What do I do?

[ItsDave]

Hey, so heres the situation;
I have a really good friend who I really do like. But my problem is
that, whenever she's single, I can't grasp the courage to ask her
out. But then when she's in a relationship I want it to go wrong so
I can go out with her, but I always seem to miss my oppurtunity and I
know it sounds cruel, but I dont want her current relationship to be
"the one".
We're both 15 and I have nothing against the guy shes currently
with, seems like a nice chap, but my mind seems to just want to be
in control which is so wrong, and I want to go out with her in heart.
But, I would be a flop which would ruin any serious feelings she ever
had for me partner or friendship wise. Im very bad at relationships and
can't keep the spark going long enough to make it serious. I just need
some guidance.

Thanks
-
Dave

[spareparts]

Well, when she's next single just talk to her like normal and bring up her love life, see if there is anyone she is interested in at the moment and then you can use that chance to say that you're interested in someone/her. Obviously if you say someone, you can say it's her later on depending on what happens.

And if you really do like her, I'm sure you'll be able to make the relationship work out just fine and if not I'm sure you can remain friends after if that is what you want.

[FlyingJesus]

If she's single and then has a new boyfriend enough times for you to notice that there's something up, then she isn't interested - if she was, she'd have made a move rather than getting with guy after guy and all that. Seriously you will just mess things up otherwise, try to just be there for her as a friend.

Furthermore, I think you probably need to find another girl. Often the situation is that you get attached and then that's that, but all you need to do is get interested in someone else and you won't be feeling like you do now any more.

[Abbie.]

have you ever seen the movie 'just friends' its well good


anyway, just ask her out

[superstar911]

From my experience, girls like confidence. Just ask her, what's the worst that could happen? Or if you want to take a gamble next time you see her just go up to her and kiss her, but that's very risky and you should only do it if you have a lot of confidence it will turn out the way you want it to.

[tasav]

You'll never get anywhere with any relationship if you don't step out of your comfort zone every once in a while to make it work. It may feel uncomfortable and awkward to do it, but it won't just HAPPEN if you don't make an effort :P

[Mojoman1000]

I myself have been stuck in this position some times before, with extended periods of longing for a girl I cannot have.

What you can do is either tell her how you feel, and that you want to go out with her, at least then she knows how you feel about her and you have that off your chest.

If not, you need to be positive, and try not to think about her, express your feelings somehow, like with a sport or you could write down how you feel, that always helps.

[BaybeeElin]

Tbh, you'll never get anywhere in life if you can't take a chance and jump for something you want.
Girls don't often ask boys out, so be a man and ask her! ;)