. Also, today my brother kept banging on his door to get my attention while I was sat in my room so my dad shouts up "elliott can u stop banging on his door" and it clearly wasn't me so I tell him that it wasn't but of course my bro goes along with my dad and says "YE IT WAS YOU" so I continue to get the blame.

So anyway, now everyone hates me for something that Jack was caught doing (hitting me) and my mum keeps coming back in for more arguments with me. Like when we were in the airport without my dad for the first time, I basically had to help them out getting to the plane, but noooo i don't even get thanks for that, not that I wanted one, it's just the principal.

My mum now says " Leave home ". I'm 14 lol and I just feel like walking out of the house, teaching my mum and dad a lesson and them having to come find me. I want them to get really worried about me and then have them try find me and then it might teach them a lesson to actually respect the fact i'm there and actually mean something in their life. I do alot for my dad mainly cause he's nicer to me in ways. Takes me out places, spends more time with me, easier to talk to. My mum is just none of those.

Tonight I overheard her talking to my brother (just before I started writing this) and she was like "sumt sumt *******" "he can just ******* sumt sumt ******* sumt sumt" and that "at the moment I hate his guts"

So stuff my mum tbh. I dno why my dad can be really nice and do stuff for me and then the next minute treat me like i'm a murderer and that my bro is mr goody goody. they don't see what he does cuz i dnt go gettin him done coz i no i get the blame

i then just like push it bak at them, tell them to go away and leave me along, which doesn't seem to solve anythign but i'm not going to go speak to them when they just don't understand.

Honestly,,,, what can I do? :(

[Wootzeh]

It's because you're ginger.

[luke-p]

It's because you're ginger.

LOLLLLL


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I think you're being stupid with the "I want to leave so they'll get really worried" or whatever. That's just selfish tbh

[stephen008]

Ennit that's well selfish to walk out and get them worried and stuff

[Loqo]

Same situation at times. Dad always favors my sister because she's a girl and younger. Dont bother with them, I just ignore your little brother. Dont run away, I see what you mean with wanting to worry them and they might take you more serious but it wont help at all.

[5,5]

have you tried talking to your parents?
or just get out more.
if your not home.
youcant get in trouble.
and i dont mean get out as in leave, i mean it as in go out wiht your friends and waht not.

[Kardan]

I got the same, are you older than your brother?

[Earthquake]

Same situation tbh but with a step mother, grr

Best answer would to ignore your brother, and laugh at your father for the disaproval of not punishing his youngest and tell him, if he keeps treating him like that, he will just grow up like you have and do the same actions as you had.

[buttons]

didn't read it ubut i LOVE me mam because she i s so stupid heehhaa

[benjamin]

you're incredibly selfish and need to think yourself lucky you actually have parents and live with them (or atleast one)
think of all they actually do for you, parents get no where near as much credit as they deserve. people never think of that, and all they actually do for you, do they?
you don't know what you've got until it's gone, this undoubtably works with parents, trust me.

[Unbilotitled]

you're incredibly selfish and need to think yourself lucky you actually have parents and live with them (or atleast one)
think of all they actually do for you, parents get no where near as much credit as they deserve. people never think of that, and all they actually do for you, do they?
you don't know what you've got until it's gone, this undoubtably works with parents, trust me.


Agreed.

[Zak]

My girlfriend atm has the same problem, her brother does nothing and she's left to do everything. It's not your fault I think that parents just like one more than the other.. it seems the case with what i've seen.

Although my girlfriend, being older than you are has the chance to leave. Actually I have talked with other people about this.. they told me to tell her that if he doesn't do anything, she shouldn't.

Just argue back, say he doesn't do anything so I'm not. If they kick you out so what, alot of people I went to school with got kicked out at age 14.. for their parents being whacko.. on drugs etc.

They usually get a room to stay in for a £1 a day I think and £42 a week off the government, although in their cases most was spent on weed. :P

So it's not all bad.

[Earthquake]

you're incredibly selfish and need to think yourself lucky you actually have parents and live with them (or atleast one)
think of all they actually do for you, parents get no where near as much credit as they deserve. people never think of that, and all they actually do for you, do they?
you don't know what you've got until it's gone, this undoubtably works with parents, trust me.
Its there fault for going up the duff, we are there regret, not there prize.

[e5banned.]

I got the same, are you older than your brother?

Nah, he's older! Even worse eh? lol

I'm not being selfish by saying ill walk out for a bit, I mean it might make them think harder about how they treat me lol

Anyway, I think my dad is starting to see it now as he caught my bro again haha and told him off :D and realises not just to tell me off everytime(Y)

[Imp!]

important fact: they gave you life

They're porbably just tired it happens with most familys and if your mum says leave home I'd say sod her and I would friggen leave home. Plenty of my friends have their own house and I'd be like seeya betch. At the same point your mum shouldnt hate her own children and it actually looks like she is the immature/childish one in the whole situation.

[MissAlice]

This reminds me of how I felt when I was 13/14 with a slightly different story. I have an older brother, who would of been 16ish back then, who for some reason seemed to get all the attention and I felt so left out all the time, like I didn't matter or exist. I packed my bags ready to leave and had a storming arguement with my mum, and she wouldn't let me leave the house. It caused a lot of disruption that evening but my mum persuaded me to not leave until my dad had come home from work. When he did arrive home we had a long heart to heart talk, just dad and I, and we cleared the air. The next few days were hard, but things did get better and my mum became my friend and now I wouldn't swap her for the world. Maybe it's time for you to have that heart to heart with your dad, and explain how you feel.

I don't think your problem is uncommon, but you do need to try and sort it, so do try :)

[BaybeeElin]

Talk to them.

[Casual]

Act like your brother? :P
Or just do something to drop your brother in it..

[AndrewByrne]

By what your syaing its like if you leave it'll be like your brother makes a mess and your mum blames you... when your not there.
And they proebly wont notice if you leave.