I'm thinking of finding my mum..

[Earthquake]

I haven't seen her since I was 7... My dad knows her address and has told me, but I don't know...

Its a long huge story.. What could I even say to her...

[J0SH]

"Hello Mum, thanks for walking out when I was 7, well here is your son."

[buttons]

you've got the chance, other people don't get it so just go for it then you can get answers.

[Monopoly]

I'd ring first. :P
You've got to go for it as above said you've got a chance alot of people don't get.

[Earthquake]

It wasn't exactly walking out, er, she took me and my sister for 8 months and away from my dad and other brother and sister, dad went court and got us back, she aint been in contact since

[J0SH]

Shes probably been busy with another family? :P But still go see her, shes your mum and looked after you for a few good years, she'll probably be happy to see her Dagenham boy

[5,5]

its worth a shot.
youve got to be curious to how she is.

[Earthquake]

It seems kinda wierd people are assuming she was a good women.

[J0SH]

She looked after you for 8 years then lost you due to a court case, she lost her kids and probably didn't care about getting in contact or anything :P

[Earthquake]

She looked after you for 8 years then lost you due to a court case, she lost her kids and probably didn't care about getting in contact or anything :P
Trust me, she was not a good woman.

[Paulio]

You should seriously write a book.

[Earthquake]

You should seriously write a book.
I was thinking of doing that.

[Cwmbran]

I don't see why your mum would walk out if your dad was a millionaire. :rolleyes:

[5,5]

Trust me, she was not a good woman.
then why do you maybe want to see her?

[J0SH]

I was thinking of doing that.

No one would buy it, BURNNNNNNNN.

[Minstrels]

No one would buy it, BURNNNNNNNN.
I would, you never know when you'll run out of loo roll.

[Loqo]

It's just down to you, she might of been a mean women but it's YOUR Mum, you couldn't of told wether she was a good or bad women from when you was 8, has your Dad like told you the story's and what's happened in a way to help you get on his side and envy your Mum by any chance? Because alot of the time that's what some parents do when they break up. It would be awkward seeing her but you may regret it if you dont.

[Ecoutez]

I really think you should go & visit her. If you don't do it then she might end up dying one day (hopefully not till decades away though), and you'll end up regretting not seeing her - and asking her any questions you have.

[EleanorG]

Send her a letter?
Tell her about your life since she went, about your education, your hobbies, interests etc. Maybe say you would like to get to know her better since you are maturer now?
I don't really know how I would personally handle this situation. But I don't think showing up on her doorstep would be the best option?

[RyanDOT]

Hi mum!
How are you? Why don't you come back home or even see me? I want to see your face again and have a mum like everyone else has. I know there has been some bad times between you and Dad (If they split up or divorced). I want to visit you often and spend time if you.

Love your son.
Your name.

[Dan2nd]

You may remember her in a bad way but remember you were only 7/8 and thats a long time ago. Maybe you are so angry with her for not keeping in contact with you, you only want to remember the bad and have a mental block on good times? Obviously I don't know the full situation so can only guess on that.

At the end of the day if there is still a small part of you which loves your mum you should go for it =]

[Minstrels]

Any news on what your going to do?

[Expresions]

its personal to you this mate, completely depends on how your mind works. if i hadn't seen someone since i was 7 i would think who are they to me, never tried to contact me you cant force yourself to love someone but thats just me. you may be missing her and love her and in that case i would go see her and find answers.

[J0SH]

If you're gonna say she's not a good woman don't visit her? :S Simple.

[Earthquake]

its personal to you this mate, completely depends on how your mind works. if i hadn't seen someone since i was 7 i would think who are they to me, never tried to contact me you cant force yourself to love someone but thats just me. you may be missing her and love her and in that case i would go see her and find answers.
I don't love her, I hate her, thats a strong word but I hate her.

I want to face her, I want to know who she is now, I want to see the wimp of a **** who left us and gave us away when I was only 7 years of age.

[dirrty]

then go for it and see her. but be prepared for whatever will happen, positive or negative. sometimes its just best to bury the past, and concentrate on the future though.

[Earthquake]

then go for it and see her. but be prepared for whatever will happen, positive or negative. sometimes its just best to bury the past, and concentrate on the future though.
Yeah i'm actually getting second thoughts now, thinking how my father would feel...

[MissAlice]

It wasn't exactly walking out, er, she took me and my sister for 8 months and away from my dad and other brother and sister, dad went court and got us back, she aint been in contact since

Sounds like she tried to care for you, but your father was the better parent in the courts findings. Courts rarely give custody to fathers if the mother is capable of looking after her children. We don't know the circumstances, maybe you should speak with your father and get a clearer picture.


Trust me, she was not a good woman.

Sorry to hear that!


I don't love her, I hate her, thats a strong word but I hate her.

I want to face her, I want to know who she is now, I want to see the wimp of a **** who left us and gave us away when I was only 7 years of age.

I hope there is a very good reason why she disappeared from your life. You seem very angry and yet you've not heard her side of the story. Before you decide on meeting her, I suggest you have a heart to heart with your father or another close relative, who knows exactly what went on before she vanished from your life.

By the way your father must be a good man, to have fought for his children :)

[Suspective]

Go and See Her - Maybe she has changed! You could start, up a relationship. Get to know her so when your older you can stay in touch :D

[Earthquake]

Sounds like she tried to care for you, but your father was the better parent in the courts findings. Courts rarely give custody to fathers if the mother is capable of looking after her children. We don't know the circumstances, maybe you should speak with your father and get a clearer picture.



Sorry to hear that!



I hope there is a very good reason why she disappeared from your life. You seem very angry and yet you've not heard her side of the story. Before you decide on meeting her, I suggest you have a heart to heart with your father or another close relative, who knows exactly what went on before she vanished from your life.

By the way your father must be a good man, to have fought for his children :)
She never bothard turning up to court for 8 months, from start to finish, in the end she gave up us warrants were out to arrest her and her bf

[e5]

Say "I'm here, do you remember me?" or if she remembers you, she'll be like :O and you won't have to say anything. I always think of something I might need to say, but I end up not needing to because of specific reasons, so you never know.

[J0SH]

She didn't just decide to walk away over night, she lost custody of you :rolleyes:

[FlyingJesus]

Personally going by how you said you just want to see what's become and all that, and the fact you're saying you hate her, I wouldn't go through with it. If you've spoken to your dad about it and he doesn't want you to go, there must be a really good reason - he's brought you up since she's been gone and he's probably scared that he'll lose you again after all this time. Perhaps if you could convince him to go too it would be easier, but either way I think it would most likely end in a traumatic scenario for all involved. It would be a very different case if you were looking for her with good intentions, but I can't imagine how you would benefit in any way from what you're thinking of here.

[.Zi]

I would go and see her. If you hate her so much do not go and see her but if you are anxious then i'd be going. If it was me i would find my mum, I love my mum and no matter what she has done to me or somebody else i would always want to see her and love her. What did she do that was so bad you had to live with your father but i would go and see her!